Emma_Forbes
04-04-2006, 10:41 AM
Hi Girls,
Miss Controversial here again.
I see in a lot of posts that love is often the reason for a cd and so to stay together and that is very valid, precious and a reason for celebration. However, it is possible for it to work the other way round and from my own experience I offer this example.
After my marriage failed because of my crossdressing (according to her!) I was lucky enough to meet a gg who was fine and accepting about my crossdressing. I told her this almost right from the outset (third date or something). She loved me to bits, told me so as often as possible. Whilst Emma never surfaced while we were together, I am still certain that Emma would have been part of our relationship and supported fully by my g/f.
So what happened? I broke it off. Why? Because I had no real feelings for her. I didn't love her and couldn't see that I ever would. Some would say I was foolish (she certainly did) and sometimes when I think of the support I would have had, I am inclined to agree. However, it wasn't me and I could not allow the relationship to continue under false pretences. Even though my crossdressing is very important to me, I wasn't willing to ignore love as the basis of my relationship with her.
I'm not sure therefore if love made the relationship fail but certainly whilst crossdressing may have provided some incentive for the relationship, the lack of love meant it was not to be.
What am I trying to say? Having just read the post, I have no idea! I'm sure there's something valuable in there somewhere. Maybe it's about getting your priorities right and being true to what you believe and never letting your life be utterly dominated by one aspect of it. Perhaps it's that love is a tremendously powerful emotion equally able to hold people together and split them asunder. I don't know but I am envious of those in relationships and I wish I had it too, but not at any cost.
Em
Miss Controversial here again.
I see in a lot of posts that love is often the reason for a cd and so to stay together and that is very valid, precious and a reason for celebration. However, it is possible for it to work the other way round and from my own experience I offer this example.
After my marriage failed because of my crossdressing (according to her!) I was lucky enough to meet a gg who was fine and accepting about my crossdressing. I told her this almost right from the outset (third date or something). She loved me to bits, told me so as often as possible. Whilst Emma never surfaced while we were together, I am still certain that Emma would have been part of our relationship and supported fully by my g/f.
So what happened? I broke it off. Why? Because I had no real feelings for her. I didn't love her and couldn't see that I ever would. Some would say I was foolish (she certainly did) and sometimes when I think of the support I would have had, I am inclined to agree. However, it wasn't me and I could not allow the relationship to continue under false pretences. Even though my crossdressing is very important to me, I wasn't willing to ignore love as the basis of my relationship with her.
I'm not sure therefore if love made the relationship fail but certainly whilst crossdressing may have provided some incentive for the relationship, the lack of love meant it was not to be.
What am I trying to say? Having just read the post, I have no idea! I'm sure there's something valuable in there somewhere. Maybe it's about getting your priorities right and being true to what you believe and never letting your life be utterly dominated by one aspect of it. Perhaps it's that love is a tremendously powerful emotion equally able to hold people together and split them asunder. I don't know but I am envious of those in relationships and I wish I had it too, but not at any cost.
Em