Told my family about my crossdressing today!

[Gilly68]

Well, I went for a makeover in London this week, and I didn't tell my family where I was really going.

But I just didn't like lying to them.

So first of all I told my dad...
And he said fine, whatever, that's okay with me, I'm too old to worry about things like that, but didn't want to know anything else, he's one cool dad!

And then I told my brother and his family... And they were all cool with it as well... I showed them a picture of myself, and their comment was wow, it doesn't look like you! So... I'm a little bit shell shocked, both that I was brave enough to say something, and then that they're really not bothered what I do!

Just needed to share!

[Lana Mae]

Great news, Gilly! Thanks for sharing! Hugs Lana Mae

[Sidney]

Awsome. Sometimes the fears in our heads is worse than reality. Keep a doin watch ya doing.

[Allieboy]

It is so wonderful for you that your Dad and brother and family are so accepting. I have only told my wife of my crossdressing and she is okay as long as I keep it to myself. In my generation, (I am in my seventies) I experienced great shame when I would do any crossdressing even though it was always in private. Finally, I found a wonderful therapist who helped me understand my need to crossdress and to reach the belief that I was doing absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

[Gilly68]

Thanks so much ladies!

Sidney, It's absolutely true what you've said, that the fear is worse than the reality!

This week really has been a bit of a rollercoaster! A makeover on Wednesday, and coming out today!

I'm a bit stunned to be honest, but in a amazingly nice way.

I can really relate to you Allie, even though I'm a bit younger than you are. When I was growing up and trying on mum's clothes, back in the 80's, crossdressing was something to be ashamed of, and to be kept hidden, and that's just stuck with me all these years. But the truth is, most of our loved ones just want us to be happy, and don't really mind what we do! I'm glad you reached a good place in your life!

[Jolene Robertson]

That's great Gilly. The only ones in my family that know is my wife and youngest daughter who I just told this week. Enjoy your new found freedom.

[Gilly68]

Thanks Jolene,

Really pleased for you as well!

I'm not entirely sure what to do now, but at least I don't have to always be worrying about saying something that'll give me away anymore!

[Frannie7]

That?s great, Gilly. Kudos to you for taking the chance on your family and kudos to them for being so accepting.

[Maid_Marion]

Hi Gilly,

Great to hear you have such an accepting family!

Marion

[Davina2833]

Gilley,

Good for you!! What a relief, off your mind..it will get easier every day.

Love the shoes you have on in your profile, I got the same ones last month, Have worn them out two or three times, perfect size heels.....

Davina

[Stephanie47]

Happy to read that it worked out well for you. Sometimes I wonder why a reveal wipes out decades of a relationship. Did the person change from before the words were spoke to afterwards? If you showed them a picture from your makeover, of course they'd say "Wow!"

[Kimberly A.]

Congrats, Gilly! I'm happy that your family was supportive of your dressing. :) I wish my family would be supportive of it, but I can't tell them because they're way too judgmental and bigoted..... I have to go through links to hide my CD'ing from them. Well, except for the absence of hair on my arms but thankfully, my dad has yet to say anything to me about it.

Dang I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make this about me..... I'm glad some of y'all here have supportive and understanding families that you can go to about your CD'ing. :)

[DianeT]

Gilly, congrats for having the strength to open up to your family!
However, about the picture of you, may I ask if you offered to show it to them, or did they ask?

[Teri Ray]

Hiya Gilly,

Love your story and I am so happy for you. Its is always great to hear about strong loving familys who hang together. Best wishes for continued happiness.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Gilly :hugs:, You are out there now and there's no turning back now, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Gilly68]

That?s great, Gilly. Kudos to you for taking the chance on your family and kudos to them for being so accepting.


Thanks Frannie, I was pretty sure they would be okay with it, but there's that lingering fear isn't there that they might really not be able to handle it.



Hi Gilly,

Great to hear you have such an accepting family!

Marion


Thanks Marion, this week really has been a crazy one for me!



Gilley,

Good for you!! What a relief, off your mind..it will get easier every day.

Love the shoes you have on in your profile, I got the same ones last month, Have worn them out two or three times, perfect size heels.....

Davina


they are nice shoes aren't they! And nice and easy to walk in, especially compared to the crazy high heels I wore during my makeover.



Happy to read that it worked out well for you. Sometimes I wonder why a reveal wipes out decades of a relationship. Did the person change from before the words were spoke to afterwards? If you showed them a picture from your makeover, of course they'd say "Wow!"


Thanks Stephanie, I guess a small minority of people just can't cope with anything that's not in their normal world-view, and so react in a scared, unpleasant way. Luckily I think that small majority is getting smaller ever day. I think the vast majority of folks are like my family, as long as it makes me happy, they're fine with it.



Congrats, Gilly! I'm happy that your family was supportive of your dressing. :) I wish my family would be supportive of it, but I can't tell them because they're way too judgmental and bigoted..... I have to go through links to hide my CD'ing from them. Well, except for the absence of hair on my arms but thankfully, my dad has yet to say anything to me about it.

Dang I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make this about me..... I'm glad some of y'all here have supportive and understanding families that you can go to about your CD'ing. :)


Kimberly - Don't you worry at all about talking about your own family - I realise how lucky I am to have such an easy going family - sorry yours aren't very open minded and accepting. I hope your secret dressing at least provides some fun and comfort.



Gilly, congrats for having the strength to open up to your family!
However, about the picture of you, may I ask if you offered to show it to them, or did they ask?


Diane - I told them first, I think they were a bit surprised (obviously!) then I asked my niece if she wanted to see a picture, which she did, and then my brother and his wife wanted to see as well. That's when they all said wow, she's doesn't look like you!



Hiya Gilly,

Love your story and I am so happy for you. Its is always great to hear about strong loving familys who hang together. Best wishes for continued happiness.


Thank you for the sweet words Teri, it is such a weight off my mind!



Hi Gilly :hugs:, You are out there now and there's no turning back now, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**


Thank you! I know it's out there now... And I'm still trying to process everything I've done this week! I've been keeping it secret for so long, I don't really know what happens now, which is a good problem to have!

[kimdl93]

Where do you go from here?

[cindylouho]

Some impressive courage right there, way to go Gilly!

[Gilly68]

Where do you go from here?

You know what, I've no idea! I'm still a bit shocked I was even able to do it yesterday. I'm not going to visit any of them in a dress and heels, they're cool about it, but I think that would be very uncomfortable for everyone!

So I'm not entirely sure what happens next. I guess maybe not worrying about letting something slip accidentally, or leaving a pair of shoes or bra out when they visit!



Some impressive courage right there, way to go Gilly!

Thanks Cindy, I did feel so sick when I was about to do it... And I couldn't get my words out initially, and I thought I was going to cry! But I guess it worked out in the end!

[Allieboy]

Gilly, You are in a great place right now. Just take slowly whatever further steps you wish to take.

[Gilly68]

That's good advice, thank you. I might have told my family, but no-one else knows and that's how it's going to stay.

I'm really not sure what I want to do next! So I'll just carry on doing what I've been doing, probably, but with a little bit less worry about being discovered!

[Amy Lynn3]

Gilly, I envy you by having family and others around you to tell. This can be looked at as good or bad, but I have lived so long I have nobody to tell. At least that would even care.

As to what is next for you. If it were me I would seek out that special gg you could confide in. Friends to share with are wonderful. Just a thought.:love:

[Gilly68]

Thank you Amy Lynn, it is a relief to not have to hide. My family are cool and aren't bothered, I kind of wish they were more curious so I could talk to them about it, but I'm just happy they're okay with it.

I wish I had been able to tell my mum before she passed, but we all have regrets don't we?

I would love to find a nice girl (or even boy) to share this new part of my life with, but I'm so shy and introverted, I don't know if that will ever happen. Still, who knows what the future will hold.

[Bobbi46]

Gilly it takes guts and determinatioin to come out to ones family, but don't you feel so much better for having done so?. I did and never looked back. I live on my own and lost a few friends along the way but gained others in so doing not least finding a GF! life is now good for me and so it will be for you. And now you don't have anything to fear or hide from your family,
Good luck

[Gilly68]

Thanks so much Bobbi,

I do feel much better, that's true! I'm just in a bit of a daze at the moment, I don't know really know what comes next.

I'm so happy your life is going well!

Hopefully after everything I've done this week, mine will head in a new and positive direction as well!

[jaquie]

Golly,
That is a really cool story. Remarkable that you are shy and introverted yet you had the strength to let the girl out of the bag : ).
I liked so much of what you said but my favorite is what you said regarding making them feel uncomfortable about going over to visit in a dress and heels :heehee:

[Gilly68]

Thank you Jaquie,

I really don't do well with situations like that - I was sitting at Dads house for an hour before I told him, just trying to get the courage to do it, but lying about why I went to London was just one lie too many, so I had to do it.

It was quite nerve wracking just getting the words out, I kept stumbling over my words! I was so nervous, as he's in his late seventies and we don't talk about things like that at all! So I was pleased he was just like "yeh, whatever", basically!

For the rest of my family, I just told them I'd been for a makeover, and my niece just said like a drag thing, and I said sort of and showed them a picture, and that was it!

I don't think I'll really be pushing things any further just at the moment though, I'll just let them absorb it, and hopefully they might ask me about it at some point, I don't want to force them to talk about it, as that would just make things uncomfortable for everyone.

Maybe one day I will be able to show them Gill in the flesh, but that won't be a for a while! Still, one step at a time!

[Mermaiden]

Way to go! The rest of your life will be so much less conflicted with the real you and the visible you being in synch. If I had a time machine, I?d have done what you did 40 years ago.

[Gilly68]

Thank you!

It is a relief having told everyone important in my life.

Today's been a bit strange though, back to work after being off last week, so life's kind of back to normal, but I don't want it to be normal, I want my family to ask me questions, look at my pictures anything! If you understand what I mean?

Still, it's early days, so I'll just have to see how things go from now on!

[Teresa.Smith.VA]

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[Gilly68]

Hi Teresa,

Thank you for your nice words about my sharing my experience, and thanks for asking that very interesting question about the reasons for coming out, hopefully some other girls will respond.

As I said in earlier messages, in my particular case, it was just that not being truthful to my family, mainly about the reason for my visit to London which was the main spur to telling them.

I think I was still on a bit of a high from the whole makeover experience, and that gave me a little bit more courage than I might otherwise have had, so I decided it was now or never.

I know I'm very lucky in that they just accepted it and moved on, but I was secretly hoping that they would have been more curious about my cross-dressing, and wanted to know more, just so it would give an opportunity to talk about it after so many years.

The final reason that might have played a part was that I never got the chance to tell my Mum before she passed, even though I think she may have suspected, so I didn't want that to happen again.

I do agree that it will just be time that will reveal if they are truly OK with it though - I suspect in my case it just might not be mentioned again, unless I mention it.

So there are what I think are my reasons - hopefully it might spur a few others to respond.

[JulieC]

...but I was secretly hoping that they would have been more curious about my cross-dressing, and wanted to know more, just so it would give an opportunity to talk about it after so many years.... I suspect in my case it just might not be mentioned again, unless I mention it.

Hi Gilly!

Ok first, YOU LOOK FANTASTIC! :) Seriously. I'm incredibly envious. I look like a troll en femme. I scare myself. You...I mean....WOW!

Anyway...about your family being more curious; I think this moment for you is the dam breaking, and now that it has burst you want so much to talk about it. I've seen similar stories like this with husbands that tell wives, and then when there's some acceptance they absolutely overwhelm their wives with pink fog relief. In your case, that's not really an option, but the feeling is the same...and you want so much to share more of it, your feelings, thoughts, worries, and revelations. Yet...it's not there. It might be hard, but just accept that they know, and they are accepting. It's a wonderful thing. Ok, it's not the same as being able to relish the moment with them, but it is a wonderful thing.

[Gilly68]

Hi Julie,

Thanks for your lovely compliments - it's really cheered my morning up!

And I think you're absolutely spot on with your assessment of how I'm feeling - after so many years of never being able to tell anyone, it was like a dam breaking, and I did want them to be curious so I could tell them all about it.

There was definitely some pink fog involved in my case as well - after my makeover I was still on cloud 9 - is pink-courage a thing? Because I think I might have had some of that! I've only just come back down to earth!

But, you're also absolutely right that I'm so very lucky that they're accepting - I think I just need to be happy that nothing really has changed, but be grateful they are cool with everything.