Prettier than your wife

[DianeT]

Some of you make frequent allusions to the possibility, as a CDer, of being more pretty, or feminine, than your wife, and to the fact that it would presumably upset her.
Supposing this wish is granted one day, what would be in it for you?

[Beverley Sims]

I love my wife for what she is, I look sharper than she does when we are out, and she encourages me to wear attractive outfits.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[CharlotteCD]

I'll never out pretty my wife, and would never want to.

I'd love to be on a par with her, but I'll never match that total feminity.

[Helen_Highwater]

I've certainly got better legs than my wife!

[Davina2833]

Helen,

That's my best asset also....

Davina

[Amelia_Rose]

I don't "compete" with my wife per say, and I'll always think she looks better than I do. But, there are times where we've looked like a couple of cuties together, and I love nothing more than when she compliments my appearance. Her opinion is the metric by which I try to judge my beauty...if she thinks I look good, I call it success.

[Samm]

I dont wish to be prettier than my wife. Its not a competition, and I would never want it to come off that way. But I know what you're asking here....
My only wish is to be the best I can be for me. That said, she did let it slip once or twice that I looked hot lol. Of course I ran with it and and still bring it up now and then lol.

[Teresa]

Diane ,

I feel this is a definite NO-NO , it's something we should never do .

I met a CDer for coffee for the first time , I was as Teresa and he/she was in drab . We chatted for a few minutes then she decided to show some pictures of what she looked like , she looked OK and I told her so . She then showed me a selection of pictures of the wife saying , " I'm far more attractive than her !" I told her to put the pictures away and not to show me anymore . I pointed out that even when I was separated and now divorced I have never put my wife down by comparing how we both look , we musr retain some repect for our partners and women in general , even if we don't receive the same respect .

I know my ex-wife was jealous because it was revealed in a heated argument between her and my daughter , my daughter told her my presentation has nothing to do with competeing with her and I've also told my ex-wife that .

I would gain nothing from the gaining that wish , I live full time so what difference is it going to make , my presentaion is based on my own personality I dress to be comfortable in myself . If others make comparisons that's not my problem .

[VS Fan]

My wife is jealous of my chicken legs but that’s it.... I don’t hold a candle to her otherwise...

[SaraLin]

Well - it'll never happen. Period.

But - playing the "what if" game:
I'd have to say that what's in it for me would be <drum roll please> The ability to mingle seamlessly with the other women.

[Angela Marie]

When i'm dressed I am just Angela. I see no need to try to out female my wife. Why would I even think of telling her that I am prettier than her? Just sounds like a rather mean thing to do. I don't present as female to show anyone up; just to be who I am. My femininity comes from within.

[Krisi]

I don't think I am prettier than my wife and I doubt most crossdressers are actually prettier than their wives. I don't try to compare myself to my wife.

[Crissy 107]

Supposing this wish is granted one day, what would be in it for you?

Most likely a divorce

[Star01]

What would be in it for me? Probably a rolling pin up side of my head. But seriously, if anybody thinks they are prettier than their wife they might want to keep that to themselves.

[Helen_Highwater]

I'm of the opinion that we also need to separate being prettier against being better dressed especially if you're someone who doesn't dress a great deal. We might put a little more thought into what we put on just to walk around the house whereas our SO's are just dressing for comfort while going about an average day.

[Natalie5004]

What would be in it for me? The axe.

[April Rose]

There was never any danger of that for me. If there were any wish or fantasy for me, it would just be "looking like I actually belong in women's clothes."

[NancySue]

Allusions? Yes. I never thought about it. My wife was a fashion model. Now she?s my fashion model. Having her support is irreplaceable.

[Maid_Marion]

It was a big issue for me as nothing in VS fit her but my size is XS or size 2 for tops and bottoms.
Since she passed I've dropped my waistline down to 25 inches.

Marion

[SherriePall]

Continuing the trend here: what would be in it for me? The door. (as in, don't let it hit you on the way out!)

[MonicaPVD]

Pro tip: Even if you are a leggy size 2 with enviable bone structure and your wife, GF, or SO is a sloppy butch, NEVER EVER EVER toy with the idea that you are more attractive than her. Ever. This can only bring trouble and heartache. Do your thing, celebrate your hotness and don't compare. Ever.

[Confetti]

Monica!
How, true it?s a hurtful thing to say, celebrate unique beauty be grateful your able to share.

[docrobbysherry]

It wasn't my ex show girl ex wife, tho. I began dressing after we split.:heehee:

But, it was my old college girlfriend. We began seeing each other after we were both divorced! At first, she was accepting and encouraged my dressing.
However, after nearly a year of seeing pics and hearing about Sherry? She suddenly broke off our 30+ year relationship!:eek:

Jealous? Maybe. After all, Sherry remains in her 20/30's while she was in her 60's!:devil:

[LilSissyStevie]

Both my first wife and current wife are/were way above average in the looks department. So it would be difficult to top that even if I were a GG. I can honestly say that my first wife was ugly on the inside and I'm way "prettier" than her in that respect and I'm not a nice person.

[Robertacd]

I am not going to say I am more feminine than my wife but I am just as good looking, and have been told better looking than her in some ways...

But do I look better in some dresses and outfits than my wife does, even she agrees with that.

It doesn't upset her, at least not enough for her to say that I can't or shouldn't go out looking better than her.

[darla_g]

my wife has told me that's why some wifes don't like crossdressing.

THEY want to be the female in the relationship.

Stressing beauty is just pushing it. My wife doesn't give me grief over shaving body hair. "It's your body " she says. On a similar point i may prefer her having a different hairstyle or something, but it's her hair! She can do as she wishes.

[BrendaPDX]

My wife is a GG, I will never be as pretty as her. I may be more slender, but I will never be prettier. If I ever was I would not tell her.

[GenevieveF]

Never but I have been told my legs are much better.

[Micki_Finn]

I’m not personally of the opinion that I’m more attractive than my wife, but a case could be made. I definitely have more of a models bone structure and body than my wife does, and some might consider me more attractive. It’s not something I strive for specifically, and as for what’s in it for me? Nothing really. At least as far as comparing looks goes. As for just being attractive, well anyone who’s ever really FELT attractive can tell you that beauty and confidence are their own reward.

[Cheryl T]

What wish? To be prettier than my wife?
She feels that way now no matter how I try to tell her I'm not competing. She'll buy something and try it on and dislike how she looks and goes "here try this it will look better on you".

What's in it for me? Nothing. I'm not trying to achieve that goal. I'm simply trying to be the best Me I can be.

[Pumped]

I will ever be even close to my wife looks wise, but I am higher maintenance!

[GracieRose]

What would be in it for me? Nothing good could come of that.
But I don't have to worry, it ain't gonna happen. The gap in beauty between us is too big for me to fill.

[Claire M]

No matter what the magic pill gave me and no matter how I look (or think I look) .... my wife will ALWAYS be the prettiest lady in our house!! No matter what!!

Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder but also in the heart of the bearer!!319086

[BLUE ORCHID]

That sounds like a death wish to me.

[Stephanie47]

My wife has always said I have a great pair of legs. She is five foot two. I was six foot two, but, now down to six foot + a bit. My wife's face still sparkles; love her blue eyes. I am still decent looking for a guy; especially at 73. The face? It has aged and some imperfections acquired over the years are more noticeable. If you want to "live long and prosper" I would not recommend telling your wife you're prettier than her. My wife, if she knew, would be envious of my ability to wear a four inch heel. Since her toe was fused heels are out! Be careful! A five inch heel with a narrow spike can be weaponized! :)

[Michellebej]

My first wife was the Homecoming Queen so the answer to being prettier than her is "no". Oth as to the question of being more feminine, there is really no question that I am more feminine. Even she admits that.

Did it cause problems? To a subtle degree, it did. While there was no question that my 5-1, 95 pound, blonde, blue 34D wife had the much better figure and was just obviously so much more prettier than I could ever be....it was I who received the lions share of compliments on my outfits, hair and make up. So much so that it did irk her. My ex really had no fashion sense.

My on again and off again gf is 6-2 and has an amazing figure, in an amazon sort of way. She has no fashion sense. Her wardrobe looking more like a mans closet than a womans. Jeans, plaid shirts, work boots and hoodies. When we go out she used to get upset because I always had more drinks bought for me and more men asked me to dance than her. Eventually she started wearing my clothes and received way more attention.

I find that many men tell me that they miss the days that "Women were not afraid to dress like women". There are a lot of men who are nostalgic for heels, seamed stockings and a bit of lace.

The point is that sometimes the presentation can be more important than the beauty of the object or person by themselves.

[AngelaYVR]

Michellebej gave a very good answer. Dressing well will offset a number of physical shortcomings and add one to two points on the hotness scale.

[Pumped]

I feel like I should add, my wife is turning 60 this summer and is a tiny 5'2" and 100 pounds. She weighs what she did when we got married 37 years ago. She isn't 20 years old anymore, but I think she looks damned good. I buy her naughty little dresses and she still wears them for me, but not out of the house like she did when we met. I bought her a tiny, tight, shiny ,bubble gum pink, faux leather dress the other day. This one, :drooling:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08FWX5GHC/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

[alwayshave]

I'm not prettier than my wife, but she doesn't like the fact that my forms are larger than her breasts.

[Crissy 107]

Pumped, Tell the truth, you would like that beautiful pink dress for yourself

[Alexis00]

I'm not prettier than my wife, but she doesn't like the fact that my forms are larger than her breasts.I bought my ex wife a larger cup bra so she could wear them as well. Obviously we didn?t go dancing but out for dinner or drinks. She enjoyed the extra attention.

Her mother came to visit and discovered them, she was highly disapproving.

[Karren H]

I have better taste in womens clothing and am better at makeup than my wife but I would not fool myself to think that I am prettier than she is.

[lingerieLiz]

No way am I in any way more attractive than my wife. Very few women including actresses are in her league. First question I get from men is how did you ever get so lucky. Men openly flirt with her. She gets compliments about how great she looks from women.

[DianeT]

Her mother came to visit and discovered them, she was highly disapproving.
Lol Alexis, wish I was there to see this. "Sooooo, another customer unsatisfied with what her mother and Nature gave her?"

To everyone, thanks for the answers so far.

[Pumped]

Pumped, Tell the truth, you would like that beautiful pink dress for yourself

Yes! But I looked and they don't have "old guy with fake boobs" size!

[DianeT]

Pumped, perhaps if you downsize the boobs it will fit!

[CynthiaD]

Nobody could be prettier than my wife. :)

[SouthernPeach]

It would be a far cry for me to be prettier than my wife as she is an all around classy women, in fact she is my role model for the current fashion styles.

[Maggie3210]

My legs and ankles looked nicer than my wife's, but other than that I could not even come close to her beauty.

[DianeT]

Nobody could be prettier than my wife. :)
Many of you said nice things like this about their wife. I hope some of the wives are members too and can read these quotes :)

[AngelaYVR]

I came across this today, seems like some may get a kick out of it!

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[Crissy 107]

Angela, I loved it, ain’t it the truth, sometimes you can never tell

[BrendaPDX]

OMG! Love it Angela! It's true, it's true! Thank you

[Robertacd]

Thinking back to the pre-covid days when we used to go out. Friday night was our regular night. One of the local clubs had a DRAG show and DJ following.

I always wore a dress, full makeup, etc. My wife would be in jeans and a casual top, little to no makeup.

I have taken the pressure off of her to always be the pretty one and she appreciates it. More than once she has said "If you want to wear all that girly stuff you go right ahead.".

[fiona de wilde]

My wife looks better, but she is jealous of my legs.

[Leslie Mary S]

what with all the make-up on I still can NOT out shine either of my wives, had two, one after the other. I just don't glam up that well, nor would I like to surpass my first wife, who only wore some lipstick, she was a natural beauty and I loved having her on my arm.

Still wish I could.

[Natalie5004]

Thinking back to the pre-covid days when we used to go out. Friday night was our regular night. One of the local clubs had a DRAG show and DJ following.

I always wore a dress, full makeup, etc. My wife would be in jeans and a casual top, little to no makeup.

I have taken the pressure off of her to always be the pretty one and she appreciates it. More than once she has said "If you want to wear all that girly stuff you go right ahead.".

Wow what a woman. Please have her call my wife.

[Blonde617]

Love the idea, but no chance...

[ReineD]

I have taken the pressure off of her to always be the pretty one and she appreciates it. More than once she has said "If you want to wear all that girly stuff you go right ahead.".

This reminds me of how I dressed when my SO and I first started our relationship, and our only crossdressed outings at the time were to LGBTQ nightclubs. We eventually branched out to daytime outings to restaurants, art galleries, shopping, etc, but at first it was only to places where they had drag shows. Anyway, I usually wore plain black slacks, casual black low heeled ankle boots, and dark long-sleeved tops. No jewelry. I actually dressed down because I didn't want to show up my SO - I didn't want my SO to look masculine next to me, if I was all dressed up in nightclub wear. I was just so self-conscious about having people stare and honestly I didn't want to attract attention to us by dressing super sexy.

But then I did a 180? turn. I started to feel jealous of all the young, sexy GGs at the nightclubs that my SO kept staring at, and so I began to dress sexy to compete with THEM! And it worked! lol. It seems like another lifetime ago. But I hit bottom with that too. :p Now I just dress like myself, without thinking about how my appearance will or will not affect my SO. If we go to an event that requires wearing a dress, I wear a dress. Otherwise I dress casually. Our nightclub days are over with. :p


But getting back to the thread topic - CDers who say they look better than their wives. This is just such a GUY attitude and such a guy thing to say!!

Men are better socialized to self-promote than are women. We, (at least in my generation), were taught to not be immodest and so it is bad form for us to say out loud that we think we are prettier, or sexier (or smarter, or nicer) than another woman. It simply is a super-tacky thing to say. So when I read crossdressers brag about how much sexier, or prettier, or more feminine they are than their wives, I can't help but think they are decidedly behaving like men and decidedly not being feminine.

[Robertacd]

it is bad form for us to say out loud that we think we are prettier, or sexier (or smarter, or nicer) than another woman. It simply is a super-tacky thing to say. So when I read crossdressers brag about how much sexier, or prettier, or more feminine they are than their wives, I can't help but think they are decidedly behaving like men and decidedly not being feminine.

You think GG's don't behave like this? Think again... :p

They don't call someone "caty" because they curl up in your lap and purr.

[Teresa]

Reine ,
As usual you give us a great perspective from a GGs angle , many thanks for that .

To a point what we wear is based on our confidence , my daughter tends to dress down a little as she lacks confidence , when I go out with her I try to dress with her in mind , I may attract some attention because some might have read me but otherwise I don't want to obviously draw attention to us .

I asked a GG friend very tactfully if I embarrass her her when we're out , she was quite annoyed with me for asking such a question , she told me straight she wouldn't be going out with me if there was a problem and to stop putting myself down .

I'm partly with Roberta on women commenting on how other women look , I've heard so many phone calls from my wife in the past to know what women think of others on occasions .

Neither gender usually say outright they are prettier as a woman or more handsome as a man it's more to do with body language .

[ReineD]

They don't call someone "caty" because they curl up in your lap and purr.

I think you've watched too many movies that portray negative GG stereotypes?

I have literally had hundreds of female friends over my lifetime in all the different places I have lived. And I'm telling you that the vast majority are not "catty". It really is considered tacky for a GG to say out loud that she thinks herself prettier or sexier than a GG friend. We support our friends, we don't inflate ourselves at their expense.

Methinks this is yet another example of a CD thinking the CD knows more about GGs than a GG? And also another example of a CD who has a very poor general opinion of GGs. :)


... keeping in mind, this thread is about CDers comparing themselves to someone they supposedly love; their wives. Not some random actress they see in the media.

[Robertacd]

I guess I hang out with a bunch of obnoxious GG's because I have heard the ladies in Document Control literally destroy one of the ladies from "upstairs" that came into the department after she left.

Maybe you are not listening or the GG's don't accept you as one of them so they are still playing the "fragile fem" when you're around.

[ReineD]

I guess I hang out with a bunch of obnoxious GG's because I have heard the ladies in Document Control literally destroy one of the ladies from "upstairs" that came into the department after she left.

Did you read all of my post? We are talking about husbands' attitudes about their wives here, wives they supposedly love - and not some random person they work with that they don't know. Women support their friends; they don't build themselves up by putting their friends down. You don't know women well if you think otherwise.

[SuzyZahn]

Yes and yes. Whats in it for me?,,, wish I could go back 30 years, things would be different for me.

[Robertacd]

I guess Reine is the only expert on women and I was just making up stories.

I am done with this thread.

[DianeT]

Bragging is not feminine, but pouting is, so 1 point for femininity Roberta :p (and now my wife will kill me. Slowly.)

Suzy, do you mean yes, you are (or feel) prettier, and yes it upsets your wife? What would be different 30 years back?

[Julia Hendrixxx]

I need a wife first haha

[ReineD]

Bragging is not feminine, but pouting is

Actually Diane, pouting is not a feminine thing either. It?s an infantile thing; little boys pout too.

But I don?t think that Roberta is pouting. Roberta just has a very low tolerance for GGs who can speak with some level of authority on other GGs.

[DianeT]

Sorry, trying to clear the air a bit :) Obviously didn't work.

[Dutchess]

I have to agree with Reine on this, - its a childish thing to do to proclaim you are prettier or sexier .
I am glad to see so many here though that know better .

If you think you are prettier than your wife what does that say about you ?? More than you think ....

[ronny0]

Ok, i have to admit, I did not read all the earlier posts.
Still I want to add my 2 cents........
First, not a good thought to put down your life companion..... Else you end up doing life SOLO.
Second..... From what I gather on the net, child porn is a equal opportunity event.
What I am suggesting, to say some one is attractive, is a statement open to interpretation.
If it is a 19 year old boy saying it, then most likely he is talking about a +-19 year old girl....
If it is a 30+ year old pidifile saying it, then it could be a boy or a girl he is talking about....
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. STILL to declare one is more desirable / attractive than one's companion.
IMO is a sure fire way to head down the path to not having a companion..................
IMO Ya can take most any human, put enough paint and suggestive clothing on them to give the appearance of sensuality.
Yet after a shower, and a few days to sober up, all the paint and clothing can't turn a pig into a princess.
Hopefully, we are all in loving relationships, and regard our partners as being some one we wish to be with 'down the road'....
I would be a fool to suggest my SO (Significant Other) was less attractive than me.
I love my Girl Friend, and would never suggest that I am 'prettier' than her.
I will state as a fact, that I do wear items of clothing that she has long ago lost interest in.
As in thongs, pantyhose, stockings heels etc etc etc.....
As we all age, we have to grasp that prancing about on 4" / 5" / 6" heels might not be a safe thing....
AND that other items of clothing deemed as provocative in our youth can me a pain in the $rear as we age.
Summation: If You have a SO, put them on a pedestal and hopefully you will make it down the road to what ever life holds for you.
Not a keen thought to put them down, although that is one of my downfalls :-(

[DianeT]

Ronny, thanks for your answer about SOs, however I don't understand what the passage about pedophiles has to do with the subject?

[DAVIDA]

This thread has gone off the rail.
If you can't support the OP in their thread and keep your answer on topic, then don't comment.