You look much better now

[Bobbi46]

My girlfriend and I share many things and the main thing is being able to talk about fashion in general, we talk about skirts, tops and lingerie and all sorts not to mention she has seen me several times now in just panties and a bra and forms.
But having lost a whole pile of weight my appearance came into our conversations and she happenned to say that her daughter and the neighbours ( who have all seen me dressed) had politely and nicely mentioned to her that I looked "too top heavy". I said to her that I wished she had told me sooner I would have addressed the situation and she told me she did not want to sound critical or dominant and most of all did not want to upset me at all! I told her that would not have occurred and that I would have welcomed being told before.
Looking in the mirror at a profile view of myself when I cam home to my house I saw what she meant, I was "top heavy" so researching what I would like to look like I kept it all to myself, buying new bras and smaller forms. I told her nothing until one day I turned up at her house in a new skirt and top. We embraced tightly and warmly and later I asked her "do I look better now" imediately she replied "YES so much better, I am very happy, are you too?" I told her it was taking a little while to get used to smaller boobs.
Just this last week looking at myself in the mirror I did realise the "new me" was the way I should be, Plus my girlfriend likes the new style of my bras.
It is quite different going out now but a more comfortable feeling as well.
My girlfriend is an absolute jem, helping me with buying new tops and skirts online but even better going shopping with her to buy tops or skirts for myself Life recently has taken on a whole new meaning with my loving, extremely accepting girlfriend

[Crissy 107]

Hi Bobbi, We have been friends since about the time I got here. I have to say I have never seen you happier, what a difference a good woman can make. You deserve this to happen in your life and I could not be happier for you.

[countrygirl]

Congrats. If we can all be so lucky.

[bridget thronton]

You two are lucky to have each otber

[Helen_Highwater]

Bobbi,

It's good to have such an honest friends. Mirrors are not always our greatest allies. Knowing you look better gives confidence and that makes us more relaxed in our own skin.

[Carole]

I've known a few real girls who have had breast reductions Bobbi, not as easily as yours tho', well done for listening to (de)constructive advice.................................

[BTWimRobin]

Congrats on you new look.

[Teresa]

Bobbi,
Every cloud has a silver lining , so glad you've found yours !

The way she dealt with the situation was so sensitive and helpful to you , constructive criticism gave you the insight into how to correct your look , destructive criticism helps no one and only loses friends or people you thought were your friends .

[Bobbi46]

Thank you all for such lovely replies, getting as far as I have was not a smooth ride and I lost friends along the way but those that stood by me are still my friends and of course along the way Iwon the wonderful friendship of a woman who is now my girlfriend and although she did not know I dressed initially she was so very accepting and coming to today she has given me wonderful advice to move forward.
Yes I am very pleased with how I look now.
Without my girlfriend would I have ploughed on through life thinking I looked alright when in all matter of fact I did not ? probably getting such advice from her was worth millions

[GretchenM]

Once again, where in the world did you find this woman? I know they are ought there, but to receive such honest assessment of your appearance and then helping and supporting you correcting it is amazing. There is acceptance and then there is this which is light years beyond simple acceptance. Bobbi, you are so fortunate. You may have started a movement where there are a whole bunch of people looking into full length mirrors and seeing if they are top-heavy. We do have a tendency to do that. :heehee: Boobs are important and defining, but triangles standing on one point just don't look very stable. Not that the bottom needs to be a lot bigger than the top but it is best to reach for proportioned curves.

[EmilySmith]

Congrats and best wishes! Very happy for you, if just a little bit jealous. :)

[kimdl93]

You?re a lucky person. And, yes, balance is important.

[Jean 103]

I'm happy for you.

You are right, life is a lot different when you are at this level.

[Stephanie47]

I will second with everybody else that your girlfriend is a gem, Keep her. As to boob size I do see some overly endowed women in the wild who would benefit from breast reduction surgery. I know two women who had such surgery for medical issues related to body stress/pain of overly large breasts. As to breast enhancements for cross dressers I have said many times the eye sees what the mind wants to see. That is the image in the mirror is distorted by the mind. I would recommend taking pictures of oneself and looking at them. Seeing oneself in print is a lot different than just looking in the mirror. In essence your girlfriend was telling you what she and others were seeing which was totally different than your mind was wanting to see.

[Jacqueline Vivaldi]

Bobbi- I am delighted that you got this honest and beneficial advice. I struggle with the results of the mirror and would benefit from someone really critical evaluating my looks. When I go out many casual remarks are made to me about how fantastic I look by GG and guys. Perhaps, I need to go to a professional for a reality check. I do use several different size breast form depending on the outfit that I am wearing.

[docrobbysherry]

It blows my mind have many T's get breast forms ASAP! Often, inappropriately over large. Then, r quite happy to appear male from the waist down!:eek:

With commercial hip and butt pads so easy to use, inexpensive, and readily available? I just don't get it!?:brolleyes:

[Bobbi46]

Being so deeply involved with my girlfriend the breast/body ballance of my shape became more obvious as i lost weight and seeing me often in my underwear my girlfriend could see how top heavy I was getting, she is right of course and i am very greatful for her telling me this.

[Krisi]

As crossdressers, many of us are obsessed with boobs and in particular, big boobs. We start out with the largest forms we can find, often a "G" cup or larger. Most women are not so well endowed.

On the other hand, most of us have wider chests and wider shoulders than genetic women and small forms don't look natural on us.

It takes some experimentation, looking at self portraits and advice from others (when available) to end up with the best forms for our bodies. Forms that will look natural and be in proportion to our chests and shoulders.

I have to add though, that if you don't pad your butt and hips, no breast forms will look natural. You need a hip measurement that's nearly equal to your bust measurement to pull of the natural female look.

I started out with boobs that were a bit small and it was a comment by my wife that convinced me to go up a size. I'm glad I did and I think I have good feminine proportions now.

[alwayshave]

Bobbi, It's great that your girlfriend guided you to a new look.