Is CDing U just being U?

[kwebb]

How would you respond to someone asserting, that, by CDing you are trying to be someone you are not (namely a woman). They then go on to say you should stop CDing and "just be yourself".


By Cding are you trying to be something you're not?

Or ,to quite the contrary, thru CDing are you simply trying to just be yourself?

Comments observations please.

[Marla S]

How would you respond to someone asserting, that, by CDing you are trying to be someone you are not (namely a woman).
My genes say I am a male, my brain tells me something about a bunch of feminity. Clothes aid to express and enforce the brain part. By stopping CDing I'd try to be someone I should be in other peoples eyes.

[Annaliese]

How would you respond to someone asserting, that, by CDing you are trying to be someone you are not (namely a woman). They then go on to say you should stop CDing and "just be yourself".


By Cding are you trying to be something you're not?

Or ,to quite the contrary, thru CDing are you simply trying to just be yourself?

Comments observations please.
Iam just being my self. When I have tried to stop in the past, that is when I am trying to be someone I am not.

Anna

[Adrienne Heels]

I think your mind and body are telling you that you want to dress, and that you need to in order to be truly yourself. Trying to repress those feelings is futile.

[TGMarla]

By CDing, I'm not being someone I'm not, I'm manifesting a part of me that is not readily apparent to others around me. Sure, I'm presenting as a female, while I'm physically male. Sure, I go by a name by which others don't know me. But to say I'm trying to be someone I'm not is erroneous, as I'm actually displaying a "someone" that I've been for 33 years. The sentiments as stated in the original post in this thread are the opinions of the uneducated masses, and they are made from a position of ignorance to the realities of the situation.

[Teresa Amina]

Often it's More Me than Me. That everyday in the world me is often the big faker doing what's necessary to survive.

[Yes I am]

It's just me feeling pretty.

[claire angie]

as i sit in my new red skirt and red top wearing a cream bra and pants thinking about this question,i come up with the answer that i am just being me and thats that,being a crossdresser is me. claire xx

[Darlene Rochelle]

Cding is a main part of me.Wearing femme clothing feels NORMAL to me.Doing femme things seems and feels normal.:doll:

[Josi]

I feel more me when I can dress - whether I am dressed or not.

The fact that I can dress gives me a sense of completeness that I didnt have when I couldnt.

I never believe I "am" a woman .. just revel in feminity when I can 'cos its such a nice and comfortable place to be.

[CharlaineCadence]

Ever since I came to accept my real self. The woman that I am traped in a mans body. I have felt as though waights have been striped off me. I'm less depressed. More comfendent, and most of all I am finaly able to accept myself. My trying to be the manly man that I thought I had to be was me trying to be someone or something I am not. I am a woman and proud of it. When I am ready I will go further. but right now education and understanding is the best thing for me.

Thouse who complain are the ones who are afraid of change.

[Kimberly]

By CDing I am both being myself and something I am not.

It's part of my personality to want to dress like this, and I'm not pretending to be someone else - I'm demonstrating my female side in outward expression.

Another perspective on this might be: they're just clothes. ;) STOP WEARING CLOTHES! lol

[PennieS]

It is just me being me. I am more comfortable as a more feminate person and find myself becomming more feminate almost every day. Interests, mannerism, appearence, likes, dislikes and it has become more apparent to me that what others might think is not that important to me.:happy:

[Kathycd]

Kathy is a part of me which I choose not to ignore, so dressed or drab I am me. As it was once said, "there is no try," to be someone else, as me with out Kathy is but an emptyness. <smile>

kathy

[maid phylis]

i am a woman trapped in a mans body .i have known that from the time i put on my mothers nylon stockings.i started dressing when i was very young and i akways feel more comfortable in a dress than pants,when i go out dressed to cdi i never wear a pant suit like some of the other girls do .i always wear a dres or a skirt.in my mind i am feminine and i love to express my self as a woman.love phylisanne:yrtw: :doll:

[BrookeMckayla]

I would say that I am being more me than I ever was now that I'm accepting of my crossdressing.

Me as a female, is me unfiltered. When I'm a male, I am most certainly not my 100% true self.

[Cathy Anderson]

How would you respond to someone asserting, that, by CDing you are trying to be someone you are not (namely a woman). They then go on to say you should stop CDing and "just be yourself".
I would try to diplomatically get them to see how they are naive and a bit presumptuous to think they can explain something like this which they have never experienced personally.

However, I might agree with such a person to this extent: they we (most, anyway), often do make the mistake of thinking we actually want to be women. I believe what's actually going on is that we are trying to experience feelings, sensations and emotions which we *associate* with being female. We dress to gain access to these feelings, sensations and emotions. But potentially dressing is not necessary for this.

Cathy

[Cathy Anderson]

Me as a female, is me unfiltered. When I'm a male, I am most certainly not my 100% true self.
I think that's a very good way of saying it.

I would add, though, in my case, that there is "surplus baggage" with the female self-image. The feelings are real, but many beliefs and inferences concerning the feelings or their implications are not.

Cathy

[Bev06 GG]

Dont we all. Just by applying makeup a GG is trying to be more attractive than she actually is by highlighting her more positive attributes and disguising those not so positive. But isn't it human nature to want to be something that we are not.
By crossdressing CDs are expressing a part of the person that they are, by hiding in the closet they are hiding a facet of their personality and not being true to themselves or others. We all have parts of our personality that we try to hide from others, and isn't it just so frustrating.

Live and let live and be the person that you are if you can, I know that for Cross dressers this is not always possible. People should love us all for who we are, not for who they or society think that we should be. That is of course unless it is harmful to others, which CD ing definitely is not.
BEVxxxx

[ReginaK]

I say CDing is being yourself. No one accuses anyone else of not being themselves when they put on their clothes. Why would crossdressers be any different?

[ronda]

to be your self you must follow your heart and your inner being as you were born i was born the way i am i did not become what i am i am a cder that is me i have been cross dressing as long as i can remember at age 2 or 3 i would wear my sisters dress and my moms high heels and my sisters silk panties and was very happy doing so. so when i cross dress or dress in drab i am bring me :happy: :happy: :)

[Joy Carter]

It is up to me to be the way I see myself not someone else. Some of us are feeling short changed and we try to correct that feeling by doing what makes us happy. Mine is having feelings and desires to be feminine (feels good to say that to ones pears) not on a sexual level but for just a feeling of wellbeaing a feeling of being whole and happy with ones place in life.

[kwebb]

So often the mantra everywhere I look, is 'just be yourself'.

Then I think, well in my case, you don't know what you're saying. If I really was to be myself and present that self the way I felt it aught to be presented, you would not like it very much.

I just can't be myself.

[Teresa Amina]

I just can't be myself.

Maybe someday you will be able to. Just take it easy and a step at a time. We've all got inner conflict and contradictions that have to be sorted through. That "Real" you is in there somewhere.:)

[Wombat]

I'm like Josi, the important thing is being able to dress, whether I do or not, and isn't it frustrating when you've been driving yourself crazy waiting for the next opportunity and when it comes, you don't feel like it:rolleyes:

It's all about being comfy with who I am and considering the raw material I have to work with, it's best not to be too critical or demanding. I dress how and when I feel like it ... provided I'm able to. Sometimes, that is to make myself look pretty and to feel pretty and to feel nice, sometimes pretty is clearly not much of a consideration :eek:

Cross dressing is just a part of me that gets expressed this way sometimes. I think that side of me comes out in other ways and I'm sure that's part of what makes me the interesting contradiction my gf accuses me of being (she is on record as saying - 'no-one would ever accuse you of being conventional'). It's like building row boats rather than racing dinghies, it's like driving MGs and riding motorcycles while still loving my station wagon (Dad's taxi), it's like being a hands on parent who gets involved in everything about his kids rather than letting logic and convenience get in the way, it's like wearing bloke's clothes that have my mother rolling her eyes and planning her next lecture about dressing better, it's like my gf's horror that the lovely new shirt she gave me doesn't get worn ... because it needs ironing (I don't iron anything and buy so I don't have to), it's like my intention to always have a siamese cat in the house and a preference for small/medium dogs, it's why I write horror because when I write other genres, the characters tend to develop paranormal abilities.

I'm me for a lot of reasons ... and one of those is that I like to wear a dress (and am not keen on slacks)

Wombat

[Shelly Preston]

Crossdressing is part of me
It can be frustrating when I can't dress

Its only the narrow minds in society that really cause the problems.
if it was the norm in society to do exactlly as you wish with no recriminations then the closet would be a thing of the past

Some people I know would shoot all homosexuals ( so much for a free society)
This may not happen but im sure they would be subject to ridicule by those people. Crossdressers would get added to the same category.

[Nlenro-nu2]

Quite right! When I'm crossdressing I am being my trueself! When I'm in the male way I feel fraud. Medically I'm male but my brain tells me I'm female. Sure what Psychologists will say that that's a chemical imbalance in the brain.. in a sense they are right cause it doesn't balance with the body. Psychologist and Psychriatrists get people on things like Seroquel, Risperdol, Chlorpromozene to nulify those sex signals in the brain. Creating the walking dead, Not want we want is it? Psychologists and Psychriatrists exist to help people fit in society the way the majority perceives them to fit in and not the way the client really wants to fit in!
I choose not to be on any of those pills and choose to live my life as much as I can get away like a woman even though I'm male medically speaking. Those that spend their time insulting most likely don't know themselves at all they are probably afraid to find out about themselve!
Some freakening neighbors of mine keep blabbing and saying he ain't a girl!
They may be right body wise but they sure the heck are wrong spirt wise!
I really despise such blabberheads... wouldn't be nice if all such cruel people drop dead?

[gennee]

I'm just doing something that is a part of my life.

Gennee