Caught!

[Tina Dixon]

Yes it true, she has found out, found some pictures on some program on the computer, so I told the truth I like to dress, I was shaking like a leaf, but it's not bad, not leaving me, just suprised, I will report more soon.

[Joy Carter]

Tina we are here for ya hon ! There's no time like the present to finally talk about it (as I sit here eating my own advice). My prayers are with you.

[RenaCD]

Hey Sister you know where to find us if you need anything or if the wife needs anything from us, our thoughts and prayers always

Rena CD

[Deborah]

I recommend viewing this thread for all those hiding from spouses.
Even though it's about businesses for the most part there are measures to take on your home computer also.

http://crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=14163&highlight=stlalice

[gennee]

MY WIFE CAUGHT ME TWO WEEKS AGO, SO I TOLD HER. SHE REACTED CALMLY THOUGHT I DON'T THINK SHE APPROVES. AT LEAST SHE KNOWS.

GENNEE

[Tamara Croft]

Tina :( I hope everything goes ok for you both and if your wife needs another GG to talk to, I'd be more than happy to give her some support to :hugs:

[Janelle Young]

Good luck with this Tina. I hope all will be better in the long run. Remember Red Heads Rule.

[Lawren]

Good luck, Tina. You know we are all here to help you and/or your wife anytime you need us. You will be in our thoughts as the two of you work this out.

[Holly]

Best wishes, Tina. The two of you have a forum full of support here. Please let us know how things go.

[Julie Avery]

Tina, yowsa! Keep in touch :)

[GypsyKaren]

We are always here for you Tina, and you're in my thoughts and prayers.

Karen

[jamie_44]

Tina, hope it works out without too many bumps in the road, been there and done that like many others. My wife found me out by finding a pair of shoes that I forgot where I hid them, quite large size for a lady, she thought maybe I was dating a basketball player. She was also cool about the cd'ng, learned as much as she could, and we had many discussions, she sort of understands now, best to keep loving each other and a sense of humor helps.

[paulaN]

good luck hun. I hope you don't need it.

[Teresa Amina]

Hang on there Tina! I know you would have preferred it happen in your own time and way but now that she knows you'll be able to talk to her about it.:thumbsup: :hugs:

[VeronicaMoonlit]

I recommend viewing this thread for all those hiding from spouses.
Even though it's about businesses for the most part there are measures to take on your home computer also.

http://crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=14163&highlight=stlalice

Good advice. Here's the gist in short for home users.

By default all users on a WinXP box have admin privileges, meaning they can read any file on the system. It is possible to set up users with limited accounts, but then some applications might not work properly. IIRC previous versions of Windows in the 9x series don't have true user security at all.

Assume your files, pictures, web browser favorites, history will be found! So therefore tell your spouse/family now.

Linux/Unix/BSD/OSX users don't have to worry, their systems have proper user security, unless your wife/SO has root. :-)

There is a solution that can be used if necessary, but you should still tell. Download a bootable Linux CD/DVD like Knoppix, use that to browse, read your "fe-mail" edit your photos, chat, and so on. Save your files on a USB storage device.

This is why some of us are constantly harping on the disclosure issue. Tell, tell, tell. Better they are told by you than by discovery, especially discovery of CD panty pics or something.


Veronica

[Jennaie]

Maybe this will be the beginning of a stronger relationship with your wife Tina.
Sometimes lemons turn into lemonade. Be strong

Jennaie :be:

[Barb Valentine]

All I can say is my heart go out to you Tina
I wish you the best of luck
Let us know if we can help in any way
:sad:

Love Barb

[Kimberley]

Tina,
I'll keep you and your wife in my prayers. I hope everything works out for you both and you know that there is plenty of support here for both of you.

Kimberley.

[Tina Dixon]

Well im still alive, and I believe it will work out in the long run, She still loves me just sad that I never told her, go figure all ways think the worst don't we.
I told her been doing it since I was kid on and off, then she remembers halloween pictures were I have been dressed then things starts to clic.
She asked about my shoes, seemed a big deal to her, then I asked her what about my wig? She wanted to know why I don't have big puffy hair?
Asked her about the time a couple of weeks ago when I left the wig out but she never seen it.
It's going to a big adjustment period here, I told her about my on line friends, a little bit about the Tri-Ess chapters, she was suprissed there are two so close two home.
But she is in a bit of a shock, I know she didn't sleep well, so I hope the more we talk and the more she learns things will get easer for her and me, hell im shock also and more confussed than ever now.
Thats all I got for now, thank you all for your help and support, probley going to tame look on this site a bit like wendy so maybe she can see where I hang out a lot, and yes she does know I go by Tina.

[Raychel]

It is a good thing that she now knows about Tina. Of course you know it was very risky with as much as you have been doing behind her back. I hope that all works out well for both of you. Just take it slow and let her set the pace for how much she wants to talk and just what she wants to see.

But I am sure that you know all that from the forum in the past.

If there is anything that I can help with I am here.

Raychel.

[Julie York]

Just found this thread.

Good luck Tina. There's about as much suppport for you and her as anyone could find on the net, right here on this forum. So you know where to find us.

:thumbsup:

[Marla S]

Good luck Tina. I wish you and your wife the best.
Reads like it could work out. Hope so. That would be something.:)

[cindybarnes]

Hi Tina.

Wow, I know it has to be pretty stressful right now for you both, but at least its out.
The fact that your wife is asking questions is a good sign tho, we see so many that react the opposite way.

Good luck and I hope things work out for you two!

Cindy

[Adrienne Heels]

Good luck honey....I hope everything works out for a wonderful girl like you !

Karyn

[Ms. Donna]

Well im still alive, and I believe it will work out in the long run, She still loves me just sad that I never told her, go figure all ways think the worst don't we.

Hi Tina,

I know you have been contemplating for a while now just how to approach this. While it wasn't as planned, it is out in the open now and sounds like the two of you are doing OK with it. Just remember that communication is a key aspect here (which is why she's sad you never felt you could tell her) so don't hold back. Answer her questions with honesty and respect her feelings - especially that is will take some time for her to process this in full - and the two of you should be fine.

I am very happy for you both!

Warm Regards,
Donna

[RenaCD]

Tina, Sis, I ma having good feelings about this for you and the wife, I said before she must be one hell of a girl, like you. When I said I wanted to meet her this isn't what I had in mind, Surprise!! Remember Talk, Breathe, Breathe, Talk, Cry, And Breathe some more
O and Flowers never hurt either, a little dinner, a couple of bottles of Wine, Not Ripple, the Classy Stuff.
You know we are all Praying for you Both and that will continue as long as you need it!

Big Hugs Rena

[Di]

Hon, talk, talk talk and talk some more. Tell her you will not shut her out anymore and that you were afraid of telling her....but.....NO secrets anymore. Best wishes to you, If she,d like a gg to talk to i`d be happy to help. Sending big hugs Di

[Jodi Lynn]

Hugs Tina, I was in the same position a year ago. My wife found a bra that I had in a drawer that I though she would never go in. After the shock for her wore off things got back to nornal. We do talk about Jodi at times, but for the most part she want nothing to do with Jodi. Hope that things work out for you sis.

[Shelly Preston]

Good luck Tina

You know there will be a few obstacles to overcome but we are all here to support you both.
I hope all goes well and wish you both all the best for the future.

[Alison Anderson]

Good Luck Tina.

Just don`t rush her, show her this site and all the GG support and understanding they give.

Yes, she will be very dissapointed you kept this from her. It is a betrayal of trust you need her to forgive you for. Be the man she loves for now and give her plenty of attention and support.

Iv`e never been too happy about those who keep it a secret from their spouses but I suppose it can be a trap one could easily fall into.

Hpoefully Tina, your wife will eventually accept this has always been a part of your life and kept quiet out of your love for her as a man.

[Adele]

My thoughts are with you, hope you find some common ground.

My wife was more upset about me not trusting her enough to tell her rather than about the dressing itself. It has taken a while but I feel our relationship is stronger than ever, I don't hide anything from her now.

[Seven]

Jean my wife and I, are wishing you both well, dont forget to offer your wife the time to come on here, Once you are out at work lets say ,if your wife wish's let her find this thred and read. We are all here to be truthful, open, and give any support to a great Lady.

Your wife is a angel, and dont forget lots of (wifes GG) on here to help /chat anytime and lots of new Sister's, All our very best but remember to take it slowly, and both set your ground rules, that will be best for you both

Seven XXXXXXXXX and Jean GG

[Donna1391]

Tina Good Luck With Your New Found Friend. Have Fun Shopping Togethere Donna1391 Mich.

[Crisack]

Hiya Tina,
I wanted to thank you so much for posting your experience. It's a rough and personal time but it's obvious you have alot of friends and support here. Glad it seems to be working out so far. Good luck and keep us posted!

[sparks]

Awww! Tina I wish I could say something here but unlike me I'm speechless!
If she was just surprized all maybe well! Good luck hon! You have my thoughts and prayers!

[Sam-antha]

Tina, I have just found your news.
There is nothing more I can add to the advice that all our friends have passed to you, except, perhaps :
Now that she knows and I hope understands, it may not be a good idea to rush her into to many corners. Let her make the running, but if she slows too much perhaps a bit of a small push onwards ?
I hope it pans out OK over the weeks ahead.
Best wishes

Sam-antha

[Jasmine Ellis]

Oh Tina, dear. I wish you all the best in the world dear, I do hope you are ok and I'm here for you sweetheart just like all the other girls are.....Take care dear

[Tina Dixon]

Feels like a movie, but we had a busy day that kept us real busy with our HOG chapter both of us being primary officers plus my sister went with us, she is now over to her mothers doing some stuff for her, now she's wondering if im getting dressed I suppose, but I think when the shock wears off a bit more thing will be a bit easer to talk about, but she handled it fairly well, I guess we don't give our SO's enuff credit do we.
Well thats all to report so far, and thank for the support, for fun and jokes to this, I sure do keep you girls on your toes.

~Love you all TINA~

[lynda jane hamilton]

tina

Best of luck love. I'll be joining you soon! My thoughts are with you from over the water. Please keep mre posted as your experience will give me strength

LOL

Lyndax

[Julie York]

we had a busy day that kept us real busy with our HOG chapter both of us being primary officers
~Love you all TINA~

You raise pigs? Groovy! And you wear uniforms?




:D

[Debbie Kong]

Yes it's true, she has found out.

Glad I don't have to worry about such a situation arising in my life but there were times in the past that it could've happened to me so I feel for you. Hope it all turns out for the best. A stumbled upon positive step. You were getting ready to reveal it anyway. With your happy attitude it should work out well.

Keep us uniformed, I mean informed of developments.

Debbie (Into Kawi's not Hawg's)

[Tina Dixon]

Harley Owners Group, LOL:)

[Bev06 GG]

Well Tina,

It does atleast sound more promising for you than it has proved to be for others. This happened to my friend, she found an email to her hubby but couldn't make head nor tail of it because it was referring to her sister. Took a while for the penny to drop and then she realised that her hubbies femme name was the same as her sisters. She hit the roof and filed for divorce. That was 16 months ago and they're still together. Infact they have just spent a weekend with us getting to know all of our CD friends. So you see not all cases end in divorce or seperation. She still has her problems from time to time, but together they are working through it. She did say tho, that she is glad that he is able to talk about it with her and reassure her that she is still number one in his life. I know its not easy talking about it when youve been rumbled, but its the only way to help her through what can be a very difficult and fairly uncertain time. Good look and go careful. When you feel that the time is right I would suggest that you point her in the GG forums direction tho. We do have some REALLY GREAT ladies in their, all with differing views and opinions and I for one have found it a great help.
Lots of love and prayers for you and yours
BEVXXXXX

[Lindahexi]

Yes it true, she has found out, found some pictures on some program on the computer, so I told the truth I like to dress, I was shaking like a leaf, but it's not bad, not leaving me, just suprised, I will report more soon.

Tina I know what you are going through, I've been in the same situation, I was convinced that my wife would throw me out if she ever found out about my dressing, but she didn't! From what you've posted it seems that your wife needs time to think things through, the most important thing is that she now knows and she isn't leaving you; that's a very good start. You will get lot's of support from the girls on this site, keep us posted on your progress. Good luck,

Hugs,

Linda.

[Wendy me]

wow Tina sorry i missed this yesterday i hope that everything works out ok for you ....just the fact she is not like freaking out is a good thing ...talking is a good thing gife her some time to soak it all in and listen to what she has to say... good luck ....small steps ... although you just had your frist huge jump.....

[Tina Dixon]

Well truth is now I think she feels like I may be the one to tell her its over, for she fears she has not shown me enuff love or some thing, just keep working at it just needs to cool down a bit.

[Natalie tv]

Hi my wife discoverd my secret about 10yrs ago, now we shop for clothes together and its great fun.

[Veronica E. Scott]

Well truth is now I think she feels like I may be the one to tell her its over, for she fears she has not shown me enuff love or some thing, just keep working at it just needs to cool down a bit.


Best of luck no matter what happens her emotions will jump all over the scale just relax and talk to her. We will be thinking happy thoughts for you.

[DonnaT]

Hi Tina,

You may want to romance your wife a little more than usual to show her that you still find her more desirable than the CDing.

Have you asked her to join the forum yet?

Good luck.

[Kathycd]

Tina:

Thank you for sharing this with us. I am ferverently following this thread as it could very well happen to me. <smile> In 20 years of marriage to a wonderful woman, I have been close on 2 occasions, though in truth, I don't know which way it would go.

The one and only thing I have held back from my dear wife is knowlege of Kathy.

I do wish you the best of course, and hope that the continueing saga bodes well for you both.

HUgs to you,

kathy

[Sam-antha]

Take her out to a first class dinner and if you can dance, add that in as a necessary bonus for her. She would love that.

[Karinna]

Sorry Tina, i hope everything will go fine for you and her. You have a new subject of conversation with her now... :sad: :Angry3:
Like the girls said, Talk! But only when she asks. I am sure you will manage the situation very well.

[Tina Dixon]

Well not much to report here ladies, there has not been a word said about it since D-Day! Nadda word, it's like it never happend, strange or what?
May be she feels like it's no big deal, so he's home in a dress reading his comic books, beats having him at the bar getting drunk and pinching girls butts and getting in fights.

You know I was chating with another member and we thought you know we really don't want family or friends to be involed with our dressing, it's like I want it to be seprate for other things and people, Tina needs her life and he needs his.

So for the time being im just going to hang low, I'll still pop in from time to time, but dressing is probley out for a while, don't want to come online and tell you all about my cheap sex change at home that my wife did on me.

Thanks for being there for me, you really have know idea how you all make me feel.

Love Tina

[Julie Avery]

Tina, it sounds to me like you're moving toward a good outcome. There are some land mines out there, but if you stay as level-headed as you are, I think it's going to work out fine.

It's good to hear from you.

[Tina Dixon]

Thanks Julie

[barbaracd]

Tina, I share your problem. My wife found some of my panties and asked me to move out. My problem is that this is the second time she found some of my things. Last time was about six years ago. We are still not back together but we are talking again. She will never accept my desire to crossdress. If you ever want to talk I'm here for you.We started dating again, but I'm not sure where this will go.I would love to have her accept me for who I am and never have to be sneaky again. I hope it all works out for you.

[Tina Dixon]

Well after six years I would think it's over between you's, even if there are children, and if your starting a new relationship let her know now that you like to dress before you get attached, as for me so far every thing is still piecefull at home, im thinking may be I should sleep on my belly for a while:eek:

[Sam-antha]

Seriously Tina, are you honestly hanging around the house in a dress ...
Wishful thinking I think. Stillmy thunks are not that valuable.
Keep going, quietly and more important have yu taken her really out lately.
Mind, maybe she will think it is a bribe when it is a thnak you and a getting well agina offering.

[busty]

Yes it true, she has found out, found some pictures on some program on the computer, so I told the truth I like to dress, I was shaking like a leaf, but it's not bad, not leaving me, just suprised, I will report more soon. your wife was understanding good luck my x wife was not

[barbaracd]

Tina, When I said it was six years, I meant that six years ago I was caught for the first time. We stayed together.The second was four weeks ago and were separated but talking and trying to work things out. Hope all works out for you.Things may blow up but you should be able to get through it and overcome any problems.

[Missy Anne's GG]

Hi Tina,

I'll be thinking of you and hoping that all turns out well for you and your wife.

Hugs,

Missy Anne's GG

[michellecd9999]

Our prayers are with you and your wife. I hope she can understand you and be supportive. Remember, she still needs time with her husband!
Michelle

[Julie Avery]

How much, if at all, did you two talk about it? Enquiring minds need to know :)

[Ms. Donna]

Well things are like nothing happend here at home, she's not saying any thing about it and it's like it never happended to her

Large batch jobs usually require extended processing time. (wait... wrong forum...)

Seriously, I suspect she's doing just that - processing it all - and you - trying to make sense of it. She'll bring it back up when she's ready - just give her some time.


but I have not tossed my stuff, still hidden as it shall be for now.


:nono: DON'T PURGE!!! :nono:

Jeez girl, you just got all that stuff. It's hidden, leave it there and forget about it for a while if you have to.

No matter what happens, you know you're gonna need it. ;)

Love & Stuff,
Donna

[Wendy me]

Tina ok the reason she has not said anything more is your wife like mine knows abought it but in not realy knowing what to make of it or what to say abought it ... it's far easyer for her just not to say anything .. this is not a form of accptence nor is it a form or denial on her part .... see you have started them stepy thingys we talk abought so much here... now just might be the right time to talk Tina to her now is the time to let her know how you feel abought her ... when she is ready for a nouther step you will know.....as with my wife we are getting there slowly but we are moveing forward....good luck ... just be shure of were you want to go before you get there.....

[Tina Dixon]

Well things are like nothing happend here at home, she's not saying any thing about it and it's like it never happended to her, and im not ready to bring it up at this time my self, so I guess we just move on as she knows my secret at this time but I just have not felt like dressing at all, but I have not tossed my stuff, still hidden as it shall be for now.

[Shelly Preston]

Hi Tina

Well it cant really be like that for her.
The genie can't go back in the bottle.
Your wife will be wondering where this will lead for both of you.
It may take a while as she may be afraind of the answer you may have.
This is a life changing event which hopefully will bring you together.
Give her time to sort out how she want to proceed.
If you feel its going on too long. I would suggest you wait another few days and just say your ready to answer any questions she may have.


Best Wishes

[SherriePall]

Tina -- I told my wife (we're married over 31 years) a little over six years ago. She wasn't as calm as your wife. She is not really supportive, but yet allows me time (in bedroom), gives me some room for my clothes and make-up, and washes my delicates (there's a word that dates me). She wishes I didn't and like you think about your wife, I believe she's afraid I'll leave her. Just the other week she got a good doctor's report and told me, "You're stuck with me." Anyhow, my thoughts and prayers are with both of you.

[Tina Dixon]

Lot of good advice taken here thats for sure, but im leaving it up to her, if shes got questions I'll answer them, but as far as purging my stuff? No way, there hidden even thought she knows now, im not getting rid of my stuff.

[Allison1]

Yes I've been caught a few times. I almost can't believe how some of our fellow CD's can hide it from their wives for so many year. Maybe I'm too careless. ally

[Megan72]

Tina

I hope all is going well, just found this thread so i am a bit late. I just wanted you to know we are all behind you and your SO. Good luck.