Do you ever wonder....

[Jenn A116]

...about which of your male friends might also be a closeted CD?

I'm totally in he closet (except for my wife) so none of my friends know about Jenn. Given the statistics about how many guys are also CD's I'm sure at least one of my many friends/acquaintances are also CD. But which ones???

Just musing here. Not really trying to figure out which of my friends are CD.

[beccadeath]

CONSTANTLY!

A person I was friends with in college later came out as trans, and I'm still friends with her on Facebook...and I'm fairly sure my crossdressing came up in conversations before she really begun her transition, but while she's cool and all we're not exactly best friends and there's frankly not that much common ground between us...and she's also not particularly socially media active, so.

...it would stand to reason others that are gender fluid or crossdressers like myself. I'm obviously cool with whatever, but as we all know it's a personal journey for everyone...so I'm just constantly supportive of all lifestyles, cultures, etc...and hope that if someone is comfortable enough that they would confide in me as I have with

[docrobbysherry]

Most of my friends r CD/trans these days! Once u get out and about, socializing with other dressers? U won't have to wonder anymore!:hugs:

[Cheryl T]

I've thought about it on occasion but I really don't think any of my close friends are.
When I first began going in public and the wife and I attended a support group meeting for the first time she brought it up. She asked me what would happen if we met someone we knew at the meeting. I said nothing would happen. She was confused.
I told her what if we do. Will they run to all our friends on Monday and say, "guess who I saw at my crossdressers meeting Saturday"? I don't think that would happen. There might be an awkward moment but then that would pass as we'd all be there for the same reasons wouldn't we.

[kimdl93]

My ex and i had this conversation after a meeting with a family counselor suggested we join a local CD support group. She was reluctant to attend, but she was dying to know which prominent local people might be participants. I wish we had followed through with joining the group. It might have helped her deal with her apprehensions if she had seen other CD and trans people were just like everyone else...in fact were among everyone else.

[jacques]

hello Jenna,
of course - it is only natural to speculate, and even if you are not correct it is fun to imagine.
luv J

[Krea]

Yes, it's natural for us to wonder. I can't think of any acquaintances who might be, but then how would i know? :thinking: Those of us who are/were in the closet are often adept at concealing our true feelings....

[Karren H]

I already have a few local CD friends. But 20 years ago I had this friend... we shared the same interest in old Swedish sports cars... and I always got this slightly feminine vibe from him. Well a few years later, after he sold me his old car, he came out to everyone as trans... split from his wife, had all the surgeries, and move away and is now living as a female. Betting There are more of us out there than statistics would dictate.

[Misty_cder]

I have wondered my self too. About 15 years ago, my wife and I found out the husband of good friends crossdressed, but it wasn't under the best circumstances. He kept it hidden from his wife and one day she came home early to find him dressed up and on the computer instant messaging with other CDer's when he should have been looking for a job. We got "roped into" their disagreement when he showed up at our house asking if he could stay the night after she kicked him out. He did tell us the reason why and we informed him we had no issue with his dressing. After a few days passed, my wife and I discussed if mentioning I dressed would help our friend work towards accepting her husband's dressing. We first confided to him to see if he thought it would help. He was surprised to find out and thought of me as a typical "manly man". When we all sat down, my wife brought up my dressing and the ground rules she had for me at the time. It seemed to help. She allowed him back into the house, but about three months later she kicked him out again and filed divorce papers. He stayed with us while they completed the divorce and afterwards he moved back home to Sweden. We never heard from either of them again.

[candykowal]

I am sure, I have a few friends and family members who CD or are Gay / Lesbians.
My best friend from my bachelor days never did anything to warrant me to think he was gay.
We jammed in a professional band, party-ed many times, even went on far vacations together.
Then, when I met my wife, he turned and never was very friendly anymore.
I asked him to be my best man but he declined! Till this day, I suspect he is gay as he never had a girl friend.
I kind of feel bad I never told him about Candy but then again, I never though of him that way.
I am guessing my nephew is TG as he has some issues finding himself.
Then, going thru my mothers old pictures, I come across a picture of my Mom and Dad at a very early 1950's Haloween party.
Mom dressed as a guy, Dad dressed as a lady.
After all the talks of me not being a femme, he shows up in a picture in a dress and wig! :confused2:

[Sometimes Steffi]

I've written many times before, but I was talking to a random CD girl at Keystone Conference, and found out that she was actually a good friend in high school.

[AndieB]

I only have a small group of male friends and I doubt any of them are closet CD's. But there's no doubt other people I know, whether it be at work or in the same town, could definitely have some CD's mixed in there.

It's so depressing that so many have to live in the closet. :sad:

[Helen_Highwater]

As we all know, during the pandemic hairdressers have been closed. A neighbour of mine has let his hair grow such that it's down to his shoulders. There's many a GG who would like his head of hair and I've written before that the style is very feme and it had made me wonder if I had a kindred spirit living a few doors away.

[Billie]

I don't think I do. I would think that with my nails being done for almost two years now and wearing women's pants and shorts exclusively for longer than that, if I had a friend that did they would say something. Although I am the "Conservative" one in most situations where that might come up.

[GretchenM]

You never know and it is hard to tell. Here is an interesting tidbit. In the Ken Burns series on Ernest Hemingway it was revealed that this super macho man loved to roll play in the bedroom with his wife. He would be, I think it was Catherine, and his wife would be Pete. Of course no further details. But it goes to show that even the most macho men can have another side.

[Krisi]

I don't know who compiles the "statistics" on what percentage of the population is crossdressers, etc., but I suspect they are nothing but guesses. I've never received a form to fill out and I'm not sure I would be totally honest even if I did receive one.

How many people here have ever participated in a poll or survey that asked if they were a crossdresser?

[candykowal]

I bet if we made a poll of who is crossdressing here, the number would be pretty high.... sorry, had to go there.....:daydreaming:

[Shelly Preston]

Sometimes you don't have to wonder.

Two people I went to school with are TG.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Genna :hugs:, I often as I walk through Lowe's & Home Depot

How many of the Macho Guys there are also Under Dressed ?????????

>>>>>>>>>>Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Jessica S]

I often wonder also which of my friends may be a crossdresser. I have had my suspicions on a couple of them but that may be me projecting.

[Violetgray]

I'm 100% that which with burns within us smolders within your average man. They just won't allow themselves to explore.

[Genifer Teal]

Someone I worked with didn't come out to me until shortly before retiring. They knew for a while about me but hadn't said anything about them self. We've stayed in touch.

[BTWimRobin]

As I read through the various forums I am totally blown away by the number of men who take part in this lifestyle. I would not be surprised if someone I knew dressed.

[JulieC]

In boy scouts, one of my fellow scouts was found out as having a pair of pantyhose in his jacket pocket. He was heavily bullied about it. He tried to claim it was for kite tails. But, what teenage boy is going to be carrying around pantyhose for kite tails? He was a good friend of mine for many years (we've sadly since parted ways due to his wife), but the subject of crossdressing never came up. Him being bullied taught me to remain secret (as if I didn't know already).

I've never suspected any other friend to be a crossdresser. Odds are, at least one of them has been, but I've been unaware just as they have been unaware about me. I once found a pair of pantyhose in my brother's horse riding gear. That's a legitimate use, as it prevents chafing while riding for extended periods, which he did. I never asked him about it. He has made a lot of statements over the years that display his hatred of LGBTQIA+ people. So, unless he's covering for himself, I doubt he's a crossdresser. Little does he know the people he professes hate for are closer than he would ever imagine.

[Amy Lynn3]

I need not worry about one of my friends I grew up with. Their were about five of us guys in the neighborhood, that were the same age. From small boys we played together, doing boy things. At about age 12 I was fully on my way to being a cder. I underdressed much of the time, when playing with others. One of the guys always seemed to be a little different from the rest, when it came to things of interest. I kept my eyes on him for years and then one day we were coasting down hills on a homemade wagon and my friend wrecked. It was a bad wreck and we all gathered around him, while he was on the ground, and when he/her turned over, without him knowing, he had torn the seat out of his pants, when he wrecked. Well, my eyes focused on the white nylon panties he was wearing under his pants. To me that assured me I had a friend to share with. As my luck would be, due to his parents divorce he/she moved away. I only saw him/her one time after they moved away and it was a open area, out in public and we could not talk in private.

[Natalie5004]

This is a question that will never be answered. Many men a deep in the closet. Most of us are.

[darla_g]

How would you know? and its not like it would be an easy question to bring up with someone.

[Judy-Somthing]

Between 15 and 18 I would dress up with my neighborhood friends, up to four at a time.
Sometimes the local girls would do our makeup.
The CD parties stopped right around age 18.

As the years past I went into deep into the closet and the only time my friends saw me dress was at a few Halloween Parties.
When a friend would ask if I still dress I would say "only for Halloween".
I never asked if any of them still dress.

Over the years on a few occasions at places I've worked I would say to the guys "Friday is wear a dress to work day".
At least three times guys would go along and say stuff like "Ya a nice evening gown".

Years after one of my uncle passed my aunt told my wife and I that he dressed up a few times over the years.

[Sabine Janus]

It's probably easier at this point to admit to being gay or trans than a crossdresser.

[Sandra_Dodds]

I had a colleague who commented in an admiring way on some tights and heels a woman was wearing...the same way I would observe quietly to myself, and I had to wonder whether he might be in the closet too. Like me, he seemed to know far more about female fashions than most men do. But how do you discreetly bring that up in conversation?

[josie_S]

I constantly wonder about it, although I'm certain none of my close male friends are and then I remember that *I* am probably the statistical representation of cding among my friends, lol. One time I I was out and I saw a tall, really pretty, and really fit CD at the bar and I'm sure I made her uncomfortable bc I was staring at her and wondering if she was my friend underneath her tight red dress and great make up. About a year later I almost asked my friend--"both" of us in drab by the way--if he was a cd and oh I'm so glad I didn't. But I learned that day that the pink fog has reach!

[countrygirl]

I have always wondered about everyone I know. Can't help but wonder. I wish you could be open to wearing what you want and it didn't matter or have to hide who are.

[Stephanie47]

Before I retired I observed the women in my office would go down to the street and watch the guys strut their stuff during the annual "Walk a Mile in Her Shoes" fund raiser. Most of the guys were timid or just plain afraid of having too much fun and only wore feminine flip-flips. However, some guys were fairly adept with walking in a moderately high heel. The women would stand there are try to guess whether this guy or that guy was a cross dresser.

My supervisor said she had dressed her husband up one Halloween in one of her high school prom dresses she still had in the closet along with heels and wig and makeup. He was the same height and build as her. All the women asked if she had pictures. To say the least I was envious. I also wonder what any of these women would do if their husband's wanted to cross dress. NIMBY? But great to conjecture about others.

[Micki_Finn]

This is a question that will never be answered. Many men a deep in the closet. Most of us are.

And then there’s the question of “what is crossdressing”. If you put on a pair of panties for sexual gratification, is that crossdressing? I know people who do that who would adamantly refute that it’s CDing, and yet many here would say it is...

[DianeT]

Many definitions of crossdressing indeed.
This morning I could not find that shirt I was looking for, arrrrhh! I was really cross, dressing.
Romans practiced cross-dressing on mount G. long ago.
A friend of mine once served a pie with gravy instead of caramel topping. Cross dressing (or gross dressing).
Christopher Cross' SO could probably see Cross dressing everyday.
Getting late. Feel free to continue. Good night.

[Melanie Sykes]

In the mid 1990s I used to work shifts with a manly guy with a bristling moustache. He liked tuning his car and fiddling with computers, swore like a trooper, chewed gum with his mouth open and was not at all fashion conscious. He was very likeable though, and single, and the only reason I could come up with for his being single was the fact that he kept big spiders and snakes in tanks at home. Two things stood out about him that were different to other stereotypically "manly" men were that he was always very nice to women, never ever making rude comments about them or their bodies, and he kept a collection of Svarovski crystal at home, which I think is unusual for a single guy. Anyway, I left that place of work in 1998 and we lost contact for a long time since we then lived hundreds of miles apart. We became friends on Facebook in about 2016 (I think), and then after about 8 months he suddenly announced on FB that he was changing his name and going to transition. A little while later she officially became Lucy and began the transitioning process. She was the absolute last person I'd have suspected to have trans tendencies. So I guess you never know until you know. :)

[JuliannaS]

There have to be others. There was someone at work years ago who allegedly told a girl he was into cross dressing, and people said some pretty mean things about him. I didn't know what to say.

[Kimberly A.]

Nah, I really don't wonder who, out of my friends/acquaintances are CD'ers..... If they are cool, if not, cool. Don't really care either way, cause none of them know that I'm a CD'er. LOL