Would the thrill be gone.

[Maria 60]

If you read my last post I picked up my wife from our summer cabin and drove more then 4 hrs dressed. When I got to the cabin my wife told me I didn't have to get changed because it was very quiet there. It was amazing to be outdoors for so long dressed, we had a coffee on the deck together, the feel of the sun on the pantyhose and the light wind blowing the hem of my dress, what an amazing feeling. It felt wierd cleaning up and loading stuff in the car dressed, male duties became female duties, done with more feminine touch. On the drive home we were getting close to home and I was going to stop a highway rest stop to change and even though I was dressed all that time and had an amazing outdoor experience, I still get that sad feeling when I have to undress.
I told the wife it's to bad it has to be this way because I really enjoy and feel so comfortable dressed, my wife told me in her years working in retail she was amazed that when people were caught shoplifting it wasn't people poor who would do it. It was 90% well to do people, they did it for the thrill, the rush of being caught and doing something wrong. She then said if the radio station we were listening to would make an announcement and announce that it's ok for men to drive wearing women's clothing. I would probably still do it ,but the rush would be gone, the thrill of getting seen and the rush of taking a chance would take away from the feeling.
My wife loves when I underdress, she insists that I wear something fem under most of he time. During the drive she confirms it telling me she love when I wear panties and pantyhose under, it's a thrill to her that she is the only who knows what I'm wearing under. The thrill of when I'm wearing pantyhose with no socks and she will walk a little behind me to see the a little pantyhose peeking out when I'm walking or when I bend and a little lace from the fem panties show. But if all at once it becomes ok for men to wear pantyhose and fem panties, her thrill would be gone.
She said sweet is not sweet without the sour and admitted my feelings are real when I dress but believes I don't want to become a women but enjoy the feeling and just like herself I love the rush of taking chances, the hidding and thrill of it all.
In her opinion there is many forms of crossdressers but believes if it comes out that it becomes ok for men to wear women's clothing for a lot of people the fun and thrill would not be the same. Her final statement was, they sell men's pantyhose why don't I buy them, because it's more fun and exciting wearing women's.
What do you think, if all at once it became ok for us to dress fem, would it take away from it if it became normal.

[GretchenM]

I suspect, for some, the thrill would subside, especially if you associate clothes very strongly with your identity or inducing those feelings. Personally though I don't dress for the thrill. Long ago that was the case, but it vanished early on. For me I need to have the female-like sense of self before I can comfortably wear clothes intended for women. In other words, dressing is an expression of a deep inner feeling and not as a means to induce that feeling.

[Rachel05]

I would love for it to be acceptable and in fact for me it would be thrilling to be able to just dress as I want without the worry of people knowing, I don't dress for the thrill now, I dress because I love to dress and because I like how it makes me feel, to not have to hide it from family and friends would be wonderful

[bridget thronton]

Another very thoughtful post Maria - thank you

[Angela Marie]

Not for me. Dressing in feminine clothing is an affirmation of my femininity and my transgender status. Also from a stylistic standpoint I love the variety of women’s clothing, and the comfort.

[andreanna]

I dress because it feels good inside and I love the way the clothes feel on my skin. Always, always under dress now.

[rachelatshop]

I agree with you Maria, part of my enjoyment of dressing as a girl is the risk of being caught, but it is always the feeling of the soft slinky clothes that keeps me dressing. I also get a charge for under dressing and thinking what would my friend sitting across from me think if he knew. I would hate to see it become normal for men to wear dresses and such because than there would be so much less in the wonderful feminine mystique.

[ShelbyDawn]

I would love for it to be acceptable and in fact for me it would be thrilling to be able to just dress as I want without the worry of people knowing, I don't dress for the thrill now, I dress because I love to dress and because I like how it makes me feel, to not have to hide it from family and friends would be wonderful

Rachel,

I couldn't have said it better, if tomorrow I woke up in a world that totally accepted the way I want to dress, it would only escalate, I can only imagine the freedom of being able to walk down the street in four inch heels and a nice full skirt flowing around my stocking covered legs, my tight sweater showing off my meager breasts; I might be a terminal man in a dress, but if society accepted it, I would be a very stylish one.

[kimdl93]

For me, if the fear of being ostracized by family, friends and community were to suddenly disappear, I would be far more likely to allow myself to enjoy life as a woman.

[kayegirl]

I do not dress for the thrill, rather that I just feel comfortable and right when dressed, so nothing would change for me.

[nvlady]

I think if crossdressing was suddenly socially acceptable it would end it for me.

[Joyce Swindell]

I believe that I would dress more if it was acceptable. Now when I was a young CD and staying hidden that might have taken away the thrill. Who knows where I'd be IF that had been the case?

[Amy Lynn3]

I agree with a part of what Joyce Swindell said. " I believe I would dress more if it were acceptable". My mind runs wild knowing if this were true I could meet all the women in my life and we both be dressed as a woman. Not to mention going to sporting events and other outing dressed, without shame or hassle from others. WOW !!

[Sallee]

you present a good take on the thrill of cross dressing. I personally find that after several days of being out and about indeed the thrill is gone. Especially if I am out and I get no remarks be it a "you look good" or "its man in a dress" The thrill is gone.

NOw I love getting dressed and going out and passing and I guess I do it fairly well if no one notices. I am just another person shopping in the mall or seeing a movie, which is about all I do. But there have been times when I get up and get crossdressed and go about my day, breakfast and coffee at home, the usual house cleaning and then going out and shopping and taking in a movie. I seldom go to restaurants, that might be different with more interaction. I will sometimes go to the local CD bar where I know I'll be read and probably hit on. I never take up the offer. Then after a drink its home. Well about the 3rd day I am done being a girl and I really don't understand why the thrill is gone, but it is.
The life of this CD is pretty boring I guess

[AngelaYVR]

But we are only talking about the clothes, correct? Just wearing the skirts and such without the wig, makeup, etc? Because it is the latter that really causes most of the problems.

To answer the question, no changes on my end as I am satisfying a part of my soul and not a need for excitement.

[Georgina]

It would not make any difference to me as I dress because I love the clothes.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Maria :hugs:, It is like Fishing, It is so much mor fun Catching a Fish than Buying ine u=in the Fish market,

>>Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Maid_Marion]

I love wearing clothes that make me look good. As I'm small and petite women's clothes fit me.

I also love to shop and it turns out there is a ton of women's XS clothes that routinely go on sale!

Marion

[Geena75]

I think that when I dress up I am 'pretending' to be someone else. If I go out, the thrill isn't just a matter of passing as a woman, but passing as someone else. If it were suddenly truly allowable to dress in women's clothes, my goal would be to present as someone else. So, while I would feel more free to go out dressed, I still wouldn't want to be recognized; hence, still a thrill.

[docrobbysherry]

Maria, interestingly in your quite lengthy post u mention in depth your wife's thrill at your dressing. And, her thots about random tran's thrill at doing something forbidden.

And, u ask about our thrill at dressing and being seen/caught.:daydreaming:
But, u never mention if your wife is rite about your "thrill" at forbidden dressing?:straightface:
U want us to guess?:heehee:

Personally? If men dressing was suddenly acceptable? I'd be out there at the mall and Denny's dressed all the time! The way it is now? I get zero thrill at doing what is forbidden! Going out dressed to vanilla venues is way too stressful for me!:doh:

[Crissy 107]

To answer the question, no changes on my end as I am satisfying a part of my soul and not a need for excitement.

This is me, I totally agree

[Kris Burton]

For me, it's the feel of the clothes that maintains the thrill. It makes me feel sexy, and who doesn't want to feel like that?

[SaraLin]

I tend to agree with GretchenM. I don't dress to feel feminine. I dress BECAUSE I feel feminine - and need to express it.

Do I dress for the thrill? Nope. In fact, for me it was quite the opposite. My outings were filled with worry, fear, and disappointment - and met with stares, giggles, and snide comments.
Nowadays, I only do what little I do - at home.
Times have changed since back then. I've changed too. I might be tempted to try going out again, but "house rules" forbid it, so that's the end of that idea!

If it were suddenly OK to wear women's clothes, you can bet that I would. Freedom! Now THAT would be a rush!


Ok, now back to reality (sigh).

[CynthiaD]

Yes, they do make pantyhose for men. The ones I’ve seen have a fly front. Folks, I don’t go to all this trouble to have a fly front. In fact I’m trying to look like I have no use for a fly front. Only women’s pantyhose for me thanks.

[Cheryl T]

It used to be a thrill, especially early on and well before I came out to my wife.
Now it's just what I wear. They are my clothes and not really anything special and that's the feeling I have always wanted. I just want to be me.

[Paulie Birmingham]

Yes, i.think the thrill would be gone. Not sure how much i would dress after

[Stephanie47]

I stopped dressing for a thrill a long time ago. If it became normal for me to be able to dress en femme or en homme whenever it moved me, I'd still want to choose my clothing to look my best. One of the draws for women's dresses is the vast array or colors and designs. I really don't think I am pretending to be somebody else. I ascribe to the theory there is a little dna in each of the opposite sex. It's just letting it be expressed.

[Sarah Doepner]

I used to dress for the thrill and would often fantasize about being caught. However the getting caught was the goal because in the fantasy it would suddenly make it normal to dress as I desired. I got to the point of being able to get away for several days en femme and while it may have started out as a "high", but the end of the trip it would just feel comfortable and normal. Changing back would often result in depression and/or tears. I've transitioned and I just wear my clothes, mostly without the thrill. Most of the time it's just pants or a skirt and a top as I go about my day, however when I get a chance to dress up for an evening out it still makes me feel good.

So clothes still have an attraction but the thrill is different and there's no need for the getting caught fantasy any longer.

[Jane G]

An interesting post Maria. The answer for me is no. the thrill reason for dressing left many decades ago. Crossdressing is simply part of life for me. It's quite routine and it's never going away. Yes it sometimes provides thrills, but no more than many other things that I enjoy. I'm sat here watching snooker right now. I could be in drab but dressed is simply more comfortable/natural for me.

[Kris Burton]

Hmmm. a very thought provoking post.
As an individual who couldn't even admit to himself that he crossdressed I can easily say that the taboo or often negative view of society kept me from participating.In the rare case I fell off the wagon so to speak I can also say that this same stigma kept me from admitting it, especially to my wife whose opinion I valued more than any other.
Now that I have finally come out to her, I am freed from that stigma. I dress comfortably without worry, and that heightens the experience. No sneaking around! So in that instance, since it is now OK on that level, I would say yes, I would definitely continue.
However, the fact that society as a whole often views our activity negatively, I must say I like that part. That in itself heightens the experience...like I'm doing something wrong... I'm not, but now that I accept this in myself and the only other person that matters also does, the fact that many in the world as a whole do not makes the experience even more fun. So for me, if suddenly the rest of the world were to view CD more positively (as I do) it wouldn't stop me but it might diminish the thrill a bit. At present, I'm glad that's not an answer I have to find out. And if I find I do need outside validation, I'll just write here!

[Bobbi46]

For me there was never "a thrill" as time went by dressing became a way of life for me and to this day still is. i am most comfortable in femme clothing and gave up drab clothes such a very long time ago. it is as I say a normal way of life for me to dress en femme all of the time

[Brenda Freeman]

If it was acceptable it would be interesting how men would dress. Would there be many wearing womens clothes with out make up or effort to present feminine also? I know for me dressing is not complete with out make up and a wig or feminine hair style and would that be considered accepted? Interesting discussion.

[Rachel Louise]

It is an interesting question but I don?t think entirely true in my case. I wear women?s clothes when I can because it is how I feel more comfortable and occasionally (when I am wearing my particularly dressy outfits) because I enjoy it.

It would probably change my relationship with crossdressing in that I would probably do do more often if not full time but the thrill factor isn?t my reason for partaking these days.