Mothers

[heathr1]

Just wondering.

For those with brothers.

Were you attached/a little closer to your mother, or female guardian than your male syblings were?

I was.

I occasionally used to chat with mother about make-up, hair and watch her apply her make-up.

[Julie Avery]

I was the oldest of three brothers and was not closer to my mother than my brothers were. I went through what I think a lot of oldest brothers did, where parental demands for achievement and conformity in every aspect of behavior were high and rigid, and eased a bit with each successive child. My mother was very pretty and I knew that and was proud of it, but my childhood memories of our interaction are mostly of being harshly and frequently criticized.

Very differently than what you're thinking, I've wondered whether this had something to do with me subconsciously concluding that I would never be able to successfully fulfill what was expected of me in a male role. Perhaps when I dress as a woman I escape a whole inner world of self-doubts even more painful than those I have had to face as a crossdresser.

I was always interested in things like cooking and typing (which back in those days some still thought of as a woman role thing) and embroidery, and I was never allowed near the stove or typewriter or sewing kit (till I left home and got my own) because my mother considered the activities inappropriate for a boy.

[lela]

I had four older brothers and two older sisters. Being the baby of the family gave me a chance to bond with my mother. I think she knew of my desires at a very young age. I can remember around age eight or nine begging my mother to polish my nails, and she had to hide her lipstick because I was constantly wearing it. She died when I was fourteen, and my great aunt would to tell me about her conversations with my mother about her newest little girl. I've had these feelings from early childhood. I loved my mother very much, but I think I wanted to be a girl from day one.

[Jennaie]

I am the youngest of three, two older sisters, My mother and father were divorced, I was in a house full of girls, and yes, I was close to my mother, and I do remember putting on her makeup and her helping me with it. But I don't remember ever dressing in front of her. I always felt guilty about that.

[Diannna]

I believe I was attached to my mother, her sister ( my aunt ) and my grandmother. Although I had a younger brother and two younger sisters, I was the oldest by 5 years. I was adopted by what I know as my father when I was about 18 months. So, I guess that kinda makes me a bas*$#d. Of course I didn't find any of this out till after I was in my mid thirties.

[Glenda]

I'm the second of three sons and yes, I always had a special relationship with my mother. I'm not saying I was loved more because I wasn't. But the time I spent with Mom was quite different than that of my brothers.

[Veronica E. Scott]

Mothers

I was the second oldest of 4 boys, the youngest died shortly after birth but I dont think any of us were close to my mother she was a very cold person,but my grandmother on my farthers side was the perfect grandmother,soft, cuddly,warm ,very loving and to this day miss her a lot.

[JeanneF]

I'm the oldest of two boys, and I've always been way closer to my mother than my younger brother is. My mom has always joked about me being her daughter, in that I would always be up for going shopping, she taught me how to cook, I generally socialize better with my female relatives, etc. She doesn't know about Lisa yet, although that time is coming very soon (I've chickened out about a dozen times in the last few months), but I don't think she'll be too surprised.

[jjjjohanne]

I am the youngest of 5 and had a very good, close relationship with my mother. No one in my family ever encouraged my crossdressing.

Interesting topic!

Joe

[DonnaT]

I've 4 brothers, I was born second.

I don't think I was closer. I know #3 would always look for her, but she loved us kids all the same. I was closer to my mother's mother (Grandma) however, probably because she nursed me back to health using country remedies, when I was a baby and had pneumonia.

I was also closer to my Grandmother (dad's mom). My grandparents slept in separate beds, as my Grandad was a very restless sleeper. So, when we all went to visit, I always ended up in sleeping in my Grandmother's bed.

My Mom caught me, but never said anything. Now she knows and we can talk about it no problem.

[Katiegirl]

I am the youngest of 4 sons, although I was close with my mother,the subject of crossdressing only came up in conversation once after my ex outed me. I was just asked if it was true by my mother, I said yes and no more was said about it.

None of my family have ever said a word about it including my kids(they must know they were old enough when my marriage broke up). I don't bring up the subject either, sleeping dogs are best left alone is my policy.

:happy:

[carol ann]

I was brought up in my early years until the age of twelve when my mother married again,just by my mother and grandmother, as an only child.

For many years i shared a bedroom with my mother and used to watch her dress and make herself ready to go out in the evening. It was this I am sure that attracted me to beautiful lingerie

[Krystenw]

I was an only child for the first 6 years. My mother wanted a little girl but she got me. I didn't know little boys didn't wear dresses until I started school. After my brother came along and I was in school, I kind of just got pushed away, then when I was 9 my sister came along I was just the baby sitter. I think I wanted to be a little girl again just so my mother would pay attention to me. Then she went and died on me and I was never able to confront her about anything. So now I just spend most of my time in a dress or skirt and go on with life.

[Robyn2006]

I'm the youngest, having two older sisters... and a pretty absent father. This was certainly a factor as to my life choices/desires, I have no doubt, especially considering all the women in my family are completely drop-dead gorgeous and thrive so on their lures of femininity, spending no small amount of time in front of their vainity (vanities)... They were my roll models from day one. Seems my life was fairly well preordained from the get-go. But so often wonder how things might have turned out if I'd had a brother... But considering the women in my family, seems more likely we'd probably both now be exchanging makeup tips than tossing any damn football. :itsok:

Robyn

[ashlee chiffon]

do your sister know about your dressing and did they when you were younger? would have been kewl if they had helped you with the makeup tips earlier!

[joanlynn28]

I was the oldest of three kids, I have a younger brother and sister. There is two years between my brother and I and three between my sister and I. I have always felt a stronger bond between my mother and myself than towards my siblings. I am not as close to my brother and sister as they were towards each other growing up. So yes I feel stronger emotionally to my mother. It could also be the first born thing with me.

[Robyn2006]

do your sister know about your dressing and did they when you were younger? would have been kewl if they had helped you with the makeup tips earlier!

No, sadly they didn't/don't know... But you're so right, it would have been cool... INCREDIBLY cool, if I could have been within the glamour and glitz of my sister's lives as a kid - they were both such teenage vixens! How I longed to be among them, one of them! That I wasn't has always been such a known loss, void in my life. My oldest sister is to-die-for gorgeous, but never knew I followed so in her wake, dressing up to the nines within her clothes and makeup whenever the opportunity came. How I was never caught, I really can't say! When I come out, it will be her I first tell..., for of all my family, she will be the most understanding. I so long to sit next to her talking about it all in complete gala, just sister-to-sister. :itsok:

Robyn

[Barb Valentine]

I have one older brother and no sisters
I always felt very close to my mother

[livy_m_b]

I was always interested in things like cooking and typing (which back in those days some still thought of as a woman role thing) and embroidery....

Like Julie, my earliest "signs" were about woman's work/role rather than about clothing per se, but my mother welcomed that interest and we seemed to have a very close relationship. She shared things with me that she probably should not have, about her feelings for my father, e.g. But I was with her a lot, I helped wash and iron clothing, made bread, helped clean house, tried to learn to sew and to do embroidery and as far as I remember she was always okay with all of that. When people talk about having very early memories of dressing (my earliest memory - which is hardly diagnostic - is of wearing my mothers heels around the house), I keep wanting to ask - don't other behaviors than dressing count too? :) Not only was our relationship close, like others, my mother always wanted a girl, and I was the first child of her second marriage and perhaps her hopes were higher with me. I was also a twin whose twin died within a few weeks and was probably kept closer to her for a longer time. My hair was curly and was allowed to grow for years - not uncommon for little boys in those days. And inside the family, it was always said that I was the child who looked most like my mother, and I was happy with that. As many others have said in this thread or others, my mother always wanted a girl, and here I am! :)