Older Crossdressers

[Debbie Denier]

After joining this forum .I was pleasantly surprised at how many older members there were. In the age group 50 60 70 and beyond (being in my 50s myself. )Some CD since childhood. Some new to CD at a later age. When I was 21 a fellow CD at the support group I attended informed me she wanted to quit CD when she reached old age as did not want to be like a fading movie star. I wonder what others on the forum think about this.Personally I think age is only a number and long may we continue. I abstained for many years due to marriage kids etc. However it came back with a vengeance.I Also believe in inclusivity for all ages.

[Kris Burton]

Debbie...I think about this, maybe too much, but a lot less since addressing my CD tendencies at last. I think age is age, and my body feels that every day. However, CDing has, among many other things, allowed me to beat back those years quite a lot. I have a lot of regrets about my early adult years, time lost, time wasted on useless pursuits both of a professional and personal nature. I'd love to get that time back, take paths I should have taken but denied myself, but that's impossible. Finally admitting to my own CD desires has opened up for me a whole new outlook at the future, and I look forward to the times ahead with the mindset of a much younger person. I no longer am haunted by past regret, as I now explore things I should have long ago. I choose to dress as a woman at least 30 years younger than I actually am, and for the time I am in that mode, I feel I am. So, I don't feel like a fading movie star at all, I feel more like my star is rising. In spite of how I might feel physically, when I see Kris looking back at me in the mirror, it always makes me feel vibrant, very much alive and yes, younger. No way I'd even think of stopping now!

[Sherrii]

Clint Eastwood said in his Playboy Interview many years ago "Some people are old before their time because they think old". Agree with you Debbie, don't "think old". Sherrii

[Paula_56]

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[Linda K.]

I guess I would like to add this to the conversation. Am I getting older physically? Yes. But I think younger. I don't think like kids today do, this is their time. I think like when I was younger, when I was in my 20's. But there is one lesson I learned over the years, you have to be able to laugh! But even more important, you have to be able to laugh at yourself.

I wore this hat I got when I was in the military, it's a cold weather hat that has fur on it and the "ears" flip down with a chin strap that snaps to the other earflap. I took a picture of myself wearing this with the earflaps sticking out to the sides and making a goofy looking face at the same time, kind of a Red Green moment. You Canadians will understand that one. I thought it was pretty funny and shared it with the president of the company I work for to give him a laugh too. He asked if he could use it in the monthly safety briefings about preparing for the cold weather, I said sure. My immediate supervisor came up to me one day and asked me if I was sure about this, because a lot of people were going to see this and know it was me. I looked him in the eye and said, "Terry, if you can't laugh at yourself, what can you laugh at?" I guess it was my way of saying, relax and enjoy life. People know my work ethic, now they can know my sense of humor. Does this mean I am immature, not at all. It just means I can find humor in all things, and when you can do that, you can find the good in those things as well. Stay happy, stay young, and laugh!!

[gwencd158]

59 here. Still going strong. I remember as a little kid, maybe I was 7 or so, seeing a man checking out in front of my mother with dresses. And I thought to myself, will that be me? I knew from my very first memories who I was. I don’t see myself ‘retiring’ from my little hobby. It’s been with me since birth and will be till the end. And no, I personally don’t want to be buried in heels haha.

[JustJennifer]

When I was in my late 20's I "quit" for good and purged everything simply because I felt like I was getting too old for it. My body was getting bulkier and harrier, and I just didn't like what I was seeing in the mirror. I believed then that crossdressing was a game for only the young, and I didn't want to be that faded old queen in the outdated dress.

The urge never goes away though. And like a lot of other people here, I just decided one day that it didn't matter that I was getting old. This is the only life I have, and I want to live it the way I wish. I'll never be that cute young girl again, but I can still occasionally be the woman she grew up to be. She isn't faded or outdated. Just older. Like me.

[Stephanie47]

I'm 74. I'm no longer a spring chicken. My body shows signs of aging. My face is not that of a 20 year old. My son was over last night to pick something up and he gave me hell for climbing a ladder to hang Christmas lights from the peak of the house; something about "acting my age." Heck, I'm not dead yet. All a guy has to do is look around at the women of an advancing age. What do you see? Probably the same thing you see when you look at women in their 20's, 30's, 40's, etc. Some women, just like men, take no pride in how they look. They look like they just rolled out of bed. Their bodies show a total lack of care over the years. When I do have the opportunity to be totally en femme it's still a pretty dress, heels and hosiery. I am of the opinion whatever is making me tick is not going to turn off at a certain age. No light switch. I suspect it is going to follow me into the hereafter.

[Sandi Beech]

I guess I am really lucky because even though I am in my 60s, I have been able to pass for much younger. Of course I use every little trick I can find. Example: look on Amazon for a product called instant face lift. It actually works. It took a number of outings before I realized people thought I was very much younger so I am not complaining about my age other than wishing I could get an eyelid lift. I dress well below my age, but it has worked out just fine for me. I do have one other secret trick. When I go out clubbing, I try to get a 1 hour nap in the early evening. That is the only way I can keep up with these youngsters who party until 2 to 3 AM ; )

Sandi

[Cheryl T]

Well since I fall into this category I might as well chime in.
I may be getting older, but as far as I am concerned I'm getting better with age, just like a fine wine. My skills have been refined, my fashion sense has developed and I've found the styles that suit my mood, my body and my appearance. I'm at a point where I have all the time in the world to be me, so unlike my youth where there were moments here and there. I have also developed my confidence as a woman and no longer worry about others who may stare or comment.
Will all this change with time? I'm sure things will change, they always do. Will I continue dressing and expressing the me I love so dearly? Yes, until I can no longer do for myself. When that day comes and I can no longer enjoy the process and the experience then I will stop, just as I will stop other things in my life that I will no longer physically be able to do.
Until that day ...

[Phoebe Reece]

I'm 71 and still dressing and going out in public in a dress, hose, and heels. I try to present as a classy older woman. Whether I pass or not is no issue for me. I am accepted as what I appear to be and am treated with respect. I plan to keep doing it until it's no longer fun. I have a CD friend of similar age who no longer dresses. For my friend it's stopped being fun. I know of a few more that have quit as well. I can't predict the future, but there may come a time in my life when it's simply more trouble than it's worth. It won't be at any particular age. I don't see that happening anytime soon though, as long as my health is good.

[Karren H]

I refuse to get old! Maybe a little vintageish. sigh

[kimdl93]

Yeah, I feel the passage of time and have the same questions about my future that I had a decade ago. Maybe the same questions I will be facing a decade into the future, assuming I am still around.

[Kitty Sue]

I just turned 50. I don't mind growing old.

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
Er -- i will be moving into my 80th year next week-- didnt start dressing till i was 74......... Still wear heels ( max 4 inches ! ) & thanks to my tolerant wife i dress as and when i feel like it round the house.
So rheumatism , heart problem, arthritis but i still dress though getting tights on is murder ! :-) i do have some 5.5 inch heels -- how people walk in them beats me ! So i do hear that another organisation i belong to has a member over 90.....

[April Rose]

As Bob Dylan said "Him not busy being born is busy dying." At 71 I am finding that stability, identity and health are important enough to me that I am willing to work hard at them. I'm not employed any more so that's become my job. I am not invested in in the patriarchy, so I am perfectly happy to see it crumble. That is why I am having my beard removed and flirting with a nonbinary identity.

I think that, going forward fewer people will be identifying as crossdressers because people under 40 or so are not so hysterically attached to the gender binary. A lot of those who might have identified that way are now going to identifying as non binary, or genderfluid or agender, or what have you, and they are going to be a lot more out front about it.

That said, I do personally know one person in his eighties who was once a very active crossdresser who no longer feels any need or desire to dress. He still hangs out with people in our community, because that's where his friends are.

[NancySue]

Linda, you are so definitely right. Humor and laughter keeps your mind young, especially laughing at oneself. I do it all the time. Ummm, why did I go out to the garage? 🙄 Life?s too short. Enjoy it.

[Geena75]

I got a start the other day when I got a notice of the birthday of a former student of mine who just turned 46. It didn't take a lot of thought to conclude that it was about right. What I realized, though, was that, while I am aware of my actual age, I think (and in some ways act) like I am in my 40's. You can be a better judge of this, but I think Geena looks more like a girl in her 40's. But, I do see a potential end down the road, provided that it is no longer fun for me. In the meanwhile, I am going to enjoy myself.

[RADER]

My Grandfather had a sign in his office; "We get to soon old, and to late smart"
I now understand the meaning of it.

[HollyGreene]

I just turned 60 (although I look slightly younger) and I have no intention of giving up.
My only regret is that as I get older I find it more difficult to get my makeup to look convincing. The canvas is starting to sag, so it requires a lot of effort to get it right.
On the positive side, I don't really need to do makeup unless I go outside, but that's very rare now.
There's also the question of what age am I trying to portray in my makeup. I look like early to mid 50s as a guy, and always looked younger in makeup. But as I get older, should I adapt my makeup to make me look closer to my age, through fear of the "mutton dressed as lamb" appearance?

[BTWimRobin]

Hi Debbie,


. However it came back with a vengeance. I Also believe in inclusivity for all ages.

You can say that again. I've always kept it under wraps until I hit 50. That girl in me wanted out with a vengeance. It took me 6 years to accept her and let her out. Glad I did.

[paula_16]

I feel so good being a pretty, old lady and a pretty-old lady

[Vickie_CDTV]

I have been in the trans community for over 25 years. The trans community, support groups and forums like this have always tended to be older (mid 40s+). Having younger people involved is a relatively new phenomenon.

[Wendy-Lyn]

I'll be 64 in a month, and have been dressing in a limited fashion (no pun intended)
with the usual panties cami, slip etc. since I was in my teens.

I stopped pretty-much over the last couple of years as my health deteriorated to
the point that I'd lost so much weight I literally couldn't stand to look at myself
whether dressed or in drab and had little to no interest in very much at all.

After ending up in hospital in May, close to death (yeah, scary!), I am now slowly
recovering and have regained my lost weight. But now not only has the desire to
dress returned with a vengeance, the fear/shame/worry has mostly gone.

I basically decided (well, Wendy-Lyn decided) that it's really now or never, and she
wants some time in the sun before it IS too late.

I've started buying new clothes, and dressing fully most nights. I go under-dressed
every day, and don't wear male underwear at all unless for doctor visits etc. I've
bought a pair of 'chicken-wings' so no more stuffing the bra with socks. Oh, and I
wear a bra almost everywhere now.

I even summoned the courage to go out in public dressed, which previously I'd have
NEVER considered doing.

So it seems that, at this stage, my dressing looks like increasing in the foreseeable
future, rather than declining.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I am not complaining about my age other than wishing I could get an eyelid lift.
Sandi

I think that I could get an eyelid lift. I can attribute my eyelid droop to a medical problem, not cosmetic issue, so I think that it might be covered by my insurance.

[Helen_Highwater]

Just turned 67 and no plans to stop yet.

The one thing at the back of my mind is to make sure I don't dress mutton up as lamb. That doesn't mean I dress like I've one foot in the grave, my aim is to dress as well as the best dressed GG's of my age group. To have style, class, wear quality clothing that says there's someone who knows what works and can put a good outfit together. Someone who wears things GG's will admire and appreciate.

There's an old saying that; "A man's as old as the woman he feels". Yes that's now considered sexist but the sentiment is to keep going, use it or lose it and I for one will keep wearing heels as long as my bones allow and as long as I'm mobile I'll aim to keep getting out there and show those old gals how it's done.

[Connie D50]

Just turned 66 , my goal is to go out more this year then of my other 65 lol

[Angela Marie]

Coming up on 68 in a few months. I have no plans to stop dressing.

[MonicaPVD]

We were all young once. Many of us assumed that enjoyment of life would taper off or decline with age. I wa some of those that refused to continue to the point where I'd look like an old man in a dress and wig. What we weren't accounting for was the evolution of what we enjoy and have fun with over years. Sure, I feel young but I am not young. Sure, I cannot compete with a 21 year old CD in looks. But I feel fantastic and look fantastic and plenty of people in the world agree with me. A half century ago, the Who famously sang, "hope I die before I get old." The survivors of that group, and their rock star cohort, are now as old as dirt and probably will do anything to extend and enjoy their lives as long as possible. Me too.

[Mermaiden]

There are so many of us over 60 CDers. Does AARP offer discounts on breast forms?🥝😉

[Teri Ray]

I am just over 67 and have been laughing at myself my whole life. I agree with others here that having humor in your life is a healthy attitude. Being born with this crossdressing desire just provides more reason to keep smiling.

[MarinaTwelve200]

There was MORE sexual DIMORPHISIM back when we were growing up. Perhaps that is why there are so many of us. James A. Mitchner, the late great author of many epic travel books makes such an observation in "Caravans" about his adventures in Afghanistan. Where there was a class of men who dressed as women often seen with regular men walking together in the street. This was not necessarily a "Gay" thing but made up for the otherwise LACK of women outside the home. Mitchner attributed this to the high cultural degree of "Sexual Dimorphisim" (differences between males and females). He noticed there was more CDing in countries where the dress and appearances between men and women varied greatly from each other, than in other regions where the men and women were more alike.-------I'm 72, BTW, but I don't think I look it.

[Daryl]

Dabbled in it all my life. Am 82 now and when I went fulltime at 65 when I
retired have enjoyed every minute of it.

[Sometimes Steffi]

T minus 36 days (until I'm 70).

My wife is a little over 4 years older than me. With a little lie (of 2 weeks) she thought I was only 3 years older than her. If she had known it was a 4 year difference back then when I was 22, she might never have gone out on a date with me. As i;ve seen her age so quickly over the last 4 years, I see Father time coming up behind me very quickly.

[DanielleCD]

I'm a healthy 60 and enjoyed dressing as much as ever... and with much more choices and experience... as long as I can keep slim, dresses will fit and look keep looking great... why stop?

[candykowal]

At 62, I have been retired for four years and have finally hit my "Wonder Years!"
I wonder ....where I put my keys, why I didn't cap off my nail polish, what day is it, where I put my glasses, and how I got a run in my nylons!

Things that don't make me feel any better.....
Saying, I am 31 for the second time.
Knowing I have outlived the age my Grandfather lived to.
Someone telling me, age gets better with wine.
Not getting "Over The Hill" Birthday gifts anymore.
Knowing the candles cost more than the cake.
Realizing my back goes out more than I do.
Finding out when I was born the dead sea was only sick.

But hey, in whiskey years, I just got desirable and delicious!
I maybe too old to learn new tricks, but the old tricks work just fine!:heehee:

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Debbie :hugs:, I just turned 79 Last week and I have no intension of slowing Down, I Enjoy my dressing as much as Ever,

>>>>>>>Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[docrobbysherry]

Well, Debbie, I believe you're as old as u feel. I'm 20+ years older than u!:eek:

And, still going out to clubs dancing with 20+ y/o GG's!:heehee:

This was taken last weekend!:daydreaming:
325424

[Wendy-Lyn]

@ candykowal

I, too, can relate to those 'things' you mention. :cheers:

[Shawn Michelle]

I just turned 52 last week, and my dressing desires are as strong as ever. I feel I’ve still got lots of room to grow and learn, plus I still want to leave the closet and venture out into the big wide world.

[CeCe]

Thanks for introducing this topic, Debbie. I am 68 years old and I refuse to lead a boring life. While I dabbled in crossdressing in the past from time to time, this time I am embracing this as a new adventure, and it is exciting!

[kayegirl]

I often say that my grandson is 12, going on 21. So I'm 71 going on 51. And I totally agree with LindaK, learn to laugh at yourself first.

[Wendy me]

Not thinking about quitting any time soon

I am down from 198 pounds to 143 now i can fit into a size 8 i get addressed in fem as well as in male mode

[alwayshave]

Debbie, I'm 60 and have been crossdressing my whole life. But you will find a wide age group of CDs here.

[kellyanne]

I'm turning 60 and the older I get ; the better I feel as a crossdresser / transgendered man albeit mostly in solitude.

I now feel secure enough to attend some events en femme when all this COVID disruption goes away.

Hopefully meet another single to dress with - I concluded years ago another CD is my most logical romantic date.

It's been a tough but good year.

[steffigirl37]

I am 66yrs old. Crossdressing has always been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. I am healthy and still work at a very physical job. I see dressing as a method of relaxation and tension release. I don't ever see giving it up.

[Fortuneta]

71 and going strong since I can remember playing house with my sister!!! Not out often but have full support of my wife inside. Looking forward to Christmas presents from her as promises come to fruition.

[Lacey New]

Into my eighth decade now. But oddly, being retired had limited my dressing. No more business trips for me or for my wife.

[Star01]

I turned 70 a couple months ago. Retirement, the pandemic and losing access to a cabin changed everything. I?m still shaved smooth and occasionally underdress but the change in routine along with a year of health concerns have dampened my enthusiasm. I am still in a DADT and it?s very difficult to find opportunities to dress and shop online.

I will always be a crossdresser and am anxiously looking forward to a solo road trip. Those are my only opportunities to dress when I chase sporting events my wife is not interested in. She considers my trips as still too risky and won?t agree until these virus surges subside. There is a faint light at the end of the tunnel that keeps me looking forward.

[Liz Jones]

There was MORE sexual DIMORPHISIM back when we were growing up. Perhaps that is why there are so many of us. James A. Mitchner, the late great author of many epic travel books makes such an observation in "Caravans" about his adventures in Afghanistan. Where there was a class of men who dressed as women often seen with regular men walking together in the street. This was not necessarily a "Gay" thing but made up for the otherwise LACK of women outside the home. Mitchner attributed this to the high cultural degree of "Sexual Dimorphisim" (differences between males and females). He noticed there was more CDing in countries where the dress and appearances between men and women varied greatly from each other, than in other regions where the men and women were more alike.-------I'm 72, BTW, but I don't think I look it.

I for one agree with you !

[Monique65]

I just turned 69 and the desire to dress is as strong as it ever was. I underdress daily in bra and panties, have my body shaved from my neck down, and have my toenails painted a lovely pink. I don’t plan on slowing down anytime soon.

[jacques]

hello Debbie,
I think dressing becomes easier when I/we get older. Perhaps because we are losing our inhibitions. Perhaps we realise that time is running out so why not enjoy ourselves? Certainly in retirement we have more time to get dressed without the fear of being outed by work colleagues.
stay healthy!
luv J

[StacyG]

I just turned 52 and have been undersdressing for 40 years. Now with the house to my self and i work alone I'm buying the types of outfits I've always wanted. Who knows, maybe wigs and makeup next. I feel like I'm just getting started.

[Debbie Denier]

Thank you all for your replies to this thread. The consensus appears to be carry on regardless. Age should not be a barrier most seem to get better with practice and experience.I wholeheartedly agree.

[Wendy me]

I am 60 somthing i have been dressing for most of my life i think you could be older and still dress and go out with less worry at least for myself just enjoy who you are its a lot better than beind someone you dont want to be because your worrying abought people think abought

Put on your sexy undies a pair or leggings some cute booties long cute sweater and a nice bag do it....

[Lana Mae]

Transwoman at 65! Enjoying life and now am 70! Hugs Lana Mae

[Sallee]

Okay I'll give it a shot I've been dressing since teenage years had some tie off in the middle but never much. I'm 75 now so My age says I've seen a lot. I still dress although not much, Life is complex. I tend to enjoy it when I do I almost always dress to blend That means usually jeans and a nice blouse hardly ever heels. But when I get the chance to go out to clubs usually drag bars or drag clubs like LIPS here is San Diego it heels and shorter skirts and a little more glam in the makeup. Now that I have given my age it seems I am loosing a lot of interest in CDing. I have recently decided I would hit the town a mall crawl and then diner and a club. Well, I got dressed casual for the mall went out had no problem even tried on a few items. Then went home to change into something a little more dressy and I just wasn't into it. Even the mall crawl I didn't find to exciting actually kind of boring. So am I cured I don't know. Still check the CD web sites regularly but even finding them a bit boring.
Maybe I'm just getting old I do hope the thrill isn't gone.

[AnelineM]

My desire to dress has actually increased over the years, so I guess I'll keep on dressing up. Though I'll probably look more retro as time goes on.

[Raychel]

My dressing has definitely increased as I get older.
The only reason for this is the pure fact that I have accepted who I am. And don't really care who knows.

I can't say the desire to dress has changed over the years.
Only the self acceptance

[Vintage4sarah]

Now that I am a healthy 73, my passion to dress and be out with others has only increased. It has now become quality time as opposed to quantity time which is fine with me. Part of that since March of 2020 and the rise of Covid has been the infrequency of opportunities. I make the best of each day when Sarah can exist. I am still young at heart, but now with the knowledge that playing out the role of a classy mature woman is satisfying versus the young sassy single girl.

[Trish]

At 73, I spend more time dressed fem, than not. My dressing time has increased as I got older.

[Jane G]

Trans has been with me as long as I can remember. The iterweb has been inspirational in understanding others out there are similar to me. If I dare to mention those on this forum, that I have learned from, they would certainly include Doc. as a youth I thought such things perverse Doc. Now I know they are simply natural fun, on the spectrum of who we are. Another is Karren Hutton, make up tips aside, your posts and struggles have always helped me shine.

[dawnmarrie1961]

Suppression is not a cure. If there is one that isn't it. One must always come to terms with an unwanted behavior. Understand why it existed in the first place before behind it can be put to rest. If not? The behavior will return with a problematic vengeance.

[Jane G]

Some of us will never express to society who we are, is that our loss or societies? We know and enjoy who we are.:) Yes I would enjoy greater acceptance of this part of us. But there is so much more to life.

[dawnmarrie1961]

Some of us will never express to society who we are, is that our loss or societies? We know and enjoy who we are.:) Yes I would enjoy greater acceptance of this part of us. But there is so much more to life.
Yes. It is a great loss to society. But if society, as a whole, is defined by the people in it then you are adding to it. Acceptance is not a prerequisite to being able to contribute to society. Acceptance comes later when people realize how foolish old stereotypes and thinking really were. Acceptance cant be forced. Forced acceptance is not acceptance at all. It is toleration.

[Sarah Doepner]

I'm 72 years old and started crossdressing in my early teens. I kept it up as often as work, family and other traditional limitations allowed. Finally, almost 2 years ago I finally stopped crossdressing. I have transitioned and live full time as a woman and have no desire to wear clothes designed for men. Crossdressing no longer speaks the same way to me, but I treasure all those years that helped me understand the path I was on and prepare me for this step. I have so many wonderful friends I never would have met were it not for crossdressing. My path isn't for everyone, but getting here was a joyful and rewarding journey.

[Celee]

Like a lot of girls here my dressing has increased as Ive gotten older. Specifically now that Im in my mid fifties. I think part of it is that I have more time now and I do it because I like it. Its fun relaxing and it makes me happy whereas before it was a way to ahem take care of a certain need. I also wonder if our falling testosterone level allows more estrogen to rear its head increasing our femininity. Food for thought.

[Sabine Janus]

How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were?

-Satchel Page

[CynthiaD]

I’m 73. Most of the people interact with are in their late teens to early thirties, and I’m one of the youngest. What I mean by that is that I am much more open to new ideas and less set in my ways than most of them. It’s surprising how many 20 something’s are closed minded.

Perhaps it’s something to do with crossdressing. It takes an open mind to accept crossdressing as a normal, if not necessary part of your life. My friends my age like 70’s rock and roll. As do I. I also have Lady Gaga’s latest album. They don’t. My favorite music is Opera. Most of my friends have never been to an opera. It boggles my mind.

[Fiona_44]

I agree with many of the sentiments expressed on this thread- the older I get, the bigger my desire to dress as a lady.

[Heather76]

I'm 76 and didn't actually begin serious underdressing until I was 74. This entire journey is new to me. I have reached the stage where I wear panties 24/7, nighties and stockings to bed every night, and stockings and bralettes likely 80% of each day. I'd actually like to go the full route at home dressing in dresses, shoes (not heels), wigs, and make-up. But, in all seriousness, I don't see that happening anytime my wife is around.

[mbmeen12]

I love my age at 59.....I look much, much better dressed than in guy mode. My GF opinion lol...Enjoy life to the fullest or live in regret.

[JoannaCD]

I haven't visited the board in quite a while and this thread caught my eye. I'm now 82 and don't consciously CD any more, but many feminine items have become second nature in my life. I only wear GV Amanda jeans as I like their high waist. Cable knit turtleneck sweaters with their bulky collars are wonderful now that it's cold. I have the jeans and sweaters in several colors. Women's flats and boots are so much lighter than men's so that's all I wear. I pierced my ears during the first lock down and generally wear small hoops or studs. I learned to cut my own hair during the lock down and try to get it to look like Wendy Sherman's. I'm a widower but I did have a CD chat with my daughter last year so there will be no surprises for her when I die. She just bought me a mascara that she really likes. I keep my nails polished with Essie Shears to You and do indulge in lipstick occasionally. I guess I've evolved to a natural CD comfort zone. Perhaps androgyn?

[Sallee]

Good comment, Since I don't consider myself older, only 75, but I still will give a comment. While I have not quit cding I have cut back a whole lot and I seem to have lost some of the desire. I have actually set aside time to practice my art and then just didn't. I just didn't feel like it and it was a bit of a hassle, couldn't be bothered. I use to jump at the chance and get rami when when there was no opportunity to practice and get out. I have been doing this for a long time and have been getting out to a variety of venues over the years. I think I tend to pass but then I have been busted when I least suspect. When some ones say, usually a GG, "you look good" or, the best one I heard was "you have the right to wear whatever you want". That popped my bubble, but it was still a fun outing. But I believe in keeping things fun. And I will continue to CD even if I have to force myself some days.

[Angie G]

I've been dressing better the 60 years.and I'm not stoping becose I'm old Im close to 74 :hugs: Angie

[Misty_cder]

I’m 50 and finally feel like I’m getting into my prime with dressing. When I was younger I use to dress as a fetish, not thinking about how I looked and not taking care of my skin. I was a typical male. Now I’m driven to create an acceptable image that gets my wife's approval to start venturing out in public settings. I also started taking better care of my body by losing weight, moisturizing my skin, shaving, etc. I don’t foresee stopping anytime soon. What I find interesting is as I work on dressing my age, the more I enjoy dressing.

[Stephanie47]

Some of us will never express to society who we are, is that our loss or societies? We know and enjoy who we are.:) Yes I would enjoy greater acceptance of this part of us. But there is so much more to life.

One of the ways I managed to jump the hurdle of societal non-acceptance was to mentally make a list on my life's accomplishments. I'll put my credentials up against anyone. If you do not like who I am that is YOUR problem, not mine.

[Raychel]

As I get older I have thought about this. For now I am just enjoying my dressing when I can.

Will it fade away in the future. I can't say that for sure right now. I guess time will tell that for sure

[Glenda58]

I'm not going to stop because I'm old. I stop twice both times for marriage and it comes back so I don't fight it.

[Jolene G]

I'm 57 and just recently started crossdresing. I wish I would have started when I was younger.

[Beverley Sims]

I don't think of a fading movie star I think I am into my umpteenth resurgence now. :-)

[Femi9]

I turn 50 this year, and I've learned you can't just switch it off. I quit for 3 years once, but it is always with you.

[JoanneNY]

I'm 83 and with this covid thing I have been home except to venture out for basics, I have been dressing 24/7 since the holidays and yes it has been a great feeling but slowly my daily outfit has become more of an androgenous mix, probably more to keep warm than to feel fem.
The month of January has been a downer for me the last few years, Raychel and I have had long discussions on this. It can be a depressing time but we just have to get past it, spring is comming! Always remember that age is just a number, it is the mental age you can maintain that matters. My self, sometimes I feel like a 19 YO but when the bod starts moving, I know better, think young !

[Lori Ann Westlake]

I agree with you, Debbie. It's nice to know how many of our members have been crossdressing for so many years. I'm older than you are, but as long as I still enjoy it, I have no intention of giving it up!


My son was over last night to pick something up and he gave me hell for climbing a ladder to hang Christmas lights from the peak of the house; something about "acting my age." Heck, I'm not dead yet.

This reminds me of Lewis Carroll's famous poem You Are Old, Father William (https://allpoetry.com/Father-William), which begins:


"You are old, father William," the young man said,
"And your hair has become very white;
And yet you incessantly stand on your head--
Do you think, at your age, it is right?"

"In my youth," father William replied to his son,
"I feared it would injure the brain;
But now that I'm perfectly sure I have none,
Why, I do it again and again."

[ziggie]

I'm now 71 and have been underdressing to some extent for almost 40 years. Recently the urge has increased and I have increased my androgynous wardrobe as well as my level general female attire around home. We will see where it goes from here.

[abby054]

Maybe we see many older girls here on this forum because they have time, being in many cases retired.

As for staying young, as a college professor, I match wits with the age 18 to 25 people all the time. I am still keeping up with them. How much longer, I do not know, but there are profs at my university who are pushing age 80 and not the slightest bit old. And I have every intention of joining them.

With some skill at applying makeup and some fashion sense, I can knock off twenty years or so from my appearance. That is what female makeup is designed to do. Practice works with the makeup. Studying fashion websites for fortysomethings really helps with blending into the GG world. So does a good set of hip pads and foundation garments,

[julia.bowie]

My take on the older aspect is that older men view their "hobby" as crossdressing whereas many younger people view it as falling into the more general transgender category. As a result, an older person will seek out crossdressing websites/forums whereas someone younger will seek out the transgender equivalent. Of course, this is a sweeping generalisation but I think there is an element of truth in it. Also, hopefully as things more forward, younger people won't view their lifestyle as crossdressing and be more fluid when it comes to dressing and clothing.

[delta47]

Bought my first pair of heels in the last year and Im on the older side of Gen X.

Ok. My first half dozen pairs.

[NaughtyMichelle]

Turning 75 soon and still enjoy dressing up. My BF and I do quarterly casino trips and I love getting up for an evening of dining and gambling. I'd really like to dress to the nines again, but casual is more appropriate for the place we go.

[66caprice]

I am 64 and have been crossdressing on and off for 50 years . More under dressing than anything as my wife hates my fem side so it needs to be when she is gone .

[Sandrajiggle]

I'm almost 60. I admit that I am more aware of the condition of my skin these days. I'd never put my head above the parapet so never got to find out if I could'pass' as a younger woman 20 years ago.
Apart from my height perhaps I can use my age to blend in as a well dressed older lady.
It's still a wonderful feeling dressing up and less sexual which is not a bad thing.

[JuliannaS]

55 years old here, dabbled in it for many years, more serious about it now than ever. I hope to never stop.

[Richelle423]

Just turned 50. I started dressing 35 years ago. I?ve been on and off but now I?m FT.I just purged 2 garbage bags in a good way to make room for more.

[Jacqueline Vivaldi]

Hi Debbie-
You ask whether one loses interest in crossdressing as we age. I have been active for 50 years and have purges several times, but came back to my basic feelings. This is a typical story for most of us on this site. I am currently 87 and I must say that my interest in becoming prettier, and understanding both my feminine and sexual sides increases in some way each day. I am still learning new things about myself. I have some advice for you and others here who may be interested in the question of crossdressing as we become older. My advice has several parts. First follow your heart and your mind. Notice the two equal parts. If you want to feel female, you must do your best to look and feel as feminine as possible. Reduce your weight to that of a typical female. Exercise to shape your body into one which has nice flowing curves. Eat good foods. Get good sleep. Think about and resolve every problem that you encounter. Think positively and develop a healthy and optimistic outlook. Remember, all problems have a solution if one thinks about them sufficiently. Thinking is the key.

As you can see from the photo at the left, my years of constant attention to my feminine qualities has resulted in a reasonably attractive woman. I am still working on this project, but I am thrilled with life each day as I grow older. My figure and legs have good form and curves, my skin has only wrinkles under my eyes, my body is exceptionally smooth and wrinkle free due to good exercise and care. I have pleasures beyond belief and imagination, and I love looking forward to many more years of this pure joy. Finally, this feminine thing requires work but the pleasures are there to harvest. The results are worth the effort.

[CarlaWestin]

Just thinking about what all the other retired folks are doing makes me want to go dress shopping.

Dressed.

Of course.

[Kay Adams GG]

Hello Debbie,

I'm not a CD but my SO is; we're Both in our mid-sixties.

I wanted to share my observations. I've watched my SO go through Puberty to the Fashionable "Acceptable" Look...whatever this is???? She didn't get to experience wearing the teenage clothes that she so much admired and wanted to wear...so she went through this Stage. She can return whenever she may want to, it's Still in the Closet (she doesn't wear it too much these days). Then there were short, short skirts and dresses (she couldn't even end over that she wouldn't SHOW something). lol There have been many Stages back and forth with the (Stereo-Typed Age to a Certain Attire), Fluctuations.

Present Day: Today Actually, it was a Pair of Jeans and her First outing in CD apparel to a Restaurant (a new hurdle). I actually was Over-Dressed in HER New Dress that she hadn't even gotten to wear yet! She has a few pounds to lose before she can wear it. It was a First for me also, I NEVER wear HER clothes! I offer up my clothes for her to wear but, psychologically, I just couldn't make myself wear HER clothes, not until today.

Back to the "Age Subject", it has been covered really well from all of the responses that you've gotten. We ALL feel a different age at different times, yes, when we face the mirror...especially when unclothed, we see the differences that our Bodies have gone through...this IS a given! However, how we adorn it depends on us, if we want to be Quirky...we are ALLOWED, lol, to do this. Until someone else is changing our diapers for us we'll be as Young or as Old as we feel.

I'm inspired by some of you responders, we've got more miles to travel, until we're called to the Other Side. Happy Trails!

[Barbara Jo]

I'm almost 75 here and fortunately in quite good health . with a trim, passable feminine body, and a full head of long hair.

My philosophy of life has always been this, particularly as I got older.....

Never fear getting "old" as only the lucky get to be old. Never loose your sense of humor,,,, and never forget what it's like to be a child. Embrace your age.
Always have a positive attitude as a negative one can effect one's health.
Always try to be kind.

I started dressing when I was about 8 years old. However, it is only fairly recently, in the last few years, when I started going out in public as Barbara.
I should add that starting to wear a feminine medical mask for the virus has completely embolden me.

BTW when you get to be a certain age, you get the felling that it's now or never with some things.:)

[julia.bowie]

Barbara Jo - I've not heard that one before: "...only the lucky get to be old...". A nice philosophy to have.

[Kayt]

Great answers. For my part, now well into my 50s , I'm out to my supportive wife some family and friends, retired and am finding after lifetime of hiding I'm dressing more and heading towards full time.
My wife tells me when she finally ships me off to the nursing home she's only packing female attire for me 😂😂

[kimmy p]

After joining this forum .I was pleasantly surprised at how many older members there were. In the age group 50 60 70 and beyond (being in my 50s myself. )Some CD since childhood. Some new to CD at a later age. When I was 21 a fellow CD at the support group I attended informed me she wanted to quit CD when she reached old age as did not want to be like a fading movie star. I wonder what others on the forum think about this.Personally I think age is only a number and long may we continue. I abstained for many years due to marriage kids etc. However it came back with a vengeance.I Also believe in inclusivity for all ages.

Hell, as I age I hope that my graying hair means that beard cover becomes easier.