Storing Clothing and Accessories

[Petra_Briar]

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My wife knows about my crossdressing, and we have made a lot of progress recently and bringing the discussion out of DADT to a point that we each know the boundaries and we can discuss things. She knows about my wardrobe and is okay with it. I have kept everything but my dresses in a box in the basement, and the dresses in the back of my closet. Where do other people put their clothing?

Petra

[Marianne S]

What an interesting question! I'll bet there are lots of different answers--depending on various factors, such as the nature of the relationship and of the place we're living in, who else lives there besides, the size of the clothing collection, and so on.

There are several answers for myself alone. The main one is for the decades I was married to my (sadly late) wife, and that was easy because luckily she accepted my dressing. I kept my female clothes iin a guest bedroom--and still do; dresses and so forth in the closet, underwear in drawers. It became "Marianne's room."

But at other periods in my life, depending on circumstances, I have concealed clothing in other places:


In that "box in the basement," hidden among junk that nobody looks into;

In a communal storage area in the attic of an apartment block;

In lockable bedroom drawers that my parents never looked into;

And in a "secret room" I once had; though that's "a whole 'nother story" (as Kipling put it) that I ought to tell in a separate post.

[kimberly c]

All my clothes are in plain sight. In my closet and draws, more feminine clothes than drab clothes. Hugs Kim

[EmilySmith]

My wife knows about my dressing, but not the adult children. My femme clothes aren't hidden, but we do maintain plausible deniability to the rest of the family.

[Liz Jones]

My"stash"gets larger every week! the wardrobe is now over 50%female.... so the Domestic Authority has granted permission to use a spare wardrobe. Shoes are stored(one pair)in small bags in the roof. I am lucky (very) in that my Wife is aware of my dressing.When i buy somthing The good Lady takes an active interest in my purchases.

[kayegirl]

All of my clothes are in plain sight. Nothing is hidden.

[VivianNewkirk]

Being single, I can put my stuff anywhere that I want. My problem is that the girl clothes are out of control and squeezing out the remaining boy clothes! I need more closets.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Petra :hugs:, We have a very workable DA/DT ane efery thing is hanging in three closets, >Orchid ..+:daydreaming:+..

[Micki_Finn]

EVERYwhere darling. Everywhere.

[Petra_Briar]

I get that some of you have no barriers to where you store everything but is that the majority?

[DianeT]

Absolutely everything, including dresses, wigs, shoes, and even makeup, is carefully folded/stored in a little suitcase in a cellar in the basement. My wife knows now but wouldn't be comfortable having them around us, and she doesn't want to see any of the apparel (which is okay for me).

[docrobbysherry]

I have a semi load of ladies gear. So, where does one keep that much stuff besides at home?

A storage room at work.

An extra garage next to a rental house.

And, since my daughter moved out recently? Pretty much every where inside my house, garages, and mother in law's apt!:heehee:

[Marianne S]

I get that some of you have no barriers to where you store everything but is that the majority?

I quite see your point. I have no idea whether the ability to store clothes openly is the majority or not. Just the same, I have to admit being able to do so is not all that interesting. More intriguing are the ingenious hiding places some may have practiced to keep our predilection from the prying eyes of unsympathetic snoopers around us! So I decided to post the story of My Secret Room (https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?270708-My-Secret-Room&p=4460568#post4460568).

[Pumped]

I have a small closet, with a lock on the door. It keeps my stash handy, and locked away from snoopy visitors.

[lingerieLiz]

My wife and I share closets and all the drawers I get the top.

[bobbi1957]

my wife knows i dress but doesnt want to know, i have an office at home where i keep everything. every once in a while i forget to close the door and im sure she has seen but hasnt said anything

[Christina89]

i recently moved a few months ago. i still haven't got everything set up in my new place due to work and covid. but right now they are hiding in a storage tote that i moved a lot of clothes in. once i'm all set up i will be setting up a new dresser with all of my women's clothes throughout it since i have a lot more privacy than my old place.

[Stephanie47]

My wife and I are in a deep DADT. My clothes are packed away. Our home is not very big; 1385 sq feet which includes the one car garage which was converted to living area. That "living" area has become the store room. My wardrobe is in about twenty Xerox boxes plus some other boxes in that room. The boxes are stacked up. My wife does not look in them. If she were she would probably fall over. But, that's DADT. I don't tell, she does not ask. In the armoire in the bedroom are my nighties nicely folded up with some panties. My original collection of lingerie; slips and panties are in my night stand. Frankly, if my wife was onboard with my dressing there is really no room in our walk in closet. There are also thirteen medium size USPS boxes stacked up on top of a book case. Those boxes contain nothing but panties. There is an upside to all this, except for shoes. My wife and I wear the same size dresses and panties. If I were to croak, she'd have a big wardrobe to choose from. :)

[Kay J]

I to am in a dadt situation but i have a basememt almost all to myself so i keep all my stuff down there and dress mostly down there also. My wife knows that so if she goes down there she dose not look around much but would not say anything if she did find anything as i said we don't talk about it and she don't want it up stairs. That is good for her and me too!

[Elizabeth G]

Before my wife knew I stored my things in an upstairs room in my barn that could only be reached with a ladder. Now that she knows they're in my closet.

[BTWimRobin]

Hi Petra,

We have a nice eight drawer built-in dresser in our walk-in closet. Robin gets a drawer. There are some things I would prefer to hang up. Out of respect for the wife, I leave them in the drawer.

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
this might seem "off topic"but bare with me....
We have a touring caravan, as we have no space at home for it we keep it in a storage compound some 6miles away.Visiting the compound one day (we have a key for the gate) i was suprised to see one of our firms vans parked alongside a caravan. I kept an eye on the van &later a staff member came out (in uniform) who i knew very well, the woman who came out after him (arraging her hair) was not known to me........
I greeted him---the look on his face.......
Now the point i am making is --if requiring a "private" place remove the woman in the above story &you have a very good set up --you can keep your "stash" have somewhere to change ,put makeup on &then jump in the car to go out...
Just dont let the S.O. find out...........
(later found a taxi driver near our caravan using his for the same thing! ) I was sworn not to tell his wife, though they go devorced later ...........

[abby054]

In a rented, climate controlled storage unit four km from my house. It is two meters by two meters. I have a full size vanity, a ten drawer lingerie chest, a rack for fifty pairs of shoes, a chair, a tailor?s model, and six meters of hanger rods. And still has two square meters to dress.

[Petra_Briar]

abby- your set up could mean a whole new revenue stream for self storage companies for anyone deep in DADT!

[wendy]

Before I came out to my wife, I stored Wendy's stuff in boxes in the basement. And I crammed everything into small boxes, so that meant I would primarily wear stuff at the top, if I had to take everything out of the box, I wouldn't be able to get it back in.

Now that she knows, we redid our closets with better shelving/racks so now Wendy's clothes are out in the open.

[SHINY-J]

When I?m dating a girl seriously and she?s over frequently, the majority of my stuff is packed away in large heavy duty boxes that I stash under the bed, in my storage closet, in the back of my regular closet, etc. and my favorite things(essentials to make my favorite outfits) are placed at the front, but still safely out of sight, but just easier to access... As time has gone on and I haven?t thrown any of my femme clothing/footwear out, the usual places were completely filled up and I had to invest in some heavy duty plastic tubs to put more stuff out in the garage stacked up. My femme clothing collection now FAR outweighs my guy clothes.

However, I had been pretty much single before this pandemic, and with no ladies coming over, I?ve basically pulled out just about everything at some point and it?s all over the place now. Not to mention that being cooped up with nothing to do when I?m not working from home, leaves WAY too much time to shop online for more femme clothes and shoes. It seems like I?ve got a new package being delivered every day. Lol

[Jenny22]

When my dear wife was still alive, I had to hide my stuff. I laid some plywood on the cross pieces of the garage's roof joists (to hold our suitcases) and also my girl stuff. Now, no hiding. I have an entire closet jam packed, and two drawers in my Chest of drawers.

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Sherry, you need to buy a small shipping container, and crain lift it into your back yard. LOL

[HollyGreene]

Mostly in plastic crates in the roofspace above my porch, with the exception of my panties and a few other items that are stored under the bed in a spare room.
A few years ago I designed and built a shed for my woodworking, which has a storage area in the roof. Some of my things used to be kept there.

[Michelle_G]

I keep my wigs, makeup, dresses, skirts and shapeware in a wooden cabinet I built years ago for my hunting clothes and accessories. It is 2' x 2' and about 5 feet tall. The lower compartment is 2 feet tall and the upper is 3 feet tall, both with cabinet locks. Not long ago, I was running out of room so I swapped the Michelle stuff to the larger space. In there, I have a big duffel bag that I store clothing in and a smaller "go bag" that has everything I need if i have to get dressed in the car. I also put a shelf in there for my shoes. It works well for me and no one messes with it or asks about it. Before that I used a plastic foot locker storage bin with a lock on it for Michelle's "hunting stuff."

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
Er--what is DADT?

[char GG]

Hi Liz,

DADT = Don't Ask Don't Tell

Here is a copy of the abbreviations (listed in the introduction section)

https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?162497-Some-Common-Trans-Related-Definitions-and-Abbreviations

[Alexis West]

I store my shoes, forms, wigs in a a couple boxes and a small suitcase in a cubby hole storage place in our walk in closet so they can't be accidentally found. My lingerie is in one of the drawers in my wife's dresser. we are close in so no one would ask. I keep my dresses, slacks and blouses in dark zipper travel bags in the walk-in. I just worry if something were to happen to both of us at the same time, our children would have to deal with that 'surprise'.

[Pumped]

My wife was concerned of somebody wondering about my stash if we both died. I just looked at her and said, "Who cares, we are dead!" She had to agree it doesn't matter at that point.

She had considered putting a note with my clothing explaining it all and that she loved me and was accepting of it, just in case.

[lingerieLiz]

Wife knows and everything is stored openly. Daughters know too.

[Cheryllynn]

I have all of my items in plastic storage bins in the basement. Wife knows I dress and accepts it, but I do not do it in front of her. As she rarely goes to the basement this works out nicely for us. I have other hobbies I work on in the basement so easy enough for me to spend some "me" time down there dressed. Prior to the basement, I had bins in the closet of our spare bedroom...where I was running out of space anyways. lol

[Liz Jones]

Hi Char GG,
Thanks for the -er-enlightenment" :-)
Liz

[Krisi]

My female clothes are hung in the closet alongside my male clothes. There's a built in cupboard where I store my wig and some other stuff. Obviously, my wife knows I wear women's clothes.

For people hiding stuff in their homes, it's not a matter of "if" someone finds them, it's "when". Will it be today? Tomorrow? Next month or next year?

Unless you've gone to great extremes (like a false wall), someone will stumble upon your stash. Count on it.

[Star01]

We are dadt and she occasionally stumbles across something and doesn't make an issue out of it. We have a 70's era split entry with finished lower level that I remodeled a little over a year ago. I have a big screen hdtv I use and she has her TV upstairs. I snore so one of the goals of the remodel was to spruce up a bedroom and make it a music, computer, sleeping area for me. I play music and mess around with multi track recording so the move to the lower level gave me ample privacy.

I don't have a lot of clothes but if I admit it to myself my fear of shopping for women's things limits me more than storage space. My wife is going to the lake home for a couple days and I want some sheer panties and a sun dress in the worst way. I've got a Target and Walmart among other shops five minutes up the highway and could do some shopping if I could get over my fear of being seen by someone we know. Perhaps I will get the nerve to drive a ways to another suburb and do a little shopping today. The thought of shopping for women's clothes and running into friends or relatives is imobilizing me so I could use a push out the door. I wish I had a CD friend nearby who could be my wing sister and help me do this.

Anyways, due to the small amount of things I have storage is no longer an issue. If I ever get past my fears about shopping I have a lot of space that I could fill up.

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PS, to answer another point having my things discovered is not a big fear. In a way it would be a relief because it would force me to overcome my fears and initiate a conversation. The dadt has cramped my style way too long and will be addressed this week in a therapy session.

[Kimberly A.]

Petra, I keep my wardrobe in a small closet, easily accessible for me or anyone else, but I live alone so I really don't worry about snoopers or prying eyes. LOL Now, my bed has sort of a false bottom, underneath the mattress is plywood and underneath that is plenty of space to store my feminine shoes, so that's where I keep those.

I keep all of the rest of my feminine things, (wigs, breast forms, bras, women's body wash, deodorant, perfume and jewelry) stashed in a large cooler in a separate room. I stack things on top of that cooler, (two tool boxes and two tackle boxes), so that if anyone comes in, chances are they won't want to move all that stuff off of the cooler..... Not that they would have any reason to, anyway. LOL

[April Rose]

I live in a 100+ year old house, and the closets are very small. Most of my feminine clothes are in an Armoire in my sewing/crafts room, plus a small lingerie chest in the bedroom. Some other things are in the sewing room closet, and a few other places as well. Lack of storage space contributes to my limiting the size of my wardrobe. I look at that as a positive.

[Liz Jones]

We are dadt and she occasionally stumbles across something and doesn't make an issue out of it. We have a 70's era split entry with finished lower level that I remodeled a little over a year ago. I have a big screen hdtv I use and she has her TV upstairs. I snore so one of the goals of the remodel was to spruce up a bedroom and make it a music, computer, sleeping area for me. I play music and mess around with multi track recording so the move to the lower level gave me ample privacy.

I don't have a lot of clothes but if I admit it to myself my fear of shopping for women's things limits me more than storage space. My wife is going to the lake home for a couple days and I want some sheer panties and a sun dress in the worst way. I've got a Target and Walmart among other shops five minutes up the highway and could do some shopping if I could get over my fear of being seen by someone we know. Perhaps I will get the nerve to drive a ways to another suburb and do a little shopping today. The thought of shopping for women's clothes and running into friends or relatives is imobilizing me so I could use a push out the door. I wish I had a CD friend nearby who could be my wing sister and help me do this.

Anyways, due to the small amount of things I have storage is no longer an issue. If I ever get past my fears about shopping I have a lot of space that I could fill up.

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PS, to answer another point having my things discovered is not a big fear. In a way it would be a relief because it would force me to overcome my fears and initiate a conversation. The dadt has cramped my style way too long and will be addressed this week in a therapy session.

Hi,--Face masks are your friend.........

[Sylvia Coco]

I have a small closet, with a lock on the door. It keeps my stash handy, and locked away from snoopy visitors.

It sounds like solution of my problem. My wife knows about my crossdressing but we have a lot of visitors in our house so I'm always a little bit nervous when they look into my bedroom and wardrobe.

[Petra_Briar]

Sylvia- I am dealing with a similar issue, we are empty nesters and live in a vacation area so we get visitors including our kids. My wife has gotten past the DADT stage but still does not want it "in her face". I have gone to a combo of dresses in my closet but towards the back so it could be my wifes and just overflow, a suitcase in my closet with most of the clothes I wear more regularly including lingerie and the rest in the basement that includes wigs, makeup, jewelry and shoes.... not a simple solution but it works for the most part.

[candykowal]

I have a DADT relationship and I am pretty sure doesn't have any notion that I have a female identity.
Sure, some things I do are of a feminine nature and she sees my natural breasts, my epulated arms and legs, and that I moisturize with perfumed creams and take soaks in bath oil beads.
She knows I like silky fabrics, wear perfume, and grow my fingernails long and paint them in gloss clears.:battingeyelashes:
She has told me, some things I do, she doesn't want to know.
So I keep a large part my feminine clothes in fake ductwork inside the drop ceiling of my attic office.
I went to Menards and bought ducts parts, assembled them and cut holes in the tops to access my items as you would a dresser drawer.
When the ducts are in the ceiling, the slide over existing duct to look like part of the existing assembly.
So even if someone opened the drop ceiling tiles, all they would see is ductwork and electrical conduit.
I even made one duct to keep Candy's feminine funds, a Calendar girl wine glass I got from my local beauty/wig shop, and my guns/coin collection.
I do have a "Grab-n-Go bag I keep filled for when I need immediate access in a covered beam under a floor.
And a few items near the bed if the wife sleeps on the couch, I can sleep in femme.
So if I ever get caught, it will be sleeping....there is always that chance, but as long as I keep it hidden, she is fine and doesn't look for it!
I am sure she knows a few things but decides to not look for it.:)

[CynthiaD]

All my femme stuff is just hanging in my closet. I think I may have a few male items in there too, but it?s so long since I?ve worn anything like that I?m not sure. Underwear and stuff is in my chest of drawers. No male clothing in there, for sure.

[SometimesDiana]

I have an entire wall of wardrobe space, clothes bars, and shoe racks. Back in the day, I had to be a bit more discreet. I ended up getting a large steel cabinet off Craigslist for $100. I installed a clothes bar and LED lights on the interior. I mounted a mirror and jewelry organizers to the inside of the doors.

[pantihoze]

I too am in a DADT relationship. I have panties and pantyhose in my dresser drawer with my male underwear. Wife knows about the hosiery. I told her about CDing, and she doesn't want to know more. I usually have a couple of other items in a smaller storage tote, but since we are remodeling our closet, I put the other stuff in various other drawers, under male clothing. I will figure something else out when the closet gets finished. I spend most of my days off working on the closet, so when underdressed, I am literally still "in the closet".