First time out in public

[misschris]

I've decided to go out for the first time tomorrow. The outlet mall. I want a summer dress and skirt. Can y'all give me some advice on first time going out? I plan on shaving good, including legs, make up and wig. Just wondering about wardrobe for first time out...Please help.


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[Shelly Preston]

Wear what your would expect to see other women at the mall wearing.

Remember most people are too busy to notice you.

[Helen_Highwater]

Shelly's advice is spot on. Dress to blend not to stand out.

If you're not used to wearing heels out and about then don't wear them. It's amazing just how quickly your feet will start to hurt. Modest heels or flats. Try to keep your makeup to a minimum. Now here is the hard part. Walk with confidence. Head up, don't skulk, remember you have as much right to be there as anyone else.

One good thing you have in your favour is you know what you're looking for. You can browse with purpose and that'll help you blend in. Take your time looking through the racks.

The first few minutes will be the really scary ones. After that you'll settle down and soon get into the swing of things. One last thing. When at the check out, smile, make eye contact and chat to the SA.

Sorry, this is the last thing. Be aware, this is a genie that once out of it's bottle doesn't go back. You'll be wanting to do more...and more...and more. So glad I did it!

[AngelaYVR]

I would say dress to look nice which might be the opposite of blending, depending on your area. If you do not yet have something suitable for the day, then whatever is the most ordinary thing you have until you get that summer dress. My credo is that I have already broken twenty rules by stepping out the front door so I might as well wear what I like!

[Geena75]

I would say wear what makes you feel good, feminine, pretty. That adds to your confidence. Good advice on the footwear. Short heels, wedges, or flats are good alternatives to regular heels if you aren't used to walking in heels much.

[misschris]

Thanks for all the advice. I needed some reassurance. My biggest worry is speaking to some one. I don't have a girl voice.

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If all goes well, I'll try to find someone to take a pic. I'll post it here tomorrow night.

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I'll keep y'all posted on the progress. There is a skort I need to return first, I thought it was a skirt. Or I might just wear it since it has a brief under the skirt.

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There is a Claire's there. I want to get my ears pierced but I'm told you have to leave the studs in for three weeks.

[Leslie Mary S]

Photos did not make it.

[misschris]

Photos did not make it.

I haven't been out yet. It's midnight, stores are closed.

[MonicaPVD]

Don't worry about your voice. Speak softly and slowly and you'll be fine. That's much less jarring than some forced feminine affect that isn't fooling anyone. I have never modified my deep voice beyond speaking slowly and softly, and have never had an issue.

[misschris]

What was it like the first time you went out Monica?

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Chris :hugs:, Great advice sofar , Another thing si avoid direct Eye contact with others,>Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Cheryl T]

Keep your outfit in line with where you are going.
What will other women be wearing? Don't go dressed to the nines if it's a "Five and Dime" sort of place. Shopping is usually casual.

[tbryant2k16]

This morning I finally went shopping with a denim skirt on. I normally wear women's pants, shorts and tops all the time otherwise, but first time for a skirt. I also don't wear makeup, wig or anything else, pretty much a guy in womens clothes. Though you would be hard pressed to notice Many other guys were wearing loose knee length shorts, so a knee length denim skirt really isn't that big of a difference. One is bifurcated and the other is non-bifurcated.

[misschris]

Ok everyone. I'm about to do this. Showered and shaved and makeup is on, lightly. Wish me luck.

[Deborah G]

Good luck. Have fun!

[Angela Marie]

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Good luck. I remember well my first time out. It gets easier. Have a great time.

[Micki_Finn]

The first time is always terrifying. I at least had someone accompanying me. Good luck and have fun.

[misschris]

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I did it.

[Maid_Marion]

Hi Miss Chris,

Congratulations on going out in public!

Marion

[misschris]

I did it. Nobody really paid attention until you get close to them, Bought a new pair of rhinestone black pumps and 2 summer dresses from Rainbow. Asked two women to take my pic but they scrambled away quick. Stopped at the Chevron on the way home and a transgendered girl took my pic...how do I look?

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i wasn't as nervous as i thought I'd be. It felt great. Driving the car was fun, then just walked in the shoe store and tried on a few pairs. Then went and bought two new dresses. I talked to a photographer today, we are going to shoot in 2 weeks. I do photography too. Here's a link to my Model Mayhem page. want

https://www.modelmayhem.com/PhotosbyCP

I want to go out again.

[Geena75]

Very well done -- you look great! It is very habit forming so be ready to do so again! For ear rings, Claire's also sells clip on models, some are pretty nice, at least work a good look.

[JocelynJames]

Congrats on the first time out! Now you?re tied with me! I let my own anxiety get the best of me and haven?t been out since. It?s been almost 6 years. Maybe my nerve will return . Seeing others going out without issue helps . Nice blended look.

[misschris]

Next time I'll look better. Hairy arms bothered me and needed some make up on my pale legs. It was fun though, nobody seemed to care. Girl at the Chevron that took my picture was very supportive. The SA's at the shoe store and dress shop kinda looked at me but were nice.

[Leslie Mary S]

Funny thing is that the first two times I went out alone in my city, I too wore very short skirts. It was at a local gay club for DQ shows were I took photos. The third time I was a DQ performer at an amateur night.

[misschris]

What are your experiences about the first time going out? I felt confident getting out of the car. It was fun trying on shoes...toenails painted pink. I want to hear your stories about the first outing.

[Leslie Mary S]

I was a little apprehensive for my very first time out up in rural TN in a small town. That dissipated after about just 15 min, Being feminine dressed felt natural after that, it was as if it should be. The only area I get a little worried about is going into a public toilet.

[Xenia]

Nicely done, you look great! First time is BY FAR the hardest. Now that you’ve “broken the seal,” I think you might be surprised how quickly it becomes second nature.

[Natalie5004]

I remember my first time out. I went to my local grocery store. It was packed. I wore a summer maxi dress and heels. Heels were a mistake for me. But absolutely nobody noticed.
I even stood next to a woman that met me before in man mode. Not a blink of the eye.

I say, if you enjoy it , do it. As time goes by you will be better at blending and more comfortable.

[Krisi]

Many crossdressers seem to have a "thing" for heels. Heels are nice and feminine, don't get me wrong, but if you wear heals to the grocery store or Walmart, you will be clocked as a crossdresser the minute you walk in the door. Women don't wear heels to the grocery store or Walmart. It's the same with outfits. Don't get "dressed up". As much as you love that miniskirt, unless you want everyone in the store to make you as a crossdresser, leave that at home with your heels.

If you have any hope of passing or just blending in with the crowd, dress like a woman would dress for the occasion. Same with makeup. Wear just enough to hide the masculine features and beard shadow. Casual jewelry is fine and helps you to look like a female. Don't overdo it. And don't forget your purse.

The hardest part is learning to walk and carry yourself as a female. There are subtle differences that are important. Making and watching videos of yourself is a good way to see what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong.

[ronny0]

Totally agree with Krisi.... IMO do nothing to draw attention, unless that's what you are going for.
Spend a little time at the mall and notice what people / women / girls are wearing.
If you try to blend in, no one will notice or care.
But if you go out dressed to the 9's all eyes will be on you.
Pre Covid I did some people patching at a local mall.
Would guess one out of 50 maybe 1/100 women would be wearing heels.
For that matter, skirts & dresses were refreshing to see but sad to say not often worn.
In that area, shorts or slacks were the norm. From a distance many times hard to tell if male or female.

[misschris]

Thanks for all the feedback. I'm looking forward to going out again!

[AngelaYVR]

Just so you know, there is no hard and fast rule with regard to what you decide to wear (beyond not wearing something inappropriate for the venue). If you want to exude a little class and style then go right ahead. Personally, I think trying to blend in is a race towards mediocrity and a downright shame considering the choice of clothes that women have.

The true freedom of crossdressing in public is only realised once you stop caring about hoping people perceive you as a woman and you accept yourself for who you are. If I had spent my time trying to hide I would never have made all the great friends I have now, either. There is life beyond traipsing around malls wearing jeans.

[Leslie Mary S]

I like to dress for the mall with the look like I have something of "class" to do after I get done with shopping.

[misschris]

Just so you know, there is no hard and fast rule with regard to what you decide to wear (beyond not wearing something inappropriate for the venue). If you want to exude a little class and style then go right ahead. Personally, I think trying to blend in is a race towards mediocrity and a downright shame considering the choice of clothes that women have.

The true freedom of crossdressing in public is only realised once you stop caring about hoping people perceive you as a woman and you accept yourself for who you are. If I had spent my time trying to hide I would never have made all the great friends I have now, either. There is life beyond traipsing around malls wearing jeans.

I like your attitude Angela.