My first time out in public

[Brandybea]

So I have been consumed lately with getting up the courage to go out dressed in public. I;m a 60 year of crossdresser, and never have been in public dressed (except for a quick run to and from my car a few years ago). I recently have been listening to crossdressing podcasts, reading Savannah Hauk’s books on crossdressing and realizing I need to validate myself by going out dressed and being seen by others. So, while traveling this week I brought a selection of clothes. I checked into my hotel and changed into black jeggins, wedge sandles, red tank top and my blonde wig and makeup. Once dressed I stared at the hotel door and walked toward it, took a deep breath and walked out the door to my rental car. My plan was to go to a local outlet mall and go to the Hanes factory store (with Bali, maidenform, etc.) I drove there feeling very femme and sexy and when I pulled up, it was 8:00 pm. The store was closing…Ugh!!!. So, not to be defeated I searched for a Macy’s on my phone and found one 15 miles away that was still opened. I drove there and drove around each of its three entrances (was a local mall) looking to see which one was nearer too Macy?s women?s section. Once I selected my entrance, I again took a deep breath, grabbed my purse and opened the car door. My walk to the entrance was a little wobbly (had practiced with the heels but not enough), but I slowed my pace, straightened my posture and took small steps. I opened the door and looked around (I was looking for lingerie) and saw none and realized, oh god, I have to walk across the store!. So I began strutting..swinging my hips a little more with each stride. Finally I spotted the “intimates” section that seemed to be a mile away..

Once i got to that section my heart was pounding and I could feel my chest rising and falling with each breath. But there was a huge satisfying smile on my face. It was late and the store only had a few other women walking around and none seemed to notice me. So I walked through every bra rack..looking at each, holding them up..until i picked two I liked. Then I moved on to panties and did the same, choosing two cute pairs. IN all, I spent about 20 minutes in heaven, shopping as Brandy.

Now, I needed to cross the final barrier of paying for my lingerie and checking out. I looked across the store and saw the cashier’s station and saw a small line there waiting. Should I just lurk around until the line goes down, or go stand in line? I again chose to face my fears and went and stood in line. No one seemed to care or pay attention (again confirming what I have heard in most of the crossdressing podcasts and books). When it was my turn to check out the cashier (her name was Noreen) did everything she could to make me feel comfortable. She talked about how I picked out such cute items, that I might want to consider another bra she directed me to, and told me to come back for the holiday sale (memorial day). I think I responded coherently, but really can’t attest that I did..I just smiled brightly!.

Finally I completed the transaction and strutted out the door..happy in my girl form, proud of this ultimate achievement.

Now I’m ready for the next step! This is me back in the hotel with my purchases!!!!321294

[SavannahVee]

Congrats on your first time! I have yet to do it!

[Geena75]

Very well done! I did my first outing today, but nothing as daring as yours. Good job overcoming your fears. Strangely, maybe because of the isolated setting I chose, I felt strangely calm getting out of my vehicle. I did check myself in the reflection of the truck windows and the reflection looking back at me felt so feminine that I didn't really feel self conscious at all. You did so well, though! I can't see myself having the confidence to go out like you did. Excellent! BTW, you look wonderful!

[NjJamie]

Brandy, CONGRATS!!

I've only worked up to walking into Macy's or Kohls a few times but my only purchase as Jamie was at a Walmart at midnight (just glad I didn't end up in those "people of Walmart" combos!), bought some bras and panties, too cliche?

[Brandybea]

Thanks Jamie!

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Thank you Geena

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Thanks Savannah

[Teri Ray]

What a lovely story Brandy. So glad your experience was good. Be aware there are most likely more enfemme outings in your future. I know how difficult it is to overcome those fears you described. Being out enfemme always have been my scariest and most thrilling adventures. Best wishes.

[MsEva]

Oh my gosh you are my heroine! That was in my mind a brave thing to do. I am SO glad it went well and you had the time of your life. BTW you look really cute. Sort of look like the girl from Big Bang Theory.

[RainbowDash]

Oh wow! That is some story Brandy! I wish I had the courage to do what you did, although I would only do it with other crossdressers or women accompanying me.
I recently went out dressed up en femme for the first time, but it was at a ren fen, so I'm not sure that counts. Also I did not arrive dressed up, I bought an outfit. I would eventually like so much to be able to do what you did, that would mean so much to me.

[HarrietD]

Way to go! The first time us so hard. It gets easier as you go out more often.

Well done!

[Leslie Mary S]

Congratulations Brandy. My first time out without a GG escort was interesting too. I Dressed out in a black knee-length shirt, and a gray knitted sweater, full makeup and a wig. It was a Sunday. I went to a bank parking lot and shot some 20 photos. Then Drove to my local Staples and walked in, chatted with the Sales Reps and Tech Reps that I normally deal with as a male for over an hour.
I then Drove over to Kohl's. They were closed, so I just took a dozen photos of me with the store front in the background. Then I drove home. Came in and processed my photos.
Y'all just keep your pretty self a going out in public. Ya hear Now? No Back Trackin' or we might sick the crossdressin' fashion police on ya!

[bridget thronton]

Yay Brandy - thanks for sharing

[SissieScott]

Congrats Brandy! You looked GREAT!
I used to have huge anxiety shopping as a man and checking out.....until one day a cashier said "awww I wish my husband bought me cute things like you do for your wife" :heehee: Since then I haven't had anxiety clothing shopping as a man. Before that it was Amazon, and WalMart/Target self checkouts.
The other day I left my make-up on to walk the dogs(first step)....I wasn't too anxious...... How many people would get close enough to see my make-up while I'm walking a 130lb Rottweiler and 65lb Pit Bull mix? :D Usually they cross the street as soon as they see us approaching.

[Michelle 51]

Thank you Sissie .Love this post.I relived all your emotions while reading it.I can remember having to talk myself down when a bout of panic would set in and tell myself to just settle down and slow down .

[RachelB.]

You will remember this outing in a few years and wonder what you were so worried about. I know I do. Get out and enjoy.

[Connie D50]

What a great post, you look great. Now watch out once you open that door your going to want to go out it sooooo much more. HAVE FUN

[Jillian Faith]

Congratulations on a first successful out enfemme. Especially impressive is that you made your first outing without the aid of a GG wing-women! Be careful thou being out in public as Brandy can be addictive!!!!!!!!!!

[Frannie7]

Love your post, Brandy. You bring back many of the emotions that went through us on our first time out. Congrats on being so brave to do it on your own. And BTW you look great in your outfit. You must have totally fit in.

[Daphne1363]

Love it! You need to do it again!

[Natalie5004]

I love that story. At times I am brave as a lion other times I am a big chicken. But actually going shopping and buying fem clothes is fantastic. You are not a weirdo guy looking through bra's and panties. You are another woman just shopping.
Good for you.

PS you look great in the photo.

[Helen_Highwater]

Brandy,

So pleased for you. getting that first outing under your garter is the hardest thing to do. As others have said, it is a genie that won't go back in the bottle so you're in for lots more fun times.

[Natalie5004]

Your thread had me at the local JC Penny store for the Memorial Day Sales event. Picked up a pair of girl jeans and a new top.
I need a bigger butt and thighs to fill out the jeans. What food put weight exactly on your butt?

[jenabrooks]

Hormones

[GracieRose]

Fantastic!! Isn't it great?

[Brandybea]

Thanks Natalie?I need some weight on my butt! Been working out to add to it..but not yet seeing results.

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You were all correct...It becomes almost addicting! Was able to squeeze a minutes last night to dress, go out and fuel up the rental car in Brandy mode. Again was a rush. Pumping gas in my heels, leggins etc. made me feel soooo very fulfilled. Thanks everyone for the affirming comments!

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[Jillcder]

Brandybea you look great and what fantastic outing. I remember my first full fem outing 5 years ago and how nerve racking it was to take those first steps out of my hotel room now I don?t give it a second thought so hang on girl the desire to be in public is intense. Have fun!

[DianeT]

Congratulations BrandyBea. I don't often comment posts like yours out of fear that my wife would think I want to do the same (I don't), but I am each time very admirative of you people who have the guts to do it for the first time. This time I warned my wife that I would comment :)

[Brandybea]

Thanks for that Diane!

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Brandy Bea :hugs:, That was a great experience, The Journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step,

>>>>> >Orchid**0:daydreaming:0**

[MsEva]

That is a really cute outfit too. Congratulations on you outing! What fun!

[Karren H]

BTW you look really cute. Sort of look like the girl from Big Bang Theory.

Bernadette Rostenkowski-Wolowitz!! I was thinking the exact same thing! Could be her stunt double!!

https://bigbangtheory.fandom.com/wiki/Bernadette_Rostenkowski-Wolowitz

[Brandybea]

Thank you Eva!

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thank you Karen?I have been told that a few times before?I appreciate the link to get a look at my younger twin!

[Maria 60]

You look great and you should be very proud of yourself, I'm sure that took a lot of courage and I could only dream of accomplishing what you did. Looking forward to more outting stories

[Karren H]

thank you Karen?I have been told that a few times before?I appreciate the link to get a look at my younger twin!

I love her character! You need to nail her high pitched squeaky voice! Lol. You could be a YouTube sensation!

[TXSara]

Your story totally reminds me of the first time I went out in public. I had rented a hotel room, and I stood at the door for what seemed like an eternity.

I went out to the lobby where they had the "quick breakfast" set up, and grabbed myself a coffee. I was so nervous and shaky that I ended up spilling some of the coffee on the ground!! :o It got a lot easier over time, though... I my heart rate doesn't go up even a little bit anymore. I know that I get clocked everywhere I go, but it just doesn't matter.

Here's to many fun times in the future...

~Sara

[alwayshave]

Brandy, Good for you.

[PaulaJeanette]

Thank you for sharing your first time out with us Brandy. Sounds like a wonderful experience and time of your life! Paula feels good and happy for you! Hugs!

[candykowal]

Hi neighbor, or maybe fellow flatlander from the prairie state, guess I am a little late to your thread.
I too congratulate you for taking that "Leap of Faith" and educating yourself enough to understand this side of being feminine.
I think you look great for a lady of our age and figured you might want another friend so I sent you a friends request.
Now that you have that notch in your belt, can going out to a piano bar be a next step in affirming your feminine desires?
Only time will tell....enjoy these days, take plenty of photos and keep making those memories!!!!

[Brandybea]

Candice: Thank you so much for the friend request..Of course I accepted! Nice to meet a neighbor. I’ll keep moving forward when the opportunity arrives. I think next will be a nice dinner somewhere. I travel a good deal so who knows what opportunities will arise!

[Paula_56]

EVERYONE says the same thing, "What was I afraid of?"




I am continually amazed at the experiences I have while out in the world as a woman.
When I started going out into the world as a woman I was happy not to scare small children and animals. I travel all over the U.S. for business and use this time to go out and about in the world. I dress in business clothes and appear slightly better dressed then most women. I feel it?s important to blend in and not stick out and to dress age appropriate. I never thought that I could go to malls, get makeovers at MAC, visit the doctor, dine out, and enjoy museums. Over the years I?ve lost weight, improved my wardrobe, and developed my makeup skills. Today I am happy with my presentation as a woman. But even in my early days I?ve never had a problem with the public.

Self acceptance is the big hurdle. I went out a few times back in the 90?s and always felt like I was doing something wrong. Today I truly don?t care if I am read. I feel like a woman when I am out and about. The confidence builds, and helps you become more accustom to your role as a woman in public. What happens next is a slow evolution into womanhood the more you go out as a woman the more you want to go out as woman. With this your presentation improves.


It dawned on me one day and I wrote this statement a manifesto of self acceptance: I am 50 years old. I am hard working and have a successful career. I am financially successful, I am a dedicated husband and father. I give back to my community and I am active in my church. I strive to be caring, kind, and thoughtful. I don?t drink or abuse drugs. I am honest and trustworthy. This is a part of my personality that has caused me shame and anxiety for years. There are medical and biological reasons for this. It doesn?t make me an awful person, it means I?m different. I won?t feel bad about myself anymore.

[suzanne]

Wonderful story. Thanks for sharing. You look mahvellous, darling. If I could look as good as you, I would never hesitate to dress up for going out. But now that the first outing is complete and you found that no attacks or insults were hurled at you, you should feel more relaxed about the next time. It gets easier and more fun every time you go, and your confidence gets a boost each time, too.

I'm glad you had a good interaction with sales lady Noreen. I'll tell you a little secret about her, providing you never tell anyone else in this forum. She's the rule, not the exception. In my experience, ALL sales associates in shops like that ENJOY helping people like you and me, not merely tolerate us. I think it's partly because of the joy and appreciation we show from the experience of finding our authentic selves. I hope you make that same discovery, too.

[michellecd9999]

You look great and very passable so don?t worry about it. It is such a rush to be out as a woman and enjoy shopping, especially for lingerie and undergarments. Now that you have made that first step there will be many more!