Another two things

[Di]

Two more things I am curious about .

1) Would you welcome constructive Criticism?
Once in a while I notice things and want to p m and just give some advice.
I know with Sherlyn when we first met it hurt her and took it as a put down ....she quickly realized I only meant it out of caring and welcomed it. So wondering in general would that be hurtful or helpful?

2) Do you have a middle name for your girl side?

[Stevie Allyn]

1) Absolutely. My wife gives me valuable feedback on how I look, both positive and negative.

2) My full girl name is Amanda Louise Hunt. Louise being my wife's middle name and Hunt being my mother's maiden name.

[GwenHerself]

1. I would love it! Please and thank you. I just want to be close to passable and any help is appreciated.

2. I don't. My real first name is both a male and female name, so I might use that.

[Genni]

1. Certainly! Feedback helps us to improve and to grow.
2. I haven’t yet come up with a middle name, but have been giving it some thought lately.

[CarlaWestin]

1) Well, OK. "You still walk like an ape and stop man spreading when you sit." There, I got it in on myself before anyone else did."

2) Not yet but, how about, "Kinky"? Carla Kinky Westin.

Please keep these two question things coming.

[Kelli_cd]

I would welcome constructive criticism.

When I joined here, I was very early in admitting who I am, so I just feminized my real name. I have since decided on Melanie Anne.

[Stephanie47]

1) I would if I did post pictures or present myself in the flesh. When I did go out with the intend of mixing with human on Halloween I did get some nice comments and affirmation of my look. That was decades ago when I was a lot younger and my facial skin was smoother and had less wear and tear.

2) No, but, maybe I should consider it. It was hard enough using my first name. Stephanie is the female version of my male name. Stephanie is the name my mother wanted for a daughter which is her mother's name (European version). Dad's sperm fooled her. When I joined this forum I was estranged from my sister whose name is Stephanie. Now that we have reconciled I would consider choosing another name, but I have no idea what that would be.

[sara66]

Constructive criticism is great. It really is the best way to improve yourself. We are often blind to our own weaknesses.

I have not thought about a middle name. But I think i will use Anne.
Sara

[Shelly Preston]

As long as its constructive Criticism, it is always welcome.

My Name is above may avatar :)

[Jacke]

1. Caring constructive criticism is always good and welcome.

2. No, in fact I only have one name Jacke, like Cher. Have felt no need for more.

[JocelynJames]

Just my opinion, there should be an abbreviation or emoji or something when we do constructive criticism as some people are just plain mean . not necessarily here but on the Internet as a whole and people don?t always differentiate. Someone here once told me my jaw was square like theirs and my wig would look better in a certain other cut. I didn?t really ask and was kind of mad at first. I got over it and realized they were 1/2 right

Cc is fine

What you see of my name is all there is. For a while I’ve just been going by Joss

[Krea]

1. Constructive criticism is very welcome.
2. No. I don't actually use a female name. I can shorten my given name to it's gender-neutral form "Nic". (My forum pseudonym is completely unconnected to my real name.)

[NancySue]

1. Yes. My wife knows I want her observations, yea or nay. She?s been such a great help, especially with makeup.
2. I do not have a middle name.

[tifftg]

1. Constructive criticism is very much welcome. Often I sense when I post a photo that much could be improved in my dressing or makeup or even photo skills. Too often I get polite, "that looks nice" and it is much harder to improve.

2. No middle name for Tiffany Brown as of yet.

[docrobbysherry]

1) Depends. I'm often attacked or criticized for the way I dress. I know it's often catty jealousy. But, I still don't enjoy that.:thumbsdn: Constructive criticism has a different tone to it. Which I welcome!:thumbsup:

2) No

[Geena75]

1. Constructive criticism is very welcome. To the source -- keep in mind what the individual is going for.

2. Middle name? I haven't even chosen a LAST name!

[sara_also]

Two more things I am curious about .

1) Would you welcome constructive Criticism?
Once in a while I notice things and want to p m and just give some advice.
I know with Sherlyn when we first met it hurt her and took it as a put down ....she quickly realized I only meant it out of caring and welcomed it. So wondering in general would that be hurtful or helpful?

2) Do you have a middle name for your girl side?

(1) there is no doubt it, I would always accept any kind of comments.

(2) Never gave thought to a middle name. I just liked Sara and then my last name (Also) means I am a male also.

[Star01]

While I welcome and do my best to apply constructive criticism I am currently wardrobe challenged and no longer have the thrift store dress I'm wearing in this photo. The $25 costume store wig is falling apart and I can no longer wear it so I know where I stand with that as well. If the constructive criticism is that I should shop more I am currently unable to do that either. I know this photo isn't much but right now it's all that I have and I decided a dowdy photo is better than no photo. It's complicated but I hope to be able to do more and am working towards that goal. If you want to offer constructive criticism in spite of those things that is fine with me.

I don't have a middle name for my girl side. I may have told this story but one time years ago I had to select a user name and came up with something that comes close to my name on the spur of the moment. It wasn't meant to be presumptuous as in "I think I'm a movie star" but simply a hastily chosen screen name. I had to add the 01 when I registered here as it said the name was already taken. If I ever decide that going out in public en femme will be of benefit to me and I manage to collect some nice clothes and wig I would likely change it. For the time being seeing as I am still dressing in private I don't see any need to make a change.

DI, I like this two question idea. It is interesting learning a bit about the other members. This is a good idea.

[FrannGurl]

1) I've always welcomed constructive criticism now and in the past. I want to be the best I can be.

2) My first name is also both male and female, but I like Franni for short. I haven't actually considered a middle name, but I think I might like that!

[Christina89]

1) Would you welcome constructive Criticism?
Of course. It would help me better myself and dressing.

2) Do you have a middle name for your girl side?
I do. It's Nicole.

[CrossKimmy]

1. Of course input would be welcome.

2. My full feminine name is Kimberly Marie Cross. Marie is after an old friend of my mothers who was drop dead gorgeous.

[LeannS]

1) I would like some constructive criticism

2) Leann Nicole

[ellbee]

1) Would you welcome constructive Criticism?
Once in a while I notice things and want to p m and just give some advice.
I know with Sherlyn when we first met it hurt her and took it as a put down ....she quickly realized I only meant it out of caring and welcomed it. So wondering in general would that be hurtful or helpful?

Fine... Bash away, if you must. I can handle it. I'm a big girl -- probably in more ways than one, you'll say. Am I right? Of course, no doubt what little self-esteem I have will be crushed, my already-fragile confidence will be shattered, and I'll probably spend the rest of my life emotionally & psychologically crippled, just barely scraping by in my everyday routine... That's even if I get out of bed in the morning, at all, that is. Umm, thanks? :sad:

Okay, I kid! :D


I will say that coming from a GG, any GG, here? I don't feel a little constructive criticism every now & then would be so bad, whether solicited or otherwise... As long as there were good intentions, and it was done tactfully -- which I'm sure would be the case every time. :)

We were born with male bodies. And for the most part, we grew up as boys & men. Style & fashion sense & color coordination, and all that jazz, may not necessarily be our forte -- especially when it comes to all the "girly things." Plenty of GG's, however, *did* grow up with that.

Also, at least part of this, at least for some, is simply innate. That it just comes naturally -- again, particularly with GG's, relatively speaking. Some of us aren't so lucky & blessed.


So, yes... Sometimes some of us may need a little help, which is fine.

"Hey, I saw your new pics earlier. You look fabulous! And I really like that top. I own a similar one. Know what pairs up with it really well, I've found...?"

Again, done tactfully. And plenty of you GG's are masters at that. :wave2:



2) Do you have a middle name for your girl side?

Heck, I no longer really have a *first* name -- never mind a middle one! :eek:

Years ago when presenting fully en-femme in public, in a social setting, yes, I did have a first one... You know, for practical reasons. :heehee:

And I suppose *waaaay* back in the day, I gave myself a new last name, as well, to pair up with it. But that didn't last too long, really.


Middle? Nope, sorry! :p

[Robertacd]

I don't mind constructive criticism, but it is hard to give on a forum. It's too easy to sound blunt and it to be taken the wrong way.

As for a middle name... I don't have one yet for my female name. But my wife doesn't have one either. She never did, she started using her maiden name after we were married as her middle name. I have been thinking about it but am also trying to keep my same initials and haven't thought of anything I like yet. But I know I will have to before I make it legal.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I'd be pleased to receive constructive criticism.
No, no middle name.

[Jean 103]

I guess if you must. It's a bit tricky as I don't think most handle it well.

2. I could never come up with one so I gave up.

[Bea_]

Two more things I am curious about .

1) Would you welcome constructive Criticism?


Diplomatic criticism could be nice. Even if I felt a little defensive, I think I'd appreciate it overall.



2) Do you have a middle name for your girl side?

Bea is the phonetic of one of my male initials. I don't have a girl side. I see my taste as an extension of my maleness and not a diversion into femaleness.

[bridget thronton]

Has taken a long time for to accept that any feedback is a gift.

I think Rose is the middle name I like best with Bridget

[Samm]

1) would I welcome constructive criticism?
Yes, and no. I have been doing this for a long time. Do I know everything? No. But there are things I feel I need, and have to do, to feel comfortable in my presentation. Criticism or suggestions from actual friends I have here, and IRL, I take as helpful advice because they know me.
Comments and messages from basically strangers... not so much.

2) I have no middle name. It was difficult enough coming up with the two names I have. Lol

[Amelia_Rose]

1) I'd say constructive criticism can be very helpful, so long as it is delivered in a kind way! I'm definitely a beginner in terms of makeup and such, so pointers are always welcome.

2) Amelia Rose is more of a double first name, but Rose could easily be my middle name as well. I hadn't really thought about it haha.

[Lana Mae]

1.) I take all criticism with a grain of salt! It is welcome and I would consider/think about it! Then I would decide whether to take/use it or not!

2.) Mae is my middle name! It was my mother's as well!

I enjoy the two question thing! Keep it up!
Hugs Lana Mae

[Teresa]

Di,
I've been through that situation but in the end it's up to the individual to decide how they want to look , going out everyday makes the difference to deciding how you look , I do get the odd tips now from the SA in Boots when I buy something new .

My middle name is John , I've not decided whether to adopt Joanna as a middle name perhaps I should as my initials are T J on my credit card and related items .

[GretchenM]

I don't criticize my wife and she doesn't criticize me. But we do make a lot of suggestions for each other. And they are considered and taken or not. I think it is all a part of being a couple.

My middle name is Marie. Of course that is for Gretchen. My male first and middle name is Mark Anthony which I have always disliked. At first I used a female name based on that, but that didn't last long. Didn't want to be reminded of my male name.

[Cheryl T]

Constructive criticism is always welcomed by me.
When you do criticize someone think about how you say what you wish to say. Read it twice before sending it or saying it and be sure it's not going to be seen as anything but helpful. I would never tell someone to NOT wear something, but phrase it that Perhaps this would be more flattering, or that would look nicer.

Middle name, yes of course. It's Claire.

[Karen RHT]

I've welcomed and accepted true constructive criticism my entire life. I don't intend to stop now or at any time in the future.

Never really thought about a middle name.


Karen

[Krisi]

I have learned a lot from constructive criticism, but sometimes when I try to give it, I get grief from others about being "supportive" so I don't give it much any more.

"Krisi" is my name for here, no middle or last name. Years ago I had a different first name with a last name for a different site. If I could get my wife to call me by a feminine name, it would be a female variation of my male name and of course, my "real" last name.

[Jillian Faith]

I would wholeheartedly accept constructive criticism (I prefer the term feedback) anything to help me present a more feminine presentation, regardless if it concerns my appearance, clothing, demeanor, how I walk, talk, move or sit.

My wife named me Jill, I came up with the middle name Faith. So I'm Jillian Faith, Jill to my wife and friends.

[Raychel]

I would always welcome any kind of advice or thoughts that anyone had.

I do now. :heehee: Raychel Lee. :) :) :)
Middle name given by a good friend, I like it, :)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Di 1. I would welcome it,

2. I guess that Orchid would be a middle name,

When I joined this form I wanted a name that had no connection to
anyone in my life Past or Present, I gave it a lot of thought and thought
Blue is my favorite color & the Orchid is my favorite flower,

So on 12/21/2008, Blue Orchid Came to be, My 12th anniversary is in 2Weeks.

>>>>>>>>>>>>Orchid **O:daydreaming:O**

[Di]

Thanks everyone joining in.
I love reading your responses:)
Keep them coming!

[Jane G]

Constructive criticism has to be a good thing.

As for a middle name I have never given it a thought and probably never will.

[Brandi Christine]

Love constructive criticism, in some of my first pics I posted here I was told by some of you girls said I needed to smile more. I did and loved the results. So yes, absolutely!

My middle name is Christine, I don't post my real last name for obvious reasons. If (truly doubtful) I ever went down that road I'd keep my actual last name as I would be the same person, just different...

[SaraLin]

Criticism can sting - but it it's given with the intent to help, I'd welcome it. If it's just to point out my flaws, thanks but I'm all too aware that I'm not perfect.
Unfortunately, all I've gotten from the Mrs. is things like "You'd make a really ugly woman" I want to say in my most sarcastic voice "Gee, honey? you Think so? I love you too!"

Lin is, of course, my middle. If I ever went full time, I might change the spelling, since it carries an (unearned) Asian flavor spelled this way.

[alwayshave]

1) Would you welcome constructive Criticism? Absolutely. I have taken criticism from my wife and a makeup artist.


2) Do you have a middle name for your girl side? No. Though my male middle name has a feminine version. I never considered it prior to your question.

[Andrea Renea]

1. Yes, I'm open to criticism. I'm a work in process so every bit helps.

2. First and middle name only for me.

[Frannie7]

1. I always appreciate constructive criticism. It's welcome anytime, please. I do have a friend who will always tell me the truth but I sense she is not that into looking at my pics all the time.

2. No middle name here, in fact I would like to change my first name. It was chosen at a store when I was asked for my femme name. I said What? and had to come up with something fast.

[Vale]

A good question for discussion. In my own experience constructive criticism works best given 2 conditions: 1. It is explicitly requested, and 2. It is made with careful attention to the goals of the person being criticized not the goals of the critic. Without these prerequisites I find it often fails.

Vale

[Asew]

1) Overall I like constructive criticism but sometimes I don't take it well when it is hard to tell if they are sincere or not since I was made fun of a lot as a kid so I am on edge that it just could be a joke or someone being mean.
2) No, but when thinking about changing my feminine name the new one was based on a feminine version of my birth middle name (since the new first name was a play on my birth first name).

[Just Dana]

Hi Di,

1) Yes, please and thanks! I'm at the point where I've decided I really want to go out into the world. Part of my reason for joining the site was to try to improve my look, with the goal of blending as much as possible. So, anything that helps there is very much appreciated. And if I ever say anything completely stupid or offensive, I'd really appreciate someone pointing it out - preferable kindly, as it would certainly be unintentional!

2) I haven't thought of a middle name. I guess I'll need to come up with a last name first, then see what works. Hmm...

Dana

[DianeT]

1) Sure! :hypocritesmile: No, seriously, fire at will, I know it will be done with the best intentions.

2) My female alter ego doesn't have one, but if I had to choose one? Probably Diane Ann-Deirdre Thompson ;)

[CharlotteCD]

1) I always welcome Constructive Criticism. It's the only way I'll improve my presentation after all. I've got a reasonable eye but will always miss things.
2) Charlotte Rose, and I have a different surname that's on the same theme as my real surname.

[Brianne_bc]

1: certainly
2: never entered my mind.

[Amelie]

I don't take any criticism very well. For example, if one was to tell me my eye make up is too dark, I make it darker when I see them again. So, nope, I don't take criticism very well, I am very anti when people tell me I should be different, look different or whatever they tell me. I am happy just the way I am.

[CharlotteCD]

I don't take any criticism very well. For example, if one was to tell me my eye make up is too dark, I make it darker when I see them again. So, nope, I don't take criticism very well, I am very anti when people tell me I should be different, look different or whatever they tell me. I am happy just the way I am.

If you're happy the way you are, you wouldn't change to a darker shade, you would just keep it the same?

By going darker you're going against how you wanted it in the first place right?

[Amelie]

If you're happy the way you are, you wouldn't change to a darker shade, you would just keep it the same?

By going darker you're going against how you wanted it in the first place right?

I just did that to upset the other person. I did say when I met that person again.

Than again it was my choice to go darker not someone else's.