Regretting HRT?

[GwenHerself]

Do you regret going through HRT? HRT has crept into my mind lately, but I'm just curious if anyone regrets their decision?

[Robin-in-TX]

Gwen,

No, I don't regret it. I'm sorry I couldn't stay on it, but the changes are amazing and I wish I could have seen it through. If you want to know more and a description of how it affected me and others, look at the post "detransition".

Robin

[AllieSF]

No, not at all. I love what it is doing for me as it slowly changes my body. If you have doubts I strongly recommend talking with a gender specialist therapist, and keep asking questions here. As most of us say, HRT is serious because of the permanent and interactions it has with your body. Go forward only when you feel you are ready. It is not the only part of being yourself. You can test the waters by living more full time in your spare time before coming out to others. I know that is tough at this time. But getting out and interacting with others on a regular basis may help you decide. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Allie

[HelpMe,Rhonda]

Maybe regret waiting so long to start

[mbmeen12]

No regret but I also have a responsibility to my SO to satisfy her in all aspects of a relationship (physical, spiritually etc).

[Tonya Renee]

I am with Rhonda on this one! I regret not starting sooner! I am 3 yrs and 9 months on hrt and can?t imagine my life without it. My mental state of well being has been amazing and my wife noticed immediately and would never want me to go back to the old me again!

[Lana Mae]

I took some advise here that I was moving too fast and I delayed the decision to start HRT! That caused me to stop thinking about it for a month and then I revisited it! I am 2+ years on HRT now and would never go back for anything! I love what it has done physically, mentally, and emotionally! It did not grow huge breasts! Put that thought out of your mind! But the thing is, they are mine! Mentally just clearer! Emotionally just...nicer to others! It is definately a serious decision and is dependent on your circumstances! I would encourage you to give it some thought then like I did do not think about it for a month then revisit! Just my bit of advise and my experience! Best wishes on your decision and your journey! Hugs Lana Mae

[Leasa Wells]

I love being on hrt my body feels more aligned with my mind. It’s been two years and I will never look back.

[natasha]

My only regret is not starting sooner.

[Aunt Kelly]

Maybe regret waiting so long to start
Beat me to it... :)

[Katya@]

Before learning I was a transgender, I did cross-dress at home, but I hardly could relate to experiences of many on the CD forum. I never dressed "to the nines". I don't even use a makeup. When I had no more doubt I am a transgender, I knew that I needed to alleviate the body dysphoria I had and I wanted it to be feminine, all the time going forward (no bottom dysphoria though). It was then I started HRT. Just crossed my 3 year mark last month and the changes exceeded my expectations. Under no circumstances, I would consider to reverse these changes. Never had a single regret. I did have fears going in. Was even afraid of growing breast too big. ALL my fears went a way on day 1 of HRT. The decision to start was by far the hardest.

[Sarah Doepner]

No regrets at all. I will admit to having second thoughts but I attribute that to so many years of denial. I trained myself to believe there was no reason for Hormones, that I'd never transition, that I was being selfish and all sorts of other things that turned out to be nonsense or mental self-abuse. That fear allowed me to isolate from others and make everything much more difficult as I pushed it through that filter. I'm finally learning to love who I am but needed to break down the barriers I'd built over the years. Asking for hormones about 2 1/2 years ago was the first step in that process of learning to love and nurture myself at long last.

Your Mileage May Vary, my life isn't yours. Best wishes.

[pamela7]

No regrets. Definitely affirm to have beard electrolysis first as the thinner skin finds it more painful once on HRT. HRT is really the only way to know if the toxicity of testosterone is real or not - as once it's gone it is liberating, but if a person still feels the same after, perhaps it was not the T that was the problem.

xx

[JohnH]

I have been on estradiol valerate for over 8 years and for me it's a blessing. I am calmer and no longer have suicidal thoughts. I also no longer drink alcohol to excess. I function as a man in society in spite of my feminine appearance, including a bra cup size of DD. Nobody as ever made me feel uncomfortable about my bust. My singing and speaking voice is a bit deeper than that of a typical man.
The strange thing is I function a lot better in society as a man than before being on HRT as I am much more at peace with myself.

[prene]

Still trying to figure it out

Only was on hrt for 6 weeks

[HelpMe,Rhonda]

Here's a study from a few years ago (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6212091/) where surgeons were asked how many of their surgical patients expressed regret about their decision. Approximately 22,700 patients...62 expressed regret. The odds are ever in our favor.

[MarieTS]

Well Gwen, there are only a couple or so I knew that HRT did not work for. Both were able to stop early enough to preclude any irreversible effects. As for me personally, nope. Never regretted it. I compare it to receiving a life saving transfusion.

[Nadine Spirit]

Never, not once, ever. Which is not to say that some might. And that is okay also. I think sometimes we (as humans) want assurances to things before we try them. I know I wanted to know that HRT was the right thing for me, prior to starting it. And it took a huge leap of faith for me to try it. Once I did though, I knew I would never go back.

[Vickie_CDTV]

I know a trans girl who started HRT and after a 6 months regretted it and stopped. She wasn't happy with the impotence it was causing, and she really enjoys the company of women. I warned her about that. Like everything in life, nothing is right for everyone. Most are happy with HRT, but there are always exceptions.


Before learning I was a transgender, I did cross-dress at home, but I hardly could relate to experiences of many on the CD forum. I never dressed "to the nines". I don't even use a makeup.

Good thing you don't know any crossdressers like that in real life :heehee:

[Katya@]

Good thing you don't know any crossdressers like that in real life :heehee:
Now I do know one very well but didn't know any before the transition :heehee:

[Aunt Kelly]

I know a trans girl who started HRT and after a 6 months regretted it and stopped. She wasn't happy with the impotence it was causing...

So let me get this straight. "A trans girl" who's unhappy that HRT causes impotence.... I can't wrap my head around that. I mean, I know that for some, GRS isn't a priority, but that's a far cry from wanting to retain a fully functioning male sex organ. Really?

[IamWren]

Wanting to retain a fully functioning penis isn’t really a far cry at all.

I’ve run across many a transwoman and transfemme enby in different corners of the internet other than here who want to retain the function of their penis and each has their own reason. Not every transgirl or transfemme enby is dysphoric about their nether region, just like not every transgirl is dysphoric about their voice, brow ridge, adam’s apple or beard.

Gender identity is not defined by anatomy. It simply isn’t.
Neither is gender expression, gender performance, gender role or sexual orientation. It simply isn’t.

That is old school thinking that should be tossed to the curb.

[AllieSF]

Really!, and you are going to judge how they feel what they are? Why?

[Teresa]

Vickie,
I can't see anything wrong with your story at least your friend has been honest with herself and everyone else , of course she's still entitled to change her mind , the important point is it's HER DECISION , if she gets it wrong she has to pick up the pieces . It's isn't a game we're playing we are talking about life changing events .

[Kaitlyn Michele]

"Regret" is such a loaded word..
The media loves it. They club us with "Transition regret"..
I regret eating that whole pizza last night. I'm gonna start a youtube channel.

HRT is supposed to be part of a process. It's totally medically normal to start and stop it.
You do it with a doctor and therapist and evaluate progress.
Many many many medical treatments are stopped and started...tried out and adjusted... many fail and a new one is tried.
Family and financial issues are totally legitimate reasons to stop HRT ... although for many transpeople this create problems its not my place to judge or put a negative spin on it..

What I would want for all of us is to not feel like its a failure to stop HRT. THat's why I think of regret as a loaded word...I'm not aiming this at OP... its really my opinion about how this can be best discussed by us..

My views have changed alot over the years and I want to help anyone that is dealing with gender dysphoria to think medically, and take all outside noise out of it..

One day I'll muster up the energy to write about my own experience in some detail...how i felt then... what i did about it ...and how it worked out for me..
and i bet it would surprise some folks... ..hehe i just put the pressure on myself..

[Aunt Kelly]

Wanting to retain a fully functioning penis isn’t really a far cry at all.

I’ve run across many a transwoman and transfemme enby in different corners of the internet other than here who want to retain the function of their penis and each has their own reason. Not every transgirl or transfemme enby is dysphoric about their nether region, just like not every transgirl is dysphoric about their voice, brow ridge, adam’s apple or beard.

Gender identity is not defined by anatomy. It simply isn’t.
Neither is gender expression, gender performance, gender role or sexual orientation. It simply isn’t.

That is old school thinking that should be tossed to the curb.

Yes, and no. I would agree that the term "transsexual" is a bit outmoded. When it was still "mainstream" parlance, it was taken to describe one who suffered from gender dysphoria and for whom all treatment for resolution was on the table. One who still wants a functioning male sex organ does not fit that category and, again, I can't understand why one would apply that term to one's self if that were the case. You should know better than to think I would believe that gender identity is defined by anatomy. It is defined by how we see ourselves.

Today, we know that there are indeed degrees of dysphoria and various other forms of expression. For that reason, applying the term transsexual to anything but someone who fully identifies as the opposite of the at-birth assignment makes no sense.

[ellbee]

"Regret" is such a loaded word..


Agreed.

Perhaps having a "change of heart" would be a better way to describe it? :strugglin


From what I know, oftentimes this happens to those "on the fence" of the great gender divide.

IOW, maybe for those who the term "non-binary" best fits the bill, as opposed to trans/TS.


They also seem to be younger... In their 20's or 30's.

And that they rushed into things, from their timeline horizon.


Finally, other things may be a factor, from a psychological perspective. Meaning, what they *thought* was gender dysphoria, was something else entirely going on beneath it all, in reality.


I dunno, I'm just going by what I heard/read, and from my memory. Been a while since I dove into that space.



As for true *regret*?

There may be a few examples of that out there, unfortunately.

From what I've heard/read, they tend to be older now, having lived their other life for quite a while. And as they look back now, having detransitioned since, they feel like they had originally made the wrong decision (to transition) all those years/decades ago.

Of course, it may now be wishful thinking, on their part, that the grass would have been greener on the other side, of what "could have" been, had they never been through all that.


For those, I kinda feel bad for them, as they seem genuine about their regret. They do have this overall sadness about them. But they also appear to be sincerely happy now with their "new" old life. :)



Finally, I will say this...

Apparently it's been postulated that those in the trans community, generally speaking, do not like talking about this "regret" or "detransition thing," nor do they like hearing others talk about it... That they want to keep this aspect of it all hush-hush, to "pretend" that it doesn't really exist, that "mistakes" are never made.

Are those who say that, correct?

Anyway, it's not my opinion either way, really... Just stating how others see this. Please don't beat me up! :p


The bottom line, though, is that everyone should do what they feel is truly needed. But keep in mind that all this should not be taken lightly, but instead quite seriously.

And yes, I understand that for some, it's a no-brainer. I also understand that for others, it may be a bit of a struggle on various levels, rightfully so, given the nature of all this.

[Krisi]

So let me get this straight. "A trans girl" who's unhappy that HRT causes impotence.... I can't wrap my head around that. I mean, I know that for some, GRS isn't a priority, but that's a far cry from wanting to retain a fully functioning male sex organ. Really?

I don't think we should be judging others. I mean all of us in this group could be considered pretty "weird" by the "normal" folks. A lot of members here get no surgery but consider themselves to be "female". Others get breast implants but no vagina and consider themselves to be "female". Nobody has the right or authority to create definitions and require the rest of the world to abide by them.

If someone wants breasts and other female attributes, but retain a working penis, who are we to judge? That wouldn't be my choice, but if that's what someone else wants, so what?

[AllieSF]

Well said Krisi. We don't have to always understand why others do what they do. As long as it does not negatively affect us then we have no say in the matter.

Kelly,

Are men who declare that they are women, women? Just by crossdressing they fall under the big "T" umbrella. To me when they declare that they are women. It is no one else's business but theirs. Out of respect for each other, we should be supporting to them in any way possible. But questioning their decisions on how to live their lives, with or without HRT, bottom surgeries or putting on a dress to "prove" to someone that they are what they say they are, is going too far. You can pick out all the WPATH quotes that you want, but it will not change that person's mind. Why let it bother you and make a picky fuss over it. All these labels, medical or otherwise are in constant flux and take on meanings of their own in different situations.

Is a person who declares that they are a woman and never gets a therapist's or psychologist's determination transsexual? This is not "one needs to be or do this" to enter their group. That was a common thought in this TS section years ago, and I have met several from that old group. There was one that even said that you were not a woman if you could but didn't want bottom surgery. You could not join that elite group! Fortunately, that attitude is long gone. May it rest in peace. We are all equal on our lovely and interesting spectrum. We come in all shapes, sizes, mental attitudes, different walks of life and different ways to deal with being trans. The books will be rewritten based on how this new and younger trans voices grows and easily comes out. Definitions will be modified and corrected over time to reflect real life and better thinking. Let's not hinder that new growth because we are relying on past history and thinking.

Yes, a transsexual woman can still be a woman and transsexual even if she decides to keep and use what that supreme woman up there decided to give her.

[MarieTS]

Sorry to offend, but the conversation regarding definition is becoming way too woke. This is NOT about feel-good inclusivity. It is about defining transexuality. The dictionary is pretty clear on this. That is why we have a dictionary of precise medical terms. You cannot modify those, nor change the essential elements of a condition yet insist upon referring to it as the same condition. There are simply certain attributes that are necessary to fit into the transsexual categorization.
Note, I am not saying people not possessing, nor desiring to possess or incur those physical and lifestyle modifications are any less worthy. I am merely stating they do not by definition fit essential transsexual parameters. They are somewhere in between. Nothing wrong with that. However, we should not refer to a Chrysler as a Chevy. They are both cars. Leave it as that. But do not consider them as identical. Like it or not, they vary. But yes, the road can always be open to both.

[Krisi]

Find an old dictionary and look up the word "gay". Now find a modern dictionary and look up the word "gay".

Language changes through the years. Definitions change.

[AllieSF]

Just my point, Krisi, especially where the word "transsexual" is getting less usage. My therapist's diagnosis was not that I am a transsexual. Those letters got me my surgeries and will eventually get me my last one. Transsexual is a word that is losing its importance.

Here is a quick Google search result, bolding of words is mine. Check out the use of words that basically say that gender correction surgery is not an absolute requirement to be considered a transsexual. I do not read medical studies or dictionaries, so I do not know what they say. However, those documents are meant for professionals in the field who discuss things between similar minds. I bet we could find a lot of interesting technical and medical definitions that no way fit into real life regular conversations. My comments here in this thread is directed at all of us here. We are what we are. I do not need my penis and testicles cut off to be a transsexual in our world. Out there in the real world I identify myself as transgender, even though I know that I am transsexual, because that is the word that the general public understand better.

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[Stevie Allyn]

My two cents -

Argument by dictionary is often doomed to failure. As Krisi said earlier - language changes, definitions change. All a dictionary definition shows is that was the meaning of a word at the time the dictionary was published.

[Aunt Kelly]

Find an old dictionary and look up the word "gay". Now find a modern dictionary and look up the word "gay".

Language changes through the years. Definitions change.

So... let's pin it down. When, and where, did transsexual come to encompass non-binary?

[AllieSF]

Exactly Stevie. Now back to our regular programming!

Regret is something that we live with throughout our lives. We are adults. We try to make good decisions. When we don't, as adults, we get to live with our decisions and decide what to do next. With hormones, knowing that they are powerful, we make a decision. Then if we regret it for whatever reason, reasonable to third parties or not, we get to live with any physical changes, visible or not. Boobs, boobettes, moobs, can be hidden, or can be surgically removed. Impotency, if one reaches that stage on hormones, may or may not be reversed. Fat redistribution, which can take years, may be permanent, but maybe easier to live with as a male.

Since we are humans, we are not perfect and we make mistakes. That does make one bad or lesser than anyone else as a person.

- - - Updated - - -

When did a transsexual with a penis become non-binary? I thought we were talking about someone who considers their self as transsexual and still want to keep their penis. My friend Bad Tranny from this site a long time ago did just that for her own reason. She was on hormones and also had all the other surgeries, BA, FS and some body treatments. Tell her that she is is not a trans woman, a transsexual, though she may or may not like that word.

[Nikki.]

No one mentioned the word “transsexual” until post 26. This big penis controversy (no pun intended) began with “trans girl” who wanted to retain a functioning penis.

At the speed things are changing in the world of transiness, arguing over the purity of the classic “transsexual” will be in small quiet corners of the internets. People under 40 have moved on, and don’t care about stuff like being a classic transsexual, or HBS, or the rest of it. Peruse reddit when you have a few minutes.

[AllieSF]

I am with you Nikki. Young people are moving on, beyond old beliefs, to "so what?" "I am me and deal with it".

[Robertacd]

Well said Nikki... IMHO we do ourselves a disservice trying to fit everyone into the same little boxes.

[Dutchess]

@Allie , I liked Bad Tranny very much , haven't seen nor heard from her in ages . She didn't live in fantasy land.

While I am here Id have to agree with Nikki , my 19 year old has had friends in all possible stages of expression and they really do not care what mix of outer parts they have or don't anymore, they are how they identify . Totally different from people my age ( 58 ) or even somewhat from my kids in their late 30s .

[AllieSF]

Hi Dutchess,

I haven't seen or heard from her in years. She was something and she is a good human. Since we are not the experts and we are on a site with a few simple clear definitions, we need to be a little flexible. A lot of terms and definitions have changed some since 2007 when I joined. I have been defending here this less strict definition of TS because I remember those days in the past when some of those hard line TS's tended to look down on anyone who didn't do all they had to do to be what they thought a TS woman should be. If you didn't suffer as they did, .... etc. I really hated that part of it all. They did really struggle to be where they were, but that did not mean we all had have to do the same thing. I do not want to see a return to those old attitudes, better than thou hierarchy, "You must do this to be that" thinking and more importantly writing. All are accepted here and all are equals.

The NB's used to get hit hard there when they asked simple questions in the TS section. In a way that was one of the reasons that the NB section was created. In hindsight I can see that it was needed anyway, because that was a new idea for a lot of us! We used to use a Xerox machine to send faxes, thus the "Xerox it", a new verb. A Hoover is usually a vacuum cleaner, and the Brits "Hoove"r their floors. Why can't there be a little flexibility in transsexual too. As we say here, it is what is inside our minds that count, not what we do about it! I.e. You do not have to physically transition to be a woman or a man.

[LeaP]

No regret. I do dislike having to live dependent on meds, but what are going to do? If you need it, you need it.

I used to say that I'd rather kill myself rather than stop HRT. But then, I was so suicidal before starting that the comment begs the point anyway ...

Do what you have to do.

[Jeninus]

I had bottom surgery in June 2019 at NYU-Langone and am happier than I have ever been in my life. It has fully and finally resolved the gender dysphoria that has troubled me since I was about 5 years old. My understanding is that the surgery is more than 98% successful from the standpoint of the number of people who regret this surgery. Every other step is reversible. You could stop HRT at any time and have breast implants removed if that is necessary for your well-being. But GRS is absolutely final. There are a very few people who do regret the surgery and the path there is fairly torturous with gatekeepers at every step. It is likely that those poor folk - those who regret it - have reached that unhappy result either because they really cannot "pass" and are being continuously misgendered and stared at and therefore do not see the benefit of the surgery; or they have had painful complications with it.

Most of the people I know who are on HRT have told me that it is a positive in their lives and it was for me. They generally find an inner peace, even should they continue to live in their gender assigned at birth. Those who continue transition through to bottom surgery I think are for the most part binary, whatever their sexual orientation might be. In my case I continue to be very happily married and my wife and I consider ourselves to be lesbians. I have never had any other interest.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

"Bad Tranny" is out and about on the west coast.. She is lead singer and a band we touch base from time to time
She's "living the dream"...hehe

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Elbee said

Apparently it's been postulated that those in the trans community, generally speaking, do not like talking about this "regret" or "detransition thing," nor do they like hearing others talk about it... That they want to keep this aspect of it all hush-hush, to "pretend" that it doesn't really exist, that "mistakes" are never made.

Are those who say that, correct?

Read that carefully ... the underlined is a narrative..the detransition narrative is a calculated thing..
"Trans regret" is a powerful tool to influence how we are viewed..
as if "trans regret" is the worst thing that can ever happen to a person,
as if trying to transition and failing at it is the most devastating horrible waste of human life imaginable...
They cry "oh woe is me". 'I was tricked"..."they didn't tell me what I was getting into".."they made it too easy"
They act as if there is a cabal of trans mind control people casting a spell on them
MOST IMPORTANTLY THEY ARE BLAMING US..WE ARE THE BAD GUY..

That is what they mean by "trans regret".
They are painting us with a huge broad brush that puts us in an unflattering and totally false light..

The implication is that we are hiding something. That we have a dirty secret that we don't talk about!!

Imagine this..
Marriage Regret
Married people don't want to talk about the dirty secret of marriage regret!!! Therefore don't ever get married..
IF there is ever any chance of making a mistake...don't ever act... you might ...oh no!!!!!!.... OMG>>>> REGRET IT!!!!!

I guess there is no way around it in some ways. It is just a word and it means what it means. Can't argue about that.
I'm sure folks regret a three year life changing journey that ends up feeling like failure to them..

but honestly, its not a failure if they get to right answer for them, and they shouldn't be approached as pariah's or less than...
There is a detailed and specific set of protocols that is meant to ensure folks have all the info they need to make informed decisions.
and like every big decision, sometimes you regret it.


Now lets all join hands, sing kumbaya and march off together into a world with no regrets for anyone, and where labels are not important and gender is understood for what it really is.

[Bandile]

No, I haven't regretted it. I was actually planning on drinking myself into oblivion before HRT, due to the dysphoria worsening. However, my former doctor recommended a health department that covers transgender treatment with my insurance, which changed my life. I owe her much.

This is my 2nd year on HRT and won't stop as long as I'm living.

[SuzyZahn]

I wish I could come back in here 30 years younger,,,then it would be no problem. I would have welcomed it! But such is life,,, no complaints,,,but lots of wonderments.

[Star01]

Before learning I was a transgender, I did cross-dress at home, but I hardly could relate to experiences of many on the CD forum.

It's interesting that you would put it this way. I don't normally comment on posts in this section and hopefully it's not a problem with me commenting here but I feel that same way. My angst isn't about how I look dressed or going out roaming the streets dressed but it's a body thing and not being right when I look in the mirror. I'm in therapy trying to sort the whole thing out and I have seen several comments like yours that have caught my attention and just wanted to say thanks for putting it this way. I will go back to lurking now.

[ellbee]

the detransition narrative is a calculated thing..


Kaitlyn,

I see it. I know it's out there. It's exploited -- or part of it is, at the very least.


Here's another thing for one to ponder (again, please don't shoot the messenger! :p )...

Likewise?

"The *transition* narrative is a calculated thing."


It may not be fair to all. But it's out there, as well, according to some.

I'm familiar with that, also.

[Katya@]

It's interesting that you would put it this way. I don't normally comment on posts in this section and hopefully it's not a problem with me commenting here but I feel that same way. My angst isn't about how I look dressed or going out roaming the streets dressed but it's a body thing and not being right when I look in the mirror. I'm in therapy trying to sort the whole thing out and I have seen several comments like yours that have caught my attention and just wanted to say thanks for putting it this way. I will go back to lurking now.
Hi,
You're welcome. I strongly encourage you to participate more in discussions on this and other sections of the forum for 2 reasons:.
1. When you take time to put your thoughts in writing, and get some feedback - it's like a therapy session in and of itself.
2. You never know when your story/comment would resonate with another person. We all different, and wider participation helps with that.

[Devi SM]

Without reading all the comments, so sorry if I repeated other's comments.

I'm so far 2 years and 8 months hrt. At week eight I got scared for the noticeable changes and the evident future so quit for a week, interrupted the hrt but just one week after I retake it again because my life came back to the previous contact nightmare....

I can't be more happy now, but as gender dysphoria never leave you, sometimes, watching old pics i would like not to be a trans and just had live the life of a man but then I know that the happiness I experience now is real.

Soon life as a woman get to be the "normal" and many things that excite me in the lass are now the daily life but to face life as a woman, a business woman is yhe challenge in turn for me...

Achievements on 2020: pierce ears, orchiectomy, name legally change, electrolysis near to end, and the most important, relationship with wife is amazing.....

But everything is personal, my success is not a warranty of your success. We all are different but regrets can just be in just in our mind. We are what we think, what we speak, what we love....

Devi

[Ericka_d]

Honestly none so far. Maybe I would be different if I did it 10-15 years ago. As I really wasn't sure I was 100% trans. Now at 35 ive had time to explore my life. While there are male things I like. I can still do them as a female though. I have a great support system, and in the fall. I will be changing my whole life. To live as a woman 100% Now if I do chose in two years. I don't like it. I can easily go back, but I don't know why I would want to. My male life up to this point. Has been a major let down. Im not sure if my female life will be, but I wont know till I try.

[Charla]

Never never never regret it! I have been on HRT for 3 years now. The physical changes have not been dramatic, but the dysphoria is now at a manageable level. My therapist calls it being at a plateau. I can no longer go without a shirt due to breast development, but I am glad that happened. As many have said, my only regret is not starting sooner!

[Krisi]

My male life up to this point. Has been a major let down.

Well, I hope it works out for you, but I think there is a real danger in thinking that everything will turn around just because you have breasts and a vagina.

Life is what you make it and if there aren't other major changes, I don't see your life improving by a lot. Living as a female when you were born a male has a lot of of problems and these will add to any problems you already have.

Best of luck though. :battingeyelashes:

[Ericka_d]

My issue was family, and me sacrificing my own happiness for them. They all had my life planned out, and if it wasn't going their way. The would complain to me about it. They all hoped I would be married, have kids, and be management at my job etc by now. Well none of that is what I ever wanted.

I blew up last spring about this finally to family. Because they were still pressing me to start a family at 34, and kissing butt at my job, so I could move up. Problem is I don't kiss butt, and no way at 34. Was I willing to be a father.

Since then. I have been working on my own personal goals, and hormones was on that list. I'm aware that my life might not be better, but with out being pulled million different directions. All of which I didn't want. It cant get munch worst.