Uncomfortably Comfortable?

[Bianca Fay]

With great respect, this post is aimed towards CDs rather than transwomen...

Are women's clothing actually comfortable or are we just comfortable wearing women's clothing?

Many of our posts maintain how comfortable/luxurious female garments are, and we often express our confusion as to why more GGs don't appreciate wearing high heels, tight dresses, bras, corsets, shapewear, hosiery, etc.

Having said that, are these items truly comfortable or merely a comfort? Many of us are in a hurry to dress up in the very same articles of clothing that the majority of women are anxious to remove at the end of the day. Are Ladies somehow unaware as to the comfort factor of clothing that is designed for their own gender (physically and/or aesthetically), or are we simply embracing the desire to wear feminine clothes and convincing ourselves that these items are actually comfortable?

As an example, I love wearing pantyhose. They are soft, silky, and feel amazing. However, I am cognizant of the fact that I still enjoy wearing a pair of hose that might be too tight, poorly made, or simply the wrong size. In other words, I can feel very comfortable even while wearing an uncomfortable pair of pantyhose. Sometimes the discomfort is actually a comfort - a constant reminder that I am wearing an article of women's clothing.

Would you still wear a bra that digs in at the straps, heels that pinch, panties that ride up?

Are you capable of being uncomfortably comfortable?

[Helen_Highwater]

Cecile,

Early on in my journey yes I would have put up with those things. The too small bra, shoes 2 sizes too small. It was a case of whatever I could acquire would have to do.

Now, I know my bra size and shop according. Ditto shoes, dresses, tops, skirts, everything has to fit just so.

As for uncomfortable, ladies generally haven't experienced spending all day in a hot office, no air con, and wearing a business suit. Give me the option of a sleeveless dress any day.

[Suranne]

The last time I was actively uncomfortable because of the clothes I was wearing was when I was having dinner in Le Gavroche in London. They had a dress code there where men were required to wear shirts, ties and jackets. It was unnaturally warm and I was trussed up like a good'un. Nowadays, I would take the opportunity of wearing an appropriate dress and be far more comfortable. It's a two way street this question. Remember women have what is known as 'clothing freedom' and that means that discomfort never need be part of your day.

[Kris Burton]

Cecile,

Early on in my journey yes I would have put up with those things. The too small bra, shoes 2 sizes too small. It was a case of whatever I could acquire would have to do.

Now, I know my bra size and shop according. Ditto shoes, dresses, tops, skirts, everything has to fit just so.

As for uncomfortable, ladies generally haven't experienced spending all day in a hot office, no air con, and wearing a business suit. Give me the option of a sleeveless dress any day.

Agreed Helen, and being more aware of my sizes has helped a lot. However, the wide variation in sizes does make things difficult. Although better, there is still a lot of stuff that gets sent back, or in the case of undergarments, never used. No reason for any of us to put up with ill fitting or uncomfortable clothing.

[GaleWarning]

Panties are more comfortable to wear than men's underpants. Period.
Blouses are more comfortable to wear than men's shirts. Period.
Skirts are more comfortable to wear than trousers. Period.

I prefer to wear a suspender belt and stockings over pantyhose, again, because I find them very comfortable to wear, especially with an eight strap belt which does not slip.

Bras are tricky ... I own some which are very comfortable and others, not so!
Likewise with heels.

Overall, I feel much more relaxed and happy when wearing women's clothes.

[MonicaPVD]

It seems to me that for some (or many) of us, there's a huge sensory/tactile component to crossdressing. The restrictive nature of bras, hose, girdles, etc is an attraction while most cis women run away from that in search of comfort. Hence, many US women's propensity to walk around in leggings and a sweatshirt looking like they just rolled out of bed.

Personally, I love to suit up in the gear that shapes my body, even though it is terribly restrictive: panties or gaffe, waist cincher or corset, bodysuit that is usually a size too small, breastplate, bra, hose. All these contraptions not only give me a feminine figure, they make me hyper aware of every square inch of my body, and I love it even if it can be most uncomfortable over time.

Don't even get me started on stilettos. ��

[NancySue]

A definite ?Yes!? to both your second paragraph questions. And, another?Yes?, all my clothes are very comfortable. Through trial and error, over the years, I know my favorite styles, sizes and brands. Everything I own fits and I enjoy dressing daily. My supportive wife doesn?t understand how I can find underwire bras, hose, (I wear mostly thigh highs, but occasionally pantyhose), a form shaper, a must for my hip pads, and heels. Her favorite tease is, I can?t wait to put on, what she can?t wail to take off?oh how true. Would I wear a bra that digs in? Yes. I just bought a lovely, black underwire push-up bra. It initially dug in, but a little underwire adjustment solved the problem. Last, another ?absolutely?, I?m always comfortable. Never uncomfortable. Life is good.

[JustJennifer]

There's good uncomfortable and there's bad uncomfortable. Like Monica says, there's a strong tactile component to this.

That said, if something is uncomfortable because it doesn't fit, that totally takes me out of the moment and is unacceptable. That's probably why I've never been into underdressing. If I can feel it all day, it doesn't fit. I don't want to be reminded I'm wearing pantyhose only because the top has rolled down past my bellybutton.

[Cheryl T]

Would I wear a bra that digs in...of course not, I'd buy the right size.

I don't find my clothing uncomfortable at all. Of course I gave up corsets years ago, the rest of my wardrobe is quite comfortable. Yes, at times certain shapewear is needed, but that's not unlike other women and yes, at the end of the day it's a relief to be able to take it off.
Let's reverse the question. Who finds it comfortable wearing a 3 piece suit all day in the summer? Who loves wearing a necktie all day? I'd much rather be wearing a pretty summer dress, with bare legs and heels and perhaps a little shapewear than be all bound up in a suit.

[Stephanie47]

Based on observing my wife I can say women many times find women's clothing uncomfortable. Yep, shed the bra, especially on warm days. Out comes the loose sun dress. Or a sleeveless tee shirt. My wife favors cotton panties rather than nylon. Hair ties come out to pin her hair off her neck. Makeup? Forget it. She totally a creature of comfort.

Me? Fortunately, I live in an area where temperatures in summer are normally moderate. Any temperature over 80 is a heat wave. Summer nights are cool. I only wear dresses. That's in my mind set. I have an attraction for the feel of nylon; panties and slips. No matter what time of year it's a dress (sundress to sweater dress) and nylon panty and slip. Hosiery of course, but, stockings attached to a garter girdle and not pantyhose. Shoes? It took awhile to find a comfortable brand, size and style. When I found them, I bought multiple pairs.

In order to emulate a woman one does not have to truss themselves up in a waist cincher, hip and butt pads and don tons of makeup, especially in hot weather. I think it is rather obvious a woman can wear minimal clothing and still portray her womanhood. Most of us have to add a whole bunch of stuff to create an illusion of what we think we want to appear as. That being said I am sure someone is going to throw up a picture of himself in a one piece bathing suit with a nicely tanned body and longish hair. You'd be the exception.

[Teri Ray]

Everything about dressing enfemme for me is as if not more comfortable than being in my drab clothes. The one exception for me is..............in my effort to achieve a certain look I do or wear things that might not be comfortable for long periods of time. A tight corset or certain high heeled shoes tend to get uncomfortable after time. I do use clip on earings that tend to get uncomfortable after several hours. I will also admit there are days where my wig feels tight on my head after time. Doesn't always happen but if it feels tight on my head I gotta get it off. Most of the things that get uncomfortable are of my own doing.

[Genifer Teal]

I can be comfortable in heels that may not be entirely comfortable. As reference my heels are all good. I can last at least 4 hours in them. None are really too uncomfortable.

[CrossKimmy]

A dress is much more comfortable than a pair of pants tbh.

[Jessica Secret]

Great topic Cecily, for me I'm definitely comfortable when dressed given that I wear beautiful/romantic lingerie & sleepwear to bed every night, so needless to say it's very comfortable and I always feel luxurious in it.

[Kimberly A.]

Hi, Cecily. :)
Wow, I think you may've read my mind! LOL..... Seriously, a lot of times when I'm out en femme, I often think to myself, "I am uncomfortably comfortable with this". And the reason I think that is, not really because of the way women's clothes feel, (although I will talk more about that in this post, since you brought it up), it's because in the back of my mind I think, "I am a man, I shouldn't be doing this. I shouldn't be dressing and presenting as a woman in public. I've been taught that boys don't wear girls' clothes and vice-versa when I was growing up"..... As I'm sure most if not everyone here has been taught as well. But, it just feels like it's who I'm meant to be, not to be a woman 24/7, but to be a crossdresser and let out my feminine side that I feel has been hiding for all of my life.

Also, "uncomfortably comfortable with this" is a quote from my favorite TV show, "Supernatural"...... It was in the first season, where the two main characters, Dean and Sam Winchester were, well, I won't go into details about that, but they had to do something to stop a ghost and they had a woman with them and she said, "You guys are uncomfortably comfortable with this"! ROFL :lol: Anyway, I just thought it was funny that you should bring up a quote that I've heard on that show. LOL

But anyway, back to women's clothes being comfortable or uncomfortable on me..... Like you, Cecily, I love pantyhose and I wear them every waking moment and sometimes I sleep in them. But yes, even pantyhose can get a bit uncomfortable, especially if they're a little too small and too tight in the waist. Also, I've had bras that were too tight under my natural breasts and would dig into my sides and into my skin, I had to get rid of those bras. I've also had shoes that were too small and killed my feet, so I had to get rid of those as well. I don't like uncomfortable clothing, but who does? LOL But yes, of course I know that most GG's, even probably some CD'ers here will sacrifice comfort for fashion, which I will NEVER understand the reasoning behind that! LOL

And with that said, I can understand now why GG's are often anxious to rip their uncomfortable clothes off, especially heels when they get home. I mean, if you're wearing clothes that are too tight, or that bind or pinch, or shoes that kill your feet then yeah, I'd wanna take them off as quickly as I could too! LOL..... But, I buy clothes and shoes that fit, so it's really not an issue for me.

So as far as going out en femme, all dolled up, wearing a dress, or a top and skirt, or leggings and any of that with tights or pantyhose and women's shoes or boots, then yeah, I'm uncomfortably comfortable with it! :bs: As I've said before, it's like second nature to me now. LOL

[Sometimes Steffi]

I have some panty briefs where I get the tactile sensation every step I take.

I have other panty briefs that fit me so well, I almost feel like I'm wearing nothing at all. They are supremely comfortable,

Like Monica, I kind of like being "trussed up" in a tight fitting high waisted girdle and other similar accoutrements. Sometimes I even wear two panties with butt pads to get more booty.

One time I was feeling extremely comfortable in my dress. Instead of the girdle, padded panties, etc. I just wore a simple Hanes cotton high cut panty. I was amazed by how comfortable it was without all the body enhancements.

[Linda K.]

I have a favorite pair of pantyhose I like to wear because of the color and it's ability to disguise imperfections in my legs. However, when I first put them on, they bunch up around the the top of my thighs and really dig in. I find that after using the restroom a few times during the day, the re-adjusting of the hose tends to put them perfectly where they should be, they quit digging in, and become very comfortable to wear. I guess I need to learn how to put them on right the first time.

I also bought a bra with breast form pockets that was okay to wear all day but found it was so tight that it would leave impressions for days after taking it off. I purchased a package of bra extenders, about 3 inches long, and have been using those. Now I can't even tell I am wearing a bra and there are no impressions once I take it off. Kris and Helen are right, once you know your size it makes it easy to go for comfort.

[Lorna]

Having thought about this question overnight, I concluded that, whether male or female, clothing can be uncomfortable but, more frequently, it is not so much discomfort as restriction or inapproptiateness that's the problem. Let me explain.
Personally I don't regard wearing a man's suit and tie as uncomfortable - but it would be if I was sitting on a beach in the sun. Likewise, I don't find stockings or tights or bras uncomfortable but they, too, might feel uncomfortable out walking on a hot day.
Looking more specifically at some items of women's clothing, there's no doubt in my mind (and experience) that because women have so much wider a choice of what to wear, there are bigger contrasts for women in what is comfortable in what circumstances and therefore a greater chance of an item of clothing proving or becoming uncomfortable in the course of a day's activities. How often have we heard women say their heels are comfortable but would find them anything but comfortable if they found themselves unexpectedly having to walk a long distance or cross a patch of wet grass.
Most of the time, it's not so much discomfort as difficulty or limitation that we experience in women's clothing. I have some chunky-heeled (three inch) which fit well, have a secure strap and are perfectly comfortable to wear for long periods. But running in them would be near-impossible - and uncomfortable.
A straight, tight skirt can be entirely comfortable but become inconvenient and restricting when trying to walk quickly or climb steep stairs. Even a wide, loose skirt can become a problem on a windy day and might be regarded as uncomfortable (i.e. I wish I hadn't worn it) as a result.
Underwear is often cited as the cause of discomfort and obviously it can be. However, bras, belts and girdles, while tight (they generally have to be or they don't work!) are not necessarily uncomfortable. They might be restrictive without being uncomfortable. On the other hand, things can go wrong. For CDs, a long-line bra worn with a high-waist girdle can give a very good figure and, although tight, especially on a male waist, are seen as reasonably comfortable and worth the inevitable restriction. However, I can confirm that making the mistake of wearing an excellent and comfortable long-line bra but with a standard waist length girdle can quickly become very uncomfortable - painful even - when a gap appears and a roll of flesh is pinched tightly between the two garments. Taking either garment off might simply not be an option when away from home and the discomfort might then be almost unbearable.
Suspenders are often described as uncomfortable or "a nuisance" but we learn to live with them and even enjoy how they feel - we just get used to them. Again, though, I can confirm that if you happen to be wearing a girdle that has suspenders right at the back (those with six suspenders, usually) sitting down on a hard chair or bench can suddenly be very uncomfortable and difficult to avoid. That situataion was very common in the days when most women wore those garments - and you can understand how pleased they were when tights came along and suspenders weren't needed. On a couple of occasions my girlfriend at the time released the back suspenders on her girdle before sittting down for a long time (cinema once, long car journey once) because her girdle was not as tight (uncomfortable) when sitting if the tension at the back was released.
These examples suggest that it's more the variety of clothing styles and types worn by women that have the potential to cause discomfort than simply being "women's clothes" and it's the combination of circumstances and clothing that results in restriction or discomfort. But isn't that what makes those clothes so intriguing to men?

[Brenda Freeman]

I have always found panties more comfortable than mens underwear. Love the look too. Pantyhose is very comfortable to me, bras are comforting for me,not comfortable for very long. a dress or well fitting skirt is very comfortable with hosiery. The clothes are also how I like to see my self, I look forward to dressing as a woman not so much mens clothes.

[Jenn A116]

Fun question! One that I can't definitively answer. I have a lot of women's clothes that are very comfortable. Nice soft fabrics and cuts that aren't confining. I also actually enjoy the feel of a bra's soft embrace as it holds my forms to my chest. OTOH, I also enjoy going braless and the feeling of wearing my forms attached.

Having said that about women's clothes, I will also say that most of my men's clothes are also comfortable. Being retired and living in central FL I'm in cargo shorts and t-shirt/polo's most of the time. Can't recall the last time I had to wear a tie (definitely uncomfortable) or jacket.

Hows that for an equivocal answer. ;)

[sometimes_miss]

It seems odd, that the very things we WANT to put on, are the very ones that women can't wait to take off. Bras, heels, etc..
For us, perhaps it's psychological comfort which allows us to spend lots of time in clothing which women find restrictive or uncomfortable. Wearing female specific clothing, especially things which provide tactile constant sensations which we can't ignore that tell us that we're wearing girl clothes, can go far to rectify the gender identity dysphoria that makes male clothing only seem uncomfortable.
How many absolutely love to wear bras? You know, that female specific garment which reminds us with every breath, that we're wearing 'woman stuff'. Stockings with garters, or pantyhose, which also require frequent adjustments, not to mention the cost of replacing them? Women hate that, but WE love it. Or panties that slide on our skin with every step? Heels which women can't wait to get out of, but WE can't wait to put on? Dresses which zip or worse, BUTTON up the back; we love it. The sensation of doing something so female specific, even when difficult or troublesome, is what we love. Oh, and make up? And shaving their legs? That, too, is something that women find to be a general PITA, but we actually enjoy it. Long hair is a maintenance nightmare, but women put up with it to look pretty, and many of us just love the feeling of long hair brushing against our neck, shoulders, arms and chest; not to mention the almost constant brushing it aside to get it out of our face?

But we love all of that. All because it spells 'female' to us, and that's what we crave so much.

JMHO.

[Bianca Fay]

There are so many great comments in this thread. So many valid and thought provoking statements.

For me personally, I really identified with both Monica and Sometimes Miss regarding their views on the exquisite sensory/tactile sensation of wearing women's clothing.

[Debs]

I wear what fits me these days, used to want to squeeeeeeze into that mini skirt or tight dress, found I can be just as fem in casual smart clothes, but maybe shorter skirt at night in the pubs, lol

[Maid_Marion]

I got used to wearing boy clothes that fit poorly. Women's clothes fits me much better.

I find some women's clothes to be uncomfortable at first, like thongs, but I've gotten used to wearing them.:)

I go shopping in wedges or booties with 2 inch heels.

Marion

[Lea]

Once I figured out sizes the only thing that that becomes uncomfortable on a regular basis is my wig. The wig after a few days will bother me. Part of the issue is the heat in the summer as I do not set my air conditioner very low and after wearing it for several days for twelve hours a day I will take it off during the day. I do not go out so I can take wig breaks.

[Bruce64]

I love wearing Panties so I looked around the Globe to find ones that I can wear all Day long and I have lots of them, whenever I do say that I have bought a Hanro Panty, so and so style I would receive comments about the High price. Well one way of getting a good fit is getting a high end Panty not always, I have Vanity Fair ones and the Nylon do not stretch, Katie and Laura have stretchy satin Panties, another thing with Panties is the crotch width, some Companies make Panties with wider crotch or gusset and the other thing is style Hi cut and Hipster fits Men's body really well, with all that information, I am a Panty Doctor, first you have to try it on then buy it not the other way around. Same for Bras, I go to a store and try them on and I love Bras too, 2 weeks ago I bought 3 Bras from Change they are absolutely comfortable to wear all day and night, last night I slept in a Bra.

[Maria 60]

When I meet my wife she was the pantyhose queen, she would wear them everyday, now she doesn't even own a pair. She asked me all the time how can I wear pantyhose all day and almost all the time. When I remind her of her youth she tells me they were in style then and they were very uncomfortable but sacrifice to be in style.
There are brands of pantyhose that to me are more comfortable and I do have my favourite bra but even if something is uncomfortable I still wear it. There were hot sunny days when we would go for a walk and I would wear pantyhose under my pants and a bra and my wife would ask me why I want to punish myself like that.
My most uncomfortable thing was a pair of panties that weren't designed for the mans junk and they slide to one side and it was the most uncomfortable feeling. I kept going to the restroom and adjust them but they would slide right back. You would of thought I threw them out but no, I still retry them just to the same results, I guess my wife is right I must enjoy punishment

[Sometimes Steffi]

As an engineer, I developed a rule of thumb to see if the width of the gusset (the part of the panty between your legs is wide enough. If the width of the gusset is as long as my middle finger the gusset will be wide enough.

One more rule. If there is a seam in the gusset going from front to back, the panty will never be comfortable. Yout junk will hang to one side or the other and the seam will chafe the rest of your junk.

[Krisi]

Some clothes are naturally more comfortable than others and that goes for men's clothes and women's clothes. In general though, women's clothes are not more comfortable than men's clothes. It's just an excuse that some crossdressers use.

[Monique65]

I find Vanity Fair Brilliance high cut panties to be much more comfortable than my old tightie whities. The fact that my wife picked them out for me is icing on the cake.

[docrobbysherry]

Cecily, you're question vexed me for years after I first found this site! So, many girls here describe how "comfortable" they r in women's things. :eek:

When I know for a fact synth panties, girdles, bras, hi heels, and wigs r NOT comfortable compared to my loose fitting, tidy whities, loose cotton, jeans and shirt, and Sperry Topsiders! And, in fact that discomfort is one of the things I like about cross dressing!:devil:

What the CD's and T's here mean is they feel more "natural", (comfortable), wearing women's things!:heehee:

[alwayshave]

I love wearing girdles and long line bras, I love the constriction. So I guess I enjoy what others have stated as uncomfortable.

[MonicaPVD]

Constriction! That's the perfect term, Jamie. It feels so good, except in the middle of summer when it's 90 out and you can hear yourself sweating to death underneath the layers. Constriction!

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

Some clothes are naturally more comfortable than others and that goes for men's clothes and women's clothes. In general though, women's clothes are not more comfortable than men's clothes. It's just an excuse that some crossdressers use.

Krisi, you are so wrong! (at least in the parts that I disagree with.) Skirts and dresses are more comfortable than pants, camis are more comfortable than shirts, women's shirts are usually more comfortable than men's shirts (so much softer!), women's jeans are stretchy and more comfortable than men's jeans (although the pockets suck). Panties are often more comfortable, but there are a million variables that can reverse that ruling (Spandex is my friend).

Bras and pantyhose really aren't that comfortable, but we like them anyway. Heels, even more so.

There are also other variables. Women can wear short shorts, men "can't". The shorter the shorts, the more comfortable, providing there's something there to keep junk from leaking out the sides which can be horribly uncomfortable (you know what I mean).
Also, "comfortable" means more than one thing. I wear short shorts a lot, knowing that if my FIL or my neighbors see me it won't look as bad as if I'm wearing a skirt, which makes me more comfortable.

BUT, your point is quite valid. We do make excuses to do what we want.

[Davina2833]

alwayshave,

Don't you just love the "being hugged feeling" that you get from your bra and girdle.

Davina

[XemmaX]

some things are totally comfortable and some clothes are really uncomfortable like all the super tight stuff that doesnt stretch so good. the shapewear can be annoying. as for wigs depends on the time of year!

[HollyGreene]

Most of my clothes are comfortable and I can wear them all day long. I have a couple of bras that are not so comfortable, but I don't wear them as often as the others.
When women complain about bras being uncomfortable, it's probably because they have the wrong size. I read that more than 50% of women wear the wrong size bra because they've not measured themselves.
My first wife insisted she was 34D, so when I commented that her bras looked too tight she got me to measure her and she turned out to be 36C, which happened to be the size I had at the time. She tried one of mine and found it to be much more comfortable.
As we also wore the same size panties, we had a whole underwear sharing thing going on after that.

[DianeT]

While dressing I don't especially dig uncomfortable but I bear with it if the look makes up for it. That is true for heels. For the rest, I don't really wear anything uncomfortable. The clothes are more snug than anything else, and I like this sensation of being in a feminine armor, a feeling of protection and power at the same time.

[Lilly Diadem]

I'd have put up with anything in the early days - too small, tight, wrong colour or material, but now comfort does come first.
Sometimes things that I think look nice and will be fun to wear turn out to be uncomfortable or just don't cut it for me.

As I'm not into going out dressed anymore the feel outweighs looks and these days anything that doesn't make the grade goes.

When the fog hits most things will hit the mark but once it clears I feel the tightness of clothing or underwear or the shoes that pinch and those items head for the wash and start their journey elsewhere.

[kimmy p]

It depends on the clothing. As others have mentioned. Panties are better than men's undies (unless wearing a sweaty wet thong), skirts rock to the point that I also wear men's utility kilts regularly. I like wearing bras. I am heavy and have a chest. A bra supports my jiggly chest. Heels I put up with for the looks. Yesterday, I wore a corset for about 10 hours. Normally restricting but not terrible. But during the 4 hour round trip driving the corset was forced up taking my breastplate with it and put pressure against my throat the entire time. Very uncomfortable.

[Mackem Sue]

Hmm, it depends. I'll comment female garments in general are less bulky and softer than male garments. That said, that can be reversed if a garment is made more for looks rather than comfort.

I'd agree with the line that crossdressers feel more comfortable in women's clothes and thus it's a psychological feeling. But it also depends upon the garment.

Knickers / panties generally feel more comfortable than male equivalents. Slips nicer than T-Shirts or vests. Skirts with hosiery (more so with stockings and garter / suspender belt for me as I'm tall, but each to their own) I find general more comfortable that trousers or jeans. A dress with a decent fabric can be more comfortable that a jumper.

I've said skirts are "nicer" to wear than trousers, however, the balance swings can in favour if trousers on cold days as even with high denier hosiery lower legs especially can become cold. That can be countered by a skirt and boots arrangement though.

I couldn't sleep in a bra, as even a well fitting bra is going to itch through the night eventually. Let's be honest, the bra is about completeness in crossdressing. Corsets, etc., same argument as it's about looks rather than comfort.

Also, as much as we like the lift, it's rare that really high heels can be comfortable to wear - you need an exact fit and once beyond 3.5 to 4 inches you have no chance of sustained comfort. I'd argue, however, if the heel is relatively low, say up to 2 inches maximum, there's little difference between heels and male dress shoes. Women's court shoes also have the advantage of no laces to tie.

However, trainers for comfort are always going to win. And you can't practically exercise in heels (except dance perhaps).

Mind you, there are women out there who keep trying to compete with each other over what is actually an official world record. Running a marathon in high heels!!! This is the current record holder.

https://www.thelocal.fr/20190415/french-woman-breaks-world-record-for-running-marathon-in-heels/

Sue

[Rachael Fernandez]

I've been following this post for some time now and I agree that women's clothes are generally more comfortable than men's. That said, I've learnt over the past 45 years which styles to buy for comfort. I like the full cut panty and find the high cut, boy leg and other "fashion" cuts uncomfortable; especially the G string (or thong). I feel very comfortable in suspenders and stockings rather than pantyhose. Pantyhose, like trousers and jeans, feel restrictive and going to the loo is a hassle as well when wearing them. I enjoy wearing camisoles and slips apart from when the straps keep falling off my shoulders.

Don't we all love wearing a bra! The ultimate feminine garment. I own about 2 dozen and most fit uncomfortably. I am not brave enough to get a fitting and continue to buy off the rack. A few of them fit nicely, but most are horribly uncomfortable most of the time, but exhilarating to wear, and don't you just love the look and feel when you place your breast forms in.

I find the soft sensual materials just gorgeous next to my skin and under dress nearly everyday. Topped off with a dress or skirt and I feel very comfortable within myself and the feelings I have as Rachael. Yes, over the years many times I have been uncomfortably comfortable. I wouldn't trade any of those times to be a man 24/7.

[ronny0]

@Rachael Fernandez;

For me, the 'thong or g-string' or even the pull of the Bra straps are for ever reminders of what it takes to 'present' in a manner that others might find appealing / desirable / sexual.
I enjoy wearing a thong every chance I get, and even more a full body shaper & forms that hide my male aspect and might fool the world into thinking that I am something of desire.
I only wish we all could appear as what our minds tell us others desire us to be. Not sure that is understandable. My desire would be that each of us would be able to be seen as we feel we are. As in I don't desire anyone to look at me and see a 60+ male CD, rather my 'dream' would be for the world to turn a blind eye and see me as a 40/50 something attractive person looking for approval & appreciation.

[Lorna]

The mention of "feminine armour" struck a chord. In those (now far-off) days when women - even young ones - wore dresses and skirts over "foundation garments", there was such a stark contrast between the soft, flowing, feminine fabrics of the outer "covering" clothes and the sometimes hard, stiff underwear. Putting an arm round a girl's waist or hips immediately demonstrated this "armour" sensation. Girls told me that they recognised this themselves: they started by putting on their "armour" with its hooks, eyes, straps, bones, suspender clips, etc and then, when satisfied that they were properly armoured, put on the soft, feminine covering layer which the world would see. Those were very different feelings and experiences from those that we males had - and a prompt for our interest in experiencing such clothes for ourselves.

[NancySue]

As I said earlier, everything I own, trial and error, fits comfortably, including boned girdles, long line bras,etc. I find there are times when I make adjustments, not necessarily because of any discomfort, but just a habit I have and enjoy. Bra straps, scooping, stockings, panties, garters, makeup, are examples. I always smile after.