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We see so many posts planning with such glee the times you have to dress when either you are going on a trip or the wife ( family) is away so you can dress freely.
Do you at times wish you lived alone ? Does the thought cross your mind? Do you wish things would be different? And how so?
I will write more later.
Just wondering.
Jillian Faith
07-25-2021, 08:33 AM
I'll start with a No I don't wish to live alone. My wife has been fighting Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer sine June of 2015. I don't know how much more time I have with her but I cherish every moment I have with her.
Raychel
07-25-2021, 08:48 AM
I have lived on both sides of the fence
I was married and dressing in secret for a while
I told my then wife and she was DADT for a while.
Then became more accepting and I was able to dress whenever I wanted
then separated and now living alone and am free to dress whenever I want
Sure I do prefer dressing, But certainly would not risk family or friendship for my dressing time.
the failure in the marriage certainly had nothing to do with my dressing. Just so that is clear
I was the one that had enough and decided it was over
PS: thanks for stimulatingly the forum and creating some thought about a post. :)
kimdl93
07-25-2021, 08:56 AM
Interesting question. I have been alone now for more than 5 years, but not by choice. I have been able to dress as I wish when I choose to do so.
Does this make up for the loss of a partner? For me, the answer is No.
But honestly, after two long marriages, each ending due to my own mistakes and bad judgement, I am unwilling to make the effort to start a new relationship.
Cheryl T
07-25-2021, 09:11 AM
My background is similar to Raychel.
Being an only child I had time to myself as both parents worked.
I married and stayed in the closet stealing time when I could, always on pins and needles, but loving the time I had to myself.
She discovered me and it became DADT. That lasted nearly 20 years till I could no longer remain in the closet.
I told her of my need for expression, we talked and talked and she agreed to try. After some time, more talk, joining a crossdressers group and talking with others she became accepting and I was free to dress when I please. We also would go out together and with others from the group.
Now I dress daily and she's fully accepting. There are stretches of a week or so where I am 24/7 before something requires me to be in drab. The family is unaware as are most of the neighbors so some privacy is maintained.
Do I wish I was alone? No, I love sharing all of me with my wife and wish it could have happened long ago so that those moments I stole from her to be me could have been shared with her as well.
Teri Ray
07-25-2021, 09:17 AM
I do not wish I lived alone. I am lucky to have a wife who is supportive. We have agreed boundaries and life with my lovely wife is wonderful and I would not change a thing.
CarlaWestin
07-25-2021, 09:27 AM
I have had thoughts of it being better to be alone for the sake of CD'ing. But, the reality is that my wife makes my heart beat.
Total DADT and there will never be any give in that situation. On the other hand, I don't have to hide anything.
And I get plenty of privacy to dress up. I've had times of extended alone time and truly enjoyed the 24/7 experience.
Except the loneliness that eventually creeps in to the situation. Cd'ing is something I'm obsessed with and totally enjoy.
But my relationship with my wife is far more important. She's the love of my life.
Stephanie 334 recently posted about the "new normal" of being alone. I tried not to empathize too much but failed. Reading and relating to the story caused me to have a panic attack thinking of the health situations my wife and I have been in over the 3 decades. It's a HUGE NO to being alone for me. She tolerates my dressing and the complications it brings and I appreciate her for it. We both wish it were easier.
Stephanie47
07-25-2021, 09:52 AM
No. I do agree with your assessment and probably fall into that category of dressing when alone or on a trip. My wife and I are in a deep DADT. Before she fully retired I had many days per week to fully dress. I did all the domestic chores a la June Cleaver. When she would visit our daughter or her cousin out of state for a week to ten days I could and did dress 24/7. I miss those opportunities and wish my wife did have some interests that would give me some Stephanie time. In the beginning I was always grabbing those "crumbs of time" as I call it. The nerve racking thing is not being able to fully express myself with the person I love. I will say, if my wife were to pass away before me, there would be no way in hell I would ever be put into a restrictive relationship again.
JocelynJames
07-25-2021, 09:53 AM
Di,
I have an accepting/ supportive wife and I can dress when I want . We pretty much spend our free time together , and I?ve lived alone before I met her for a few years. For the amount I dress, I?m happy that she?s here.
Beverly Phillips
07-25-2021, 09:56 AM
I absolutely love being a part-time woman. In fact, I'm obsessed with the idea. If I was 40 yrs younger with the resources, I would become the beautiful young lady that I can now only dream of being. Even if I had a fairy godmother who could wave her magic wand and make this dream come true, I would not request it. I have one thing that I would not trade for the opportunity to live the rest of my life as the woman I so long to be... and that is the loving relationships that I have with my family members. That being said... If I had one wish, I would wish to live in parallel universes so that I could live out both scenarios! teehee. I know that's cheating... but hey... it's my wish! lol. 😉
Pixie_94
07-25-2021, 11:09 AM
No idea to be honest. I have been busy with some things to even consider any of this without guilt or even frustration appearing.
Teresa.Smith.VA
07-25-2021, 12:18 PM
Do I at times wish I lived alone? Does the thought cross my mind?
No, never, absolutely not, even for a nano-second. I am one of those really, really lucky guys who has an amazing supportive, understanding and participating wife who has never restricted me.
In fact, almost all of the time when I dress as Teresa for a day, a few days, or even longer periods when on vacation travel, is when we are together.
When I dress alone to live out my fantasy that I am a pretty feminine woman is lots of fun. But nothing beats being with my wife who is great at pretending to be my girlfriend and for us to just have fun together. In reality though, is matters not what persona I present, the two of us are happiest when we are together.
Sometimes Steffi
07-25-2021, 12:19 PM
I can't say that I've never thought about it.
My relationship with my wife is DADT. I just took a quick shower, all the time worried that my wife would get unglued from watching the Olympics and come up and see my painted toenails.
Unlike many of the rest of you, my wife and I are more like housemates rather than lovers.
So, I do think about it from time to time.
jennspadeCD
07-25-2021, 01:54 PM
I divorced 3 years ago ( wife left me) - Now I am very happy for the time being and am able to CD when I want- I LOVE living alone ! I love being single and free ( I was married for 23 years so I dont want to go back there ever again) If I was married right now I would not dress though ( I used to dress some rare times secretly- the wife never knew) Im a bit of a lone wolf, I am a bit eccentric and I am at peace and love my times of solitude. Its not like I dont get out and about though.
suzy1
07-25-2021, 02:21 PM
I live alone and my life is really good. I visit my family all the time. But when I get home and close the door I am Suzy. Its the best of both worlds for me.
Alice Torn
07-25-2021, 02:34 PM
I never have been married nor had a SO, but i have had housemates and i had to hide it all, from the guy and women i shared places with Have lived alone for 13 yrs now. but very seldom have dressed the past year. Health problems, loss of job, moving a lot, and my mental and emotional and social health issues, too. I need to change and get well, and sometimes i just totally isolate myself in my own world, and dressing makes it even worse, as a loner, and isolating, and i am trying to quit for good.
Lana Mae
07-25-2021, 02:37 PM
Well, I am Lana Mae 24/7/365! I live with my daughter who is totally accepting! My wife passed away over 5 years ago! I did not really start dressing until she passed! I do get lonely at times for the holding, hugging, and cuddling! I am holding my options open but am not really looking for anyone, but... LOL Hugs Lana Mae
CharlotteCD
07-25-2021, 04:21 PM
I don't want to live alone. I do want more time alone though.
I'm the type of person that needs time alone to recharge, and also craves time alone to dress. It's no reflection on my wife or daughter, but on me.
BLUE ORCHID
07-25-2021, 05:09 PM
Hi Di :hugs:, I almost lost My:love:Wife to a Major Heart Attack four years ago
and I thought I would not be able to go on, Now we have been Married 57 years
Five Bypasses Later and life is Great, We have a very workable DA/DT She knows about Everything
but just don't want to see me while I am Dressed,
She Did Pierce my Ears for me 6 Years ago, >Orchid **O:daydreaming:O**
Gardener
07-25-2021, 05:18 PM
These have been so hard times to navigate that I am glad I am not on my own even if it means dressing is limited. The damage to mental health through isolation alone would be far greater.
sara66
07-25-2021, 07:10 PM
I was single until I was 39. I enjoyed my time alone. If something happened to my wife, I would not have a problem going back.
Sara
Britney Summers
07-25-2021, 07:38 PM
Yes I wish I lived alone, as things are kinda getting rocky nearly 18 years in.
Sandi Beech
07-25-2021, 08:25 PM
Di,
I can not say this is true for anyone else. I have always had to do some travel for work during my 35+ years of marriage. In my case I think that occasional separation ( for work ) is beneficial. We get breaks from each other, and I think it might make us appreciate each other a little more.
Although I look forward to being able to get away for a while and dress up, that does not equate to wanting to be alone. Honestly I think my lifestyle would not be as healthy without my wife. Maybe that is why I think I read somewhere that married people tend to live longer.
So no I would not want to live alone but it would be nice if my wife could be slightly tolerant of dressing. It is just not going to happen so I quit trying. I just dress when we are away from each other and in doing so keep the peace. Some people find that distasteful but it works for me - at least so far.
Sandi
Amy Lynn3
07-25-2021, 08:51 PM
I have been single for 15 years and at first I thought I wanted to be married again. Now that time has passed I have chosen to live alone, but I do enjoy a somewhat healthy dating routine. I date when I want and stay alone when I want.
Maria 60
07-25-2021, 09:16 PM
I'm one to say I hate living alone, I get so down and empty when being alone. Last year my wife and kids went to our summer home for a few weeks. The first few days I dressed like crazy and then after I let the stem out I got very lonely and miss the action and drama of having the family away. I believe a few days to let it out is a good thing but that's pretty much it for me for alone time.
Geena75
07-25-2021, 09:46 PM
I would not like living alone at all, even though it means being secretive with a wife who would be totally non-accepting. Here's why: It was during a two week absence, when I had the place to myself during the day when the kids were at school, that I explored more deeply into crossdressing in answer to the angst I felt. Needless to say, I enjoyed it and still do, but not the alone-ness. I would like the occasional day to myself for some CD fun, though. I'm glad not to be alone since it provides a regulator to keep my 'peculiar pastime' in check, so I don't do too many stupid things. I do have ample things which need to be done which could be neglected if I had unlimited free time to dress up.
Princess29
07-26-2021, 01:14 AM
I have spent much of my adult life being alone (aside from a wonderful family but it would be nice to have my own circle and group) and have lived on my own for 12 years now. Almost no friends and no social life even when there's no global pandemic on. I can dress any time I like, however I like but usually don't bother getting dressed up and if I went out, it will be on my own or sitting in a room full of strangers.
For those who have a hectic family life and/or those who have been struggling during lockdown etc who are craving for some space, I hope you get it but as the old saying goes, be careful what you wish for because you just might get it
SissieScott
07-26-2021, 04:53 AM
I would NOT want to live alone. Before meeting my current wife I lived alone and dressed whenever I wanted, but never felt fulfilled. It is so much more fun to have someone to share it with. Not to mention the tips, tricks, and help with zippers and bra straps. Even male mode in public , we have fun with inside jokes, innuendos, and "If they only KNEW" moments" because I am under dressed :heehee:
SaraLin
07-26-2021, 07:34 AM
I'm torn.
I love my wife dearly, and positively dread the idea of facing life without her.
But
She is the biggest obstacle to my pursuing the life I wish I could have.
Yes, there are times when I imagine what I might do if I were free to dress and act the way I feel - whenever I feel like it, and as long as I feel like it.
No, I don't want to throw away the really good life I've made for myself to go out and chase rainbows - no matter how much they call to me.
Practicality trumps "what if" for me every time.
But still I yearn.
<sometimes reality sucks>
Kendra Sue
07-26-2021, 08:13 AM
Me too. I love being a part time woman. I have dreamed of being catered to. Women get to dress and wear pretty clothes and I am somewhat jealous
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Living alone is a double edged sword. There are times when I truly enjoy being alone and free to dress whenever I want. But it is how I got there. My wife of 49 years died in February 2021 of pancreatic cancer. I miss her terribly. She was totally against my cross dressing. I had to secretly dress all these years. I tried to quit but the need was always there. My Kendra time has always been part of my life. I wish I was passable but no way I am. No one knew except for my wife.. I wish I could have her back but cross dressing is my way of partially coping with the grief
Jodie_Lynn
07-26-2021, 08:59 AM
My ( now ) ex-wife of 29 years wanted a divorce. Six months after our separation and me moving out of our home, I started living full time, 24/7 as Jodie.
No regrets.
NickieWild
07-26-2021, 03:41 PM
What I have build with my SO is so important to ever wish I was alone. But I must admit sometimes, deep inside, i crave a few hours for me. Sometimes, the opportunity shows by itself, but I dont wish for it.
DianeT
07-26-2021, 04:28 PM
Hi Di. The dressing is important to me. But if given a choice between dressing and seeing my wife she wins. In the past years, before my coming out, she went twice on a 3-week thermal cure far from home, which gave me two weekends in between to dress for full days, something I could never do otherwise. But I also had a possibility to join her for the second week-end each time. And I took that opportunity every time.
And yes I looked forward to this alone time and enjoyed the dressing. It thrilled me in anticipation. But I was also sad to part ways for so long. And I cherished these moments together in the middle of the long separation. It weaved nice memories.
Our couple had a long break a dozen years ago. For almost a year I could have dressed every week-end and evening. As it turned out I only dressed a handful of times for rather short sessions. I was sad and lonely and didn't feel like doing it. For better or for worse, I suppose like to dress only when my wife isn't a stranger to me, maybe because I need to be reasonably happy to enjoy it (or maybe because I needed the thrill of hiding it. I seriously asked myself this question. But I still like to do it now, after the reveal, so, well, maybe not).
Again, even if I dress very rarely, it means something important to me. But not as important as my wife.
ellbee
07-26-2021, 04:40 PM
Aside from my cat, I live alone. :rc:
I like it. :thumbsup:
Besides, I refuse to bow down to the tyranny of the matriarchy! :p
Paulie Birmingham
07-28-2021, 11:00 AM
I love laying in bed with my wife in the morning and at night too much to ever want to be alone. A few hours during the day sure but most of that time would be used for more than dressing
Thanks to everyone for their honest answers .
The question was after reading over time a few that bash their wives over the divide over crossdressing. ( some sound like they hate their wives ) Many get very upset if the crossdressing time is cut out over a family emergency.
I am glad to see most have balance .
To those that are alone and want to stay that way that is good too, I understand that.
For those unhappy, I hope you find peace .
Now to all the longtime members do not roll your eyes lol / this is for the many new members that join Daily ( many early twenties and mostly just read) this is for them .
Many believe after you meet the One?...your crossdressing is behind you.
I believe it always comes back, just be honest to your loved one . This can be worked out .shared or not but really can not such a big deal . You can work things out after marriage but many feel betrayed. Be easier to sort this out before hand.
We all want our best life ,everyone deserves to be happy .
Crissy 107
07-29-2021, 08:17 AM
Di, Great advice to our younger members, yes the urge to crossdress will almost definitely come back at some point and if you tell your SO later on they do feel betrayed.
Rayleen
07-29-2021, 08:53 AM
Even though Im alone, and dress when I want, I rather be with my partner but will not get back in a relationship at my age
andreanna
07-29-2021, 12:25 PM
I do enjoy living alone and not having to worry about anyone elses' thoughts on my dressing. I can dress and usually do everyday and feel good about it. Most of the time my laundry consists 95%female and 5% male items with a few unisex mixed in.
Brynna M
07-29-2021, 09:15 PM
My wife and I are so deep into DADT that it might as well be a secret and I would never burden my 5 yr old some with my secret. Even with so few opportunities to experience more feminine things I still would never want to give up my family. Crossdressing will always be a part of me and I will always need to take care of that part, but what i would have to give up being alone but completely free isn't worth it.
BTWimRobin
07-30-2021, 12:20 PM
Hi Di,
I love my wife dearly and do not wish to live alone. However, should something ever happen in our marriage where I end up alone, I have no desire to seek out another live-in companion. There is something that can be said for too much togetherness. I do appreciate it when she leaves for a few days. It gives me a chance to catch up on my never ending Honey-Do List while living as Robin.
Of course, I wish things were different. I didn?t give into my feminine side until I was 56, 20 years into our relationship/marriage. It got to the point where I just could not contain it anymore and it was either accept this side of me or go crazy. Before I bought a stitch of clothing, I had the talk with my wife. She knew something was bothering me and was happy I came out to her. Sadly, at the time I was not in a good head space and could not convey my true feelings. I told her I wanted to ?feel? feminine. Well this did not go over too well and while she said she would be supportive she was really resentful to the whole idea. She did tell me to wear what I want when the need occurs and not to worry about her. Just don?t go prancing and flaunting around the house. Since we never talk about it, I always feel uncomfortable fully dressing when she is around. I do wear a few things in front of her, usually shorts or leggings, and she never says a word. If I had the opportunity to do it all over would have come out differently and not used the word ?feel.? I should have said something like ?I?m curious about the clothes and want to experiment.? I think she would have handled it differently. Had accepted this side when I was young; I believe my journey through life would have been much different.
Cheers!
AllieBellema
07-30-2021, 09:30 PM
I do live alone, although that's mostly by choice as I've never really seeked a life partner. Not that I wouldn't mind having one, although they would have to be accepting of my feminine side as this is a big part of my life now and I wouldn't give it up for anybody or anything. Living alone does allow me to live without limits on how I live and what I wear around the house though.
Kris Burton
08-20-2021, 03:20 AM
My God Robin...did this post hit home...I could have written it myself with only the age difference in giving in to out feminine side being different (I'm 69 wife and I married 40 years)
Like you, I could not contain - or in my case deny my fem side anymore. But now I'm out, and I feel free - feels absolutely great!
I had "the talk" with my wife the other day. It did go well I think. I did use the words "curious" and "experiment" and it did soften the shock quite a bit I think. She was not resentful, but surprised...said she needed time to process all of this...and she has it. I will not push her at all, but right now there is a 600 pound gorilla in the room neither one of us is talking about...but we will. I do not intend to wear any articles in front of her (but if i were to drop my pants the bikini panties might render that statement false!) So now we are at an amenable DADT arrangement. We'll see how it goes.
Like you, I also wish I had accepted this part of me as a younger man. My life's journey would have been so much different...maybe harder actually. However, I am also finding that coming to CD late like this allows me to take a few steps back and really savor the now. .."Because life is to short not to."
And I also love my wife dearly and do not wish to live alone!
OrdinaryAverageGuy
08-20-2021, 04:54 AM
My wife is my best friend, I can't imagine living life without her. If she had flipped out the first time she saw me in a skirt or a bra, I simply wouldn't crossdress, just like I didn't for years before that. Fortunately, although we did have the standard talk (no I'm not gay, Yes I want to keep being a man), she quickly became supportive. I do enjoy some quite time now and then, but I'm talking a few hours, a weekend apart is difficult for both of us.
kellyanne
08-20-2021, 11:56 AM
I have lived alone for 30 + years but always had many interests and friends so feeling alone is not an issue. As a youth, there was a really strong self reliance movement in camping, how to navigate the woods etc and IMHO it greatly influenced me.
The main reason for being single for me was, as a naturally happy go lucky spirit who has always been active and happy, giving up a life of certain happiness for great uncertainty about a spouse even accepting " who I am" , let alone the travails of marriage,
for me seemed unwise. I know happy couples but they are very rare and know far more divorcees. Past 50 now and rare is the day I feel alone but we are all different and some of my close friends, like some ladies here, could never stand being alone.
I know many physically robust fellow who one may think - ya he looks like the rugged individualist - but no - big guys are no different than most guys - we have need company, it is just the way they are and there is nothing wrong with them to want a social structure of support - it is natural.
I wonder if birth order plays a role in singledom.
TheHiddenMe
08-20-2021, 06:56 PM
Di,
First, thanks for these types of questions and your comments. For many, it's the only female perspective we get on a range of issues.
My situation is a bit unusual. My wife and I have been married 29 years. She's known of my interest since we met 36 years ago. I go out occasionally with her knowledge and more often without her knowledge (she has told me, "lie to me"--so I do; our version of DADT).
She's Australian (I'm a Yank) and we have a second place in a Melbourne suburb. Usually (when there is no pandemic) we travel there in mid-January. I return to the US in mid-March, and she returns later, staying an extra month or two or three.
In 2020, she stayed from January to early November, so we were separated for 6 months. She didn't want to travel during that time, and mostly prefers her home country.
The separation does mean more chances for me to dress, which I try to take advantage of (although we do have an adult son living with us, who doesn't know, so that is an obstacle).
In short, I have both worlds, with and without. I'd like to have the best of each--her company and more dressing--but we don't always get what we want. I try to make the best--and lately that has included dressing when down under.
If nothing else, being a CD means you need to be adaptable.
Sandra_Dodds
08-20-2021, 10:34 PM
I don't want to live alone. I do want more time alone though.
I'm the type of person that needs time alone to recharge, and also craves time alone to dress. It's no reflection on my wife or daughter, but on me.
You said it perfectly for me Charlotte.
Rileyaz
08-22-2021, 06:23 PM
Di,
I lost my wife 20 years ago this month. I was 43. I still live alone, and although I would rather not I accept it for what it is. I have the opportunity to dress 12 hours a day every day and for the most part I do. Unless I have some other obligations I typically change when I get home from work. I don't always do the full make up. Maybe it's because I am lazy but I am going to try it for the next 30 days.
Erin Lafleur
08-22-2021, 09:15 PM
First and foremost, my deepest condolences to those that have lost loved ones. That's a different kind of alone and my heart goes out to all...
I have been a single Dad for as long as I can remember (my son was two at the time when I obtained custody) and he has now left the nest at 27 years old. A fine young man, if I do say so myself!
Like most of us here, my interest in all things feminine began furtively at quite a tender age and has never left me. It's basically been five decades of a desire that has never waned but, has always been hidden due to the unchanging desire to not complicate my life or those around me. What's different for me now that I no longer have to hide my lifestyle choice is that it has given me a greater sense of ease and comfort with who I really am. I no longer have to hide that very important and authentic part of my life.
Rather than stuff and/or hide my feminine wares, I can now proudly display my clothes without any judgement or fear of being "found out." That's huge for me and it has been literally life changing. I now have a pantie, lingerie, stocking drawer that is proudly displayed, not hidden. I hang my dresses, skirts, blouses, nighties with care and pride. I no longer feel that I shouldn't light scented candles, display flowers or feminine artwork (recent purchase attached).
I had always felt that my femme desires were ok, it is who I am. I just never thought that the complicated process of having to "hide" who I really am would be both unnoticed and to me and so unwittingly oppressive. I had no idea.
So, in my case, being alone works wonderfully!
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Sarah Doepner
08-24-2021, 11:54 AM
Well, I am Lana Mae 24/7/365! I live with my daughter who is totally accepting! My wife passed away over 5 years ago! I did not really start dressing until she passed! I do get lonely at times for the holding, hugging, and cuddling! I am holding my options open but am not really looking for anyone, but... LOL Hugs Lana Mae
It's been eight years since my wife of 40 years passed away and like Lana Mae I am living full time as I transition. My wife was accepting and supporting but needed attention to deal with her health issues. I was a willing caregiver. Since then I've had a couple of my kids or their kids living with me but for maybe a year in total. I've become very comfortable living alone and resent when I unwillingly become obligated to temporary house guests (This week is a good example. An adult grandchild with semi-controlled mental health issues was kicked out of his house and has been with me for a few days. He needs a caregiver but because of his schizophrenia he is non-responsive much of the time. I need feedback and interaction so he won't be back with me again.) Back to the thread now. But like Lana Mae, I really do miss sharing touches, smiles, discussions about minor things and the human contact that comes from living with a trusted partner. At my age it's possible but unlikely I'll ever have that experience again and that can make me sad if I dwell on it. So I move on.
Michelle_G
08-26-2021, 09:28 PM
Be careful what you wish for.
Jessica Jameson
08-27-2021, 01:30 AM
I am alone and have been for a while. I love the freedom I have to wear whatever I want, but I hate the loneliness.
BillieAnneJean
08-29-2021, 09:02 PM
The worst thing I can imagine is life without my wife.
She is everything to me.
Crossdressing is fun but when the time comes when I need someone, she is always there.
I will never do anything to hurt her, she comes first.
Crissy 107
08-29-2021, 09:52 PM
BillieAnneJean, Excellent comment, absolutely correct.
Jillian Faith
08-30-2021, 07:06 AM
Be careful what you wish for.
Michelle is correct. I lost my wife on 8/14 to Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer. We were married for 20+ years. She fought bravely for 6+ years.
The worst thing I can imagine is life without my wife.
She is everything to me.
Crossdressing is fun but when the time comes when I need someone, she is always there.
I will never do anything to hurt her, she comes first.
I miss my wife every minute of every day. She accepted my crossdressing and allowed me time to explore my feminine side. I spent the last 6 years taking care of her, driving her to doctor appointments and chemo treatments. She was my world and I treasured every minute with her.
Crissy 107
08-30-2021, 07:15 AM
Jillian, I am so sorry to hear about your wife, my thoughts and prayers are with you both.
abby054
09-04-2021, 05:21 PM
I tried alone and I tried living with my wife of 44 years. I joined the US Army Reserve long ago. From time to time, Uncle Sam decides to go to the fights and he invites me to come along. There have been three such occasions since I signed up. Each has been about a year away from home and family. The first one, we were getting shot at. Only on the third and last deployment, did I have time and opportunity to dress.
Uncle Sam paid for a first rate education for me to learn high tech ways to harm his enemies. Therefore, the last two occasions, I stayed in military labs, alone but far from the fray. I concur that I prefer being with my wife, not alone. This reminds me of the poor man who inherited a fortune later in life. He said that he tried being poor and being rich. Rich, he said, is better. In my case, I tried alone and together. In my opinion, together is better.
BTW, when Uncle Sam decides on another big get together at the fights, if he invites me at my advanced age, he will be scraping the bottom of the barrel for sure.
AshleyClaireSnider
09-04-2021, 05:54 PM
Sometimes it feels like living alone would be ideal, for reasons even beyond dressing, but then it seems pretty selfish and lonely. I am no social butterfly, but I remember when I would be alone for long stretches when I lived in college dorms, and it absolutely sucked. It was when I first created Ashley, but it was also a very dark time of my life. I'd rather sacrifice some expression and be around people who I love.
krissy
09-04-2021, 07:03 PM
to me its hard to be alone sure it would be great to dress anytime i wanted i would love it but for me it would not be enough.my wife cant stand this part of me and all these years 43 i still love her we have kids and grandkids hell even a great grand son i will never show any of them this part of me .but at times i do wish i could be accepted for all of me:daydreaming:
Karren H
09-04-2021, 10:12 PM
The older I get, the more I wish I live alone.
Beverley Sims
09-08-2021, 03:41 AM
Make the most of what you have now.....
Being alone?
Be careful what you wish for.
Thank You.
I appreciate your honest and insightful answers.
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