Part time newbie CD

[Missy Dawn]

Hi everyone,
I'm a newbie to crossdressing. I've loved to wear stockings and heels since I was a kid. I recently tried some panties and would like to try to expand to more things. I've talk to a couple of crossdressers on other sites and when they saw I had a beard they basically told me to shave or leave them alone. Well I've had a beard for decades and I'm not ready to shave it because I'm not ready to go public with my dressing. Is it a normal thing to ostracize some one especially a newbie for having a beard when I'm just start to really explore?

Peace and Love.
Missy Dawn :bighug:

[BTWimRobin]

Hi Missy,

Welcome to our little community. This lifestyle is a marathon and not a sprint. Move at your own pace and explore away. Don't let the girls on the other sites bully you into doing something your are not ready for.

Peace out!!,

[Liz Jones]

hi,
Since you are doing your own thing ( crossdressing ) why change ? The people who ostracised you are no better than the morons we meet in the street----- Keep your beard !
xxx Liz

[Missy Dawn]

Thanks hun. Thats pretty much what I thought but now I'm around some ladies I was wondering what was accepted.
Peace and Love,
Missy Dawn :Peace:

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Thank you for the encouraging words. I love your advice!
Peace and Love,
Missy Dawn :Peace:

[Sandi Beech]

Hi Missy Dawn,

If you are not going out in public, seems like it would not matter. You probably will not see many dressed with a beard, BUT every now and then drag performers will be sporting a beard, and I have to give them credit for being so bold.

Bottom line, dress how you like. I have gone out in hybrid mode myself and was surprised at the level of acceptance, but your mileage may vary of course.

Sandi

[Missy Dawn]

Thank you Sandi! Yes I've seen some with beards dressed and some are beautiful. I commend them for being so brave too. BTW I love your name :)
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn :Peace:

[Stephanie47]

One of the biggest problems is bullying. It does not have to be related to cross dressing. It's universal. Do your own thing in your own time. I had to chuckle a little when you were told by them to shave or leave them alone. I would suggest, if you're going to go out, if you have a beard or not, just wearing heels, hosiery and a panty may get you more than a comment. There are many of this site who dress in-home and have a beard. You're perfectly fine here.

[Geena75]

Speaking as a sister bewhiskered CD, there is still plenty of fun to be had. Just check my photo posts.

[Missy Dawn]

Hi Stephanie!
WOW what wonderful encouraging words. Thank you so much!. Big hugs and kisses!
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn :Peace:

[DanielleCD]

Hi Missy Dawn! Absolutely be you. Shave, don't shave, wear what you enjoy. It's all good here.

[Missy Dawn]

Thank you Danielle for the wonderful words. You smile is so beautiful and friendly!
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn :Peace:

[Pumped]

Hi everyone,
I'm a newbie to crossdressing. I've loved to wear stockings and heels since I was a kid. I recently tried some panties and would like to try to expand to more things. I've talk to a couple of crossdressers on other sites and when they saw I had a beard they basically told me to shave or leave them alone. Well I've had a beard for decades and I'm not ready to shave it because I'm not ready to go public with my dressing. Is it a normal thing to ostracize some one especially a newbie for having a beard when I'm just start to really explore?

Peace and Love.
Missy Dawn :bighug:

Some people are what I call renegade crossdressers. They are all in or nothing, makes no difference what anyone else thinks, even their spouse. The reason why many are divorced. There are a few here so watch out!

Dress at your own pace and style. Don't let anyone bring you down.

I am 62 years old and have been CD'ing for nearly 10 years and have yet to leave the house fully dressed. I wouldn't fool anyone anyway! I mix it up with some men's and women's clothing when I go out. Fairly generic stuff. I wear women's boots often. Chunky western style heeled boots that are kind of on the fringe. I also have a beard and mustache and my wife and I talk of doing a make over so it would get shaved off then, but it will grow back.

Around the house I might be wearing a nice women's dress, something you might see at church or a conservative gathering. I also have a few bodycon dresses, short, tight and loud! Most women wouldn't wear them! I also have some faux leather clothing, kind of kinky, fetish wear. I love stockings and lingerie and also high heels.

There are a couple guys here that do the MIAD, or man in a dress, beard and mustache, no attempt to appear anything more than what they are.

I think you will like it here. For the most part this is a pretty save and accepting forum.

[Gilly68]

Hi Missy Dawn,

Welcome!

Just like everyone else has said - there's no wrong or right, do whatever makes you happy!

Just enjoy it!

[DianeT]

Hi Missy, if we had to let others decide what to wear and how, this site would probably be named "Straightdressers.com". Whatever floats your boat is good enough for private dressing, and I suppose it should too when going out, but I guess in this latter case it depends on your level of tolerance regarding peoples' reactions. Advisors are not payers and I don't go out, so I won't give any recommendations there :)
I took a few pictures of myself dressed with a beard (no makeup no nothing) and find them fun.
There are many on this site doing like you. They usually refer to themselves as MIAD (man in a dress).
We are all different and that's our richness.
Welcome here.

[Helen_Highwater]

Dawn,

If you're dressing within your own 4 walls then how you do it is down to you.

You'll read about people's journeys for in truth that is what your dressing is. It's step by step developing your own style and wardrobe perhaps with the guidance of the good folks here. It is quite possible in the future you like many here, will find that those four walls which have protected you now constrain you. The desire to take your dressing to the next level and go out into the world will be too strong to resist. At that point it's possible you'll opt to lose the beard but even that isn't a given.

Folks here will always try to be supportive and helpful. There may be a time when folks tell you no don't or stop. That's usually because you're about to make a big mistake, one they themselves may have experienced and can vouch for the negative consequences. Take heed to such advice. Such is the experience and wisdom to be found here that ignoring such advice is asking for trouble.

Anyway, if you don't want to shave your beard, try your legs and put on fine hose. The first time you do that is something you'll remember all your dressing days.

[Sidney]

Hi Missy Dawn. Like others have said be you. Had to laugh, it funny how some people want acceptance but won't accept others. Makes no sense. I have very few male clothes, and I have a mustache for 40 plus years. I do not wear a wig and very little makeup. I go out dressed gal shoes, thigh highs,girl jeans and slacks, panties, bra, women's tops but not lacey. Very few comments and all those were positive. I have been snubbed by individuals transitioning to female, their problem. Be you. Be happy.

[April Rose]

Conchita Wurst, who won the Eurovision song contest in 2014, rocks a beard. She does it really well. If anything, crossdressing with a beard expands the possibilities in our tiny little corner of the gender spectrum. It doesn't diminish them.

You do you, missy; you do you.

[Missy Dawn]

Dear Pumped,
Thank you so very much for the wonderful words and encouragement! So far I love it here. I've been on here less than 24 hours and feel fully accepted!
Peace and Love
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Hi Gilly,
Thanks for your kind words!
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn

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Sweet DianaT,
Thank you for you words of advice and encouragement.
Peace and Love.
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Miss Helen,
Your words brought tears to my eyes, tears of joy for feeling loved and encouraged. Thank you You're an angel!
Peace and Love
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Dear Sidney,
Thanks for you sweet kind words. I love your courage of going out. You sound like you'd look cute!
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn

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Sweet April,
Thanks for the kind words! I looked her up and she does look beautiful.
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn

[Lana Mae]

First- do you!
Plaque at doctor's office: Let yourself Be yourself!
The first rule of crossdressing: #1 There are no rules! #2 See #1
Take your time and enjoy!
Best wishes on your journey!
Hugs Lana Mae

[Missy Dawn]

Thank you Lana Mae for your encouraging words. Big hugs back to you.
Peace and Love
Miss Dawn ✌️

[bridget thronton]

Welcome to the forum Missy dress the way than allows you to feel good about yourself

[mbmeen12]

You will find support here and that is is the site's main purpose, so welcome aboard sort of speak but you've been here since Nov 2020 a little late lol from me!



when they saw I had a beard they basically told me to shave or leave them alone.



To hell with them and it is your right to have a beard or what evs..

[Jolene Robertson]

Welcome aboard Missy

As the others have said, this site is about support and encouragement. Be your self and progress at your own pace. You have landed on the right site, read, share and ask questions. We are all on this trip together.

Hugs
Jolene

[Julie MA]

"Normal" here is a very wide range. Most are accepting of that full range, even if it means saying nothing. So, ostracizing is not common here.

Julie

[JennyMay]

I really hope and think that this site is about being yourself in a world that wants to restrict your self-expression. People cross-dress for many different reasons. Some are drawn to certain items of clothing. Some feel the need to express their feminine side. For some it’s sexual. For some it just feels ‘right’. For many of us it’s a mix. I think there are probably as many different reasons as there are people who crossdress. One thing I hate is the way the world tries to police (particularly) women’s self expression. I think as cross dressers we sometimes experience a bit of what that feels like.
There is only one of you. Don’t let anyone try and tell you you should be someone else.

BTW In Europe we have something called the Eurovision Song Contest. It’s a big Saturday Night TV show once a year. It’s really hyped but often not taken seriously. A couple of years ago it was won by Austrian singer Conchita Wurst.

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Conchita Wurst

[Sherrii]

Do what you like. Do not worry about what others might say. Progress as you feel comfortable and what makes it fun for you. If you aren't going trying to pass and go out it doesn't matter much what you are doing as long as it works for you. To progress you might want to think of trying a bra, girdle, or corset. Corsets can range all over the place in quality and price. Be aware. You might try "underdressing" and going out too? Anyway I think you will be welcome here. Sherrii

[Krisi]

re: "Is it a normal thing to ostracize some one especially a newbie for having a beard when I'm just start to really explore?"

Are you sure they were trying to "ostracize" you for having a beard? Is it possible that you took their suggestion the wrong way?

Personally, I would suggest getting rid of the beard, only because when you look in the mirror, it's impossible to see a woman looking back if the image has a beard. Maybe that's not your intent though so you can certainly keep it if you want to.

[Missy Dawn]

I guess I joined back in 2020 But at the end of November I had a seizure and then again in June. They took away a large chunk of my memory. So I just reinstated my account the other day. But thanks for the support.
Peace and Love
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Thanks for the support Bridget!
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Mbmeen I also wanted to tell that you have beautiful legs!
Missy

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Jolene thanks for the sweet and encouraging words! Big hugs back to you sweetie!
Peace and Love
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Thanks Julie!
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JennyMay Thank you so very much for the wonderful reply to me. Some else one told me about Conchita and i think she's beautiful! Thanks again for your encouragement and I love your beautiful smile.
Peace and Love
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Thank you so much Sherrie! Your kind words made me feel so good. I have thought about trying to get all three of those items I just think they'll look and feel wonderful and so sexy.
Peace and Love
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[Aunt Kelly]

Let me be crystal clear about this, right up front... You have every right to be who you are, even if that means you want to be a bearded lady. Just be clear that presenting in public that way is, to a certain extent, hurtful to the cause of acceptance for those of us who wish to be seen and treated as one gender. If you identify as a male and deliberately present as a man in a dress, that is a choice. Again, I totally recognize your right to make that choice but I insist that you recognize that, to the less-informed public, your choice reinforces the notion being any kind of TG is a "choice".

[Missy Dawn]

Krisi,
Yes she was ostracizing me because she started out knowing that I had a beard and was said I should shave but then got to start knowing me better and was ok with it and was trying to get very involved with me. Then the next day she said she just can't handle the beard and if I wasn't willing to shave that I shouldn't contact her again. And btw I do see my beautiful female side when I look in the mirror because I'm all me no matter what.
Peace and Love
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Thanks Aunt Kelly,
I'm closeted and don't intend to go out in public. I just enjoy myself at home. Thanks for your response.
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn :Peace:

[DianeT]

If you identify as a male and deliberately present as a man in a dress, that is a choice. Again, I totally recognize your right to make that choice but I insist that you recognize that, to the less-informed public, your choice reinforces the notion being any kind of TG is a "choice".
What a questionable ask. I don't think anyone going out with a beard and female clothes has anything to "recognize" since they're not responsible for this particular problem you describe. If it was to mock TGs then ok. But it's not. Your freedom to be what you want to be should never be at the expense of others' freedom to do the same. And this is oblivious to the fact that there may be people for whom going out with a beard and female clothes isn't a choice but a need. But they don't do it, because they get both muggles looks IRL and these sententious remarks in the forums. Live and let live please.

[Sallee]

just be yourself If it feels good and doesn't harm go for it. There are folks here who were heels and skirts and a bald head There are others with a beard. You sound intelligent so you know some one might say something So What. Have fun enjoy yourself

[Missy Dawn]

Thank you Diane :hugs:

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Thanks for your kind words Sallee :hugs:
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn :Peace:

[Britney Summers]

I don't see the big deal, as you only do it at home. I don't always shave either.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Missy Dawn :hugs:, In the Crossdressers Hand book,

Rule #1 says The only Rule is That there are No Rules, You make your own Rules, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Missy Dawn]

Thanks Britney!
Peace and Love
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Hi Blue Orchid :hugs: back at ya!
Thanks for the reply sweetie!
Peace and Love
Missy Dawn :Peace:

[NewSally]

I?m in the exact same boat Dawn. Bearded, but love, love, love wearing panties, and anything else I can get my hands on, but could never, ever pass. Still, always exciting when I pull up some panties.

[Pumped]

What a questionable ask. I don't think anyone going out with a beard and female clothes has anything to "recognize" since they're not responsible for this particular problem you describe. If it was to mock TGs then ok. But it's not. Your freedom to be what you want to be should never be at the expense of others' freedom to do the same. And this is oblivious to the fact that there may be people for whom going out with a beard and female clothes isn't a choice but a need. But they don't do it, because they get both muggles looks IRL and these sententious remarks in the forums. Live and let live please.

I agree. That is suggesting that the MIAD doesn't have gender issues to deal with.

IMO, just because you go out as MIAD you probably have similar gender issues many of us deal with but choose to go out as a man. I get the urge and strong desire to be a woman often, but I have decided it will never happen. I doubt I will ever pass, but the desire to go out in skinny jeans, high heels and a nice blouse is strong. I feel I could pull off some more endogenous outfits in public.

[SissieScott]

Missy, don't let others dictate what to do or not to do..... There is a wide range of reasons why people cross dress. Some to be passable, some to be female, or like me....for COMFORT.
My hand is over my mouth in my profile pic to cover my goatee. While I shave my body, I still keep facial hair for male mode. It's whatever "floats your boat".

[MonicaPVD]

Many of us are consumed with the illusion of passing, of hopefully, one day, being embraced as the women we are or want to be. They work really really hard at trying to "pass" and usually have all kinds of hangups over any masculine traits that make this endeavor harder than they'd like. That kind of person is typically repulsed by the idea of a MIAD or a bearded crossdresser. You just don't fit into their ideal.

However, among the younger generation, and particularly in more coastal, progressive places, the MIAD approach has gained great popularity. I often seen twenty-something guys with their lumbersexual beards casually sporting dresses, without a care in the world.

While I must confess that this does not fit neatly into my ideals, I think it's wonderful that society can see a guy with a beard in a dress and not melt down. That's called progress.

So keep doing you and don't listen to anyone. I'm sure you look fantastic.

[Missy Dawn]

Hi Sally,
Thats how I am slipping on a silky pair of stockings and heels

Peace and Love
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Hi Pumped,
Thanks for the kind supportive words hun.
Peace and Love
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Hi Sissy,
Thanks for your support! LOL I thought you were covering to look cute, and btw you are. Have a wonderful day!
Peace and Love
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Wow Monica thanks for the wonderful message. I just feel that people shouldn't judge others for what they do when it doesn't fit their ideals. Especially in a forum like this website. Judging is judging and I would think that the women in here should understand that we all aren't alike. or differences is what make us so special and beautiful human beings.
Peace and Love
Missy:Peace:

[Cheryl T]

Hi Missy,
Don't let a few ruin it for you. Do your thing and be yourself. For years I had a moustache and never shaved my legs. Then I reached the point where I was ready to be me and all the hair went, never to return. When it's right for you then it's time. Just enjoy being you.

[Missy Dawn]

Thank you Cheryl for your very supportive message!
Peace and Love
Missy :Peace:

[JenniferMBlack]

Here in Vegas we have two very active drag performers. One is called Norma Lee Aman (normally a man) and the another Felinda Bush ( fell in the bush) both have beards. Also there are other cross dressers around with beards. So don't feel like you would be the only one.

Now at the very least cross dressing puts you into a gender non conforming role. If you are not conforming to one then why sorry about conforming to the other? To me it seams rediculous to set rules for those bending or breaking the rules already. Don't worry about what others tell you and do your own thing. If you weren't ok with that you probably wouldn't be cross dressing.

[Missy Dawn]

Jennifer thank you so much for your message. I'd love to see some beautiful girls with beards. I may just have to go to Vegas. Thanks for your encouraging words. I agree it's odd the non conforming people get upset at someone else being non conforming just in a different way from them. I will follow my own path. And like a friend pointed out the comments from them are their way of trying it encourage me not necessarily putting me down, and if they are oh well thats their choice. I'm not going to judge them. Thanks again! :hugs:

Peace and Love
Missy :Peace:

[NewSally]

Of course Missy!! Stockings and heels just send me reeling. The sensation of the silky hose on my legs is almost more than I can bear.

[Missy Dawn]

Oh baby I know the feeling. I've loved that feeling since I was a kid! Glad to see you I left you a message in the introduction thread.
Peace and Love
Missy :Peace:

[Erin Lafleur]

Do what makes you feel comfortable Missy Dawn, it's where you will eventually end up anyway!
I've tried the whole passable thing and going outside and found that it simply wasn't for me. I found it more stressful than satisfying. To each their own.
I now enjoy wearing a short trimmed beard in my outside male world and have no desire to change that anytime soon. I feel just as feminine when I'm dressed regardless of what the mirror tells me. It's not how I look to others that's important to me (although I recently started shaving my legs and chest for the first time ever). I love how my legs now look in stockings and how my breasts look in my bra and lacey v-necks. It's all about what I see and feel that makes me feel feminine. That's my sweet spot. Hopefully you will find that soon!

[Ressie]

I shaved my facial hair off for good about 15 years ago. I wasn't even going out in public yet. I just hated the way I looked at home in the mirror - en femme with a beard. It's very incongruous IMO and when going out with the girls I'd rather that none of them are sporting a beard. It might bring the wrong kind of attention to the whole group.

Except Phil! Phil looks great in a dress/beard combo.

[Missy Dawn]

Thanks Erin,
I love your attitude. I feel just as fem and sexy with my beard because when I dress up I'm looking at what I'm wearing and not my face since I don't wear make up or a wig. I would love to have someone help me do my eyes up dark and sexy, I love the sexy/****ty look. And i don't care what anyone else thinks because it's for me and my pleasure. Thanks for tell me about your experiences. Have a wonderful day hun.
Peace and Love
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Thanks for your comments Ressie
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[NewSally]

I think we all dress to please ourselves first and foremost Missy, and as long as we're having a good time doing that, who cares what others may think, right?

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Oh baby I know the feeling. I've loved that feeling since I was a kid! Glad to see you I left you a message in the introduction thread.
Peace and Love
Missy :Peace:

What is it about the simple act of sliding hose onto our legs that is so enticing? For me, much more so than so many other things I do or wear.

[Missy Dawn]

Sally Thanks for the sweet words!
Peace and Love,
Missy:Peace:

[docrobbysherry]

I'm wearing a beard and stash in my avatar pic and this one. In fact? I'm wearing them in practically every pic I have posted here! Which is A LOT!:devil:
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[NickieWild]

Living the same way here. It's a game, and I put what I want into that game, because it is my game. I wont bring permanent change to myself to enjoy my game a little more. That is my way of seeing things.

[NewSally]

Erin - I can only imagine what it must feel like to have your legs and chest shaved for the first time. I would most definitely do that as well, but then, there's the wife. i'm completely in the closet, have a beard, and she would be super suspicious if I were to even shave my beard, let alone anything else!

[Missy Dawn]

You always look so sexy!

[Erin Lafleur]

I'm not going to lie Sally, it feels wonderful!
My legs look great in stockings I must say and I'm working on creating cleavage through contouring with makeup (I have a ways to go apparently but it sure is fun)!
Almost all of my summer dresses and blouses have plunging neck lines and coupled with my always lacey bras and slips it's... simply magical to look down on the girls in all of their spendor. Makes me feel very feminine!
I may be in the market for a Nubra or some form of adhesive cups to create a more fuller cleavage so if any of you girls have any recommendations, I'm all ears!

[NewSally]

Erin - I definitely agree. Your legs DO look great in stockings and heels! Creating cleavage will just add so much more to your journey I'm sure, especially now that you've shaved your legs and chest.

Have fun!

[Elise B. wren]

Hey there missy! I'm really sorry to hear that's how your reception turned out. I want to make it clear that crossdressing Is not solely about passing. It's an unique experience for every single crossdresser, and each one has its own pace and limits. You can take your time to explore the world of crossdressing, just keep being true to yourself and respect your own limits.

Just like I said, passing is just a minor part of crossdressing, even though it's quite rewarding. Crossdressing is about experimentation and exploration. There is no right way to start, you can do so as you please. If you feel insecure about crossdressing outside, keep doing that just for yourself, there is nothing wrong with that. Take your time to practice and improve your abilities, and get used to your feminine side: get to know yourself! This way, you'll figure out exactly which aspects of crossdressing are the ones for you. The way you choose to express yourself won't make you less valid.

Now, as a newbie, I guess you could use some tips from more experienced crossdressers, and you came to the right place. Even though you had a rough reception on other forums, I can assure you that you?ll find a lot of useful stuff online. I?ve learned about the term ?crossdressing? about 8 years ago, but since before that I was already interested in exploring my feminine side. Through the internet, I've learned a lot of techniques that I still use, and it helped a lot in the process of exploration. So please, do not give up just because some strangers were mean to you.

About your beard, please do not feel compelled to shave if you don?t want to. Insecurities are very common in our lifestyle, so it's completely comprehensible if you want to do that. If you want to pass as a woman, but really don't want to shave, you can get a silicone female mask. They are getting more realistic everyday, and I think you could start with the ones from the Roanyer company. They are pretty good in terms of quality, and quite affordable. If you want to explore and see if that's your thing, give it a try.

[Natalie5004]

I'm not going to lie Sally, it feels wonderful!
My legs look great in stockings I must say and I'm working on creating cleavage through contouring with makeup (I have a ways to go apparently but it sure is fun)!
Almost all of my summer dresses and blouses have plunging neck lines and coupled with my always lacey bras and slips it's... simply magical to look down on the girls in all of their spendor. Makes me feel very feminine!
I may be in the market for a Nubra or some form of adhesive cups to create a more fuller cleavage so if any of you girls have any recommendations, I'm all ears!

It works for sure. I do not have a brand recommendation but if you want cleavage and have some extra skin to work with, it is magic.

[Missy Dawn]

Elise,
Thank you so very much for such a wonderful and loving post. You have been so helpful and sweet about it!
And I would love to be added as a friend if thats ok with you!
And OMG the face masks are so beautiful as are the pretty breast forms. Thanks for the info

[Swottie]

Hi everyone,
I'm a newbie to crossdressing. I've loved to wear stockings and heels since I was a kid. I recently tried some panties and would like to try to expand to more things. I've talk to a couple of crossdressers on other sites and when they saw I had a beard they basically told me to shave or leave them alone. Well I've had a beard for decades and I'm not ready to shave it because I'm not ready to go public with my dressing. Is it a normal thing to ostracize some one especially a newbie for having a beard when I'm just start to really explore?

Peace and Love.
Missy Dawn :bighug:

Keep your beard and wear whatever you want, some people just love to tell others what to do, how to think and how to act. Don't listen to them, if you're not trying to pass, then why worry about removing the beard?

I'm sure you will come to a natural conclusion when the time is right for you to take that leap.

Welcome to this little (mostly) friendly corner of the internet.

Sometimes I think those people still have too much testostorone in them, and they feel the need to exert power over others to make themselves feel superior. They may also use fancy words to argue why they are right and you are wrong. Ignore them.

[Rachel05]

If there is one thing that I have learnt from this site and take form this site is that we are all very much individuals, we all have our own stories and we all thrive on different levels, the thing I love about being me is exactly that, I am me

You just need to find your way, I have been dressing for over 50yrs now and I know for certain who I am deep inside

Stick at it, see what makes you feel good

[jacques]

hello Missy Dawn,
If you cross dress in private and do not wish to present as female in public, just do it. That is what I do. And, yes, I have not shaved my face since I was 17 years old. I cross dress because I like to clothes. No one has the right to criticize you (or me) for wishing to keep our facial hair.
stay healthy!
Luv Jacques

[Bobbi46]

As a close friend of mine who walked in one day and saw me in a skirt blouse, boobs , when I explained things to him, he said " what you do in your own home is none of my business and not for me to criticise" as for the anti's on the other site, two things, don't listen to them, and i would not visit that site again.
Beard and dressing? why not, you are in your own home, doing nothing wrong and just getting pleasure out of being able to be "you" to express the woman that you feel is within you.
I have to say that anybody saying what was said to you on this site would come unstuck with the mods. here it what one can rightly say a "safe haven" full of support and advice freely given to help you on your journey, whatever that me. Whether it is help with clothing, make up or even advice on going out should youy wish one day to that.
In any case being here is a lifeline to be enjoyed, so stick with us and enjoy.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

If you want to pass, something I know nothing about, then you'll want to shave. If you're happy being a guy in a dress, I don't see how the beard can possibly interfere, unless it's a ZZ Top style beard and it gets stuck in your bra.

[Kris Burton]

Hi Missy...like yourself, this newbie crossdresser sports facial hair also - a goatee (actually a van dyke technically) in my case. I may shave it though, but only because it keeps getting stuck in the lipstick.

[Erin Lafleur]

It works for sure. I do not have a brand recommendation but if you want cleavage and have some extra skin to work with, it is magic.

Thank you Natalie, I'm ordering a NuBra tonight... wish me luck!

[susanmichelle]

In reference to men that dress with a full beard. The only time I?ve ever seen that is usually on Halloween and I?ve seen many men with beards and a dress lipstick some with earrings too hoops and the like. But that?s the only time I?ve ever seen it in my area as I said at Halloween and mostly in and around gay clubs or around the time of their floor shows with cross dressers female impersonators or transgender. I hope o covered everything my apologies if I didn?t.

[xam]

When you are ready or feel like it then you will shave it off and complete the look you want. I have a goatee (around 15 years ago) when I first started and one day I just felt like it is time and the rest is history.

[AshleyClaireSnider]

As someone earlier said, you could always try a silicone mask if you want to keep your male face intact but feel it's incompatible with your female persona. I know that could feel kind of claustrophobic, though. I have recently ordered one from Dreammask/Celesmask since I get serious image issues seeing my head on top of a femme look.

[Linda K.]

Hi Missy,
I too am a newbie and I want to explore a complete conversion, makeup and wig, the whole works. However, I still have a roommate that wouldn't understand my desire to crossdress but he will be moving out in the near future. Once he does, I will be able to explore as much as I want and one day have the confidence to go outside dressed up as well. I do when he is out of town and go outside at night, it is exhilarating! I do have facial hair and I usually shave once a week, I don't like shaving but I don't like facial hair either. Weird, right? However, it is my choice and it should be yours as well. When you are ready, you will make the right choice for you!

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