If you could take it all away, would you?

[c2candice]

I came across this question recently, and it?s got me thinking.

If you could take a pill that takes away all of your desire to dress feminine, and all memory of it, would you? It would take you to the presumable state of a normal man, attracted to women. No angst around your desire to take on the feminine form ever again.

Would you? Why or why not?

[Helen_Highwater]

Candice,

Simple answer, no. Why, because I don't find that CD'ing has ever been a negative in my life. Taking the pill in a way suggests that someone would be ashamed of who they are and I'm not. In fact CD'ing has enriched my life. I've had experiences I wouldn't have had otherwise.

[CharlotteCD]

Right now, yes, I would take it. It's something that I'm sure my wife wouldn't want in our life, and it's something I don't want to tip toe around her with.

Equally though, before I met my wife, I would have happily taken the hypothetical pill that turns you into a biological woman - most days I would still be tempted!

[Teresa]

Candice,
Oh dear we're back to the " normal " label , , is there such a thing as normal ?

So we are to assume the pill also stops homosexuality because they aren't attracted to women . Phili posted a thread questioning fetish behaviour , to a point men are turned on by degrees of fetish behaviour , sex is triggered but in different ways .

The question also implies there is something wrong with gender variants , we should be ashamed or feel guilty for not conforming .

I admit at one time I said I wouldn't wish the anguish of CDing on my worse enemy . How wrong I've proved myself , it's a wonderful part of me I've discovered .

When this question was posed before I suggested an alternative pill could help people accept us , we have to accept what we feel and do isn't wrong .It's been known for sometime that what we feel isn't an illness that can and should be cured with some magic pill . Our brains are wired this way , we just have to accept it and hope the people round us can , my life has proved that can happen , why would I want to change it now ?

[Krisi]

If I wanted to stop crossdressing, I would stop. No need for a pill.

As for "attracted to women", even though I often dress as a woman, that doesn't mean my attraction is anything different. I am attracted to women. I am married and attracted to my wife.

[Bea_]

Life is complicated. There are complications for which I might take a pill, but crossdressing isn't near the top of the list. Virtually every pill I've ever taken has potential negative side effects, some deadly. The cure can be more deadly than the disease. So, no.

[Jackiefl]

No that thought never crossed my mind

[Maria_mtf]

Hi Candice, I love your threads I can relate to almost everything you say.

I would take it 100%. Reason why, life would be easier, I currently hate this side of me, wife not over the moon either, and noone else even knows it exists.

However I would also take the magic pink pill which turns me into a woman and the whole world would have always known me as a woman, and somehow even my kids are unchanged and still genetically mine.

If the normal part is mandatory though I would say no, I am not normal even without crossdressing. Normal people drink too much alcohol, eat too much, dont exercise and always short on cash, no thanks. The attraction to woman seems unrelated though, if you think that makes a person normal then uh oh.

[JennyMay]

I think my question would be, if I took the pill would I still be me? My CD is so much a part of my identity. It’s not something I do, it’s part of who I am. I have spent many years trying to be someone else - there were times when I would have taken the pill instantly. But that’s not where I am now. In the words of the song, This is me.

[Stephanie47]

Yes, I would take that pill. I have to chuckle a little about the term "normal man." What the heck does that mean? Over the decade I have been on this forum I have read comments about cross dressers having greater sensitivity and compassion for others. The implication is non-crossdressing men do not have that trait or quality. I know many men who possess those traits who are not cross dressers.

I think most cross dressing men are isolationists; staying indoors, not socializing. Many seem to have some degree of angst and turmoil in their marital relationship. Specifically for me there is non-acceptance of my cross dressing by my wife. I am not one who will take the position of shoving it in her face; take it or leave. The way society is I believe were I to be out there among the masses I would experience more non-acceptance. It does not matter if those not accepting a cross dressing man are not educated as to cross dressing, it is a fact of life. I have read this morning a thread concerning "coming out" to women vs men. Yes, in general women may engage in some chatting, but in the nitty-gritty it will come down to NIMBY. It really has nothing to do with feeling ashamed or guilty about being a gender variant. If you are past that personal hurdle you still have to deal with others. I know some are going to say, if you take that pill, you're not going to know what you're missing. What would I be missing that I do not already have?

[Jennifer0874]

Never in a million years. I have never wanted to stop. I started seeing a gender therapist this year and I am loving every minute of our sessions. My ultimate goal is to be comfortable as myself no matter what others think. My marriage has had a lot of ups and downs over the past couple years due to this. But for me therapy is figuring out who I am and being able to stand on my own if need be.

[Elizabeth G]

My simple answer is no and this pretty much sums up my reasoning too.


I think my question would be, if I took the pill would I still be me? My CD is so much a part of my identity. It?s not something I do, it?s part of who I am. I have spent many years trying to be someone else - there were times when I would have taken the pill instantly. But that?s not where I am now.

[Cheryl T]

I'm ambivalent on this.
There are days when I would, but it would have to also somehow take me back to my childhood. I would want to have it to do over completely as that male without any inclination to dress. I would want all the time that was spent thinking about dressing, finding ways to obtain clothing, actually dressing and then all the time spent afraid someone would discover it and out me and all the time berating myself for being this way. I'd want all the time I spent alone and hiding and didn't spend with my wife back to be more with her.

That being said, there are more days when I say NO. I love being me. I love being feminine and feeling as I do, expressing this part of me. I love being a woman and to flip that coin wish the pill would take me back and begin again as a little girl to grow into womanhood and experience all the things that we miss out on not being women. The progression into puberty and sexual awakening, the dating and the sleep overs. I'd want to see it all through female eyes.

[Star01]

I have a better idea. Develop a pill for the entire population that makes them accepting of crossdressers and transgender people. I volunteer my wife for the clinical trials.

[c2candice]

This is a question that has really tested and reinforced my own self acceptance.

At first glance, my answer was a definite yes! Take away the angst, the confusion, guilt, paranoia. The relationship conflict. Remove all of those troubles!?! Yes please, I’ll take a conflict-free life please.

Upon reflection, it has occurred to me that issue long as I remove the layer of shame and self acceptance, I can embrace my own identity. I can embrace the very feminine parts of my personal experience in everyday life. Much of my life, I have tried my very hardest to blend in. To look and act as normal as possible so that I don’t receive any judgement of others. If they don’t see me, they can’t judge me, is what I thought. Wear the most plain guy stuff. Do the guy things. Maybe they won’t notice. Stuff... stuff...

As I become more of true me, I now relish the fact that I can wear non conventional clothing. I can stand out and feel and look good as a guy. Experiment with fashion. Throw in colour. Speak with a more feminine inflection when the time is right. Do the traditional guy things that I like, while at the same time embrace the traditional female things I like. Blur the lines of gender roles and fashion to reflect my true identity. The yin and then yang within me, finding balance within myself.

The fact that I like to experiment with both ends of the gender expression is then not so surprising to me. I can feel good in the stubble face, rugged looking outdoorsman in plaid. Or I can feel good in a glam eyeshadow, lace top, tight skirt, hose and heels. It’s all just costume anyways. An outer reflection of our inner sense of being. If I shut out the feminine side of me, it’ll just create conflict.

So I think that, in fact, I kind of like embodying both gender traits. I think just maybe it makes me a more balanced human. Not to say anybody that embraces only their masculine or feminine selves is less balanced or wrong. They are just embracing their own identity, and for them, they are balanced enough at one end. On the other side, I also don’t think that trans people that chose to transition are imbalanced or wrong. They are identified in such a way that they find balance in their non birth gender. And that’s ok too. We’re all different. We’re all at different points along the spectrum.

That’s my take on the question anyways. Not a simple one. We are all beautiful inside. We are all exactly the way we should be. We are all enough.

[Robertacd]

I don't bother even thinking about questions like this.

Because if you lose all the memories along with the desire then how do you know your life would be better, happier, or improved in any way?

[Sunny_with_a_chance]

Really good question.

I've definitely thought about this hypothetical before, and a while ago I would've said yes. But it's become a huge part of me that I love and identify with so strongly that I could never give away.

[Stevie Allyn]

No pill for me thanks.

I'm happy as I am. Family and friends, the people who matter to me are accepting and supportive. I have no reason to want to change.

[Kimberly A.]

Hi, Candice. :) Tbh, I'm glad that you posted this..... To answer your question, I'm kinda one who answers both "yes" and "no". Why? Well the reason I'd answer "yes" is because sometimes, CD'ing is just too tedious and time-consuming. Also, I have to be EXTREMELY careful to not be seen by my neighbors or to not have my dad or any other family member discovering my feminine side. I could also get into my religious beliefs on CD'ing, but I know that is forbidden on this forum but I'd be happy to talk about that in private.

Anyway about hiding it from my neighbors, there are three houses that all share the same driveway that goes down to the county road that we live on. My house is at the very end, I have a neighbor in the middle house who is married and they have people over from time to time, then there's the house at the very end with a family and a few kids and their kids are often outside playing. So when I'm all dolled up and ready to go out the door, I have to either take off my femme clothes, put on "dude" clothes, plus a ball cap to try and hide my makeup-covered face, plus try to hide my painted nails, put my femme clothes plus my wig and shoes in plastic bags, rush to my car, then go to my "hiding spot", (which is a small dirt road about a half-mile from where I live), pull over on the dirt road and put my femme clothes, shoes and wig back on..... ALL of that just to try and hide it from my neighbors.
Also, my dad comes over to my house from time to time for whatever reason, so I have to make sure that I have all of my feminine things put away before he comes over..... All of this is the reason why yes, I WOULD take the "magic pill" in order to forget all about my CD'ing and have no desire, whatsoever to do it.

Now, the reason I would answer "no" is this..... First of all like some others here, CD'ing is NOT a fetish for me. I feel that my feminine side, (which is VERY strong) is just a part of me and I feel like it's who I'm supposed to be. No, I don't feel like a woman trapped in a man's body and I don't feel the need to be transgender. I'm not gay or bisexual, although I'm single, I'm still 100% attracted to women.
I have been heavily CD'ing for just a smidge over a year now and I have no plans to stop. I LOVE the feeling of women's clothes, I love wearing breast forms and a bra, I love the feel and look of makeup on my face and I love the feel of the wigs and long hair. I love how I look dressed as a woman and I love to act feminine when I'm out dressed in public.
I still can't exactly explain why I love to cross-dress or why I have such a strong feminine side. It's just a part of me and I feel that it's like second nature to me now. :)

[RADER]

I never thought of doing that. I like dressing in woman's clothes; But I also like girls.
I have no desire to be with a man. So I guess I will stay the way I am.

[Star01]

Now that I'm off my phone and on the computer I can make a more serious response than I did earlier this morning.

Reluctantly I would have to say yes. Crossdressing and the gender confusion that comes with it sent me into therapy. I am in a DADT, can't find a way to shop right now, storing clothes is a risk as would being seen dressed so it forces me into this double life. I do have some level of dysphoria and am trying to come to terms with that and understand it as well. I'm compelled to shave my entire body including forearms and get some weird looks on account of that and the way I groom my eyebrows, etc. Then there is the expense, for example I hate my beard and would love to have it removed but I have seen that the total bill can be in the $20,000 USD range. I'm sure my wife would much rather take trips to overseas destinations than seeing that money go towards her husband looking more like a woman. Then there is my more rural location and crossdressers being something we don't see up here so just walking out of the house in front of the neighbors would put a bullseye on both of us (not in reference to physical harm but a bullseye in the sense of being treated bad by neighbors). I wouldn't want to force my wife to be a part of that but like everyone on this forum the thought of dressing and doing as I please still intrigues me.

I guess to sum it up, I enjoy those rare opportunities when I am able to dress and would love to be able to do that more, much more. On the other hand, I'm all alone fighting this internal battle 24/7 365 days a year without anyone around me aware of my inner turmoil. I have two choices, either continue to restrain myself and suffer inside or come out, have a second "talk" and demand my freedom to dress and do with my body as I please. If I were to go that route, and I have put plenty of thought to it, things could go terribly wrong from a family sense. If a pill could solve that turmoil and make me forget this I would probably have to get in line to take it. This whole crossdressing thing can be a very complicated mess, especially when the bell rings later in life after we have already had a family and established ourselves.

[Asew]

As a teenager I would have as I was ashamed of my dressing desires. Now that I have accepted this side of me, I would not take it.

[VS Fan]

Nah... there are so many other things I would change about myself first... dressing introduces some variables into my life but they aren’t negative per se.

[Sandi Beech]

Oddly enough, that is exactly what my wife wanted to happen as the end result of when we went to a therapist or counselor about 4 years ago. My wife wanted a pill that would fix me. I forget what lady?s credentials are. I had mentioned in other posts it all backfired since the woman told my wife to research crossdressing and that led to DADT. But the short answer for me is no, but my wife would say yes for sure.

Sandi

[kayegirl]

Absolutely and emphatically NOT. In the words of the song , I am what I am, and what I am needs no excuses.

[Brandi Christine]

Right now, Yes I'd absolutely take it. My life would be so much simpler & easier if I didn't have these urges, these desires. Sometimes I feel so torn between what I would like for me, and what my wife wants for me, not having to deal with that would make my life so much better, I think...

But similar to what Charlotte said, had i known before I met my wife what I know now, if asked about a hypothetical pill that would turn me into a biological woman, I'd jump at it, in heels!

[Pumped]

I have never had any shame or guilt about cross dressing, just the fact I was hiding it from my wife and concerned what would happen when she found out. I never thought it was weird or there was something wrong with me.

When my wife found out we went through a pretty hard time getting "us" sorted out again. At that time I probably would have taken the pill because it would have taken away all the pain we both were going through. Would I take it today? Nope, not even a thought, I wouldn't do it. My wife has become very accepting and see not reason to stop CD'ing. She treats me pretty much the same whether I am dressed or in drab other than I tend to get a few more whistles and groping while dressed! She treats me like I am a cheap tart, and I like it!

[sometimes_miss]

I'd take that pill in a second. This crossdressing/gender thing has been the most disruptive thing in my life.

[Alice Torn]

Absolutely! I would take it now if i had one. My long troubled life would have been less greatly troubled, and not solitary, and so dysfunctional. I have HSP and family damages and paranoia , which is bad enough. Would have far more peace, and maybe a SO without it. I have not met one woman who is ok with Cding.

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Sometimes Miss,, exact same here. Would take it in a nano second.

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Stephanie47. I agree. Same here.

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Candice. Thanks for sharing this. I feel much the same way, an outdoorsy blue collar guy, roughing it, in coveralls, boots, dirty, but have the elegant lady side of me, too, which i must hide, and not allow to take over. But, overall, i would have to take the pill. If there was a pill that could make me a real GG for several days, and go back, i would take it.

[Geena75]

I have never, ever been totally at ease with my crossdressing -- from my early years experimenting with pantyhose all the way through today, working with make up, buying a dress, and feeling pretty. I have always known of my circumstances, and the necessity of controlling and hiding my 'secret passion,' if you will. It creates its own problems. Like today, I had plans for a good Geena day, after the fuel oil delivery we needed which should have happened during the morning, before Geena time. However, the guy didn't come and, it turns out, wasn't going to come; which I found out at 1:00, after losing a third of the time I thought I would have. Irritating.

I don't know of any friends or family who would accept my cross dressing. Knowing them as I do, I'm pretty sure it would be a bad scenario if they did find out. That keeps the secrecy level on 'high.'

These reasons would make saying "Yes" sound the the preferred path. However, I have gained a lot by delving into it -- mostly through hearing from so many others who are in situations very much like my own. I 'get' it far more now than I would have otherwise. Although I have some caring concerns about the degree to which some individuals take it, I understand things enough now to wish them well on the path they follow, even if I have personal misgivings about it.

I wouldn't want to take a pill if it washed away my memories and understandings, but I do like the notion of eventually quitting -- which will probably need to happen some day. I would want it to be on my terms. But, if the only option to eventually putting an end to it would be the hypothetical pill, I guess I would have to take it.

I guess I sound like a politician, saying both yes and no.

Bless you all; Geena.

[DianeT]

Not for the world. But give it to my wife and she will gladly sneak it in my club sandwich.

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This is a JOKE. These pills don't exist.

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This is a JOKE. My wife wouldn't do that even if they existed.

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But she'd wish I would.

[Maria 60]

As much as when I have freshly shaved legs and put on pantyhose and tell my wife that men just don't know what there missing. I believe I would take the pill because it would less complicate things for sure. I don't think my wife would make me take it because she loves having a husband, father to her kids and a friend she could share things and tells me it's because of the dressing that our marriage is so strong.
We agreed not to complicate things and tell the kids and keep it our secret and with that I usally feel guilt when I tell our children to be open with us and should be able to tell us anything and mean while. Well as my dad use to tell me "Do as I say and not as I do". No doubt life is interesting with it but would be less complicated without it.

[sara66]

If I could have never start that would be great. But now it is a huge part of me. Dressing has shape my life and stopping now would change everything that makes me, me.
Sara

[CarlaWestin]

I would get completely dressed as the most outrageous version of Carla I could devise. Big hair, big boobies, thigh high boots, etc...
Then I would take half of that pill. And head for the Mall.

Just kidding. How often have we seen the pink/blue pill question?
Most of us have questioned our behaviour with gender. Most of us just accept it or we've learned how to come to terms with it all.
That's where I'm at. Too bad all of the people closest to me aren't there.

We've learned to incorporate this fabulously enjoyable activity into our complicated lives. Many of us have cared for people we love that have special needs.
Would you take a pill to make that burden go away along with the person we love?

The magic pill question seems to be rooted in guilt.

[GretchenM]

I think you got it Carla. Most of us carry a great deal of guilt that first developed when we were younger and had "strange feelings and desires." We felt, to some extent, as outcasts and maybe mentally not all there. Yet we could not stop those feelings. Suppress it all for awhile and, out of the blue, it all comes back after even years of suppression.

Shame is also a large part of that guilt. "I'm supposed to be a guy, so why am I standing in front of the mirror admiring the woman I have created and feeling good about it? I must be sick. Yadda, yadda, yadda." But there are some that don't follow that path - they knew they were girls when they were 4 and never seriously deviated from that thinking and are now women with a husband and adopted kids. XY chromosomes meant nothing to those - that is just sex and reproductive functions. The rest is identity and identity is the master.

I still feel some guilt and shame. I would think that after 75 years the truth would sink in. On the other hand, maybe it has and I have become the real girl that I wanted to be when, at 8 years old, I told my mother that I did not want to be a boy anymore and I wanted to be a girl. She said, in a gentle and loving way, in 1953, that ain't gonna happen. Before that day I felt no shame or guilt; after that day it surrounded me in a dark cloud until 2012 when I could not stand it anymore and came out.

Now I am a blend but highly variable. Do female-like sexual feelings enter the picture? Once in awhile, yes, but I am 75 now and as a result of prostate cancer treatment, other ailments, and just plain age I am now sexually quite harmless. It is nothing but a pleasant memory. Face the reality without shame or guilt - accept the fact that I have become the girl I wanted to be when 8, but a girl with a sizeable masculine side. Tomboy like? Yea, maybe. Whatever. Labels don't make the person.

[Star01]

I don?t think of my willingness to take the pill as guilt. I think of it as a way to make me not have to lead this secretive double life. It is risky to my 50 year marriage and requires attention every day. I am looking at it as someone who is restricted by those who are close to me, not personal guilt.

In a recent therapy session I replied that if I could do anything I want I would dress all day every day. The obstacle that stops me is external and out of my control. I don?t see how personal guilt is involved but perhaps I am missing something.

[jenabrooks]

If we took the pill would we be happy or more successful or a better person then again that pill my be the worse thing we ever done. I like the person I am, There will always be things we wish we could change.

[Tracy Irving]

For me, the "cure" would be worse than the "disease". Crossdressing is just one of the things I chose to do with my free time, not the only thing. Given the proper balance and perspective it deserves, I see no reason to change.

[NancySue]

Another emphatic No. As with life, there are ups and downs, but if I had the opportunity to do it again, I wouldn?t hesitate a heartbeat to do it again. Dressing, development and progress from hose to dressing completely has been filled with positive experiences. Having a supportive wife has greatly nourished my pleasures. I now dress daily. It?s so enjoyable.

[Confucius]

If there was a pill that could end my urge to crossdress, my wife would force me to take it.
Parents would pass them out to their adolescent crossdressing sons.
The medical/psychiatric community would be happy to pass out the pills.
However, would I be the same person if I took the pills? I don't know how it would affect me. I don't know if I would be a happier person or not. At this stage in my life I really don't want to change. However there is no doubt that in my younger days I would have taken the pills just to avoid all the internal conflicts that crossdressing brought in my life.

[KarenSusan]

Yes, I would take the pill in a New York minute. I consider it a curse that I am a CD.

[Deborah G]

By taking the pill, that would take away part of me. I've always tried to go my own way, and not worry what others perceive. Maybe not cross dressing would be easier for others as I would then be following a "norm", but I don't know if it would best for me. No pill for me.

[KymG]

Yes.
100 Percent yes.
Then hopefully have a normal relationship with a woman like most heterosexual men.

[Amelia_Rose]

No...I don't think I would. It's been a long road to get to where I am now, but I've finally come to terms with myself and who I am. And now that I'm out to the wife, we can have that much more in common and be even closer. I realize I'm in the minority in terms of an accepting spouse, but for me, life is good. It's not perfect of course, and I still face many of the same challenges that others here face in terms of social status/job/hiding this side of myself from other family, but at least in my own home with the one person in the world that I chose to be with, I can be me in any variation and feel accepted.

[Tania]

I echo Amelia?s feelings. I am in my late 50?s. Up till my mid/late 40?s, I would say ?yes?. I really struggled internally, as many who are reading this have done as well. However, once I came to grips with the fact this desire was not going to go away, I accepted this part of me fully. Now I would say ?no?. While dressing does still cause me anguish from time to time, it has become more relaxing as I age, and I have less apprehension even though I am closeted to the outside world.

It has also helped to have a loving wife who has accepted this part of my personality. A somewhat wishywashy answer, but I think it describes my feelings fairly well.

[laurie103]

Don't know how into manga/anime you are, but you guys should check out this one. RANMA 1/2 -- its about a boy who is cursed to turn into a girl every time he is splashed with water: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ranma_%C2%BD

I found it to be pretty exciting!

[Joni T]

I'd kill to be first in line.
Jon

[Sweet Acalia]

Not for the world. For me the only benefit would be not having to deal with the gender flips at work anymore.

[Teresa]

Sandi,
I've just read your reply , I experienced the same problem my ex-wife thought counselling would cure me and like you it backfired . My gender counsellor encouraged me to find a social group to help with my needs . I'm so pleased that she didn't have the magic pill tucked away my life couldn't continue as it was I'm so much happier now .

[Lana Mae]

After all the time trying to find me and throw it a way! No way in Hell!!! I worked hard on this and finally discovered me! Not in a million years nor for all the money in the world! I am just so happy to be me! Hugs Lana Mae

[Kandi Robbins]

In a millisecond! Absolutely!

I am completely comfortable in either my male skin or my female skin, but doing so would make life much, much simpler. It's complicated enough. That said, I love who I have become but cannot deny the years and years of struggle that this all created.

Are they passing these out with the COVID vaccines?

[Alice Torn]

Kandi, My sentiments exactly. Since a young age, i have struggled, fought it, advanced my creativity, amazed at how fantastic woman in the mirror, I have gone out , met some admirers 4 times, and become very creative with this, but as i near my going back to the dust of the earth, i would like to have never had this compulsion and desire.

[LilSissyStevie]

Since crossdressing is just a way to accessorize my peculiar sexual orientation, taking a pill to eliminate it wouldn't solve the "problem." Now, if that pill could turn me into a heteronormative male or even a homonormative male, I would go for it.

[Tracy Irving]

If you could take a pill that takes away all of your desire to dress feminine, and all memory of it, would you?

If I did, I would look in my closet and wonder why there are all these skirts, dresses, blouses, undergarments, etc in my size. Not to mention the accessories like jewelry, wigs, makeup and forms.

Seems like a waste of money to take the pill.

[Judy-Somthing]

I'm not sure because out of all the things I like to do, dressing up seems to be the one I enjoy the most.
It would be cool if CD-ing was considered so-called normal.

[Danielle_cder]

Nope wouldn?t change a thing

[SaraLin]

I haven't read the others' answers yet, but here's my answer:

I'd be torn. I know that life would be oh so much easier if I didn't have to struggle with my "nonconformity." Fitting in - being just a regular person - seems like it would be really nice.
BUT
I wouldn't be ME any more. I'd be someone else entirely, since so much of how I relate to the world comes from my unique blend of gender-typical traits.

It's taken me most of my life so far to learn to accept, and yes, LIKE who I am. I've come to realize that who/what I am is a good person, no matter what I'm wearing.

I honestly don't think I'd want to risk changing that.

Not to mention that if there were a "cure" there would be a TON of pressure from the haters, trying to force the cure on everyone - whether they wanted it or not.
I shudder to even think about how that would go.

[JennB]

If I am honest with myself, I'd take the pill also. Sure, diversity of experience builds a more well rounded character. Sure every experience we have builds us into who we are and that is a part of what we become and I'm not sure I would be the same without that same perspective I have gained from some of my crossdressing experiences, mindset, and activities. But it also has caused challenge, anxiety, grief, and life would be "easier" without it in my life. If I have to be honest, and the pill reset the desire, made it so it didn't feel like something was missing from my life like it does when I don't dress for a longer period of time, if in fact I never really even knew it had been a desire before. Damn straight. I'll chase that pill with a good shot and wakeup tomorrow. It would certainly be a positive impact on the budget also. Wonder what I would buy instead of those cute dresses, skirts, shoes, etc. :)

[Kay J]

No no and no why would I want to get rid of something I enjoy
so much! I lived with her my whole life she is a big part of me! Now my wife would say just the opposite and make me the first in line! Lol!

[jeniinnylons]

Yes I would take the pill

[Rachel05]

A very definite no from me, if you had asked me twenty years or so ago then it would have been a probable yes, but now, I like that part of me, I like how I feel when dressed and I fully accept that dressing is a part of me that makes me the me than I am

[Karren H]

My situation is almost similar.... almost 20 years ago I was diagnosed with a prolactinoma tumor. Which secretes the female hormone prolactin. Problem besides lactating was my crossdressing had slowly disappeared over the prior decade. I am being treated with a wonder drug which shrunk the tumor, stopped the lactating and made my crossdressing come back with a vengeance. So if I stopped taking my meds... it would all fade away... and the tumor would grow along with my breasts... which I really would not want because I would turn back into a male. So I would not stop taking my meds.. for numerous reasons, crossdressing being one of them. Funny how my crossdressing is depressed by a female hormone??

[Star01]

The original post said that not only would the pill remove the desire to dress but it would also remove all memories of having ever having been a crossdresser. That needs to be taken into consideration as there would be no longing for our past. It would be like having a clean slate.

[HollyGreene]

I am a normal man, attracted to women.

[Michelle_G]

No. I am me.

[Stevie Allyn]

A problem I have with concept of taking the pill is the way many folks seem to assume that being a so called "normal" man automatically means life will be better.

I suspect that taking the pill would give you an equal chance of being an unhappy, depressed, suicidal as any non-CDing male.

As a CD/TG I've worked my way through that horrible internal dialogue and come out the other side as a much more happy human being.

I do of course realise that I am very lucky to have the support and love of friends and family. That said I still struggle to accept the idea that life would automatically be better without CDing.

I don't know, just a thought that came to me today.

[Star01]

Good point and I understand how you must feel. I think my willingness to accept the pill is based on my frustrating situation. If a person has worked through all of this and is in a happy place they are justified in wanting no part of the pill.

I have a good life but cannot dress freely so it follows that I would look at it differently. I think responses are shaped by personal circumstances and in my case it?s like this underlying secret that puts my marriage at risk and undermines my relationships with others. Kind of like a secret bad habit that makes me feel good and I can?t stop.

[c2candice]

A problem I have with concept of taking the pill is the way many folks seem to assume that being a so called "normal" man automatically means life will be better.

I suspect that taking the pill would give you an equal chance of being an unhappy, depressed, suicidal as any non-CDing male.

As a CD/TG I've worked my way through that horrible internal dialogue and come out the other side as a much more happy human being.

I do of course realise that I am very lucky to have the support and love of friends and family. That said I still struggle to accept the idea that life would automatically be better without CDing.

I don't know, just a thought that came to me today.

Very good point that I hadn?t thought of. Many men have struggles with depression and taking their own lives. I don?t know the reason for all of what men struggle with. Yes, some of them may be CDs. Likely, the majority are struggling with some other aspect of their lives.

Like gender identity struggles, the daily struggles of many people are invisible. I think CD?s are thus generally more empathetic

[Karren H]

On the other hand.... give me that pill. I'd slip it into my wife's drink and hope she would forget about me crossdressing..... like a reset back to before she found out!! Worth a shot..

[Vickie_CDTV]

If it guaranteed I would have a wife and a family, and I would no longer be alone in life, absolutely, I'd take it in a nanosecond.

I want a wife far, far more than I want to dress, as much as I enjoy dressing I'd rather have a wife and a normal male life in general. Not even a close choice.

[rhoda]

I came across this question recently, and it?s got me thinking.

If you could take a pill that takes away all of your desire to dress feminine, and all memory of it, would you? It would take you to the presumable state of a normal man, attracted to women. No angst around your desire to take on the feminine form ever again.

Would you? Why or why not?


Personally I wouldn't. For me CD is a way of escaping the memories of toxic masculinity at boarding school with all the violence and drug use that went with it.

[DanielleCD]

No I would not. I think having a feminine side brings out a better part of me. I'm able to be and express my emotions more freely now that I've come to understand and accept who I am. I wish there was a pill that would make others more understanding and accepting!

[Sissy_Michelle]

c2candice,

?Would you?? No.

?Why or why not??

Why - Because I enjoy dressing up when I can. I enjoy wondering what it would have been like had I took the other path. I also enjoy being feminine. Even though I understand that I will never pass, it is still what I would like.

Why not- To erase the memory of crossdressing or never have the desire to take feminine form would have been an interesting path. Even though I lived it for 25 years, I was always trying to wear something or be feminine. But to remove the thoughts and desires all together. . . I?m not sure who I would have been.

@?}??-
Michelle

[jenabrooks]

That?s a great answer.

[TheHiddenMe]

No.

I LIKE crossdressing. It gives me pleasure.

Plus I have friends I have made while dressed and eliminating my memories would eliminate them too. These friends also add joy to my life, which I would miss.

[Suranne]

No. I am me.

[Rayleen]

Definitively no, was born that way and love my feminine side and helps me understand both genders.

[Giselle(Oshawa)]

in a heartbeat i would take the pill my life would be so much easier as my crossdressing consumes and controls me

[JennyMay]

This thread has got me into a a rather wild philosophical thought spiral. I would love to have been born female. But if I had been born female I would not be me, I would be someone else. I would be a person with a different genetic makeup XX rather than XY. The person who wishes they were born female would not exist.

I am me. Wishing I were a different person is useless because if that different person existed they would not be me they would be them. (The irony if they were a female wishing they had been born male!) But my wishing I had been born female is part of who I am. I can never be a person who was born female but I don’t think I can ever be a male who is satisfied with just being male. For me crossdressing allows me to express the desire to be female. It helps release the tension. The more I accept myself, including my crossdressing, the more I am truly being myself. (I think).

[Julie Slowinski]

Not a chance! No way! Never! Why would I want to be one of those boring cishet people? If I was that boring, I would have to start doing something super boring like golf.

[Melanie Sykes]

Yes, I would take the pill. Life would be much easier without this constant hiding of this side of me, and the constant frustration of wanting to wear things I am not allowed to. I could just live in peace.

[Christina89]

If I was younger sand still thought of myself as a freak for enjoying the feel of women's clothing on my body then yes. But now...no. I am happy with how my life is. I have never been happier with who I am. Christina is me and she's not leaving. She helps me get out of stressful days.

[Jade P]

No, I love being gender fluid. I am sure my wife would want me to take a magic pill to make me a normal man.

[Sporco]

Yes, in a heartbeat. Gay or straight, you can find happiness. I am trans. There is no fixing it when you are born into a big masculine body and your mind thinks you should be a 120 lb girl.

[Jillcder]

I have been struggling with my answer but yes I would take the pill to make it stop. I do think if my family situation was different and my wife was on board and accepting my answer would be different. By the way I would not change a thing with family situation I am blessed with an incredible family.

[mbmeen12]

If you could take a pill that takes away all of your desire to dress feminine, and all memory of it, would you?

Would you? No I would not take a magic pill.

Why or why not? If anything I take the pill to increase development (in fact I have lol) I love being with my gurl friends and outwardly expressing desires and pleasures etc.

[Leslie Mary S]

No I do not want to tamper with who I am. It is a very hard thing to conceive.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Candace :hugs:, NO, I enjoy having the best of both worlds, >Orchid **O:daydreaming:O**

[jacques]

hello Candice,
Certainly not - I am a crossdresser and that is perfectly normal (and don't believe anyone who says otherwise)
luv J

[Christie ann]

When I go out as a woman I feel so alive, every sense seems to be magnified (a little adrenaline perhaps) If the little pill meant that I could feel that alive as a guy and without the issues of having to hide this part of me then yes, I would make the change.

That said, I have these fantastic experiences that I would never have as a ‘regular’ guy. Trying on wedding dresses and having the women in the shop just so nice and helpful and supportive. You won’t find that Cabellas. The just normal conversations I have had as a woman with other women have been so affirming that I would never want to give that up. So, no I would not take the little pill.

Can I give my wife the pill and have her just a little more accepting??

[lingerieLiz]

Yes I would. Life would be much more simple. I've had a good life and lots of acceptance, but CD has caused decisions that I would have done otherwise.

[Claire M]

This is a very loaded question and the answer depends on the day. Some days I would take the pill in a heartbeat. Those are the days when my need to dress or shop consume much of my attention. The days I feel guilty for sneaking around to fulfill that need. The days when I am deceptive or not truthful about where I've been or what I've been doing when I'm out and dressed.

Other days I definitely wouldn't take the pill. Those are the days when I slip into a dress and makeup and feel absolutely wonderful about myself. The moments when i see myself in the mirror as a beautiful woman.

Now if there were other pills in the medicine cabinet, how about one to make my wife ... and society in general more accepting (how do you slip that into the water supply???) Or how about the pill that could make me about 20 years younger? Or the ultimate Alice in Wonderland pill set where one pill makes you fully female and the other makes you fully male?

[Beverley Sims]

It's a pill I could not swallow. :-)

[Kim Summers]

It would take you to the presumable state of a normal man, attracted to women.

Wow, you are suggesting that crossdressers are not attracted to woman and are not a normal man. Love to know what a normal man is.

You are certainly making a massive assumption here that is simply wrong my dear.

[MindyCD]

Definitely not! I am very happy as a person and love both my Male and Female sides. Life would be far too boring.