Motivation?

[KatieTv]

What is your motivation?
Are you motivated?

Nowadays I often feel the urge but then feel its too much trouble, then the urge builds until I fix a day and build towards that. That period is so exciting knowing I'm going to get release.

My motivation is to be the total opposite to my usual self! What's my usual self you might ask? Well, I'm a construction worker who is also a successful cage fighter. If only they knew!

[Geena75]

I find that one piece of motivation is to (pardon the expression) 'get a buzz' from it. In my youth just putting on a pair of pantyhose was enough, mainly feeling what it was like to wear them. Later on adding the dress/skirt did it. Further on required heels and a bra with filler. About that time, instead of feeling it from the inside, started noticing the look in the mirror or camera. Now, it takes all the prior, plus wig and make up, and a discreet drive. My motivation goes up with something new added. I just added some patterned tights to the wardrobe and am excited to trying some outfits with them. I was originally planning on Monday for that, but home schedules changed, and I have to put it off until Wednesday, increasing the anticipation. Eventually I wonder if it will become 'just the usual' and my motivation will slacken.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Katie :hugs:, Just opening the closet door and seeing all of the lovely close hanging in there,

>>>>>>Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Janine cd]

I agree with you, Orchid. Just seeing the clothes all hanging neatly in a closet or opening my lingerie drawer sends a wonderful glow through me.

[Helen_Highwater]

Katie,

My motivation is to be me. To express through what I wear the person I am. I'm just so comfortable in a dress or skirt, relaxed and calmer. Dressing triggers a change in how I feel within. Difficult to explain to anyone outside our community and within, others will have their own responses.

[Bobbi46]

I'm with Helen on this, I don't need motivation, I am me i am my own self and dressing has become such a normal part of my life that it is no not so much a case of " I must " its now come down to choosing what to wear each day and being comfortable at the same time

[Jade P]

My motivation is that being feminine is a part of me. After 40 years of dealing with denial and acceptance, I accept and love the way I am. I remove my body hair and wear womens tights and pantyhose. I am only out to my wife with my gender fluidity, but feel it is only a matter of time before others notice.

[Brandi Christine]

My motivation is that it makes me feel so good, it makes me feel like myself, it makes me feel that I am who I am supposed to be, and yes I am motivated all the time, but I am held back by the binds that tie me to the woman I love...

[Angela Marie]

My motivation is my realization that dressing is an expression of who I really am.

[KatieTv]

Interesting thoughts. Thankyou.

I think buying something new does help as it brings new looks.

[Stephanie47]

Many years ago not being able to get dressed was a total distraction. I found it was overpowering to the point of distraction. I have called it "grabbing at some crumbs of time." I read it all the time on the forum. A wife is gone for a hour and the husband must get dressed and undressed and do whatever in that hour. I suspect the angst was created because of the lack of time to satisfy the urge. When my wife started working as a teacher I could get seven plus hours to leisurely be Stephanie; doing domestic chores. Now, my wife is retired. Covid is a fact of life. Stephanie, except for the nighttime, is stored away. Maybe the aging process has brought Stephanie's urges under control due to dna/hormonal changes. In my armoire there is a stack of lovely full slip over several nightgowns which is a reminder of things past and a hopeful future. For the time being it is only a nightgown and panty.

[docrobbysherry]

My CD motivation is not like most, I guess, Katie. I'm continually trying to push the envelope. And, try new, different, and hard to create looks!:daydreaming:

Doing the same thing over and over is what I do in male mode. So boring!:straightface:

Sherry is all about excitement and sexuality. She has no interest in doing ANYTHING Robert does!:thumbsdn:

[c2candice]

The motivation comes and goes. Often times ignited by actually having the opportunity due to a substantial chunk of time. It takes time to look good. Just a few items of clothing does nothing for me. I need at least 4 hours to prepare, dress, enjoy, undress and clean up. All while not getting interrupted.

It?s always there. Just in my mind from time to time at the very least. Sometimes it takes over all idle time.

I get fixated on trying to understand things. I do research for work. I researched family history in detail. I dive into the details of physiology and recovery when injured from running. I can?t rest until I understand a topic in great detail. This cross dressing thing still alludes me. Even though I?m the one doing it. I know I need to stop understanding and just enjoy the process.

Haha I totally understand about other people. I work in the mining industry with 90% men. Most of whom are older, of European descent and right-leaning politically. I regularly hear bigoted words towards people of the LGBTQ+ community. I shut that crap down, when I hear it. But it?s ubiquitous. I can?t imagine what they would say and the discrimination I would face in my work life if they knew. Some would be supportive, but only a handful. I wonder though, how many are like me. :thinking:

[MonicaPVD]

I am motivated by a lot of different things, depending on the moment. Sometimes it's pure escapism, other times it's the desire to simply look and feel feminine, other times it's the desire to seek and receive validation from men who find me attractive, and even to occasionally exert power over such men. Once in a while it's all of the above. It's complicated, but I enjoy my life.

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Haha I totally understand about other people. I work in the mining industry with 90% men. Most of whom are older, of European descent and right-leaning politically. I regularly hear bigoted words towards people of the LGBTQ+ community. I shut that crap down, when I hear it. But it?s ubiquitous. I can?t imagine what they would say and the discrimination I would face in my work life if they knew. Some would be supportive, but only a handful. I wonder though, how many are like me. :thinking:

In my international travels, I have often found that some of the most bigoted men, when removed from their peers, suddenly become quite interested in pursuing queers like us. Never ceases to amaze me.

[Cheryl T]

My only motivation is waking in the morning.

[Karren H]

Thanks to obsession, motivation has left the building decades ago! Now it's just what to obsess over, on a daily basis..

[Teresa]

Katie,
My motivation used to be getting ready and dressed to walk my dog , even without the dog I'm still motivated to join other dog walkers .

The simple answer is I think about the alternative of staying in male mode , there's no contest . When I consider it like that it would be nice to be female and not to go through the transition every morning .

[Star01]

I am always motivated by the thought but plead guilty to not taking every available opportunity to dress. I don?t dress fully unless my wife is gone overnight or I am by myself in a motel. Last summer my wife went for the night and I looked forward to dressing as soon as the yard project allowed. By the end of the day I had worked so hard and could hardly move. I made something to eat, got cleaned up, sat in the recliner in front of the TV and never got dressed. That scenario has played out several times. I need to have enough energy left at the end of the day. Perhaps I should time it do that I dress on rainy days when projects cannot be done. I love those times I have spent the afternoon shopping and preparing but those days are rare.

[c2candice]

No kidding! Sometimes the motivation is there, but the energy is not! Often times, it’s only in the evening when I get the chance to do anything. I dream of the day when I wake up and become feminine in the morning and spend the day playing as my softer gender

[Jane G]

I just feel better when I'm dressed than when I'm drab. It's simply part of me. To comment on specific things. Putting my face on requires a little motivation. Sometimes, like today, it's just a bit of lip stick. I need to be in fun mode to bother with full make up. Today is just a very ordinary day. Raining out, dishes done, sat here watching Mamma mia 2. So I'm dressed about the house. Normal, no motivation required at all for that.

[Debs]

like 3 days to myself to dress, feel great being dressed for a whole 3 days, especially getiing up in a morning and getting ready to go out shopping. If I only have 1 day, do not feel like all the effort of makeup is worth it, only to wash it off a few hours after you put it on. I feel makeup is easier in a morning if I wore it the day before, dont know why ?

[samuktv]

Without sounding to crude: I always felt that something was missing when I was straight porn. After some time and introspection to analyse my thoughts I figured that missing thing was that I didn?t want to be the guy, I wanted to be the woman that was being ravished. That?s my motivation. X

[CarlaWestin]

Interesting question. I've been doing this for over fifty years and there's still a very strong motivation. As I've had more time to do it, the urgency has declined considerably.
Now my motivation is to figure out how to break out of the usual 4-9am time envelope and just be Carla whenever I want, for as long as I want. And that's just more of a desire than a motivation.

[Devi SM]

I thought my motivation was sex. I was member of some crossing websites and finally came here for the same, crossing other cds but then I find out that this place wasn't to crossing but for crossdressers.
5 years later my motivation is who I am, a woman, to look for sex, for other crossdressers, even to dress was just the result of the search of the unknown, I'm a transgender so what's my motivation now?

To success as a woman in business, in life...

Devi

[Confucius]

Everyone wants to be happy, find some sense of personal fulfillment that adds meaning to life.
When you deny yourself this, you are just incomplete.

When I crossdress, or just think about crossdressing, I feel sensations of well-being, happiness, pleasure, and self-identity. It's as if my brain is releasing a host of feel-good neurotransmitters (dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, oxytocin, etc.).

So why do I crossdress? Because it makes my happy, and because I feel incomplete until I do.

[Devi SM]

Confucius, if that the case that you're happy just when dressed, what's next?

[MonicaPVD]

I thought my motivation was sex. I was member of some crossing websites and finally came here for the same, crossing other cds but then I find out that this place wasn't to crossing but for crossdressers.
5 years later my motivation is who I am, a woman, to look for sex, for other crossdressers, even to dress was just the result of the search of the unknown, I'm a transgender so what's my motivation now?

To success as a woman in business, in life...

Devi

This is deceivingly profound. Sex seems like a primary human motivator when, in actuality, it's usually just a placeholder or substitute for much more fundamental needs or desires. Or for a big fat empty hole inside of us. I was in the same situation for a long time.

[Georgina]

I don't require any motivation. At work, trousers, at home, dress. This makes me happy and the feeling rarely wanes.

[Sunny_with_a_chance]

It's tough to say. I've thought about this question so much.

I grew up in a really heteronormative culture, attending an all boys school with a huge focus on athletics and masculinity. I remember wanting to participate in the school play so badly, but not pursuing it because the kids who did were relentlessly bullied.

My father passed when I was very young, and I feel like I was trying to fill the role of what I believed a man should be within my own family and life in his absence. But it really didn't fit me.

Dressing is a way of becoming someone else, and expressing the feminine parts of myself that I've always felt but couldn't act on when I was younger.

Or so I think! Who really knows... I just like to express myself as a woman sometimes is what it really comes down to.

[Teresa]

Devi,
I don't understand why you ask , " What's next ?" Confucius says she's happy , isn't that enough ?

I assume it's part of your normal life like it is for me , so to answer , " What's next ?" I just get on with my life and do what most GGs would do in the course of their day .

[CD Rachel]

The talk of motivation kinda struck me as funny. For the past 4 weeks I have been severely depressed to the point that nothing can hold my interest, reading music, television or movies. I am having difficulties at work due to the depression and lack of interest with life. I have no motivation to do anything. But any day that I do not have to go in to work I am Rachel. When I do have to go in to work I am Rachel as soon as I get home. I do not leave the house as Rachel. But she is always there with me wherever I go. I do not have to get fancy to be Rachel. Sometimes it is nothing more then a pair of leggings or women's jeans and a T-shirt. Other times a little more. Often there is the falsies but little else. No make up or wig. On rare occasions it is full dress up. But I sleep as Rachel in a nightie and often times the falsies.

So what is this motivation? Why do I still dress as Rachel when nothing else in my life seems to hold any meaning?
I think that my motivation to dress is because I am Rachel.


Rachel

[Deborah G]

I agree with Rachel. I think for everyone it may be slightly different. For me, it is feeling a part of me that otherwise gets pushed aside during the day to day, but is never out of sight. Right now, being dressed and sitting here typing, it just makes me complete.

[Brandi Christine]

The talk of motivation kinda struck me as funny. For the past 4 weeks I have been severely depressed to the point that nothing can hold my interest, reading music, television or movies. I am having difficulties at work due to the depression and lack of interest with life. I have no motivation to do anything. But any day that I do not have to go in to work I am Rachel. When I do have to go in to work I am Rachel as soon as I get home. I do not leave the house as Rachel. But she is always there with me wherever I go. I do not have to get fancy to be Rachel. Sometimes it is nothing more then a pair of leggings or women's jeans and a T-shirt. Other times a little more. Often there is the falsies but little else. No make up or wig. On rare occasions it is full dress up. But I sleep as Rachel in a nightie and often times the falsies.

So what is this motivation? Why do I still dress as Rachel when nothing else in my life seems to hold any meaning?
I think that my motivation to dress is because I am Rachel.


Rachel

Rachel, you kind of hit it on the head for me, I can't be Brandi for the time being and I have been depressed for the last few months, to the point that I haven't done the non-CD things that make me happy, bike riding, photography & photoshop, etc... I'd call it mild depression, not too severe but it is definitely there. I am going to try and bootstrap things, starting with a ride this morning, but I have simply been down, with absolutely no motivation... If I could dress full time, if I could be me would it help? I think maybe it would but at a cost I don't think I could bear, all I know is I am longing for it right now but can't.

[sometimes_miss]

The motivation for me, is to relieve the GID, that constant feeling that I'm in the wrong life.
Dressing as a girl, and indulging in some stereotypical female behaviors, a least calms those feelings down a bit.

[Geena75]

I have found another element in motivation for me is success, or hope thereof. I had stopped for a year or two. I saw myself at a dead end, not looking anything like I would like to, and never feeling like daring to dress out 100% and looking stupid. Then those "what would you look like if you were a woman" sites popped up -- tried it and found some hope. Next thing I know, I'm getting new shoes, dressing up and using photo shop to put my feminine face on my body. Even that got sort of old when I tried using a mask to hide my maleness -- hope renewed. Now, using padding and make up I'm feeling successful, and really being Geena for a while.

[NancySue]

Over the past decades, I?ve experienced motivation, obsession, the Pink Fog, acceptance, denial, etc. And as the old philosopher once said, There?s no substitute for experience. Dressing is and has been a daily experience and very enjoyable. My supportive, helpful wife makes my dressing even better. As I?d love to go out, our small, nosy, conservative community would not accept seeing me dressed. When I/we do go out, I?m always dressed underneath. Life goes on.