Depressed about being depressed about...

[Julie York]

I bought a new wig. It just didn't work at all so that was a little depressing as I was looking forward to it.

And then I got depressed about the fact that I am a grown man.....who is depressed because a woman's wig didn't look right on me.

How pathetic.



It's silly and annoying and you can't even share it with someone other than on here, and I still feel stupid even saying it on here.

I once burnt a hole in a favourite skirt.......It caused that same horrible feeling of disappointment and then the feeling of being a pathetic idiot for even caring about something so incongruous to a normal bloke. So you get it twice.

Ho hum. One of those days.

[Amelie]

I would like to answer your thread but I'm afraid that after reading my post you will just be more depressed.

[JennMW]

Chin up Julie!

Buyer’s remorse is very real and very troubling. Everybody experiences it at one time or another.

C.S. Lewis wrote “Wanting is better than having”


Let us conclude then that what you desire is no state of yourself at all, but something, for that very reason, Other and Outer. And knowing this you will find tolerable the truth that you cannot attain it. That the thing should be, is so great a good that when you remember "it is" you will forget to be sorry that you can never have it. Nay, anything that you could have would be so much less than this that its fruition would be immeasurably below the mere hunger for this. Wanting is better than having. The glory of any world wherein you can live is in the end appearance: but then, as one of my sons has said, that leaves the world more glorious yet.

http://www.ctlibrary.com/bc/2004/novdec/12.30.html

Maybe this is one of those times were you will feel a little bolder about styling and trimming it. Less to lose and all that!

[Marla S]

Well, just 10 min ago I ripped my skirt that I bought today.
Don't know if I should laugh or cry.
I think I go for the crying.
You may call me an idiot.

[Casey Morgan]

Julie, it sounds to me like you were disappointed because something you were looking forward to didn't pan out like you'd hoped. There's a phrase for that: being human. :)

[Julie Avery]

Joking aside.

And heaven knows I love a good laugh, and think the ability to laugh at ourselves is a great bulwark protecting us from bitterness and depression.

I would never in my innermost thoughts think of Julie York, or Amelie, or Jennifer, or Marla S, or Shari Ann, as pathetic or silly or idiotic. That's because I admire each of you in various ways, which are connected to my own crossdressing, of which I simply am no longer willing to be ashamed. I'm sometimes embarassed, sometimes uncomfortable, but never ashamed.

Am I quirky? Different? You bet. But the crossdressing thing cuts to the heart of me, it's not something I can toss out like an old pair of shoes, it's near to the core. So if you're pathetic, I'm pathetic, and I just no longer believe that.

It's quite a difficult thing we've been given to reckon with, and not just for us, but for people who care about us who know how we feel and aren't like we are.

And Julie York, I don't want to be sycophantic or fawning but I think the world of you and I don't mind saying so.

[Tamara Croft]

Oh Julie, your being too hard on yourself :( I saw these beautiful trousers in Tenerife, but they were about an inch too small..... damn I'm kicking myself now, because grrrrrrrr......... my weight had ballooned on the damn plane :( It's like having one of those days were bugger all goes right :hugs: And you're not an idiot!!

[ChristineRenee]

Well Julie...a very wise Texan here in the States told me one time...somedays you get the bear...somedays the bear gets you...and somedays you BOTH get it!:p I'm not sure what all that means or if it even applies here but...chin up babe...better days are ahead!;)

[paulaN]

yep! chin up. we all go through crap like that. you'll be allright. I just know it.

[Julie York]

Now I have red panties and a pink wig and as everyone knows pink does not go with red.

Hmmm....add a rose hair grip.....red shoes......slightly mauvy red top.....pink skirt.....YES!...YES DAMMIT!.....IT WORKS!!!......Just don't flash your panties or it will all go to pot.

[GypsyKaren]

Hi Julie

"It could be worse, and it's a nice day" These are words I remember when I'm in the blues. Always works for me.

Karen

[Julie York]

Or as my Grandmother said before she died...........Eaaarg!!

Ok well I think my self-pitying thread is done now. Thank you all for being you. It worked.


Gypsy Julie: Oooh I see an L....do you know anyone with the name L.....Lou.....Do you know a Lou.......Lounge? Do you know a Lounge? I see a Lounge in your future.


:D

[Julie Avery]

Or as my Grandmother said before she died...........Eaaarg!!




::::guffaw:::::

[Missy Anne's GG]

Hey there girl! I've been in that same boat, too when something looked so great on a hanger, or in a store window or a catalogue, etc. and then it looked horrible on me! The good thing is that we are here so you can cry on our shoulders and we will understand.

As Scarlett O'Hara said in the movie "Gone With The Wind" -- "Tomorrow is another day!"

Hugs,

Missy Anne's GG

[Wendy me]

Julie grilfreind sorry to hear abought your wig ordeal ....what can i say after the loss of your frist wig ??? sometimes it's hard to get over your frist...then you go compareing all outhers to your frist....

[Jennaie]

I am going through the exact same thing Julie. I will be calling a stylist tomorrow to set an appointment to have the wig cut and styled to see if we can make it work. But I have been depressed about it for a almost a week now. So it goes.

[uknowhoo]

Perhaps you could put the wig on the dog and send him out to do his business on the neighbor's yard. No more pooper scooper worries! Ya might want to add a pair of eyglasses to the disguise. ;) T

[Deborah]

Good thing you mentioned the wig and the skirt or would have done yourself in after this thread was moved to the Lounge. :(

[Zelda Noe]

Hey Julie:wave2:

Welcome to the fumble club...can't tell you how many times I've bought something on Ebay, or elsewhere...got it in the mail...anxiously opened the package...tried it on...and the da-n thing was too tight...or my fat bulges showed side to side...or the darn shoes were too narrow...or it just didn't look good on me. Isn't this part of the growing experience in being a cd?

Okay, snap a photo of the wig and list it online here on the classified page, get your money back???

Go outside...kick the dog...and everything will be alright.

We all here STILL love you, love yourself girl...welcome to the trial and error club:blushing::silly:

Hugs, Dandy:happy: ;)

[Alexandria]

Buyers remorse, I had to live with it EVERY DAY as I rebuilt my entire wardrobe. One day I think "Wow what a fantastic blouse, I can afford it!" and order it. The next day "Wait a second...I spent $30 on a womens blouse that I won't even wear in public? Am I nuts!?"

Doesn't help either that I should be saving money too. But think of it this way, Your getting something that you enjoy, you will make mistakes at times but thats ok :). It's better than wasting the same amount of money on something like a DVD or something.

[Kimberly]

So you get it twice.
I had one of those days the day before yesterday... nothing looked right, and so the question cropped up: wtf am I doing as a man to be even trying to dress like this?

You just have to forget it for a day, and the next will be much sweeter. xx