steffie39
04-05-2006, 07:52 PM
Hi girls,
This is a long post. Sorry I couldn't make it shorter.
The end result: my wife and I are going out together again (me as Steffie) for the first time in about 6 months. It will be to a far away place (Las Vegas)but first some background.
My wife has always been accepting of my crossdressing and allows me to go out to CD meetings or out with my CDing friends and for that I'm always grateful. However, one of the few times my wife tried going out with me en-femme last October (to a couple of clothing stores) did not end well in that she said she saw people staring and laughing at me. This understandably upset her and she said in the future she did not want to go out as this bothered her but I could still go out as Steffie, which I have been doing. However, I consider my wife as my best friend and it is sad not to be able to share this part of me with her. Since that time, my wife has not really seen me dressed as I always leave the house as male, change and return male. However, I have tried to dress more like most GG's as to try not to stand out. I wore some women's slacks or jeans on some occasions with boots instead of high heels.
Just last week when my wife and I were at a mall shopping for both her and me (as my male self of course), we came across this store with some expensive coats (like mink and some less expensive ones, etc.). We went in and my wife tried some on. She knew they were like realy high but she asked half kiddingly if she could get some kind of coat. I wispered to her (also half-kiddingly) that if Steffie could go out with her, then maybe I might be more inclined to get her something lke that. [grin] I expected her to say something like: Yea, right!" but to my surprise she then said that was possible. I was in a bit of shock when I heard this as I didn't expect this. I asked if she were really serious and she replied yes. Needless to say, I then started to rekindle my hopes of going out with my wife en-femme again. I then said I would just want to go out with her only once in a while (i.e. not get greedy and ask for too much at once) but not too close to home. I also didn't want just a one shot deal. She then said if it were in a place far away from NJ then it would be fine and if people would stare, it wouldn't bother her.
Well the next day or so she then comes up with the idea of going somewhere. She likes gambling but AC is too close so she then decides she wants to go to Las Vegas. She says on our departure day from NJ (April 13) I should stay male and on return trip (April 16), also stay male but she says I can be Steffie on April 14 and 15. We used some frequent flyer miles for the Easter weekend and she found a nice casino/hotel to go to. Thus I get to be Steffie in Las Vegas for 2 days! :) :) :)
I am an optimistic person and the glass is half full. I am indeed exited about this but there is still a part of me deep down overanalyzing there can still be a repeat of last October: what if someone stares and my wife sees? I know my wife thought before in October that this would be OK but when we were at the stores reasonably far from our home (about 50 miles), she couldn't handle the staring. I don't know if over 2000 miles will make any difference? Maybe I should just stay around her for a short time, hope no one stares and walk away to a safe disance and try to build on this "positive" rather than stay close too long? I also don't want to cause my wife any discomfort either (from other people staring).
I'm happy though that she gave me a second chance. I guess though there are two strikes and I have to swing away and either I'll hit a home run (uneventful weekend) or I'll strike out (people staring and my wife reacting like last October?). It'll be an adventure though and better to try than never to get a chance I guess. Very seldom does a seond chance come along. I count my blessings. Thanks for reading my long post.
Steffie
This is a long post. Sorry I couldn't make it shorter.
The end result: my wife and I are going out together again (me as Steffie) for the first time in about 6 months. It will be to a far away place (Las Vegas)but first some background.
My wife has always been accepting of my crossdressing and allows me to go out to CD meetings or out with my CDing friends and for that I'm always grateful. However, one of the few times my wife tried going out with me en-femme last October (to a couple of clothing stores) did not end well in that she said she saw people staring and laughing at me. This understandably upset her and she said in the future she did not want to go out as this bothered her but I could still go out as Steffie, which I have been doing. However, I consider my wife as my best friend and it is sad not to be able to share this part of me with her. Since that time, my wife has not really seen me dressed as I always leave the house as male, change and return male. However, I have tried to dress more like most GG's as to try not to stand out. I wore some women's slacks or jeans on some occasions with boots instead of high heels.
Just last week when my wife and I were at a mall shopping for both her and me (as my male self of course), we came across this store with some expensive coats (like mink and some less expensive ones, etc.). We went in and my wife tried some on. She knew they were like realy high but she asked half kiddingly if she could get some kind of coat. I wispered to her (also half-kiddingly) that if Steffie could go out with her, then maybe I might be more inclined to get her something lke that. [grin] I expected her to say something like: Yea, right!" but to my surprise she then said that was possible. I was in a bit of shock when I heard this as I didn't expect this. I asked if she were really serious and she replied yes. Needless to say, I then started to rekindle my hopes of going out with my wife en-femme again. I then said I would just want to go out with her only once in a while (i.e. not get greedy and ask for too much at once) but not too close to home. I also didn't want just a one shot deal. She then said if it were in a place far away from NJ then it would be fine and if people would stare, it wouldn't bother her.
Well the next day or so she then comes up with the idea of going somewhere. She likes gambling but AC is too close so she then decides she wants to go to Las Vegas. She says on our departure day from NJ (April 13) I should stay male and on return trip (April 16), also stay male but she says I can be Steffie on April 14 and 15. We used some frequent flyer miles for the Easter weekend and she found a nice casino/hotel to go to. Thus I get to be Steffie in Las Vegas for 2 days! :) :) :)
I am an optimistic person and the glass is half full. I am indeed exited about this but there is still a part of me deep down overanalyzing there can still be a repeat of last October: what if someone stares and my wife sees? I know my wife thought before in October that this would be OK but when we were at the stores reasonably far from our home (about 50 miles), she couldn't handle the staring. I don't know if over 2000 miles will make any difference? Maybe I should just stay around her for a short time, hope no one stares and walk away to a safe disance and try to build on this "positive" rather than stay close too long? I also don't want to cause my wife any discomfort either (from other people staring).
I'm happy though that she gave me a second chance. I guess though there are two strikes and I have to swing away and either I'll hit a home run (uneventful weekend) or I'll strike out (people staring and my wife reacting like last October?). It'll be an adventure though and better to try than never to get a chance I guess. Very seldom does a seond chance come along. I count my blessings. Thanks for reading my long post.
Steffie