So how many of you have been seen by a friend or family member?

[stefaniec]

Something I was thinking about the other day...a decent amount of people have seen me in person dressed up, whether it be the few times I have been out in public, or webcam chatting with other crossdressing friends, or a handful of actual get togethers with others who enjoy being en femme on occasion.

But I have only been seen dressed up by a former girlfriend, and definitely not any family members.

So that has me wondering, how many of you all have been dressed up, intentionally or otherwise, in front of close friends or family members? I suppose this would be excluding Halloween and such.

[Ricky Rayne]

Other than my girlfriend, No one that I know of anyway

[Sometimes Steffi]

Woke folk, 1000s; general public 10,000; friends and family 0.

Woke folk include
CD friends, CDs at conferences, sales associates, makeup associates, nail techs, some doctors and their staff.

[Karren H]

My younger brother saw me wearing our mothers clothes when we were younger. Pretty sure that sparked his interest because he got caught by mom on a number of occasions wearing our step sisters bra and girdle. Me, I never got caught! Lol.

[countrygirl]

Does he still crossdress?

[Patience]

Some choice friends and a multitude of strangers.

No relatives as of yet and perhaps never.

[Karren H]

Does he still crossdress?

Do not think so.

[bridget thronton]

Yes - surprised by my kids long ago and miscellaneous people ringing our door bell several times. No bad fall out. Made it easier to dress when my daughter and granddaughter moved back home with us.

[alwayshave]

Stefanie, My wife has seen me dressed almost as many times I have been dressed since I met her. However, no one in my family or male friends has seen me dressed.

[Phoebe Reece]

Besides the anonymous people in college classrooms, stores, restaurants, bars, theatres, and other public places I have been seen by my wife, both children, my son-in-law, my father-in-law & mother-in-law, an uncle, many crossdresser friends, and numerous non-crossdresser friends. Still other friends and relatives have seen photos of me crossdressed.

[docrobbysherry]

Closet dresser. My ex and adult daughters know but rarely if ever have seen me dressed.:daydreaming:

However, 1000's of strangers and other T's have seen me in person and online!:battingeyelashes:

[Linda K.]

Woke folk, 1000s; general public 10,000; friends and family 0.

I could not have put it any better!! Nicely said!! :)

[kimdl93]

Many friends and a few family members. The rest I would not bother to tally.

[Cheryl T]

Wife only, except for the close friends I made in the support group.
No regular friends or family know.

[Jessica Secret]

Only my boyfriend so far but I'm thinking about coming out to some mutual female friends of my bf & I soon, and if/when it happens that could lead to them seeing me dressed at some point.

[Debbie Denier]

Only my mother virtually every week after I came out to her . Had a wardrobe at her home until she passed away last year.The only others are SA in dress shop, SA in wig shop and some members of support group I went to 35 years ago. Nobody else since.

[Majella St Gerard]

Both my ex-wives, my 2nd MIL & her best friend, sister, nephew & his wife and family at their wedding, son and his girlfriend, mother & sister, most of my friends, since moving, have only seen me dressed, a co-worker. Most other friends and family have seen me dressed on FB as I don't hide it.

[NatalieR]

So far, my girlfriend, my best friend and her husband and daughter, and my cousin. I have told other friends (men and women) and they have seen pictures but not in person. I have another friend who knows me primarily in girl-mode but has seen me in drab too.

[Wendy-Lyn]

Both of my late brothers have seen me dressed, but no issues. One also dressed, and the other simply never considered it an issue. Parents never knew, and I don't have a sister.

I have a gay long-term friend who knows and is OK with it. He allows me to dress at his place to give me a 'safe' place to dress and relax apart from only dressing at home. He obviously has seen me dressed on multiple occasions. We do not have a sexual relationship - we tried that many years ago when I was still questioning myself. I discovered that I was not gay, he was OK with it, and we have remained good friends.

I also have a long-time GG 'friend with benefits' with whom I dress sometimes when she visits - she has even asked me to do so on several occasions, and used to help me shop for lingerie before I worked up the courage to shop for myself.

I actually did ask her out a couple of times when we first met, 40-odd years ago. She said no, but we did become friends. She has occasionally commented over the last few years that maybe she should have said yes way back then - but it wasn't to be. That's life, I guess.

[Marguarite]

Me and my Wife used to go out every couple of weeks, Hamburger Mary's, a British Pub, or just some beach bar. Two of her girlfriends would sometime accompany us.
A nephew lived with us for six years after he got out of the Army, year two he unexpectedly came home from a trip early. We had a nice conversation, and he was very accepting. One of my favorite outings was when Harry and Meghan were married, we attended a high tea at "Brits. Me, my Wife, her best friend and my nephew. Us ladies dressed to the "nines", hats, and handbags. ( Nephew , jacket and tie ).
Since moving north to be close with family, I have not gone out dressed, nor had much opportunity at home. My Wife's hard "NO", is family ever finding out. I respect her limit.

[Christie ann]

Woke folk, 1000s; general public 10,000; family 0.

Woke folk include
CD friends, CDs at conferences, sales associates, makeup associates, nail techs, some doctors and their staff.

What she said along with two friends that I carefully researched. One friend taught me that I don’t have to have every conversation be about my path to womanhood. The other friend hasn’t talked to me since that day.

[HollyGreene]

Been seen in public, but never been seen by friends or family members.

[CharlotteCD]

I don't think I was seen by my family growing up, but I do have a hazy memory of being dressed and running back into my room whilst my mum walked up the stairs - she may well have seen that I was in my sister's trousers, but I don't think she did.

I think that my wife saw me partially dressed in September, as she came upstairs whilst I had a bra and top on, and I didn't hear her come home. She didn't stop, didn't say anything, and then I went away for three days so no idea if she did see it or not.

[Jolene Robertson]

Good question. For me, my wife of course she is fully supportive and her best friend. Then we have a couple friends (lesbian couple) and their daughter. And one of my daughters and her husband. No bad reactions from any of them but lots of the regular questions. We used to have a group of us that would go out monthly for meet ups so with that and shopping while dressed plenty of other folks that don't know me.

[Angela Marie]

Only my wife. I go out regularly so innumerable people have seen me. I wear leggings and denim leggings in male mode so some people may have an idea. I'm not going to intentionally let anyone see me but at this point in my life whatever happens happens.

[SaraLin]

Well, let's see...

Exes - most of them, yes. I think that for the most part, it was other things that led to our breakups - but who's to say?

Wife - she has seen me in a dress or skirt a couple times for a "try on", but doesn't want me doing it around her. Nighties are the limit with her.

I have a close friend who has seen me fully dressed (makeup and all). He says he sees me as both female and male and is my friend either way. He's golden in my book!
I have another one who hasn't seen me dressed, but said something like "You've always been my friend. I can't see this changing that."


Immediate family - I'm really unsure who knows and who doesn't, but I haven't shown anyone my Sara-side. They live a long way away, and the wife-rules prohibit it anyway.
My sister knows. I told her myself, but she hasn't seen me (again, wife-rules). Her comments when I told her "I always wanted a sister."

Strangers - years ago and before current marriage and restrictions, I would go out and mingle a bit. My results were mixed at best.

[Geena75]

To the best of my knowledge, absolutely no one who knows my male self has ever seen Geena in any way.

[NjJamie]

I wish I had a better answer but here goes;

Growing up, got caught by brother and mother, not completely dressed but clearly wearing lingerie.

Wife knows so I wouldn't say I ever got caught though during the times of deep DADT, a bit of mascara or an earring left out gave it away.

Recently one daughter grabbed a camera I had used for pics and quickly found some selfies, she dropped it but is probably the most "liberal" of my kids and smart enough to not catch herself in a logic trap (good friends of hers are gay/Drag performers/TG(?)). Probably the worst and most recent had me walk into the living room all ready to go for a drive but I hadn't noticed my son home early and sitting there. A very quick retreat was followed by complete silence on the matter.

I'm not looking forward to ever getting caught again but also believe that I might have a right to enjoy something about my life so I have to prepare for it happening, or not dressing except on very rare occasions.

[sara66]

My sister, a close friend (gg) and two cousins. These are all the close people who have seen me dressed. Countless strangers also have.
Sara

[XemmaX]

my family no but my friends all know abd have seen me in real life or at least a photo.

[Vale]

My first wife outed me to all our friends and family during the divorce. I did not deny that they might find an unexpected outfit in my closet, but none have ever seen me dressed. I doubt that I will ever show them. .. .. vale

[Suzi Q]

Stefinec,

I have been seen by at least five friends, two former employees and their families, two church members, and one neighbor that I held the door for as we were leaving our polling place after voting., but they didn't show any signs of recognition. I spend at least 12 hours a day for two days a month out and about in my community, so there are thousands of people in salons, stores and restaurants that have seen me.

My wife sees me fully enfemme twice a month when I return home from a day out and about.. She doesn't want any of our relatives or neighbors to see me.

About ten years ago a different former neighbor saw me partially dressed and phoned my wife thinking it was funny and my sister-in-law was there when my wife played the answering machine message asking what I was doing wearing a skirt, etc.

My MD that I have gone to since 1964 and his two receptionists and several of his nurses have seen me fully dressed for an appointment and have seen my painted toenails many times when I get a physical they check my feet.

My podiatrist and staff in x-ray area when I needed my foot x-rayed saw my toenails.



Suzi Q

[MarinaTwelve200]

I have been seen by friends and church members-----BUT only in "Acceptable" situations---Once at out HALLOWEEN PARTY (Costume Contest) and Once at our Church's "Womanless Beauty Contest" ---- Been lucky

[DanielleDubois]

Only my wife, and she is no longer comfortable seeing Danielle in person or photos. All of our pets have seen Danielle, all have been totally disinterested in seeing Danielle. Plus none of them have had social media accounts so I'm not worried about them posting embarrassing Danielle information. :)

[Misty_cder]

My wife has seen me dressed numerous times. A friend of ours discovered I was a crossdresser when she took care of our cats when we were on vacation. While she was looking for one of the cats, she found my thigh high boots n the back of the closet. She was cool with it and even asked if I would pose for her make up class she was taking. I really wanted to but wife was against it. The only other person who saw me fully dressed was a fellow crossdresser friend. I wore a black and white french maid outfit, black tights, heels, blond wig and red lipstick for him. He lived with us for a few months after his wife divorced him when she caught him dressing. I dressed for him prior to him moving back to Sweden.

[CeCe]

I am only interested in dressing at home and I live alone, so I am usually unseen. A friend here and there who has come to my home has seen me, but if we are outside I am in male drab, underdressing only occasionally. I really do not have any interest in presenting as female to the world.

[CharlotteCD]

Stefinec,
About ten years ago a different former neighbor saw me partially dressed and phoned my wife thinking it was funny and my sister-in-law was there when my wife played the answering machine message asking what I was doing wearing a skirt, etc.


Wow, that's horrible behaviour. I actually can't believe somebody would do that.


While she was looking for one of the cats, she found my thigh high boots n the back of the closet.

How do you accidentally end up looking through the back of a closet whilst feeding and petting a cat?

[Krisi]

I'm guesing my wife counts as a "family member" so I'll say one.

Strangers have seen me dressed when I have gone out in public. Hopefully they though they were looking at a woman, not a crossdresser.

[Misty_cder]

How do you accidentally end up looking through the back of a closet whilst feeding and petting a cat?[/QUOTE]

We had one cat that was sickly at the time. When the cat did not come out when our friend stopped by to feed them, she went looking for the cat. This is the story our friend told us. You can view it as she was snooping around, but we trusted her and took her at her word.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Saturday I went out to the Dc girls meetup group Christmas gala. So I was seen by about 50 girls while dressed to the nines. The were also about 50 regulars at the bar who saw me also.

I went to get my nails done before the gala. Since the earliest appointment I could get with my nail tech was a 4 PM, I decided to go dressed. I had shown her a pic of me dressed before, but this was the first time that she had actually seen me dressed. She put a towel over my knees, for modesty, I guess. I guess that;s the real girl treatment, since I usually go in in jeans. So, all the nail techs and their customers saw me, so let's count that as 20. One GG customer in particular kept smiling at me. Maybe she made me.

After that, I went to a restaurant for dinner. I'm thinking that my waitress made me and wasn't very accepting. I didn't think that she treated me very well. Maybe she just wasn't well trained. Whatever. It came out of her tip. Maybe another 20 people.

The next day I went to a jewelry show/sale. I couldn't bear to take my nail polish off so soon, so I left it on. I was 99.97% male.

[Leslie Mary S]

I have. Many of my family have seen me but requested that I not do it in front of the grand kids. Of course the group I belong too has seen me.

[Paulie Birmingham]

When i go on vacation with my boys, i pack some.basic black panties nvpl panties that my kids have seen me in. Doubtful that anyone would.know they are panties. Wife knows.

I wear basic panties to the gym and change in front.of others. Again doubtful anyone would lnow they were panties unless they cross dress too.

I leave the lace and pretty colors for other times.

[Rachelakld]

wife (and ex wife)
mum (someone had to do my washing when I was living at home as a 16 year old)
Dad
Sister (x1)
Actually Mum, dad and sister first caught me crossdressing when I was 5 years old on a bright sunny afternoon.

daughters (x4)
grandkids (x2)
daughters husband (x1)
daughters boyfriend (x1)
daughters BFF (x1)

[Jane G]

I'm confident that all of my surviving family members know about Jane, if they care to consult their memory banks. As a teen I regularly used to openly under dress at family gatherings. My cousins, all girls, must certainly recall how we all used to play dress up, when younger.

[Connie D50]

Ok I have been seen by my wife, two daughtes both very supportive we have gone out shopping and to movies and one family friend (gg) again supportive we went out shopping on two occations she however moved away.

[JenniferMBlack]

I dont think this counts really as I came out as transgender before. But u went to my grandma's funeral in August full fem with brother sister aunts uncles and cousins. Before that only my brother and late father as far as family. And several friends.

[candykowal]

Oh gosh, a lot of people including relatives, Mom and Dad, of course.
Most have passed on, only my Godmother and old girlfriends are still alive and keep in touch.
They know of the bullying I faced as a teenager and why Mom raised me to embrace my feminine side.
I have a lot of friends now, in the local TG community who know me or know of me, but I am still able to keep that side of my life from my wives relatives and some aspects of my past and present from my DADT relationship with my wife.
I kind of embraced being a Husband first and I did give up those things I did in femme, for a long time.
Today, it is more of a reminising thing to present as Candy, if they all only knew of my past. :heehee:

[Valerie420]

The only family members that have seen me dressed up in person is my mom and stepdad. My boyfriend has seen me dressed up as well too.

[WomanAtHeart4]

Stefanic, How many have seen me as Stephanie by a family member or friend? My brothers wife saw me as Stephanie in the mall and it turned out well. We bonded immediately as girls. She is my BFF even now; we meet almost weekly for lunch and she treats me as a woman - its wonderful. My sister once asked about my painted toe nails once when I answered the door in male mode bare feet as she arrived; I regret she was not open to be discussing Stephanie so it ended as an odd occurrence; brother with nail polish. I definitely am definitely cautious on who I might be seen by and whom I might open up to about Stephanie.

[TheHiddenMe]

My wife, and two ex-girlfriends, both of whom dressed me up. I'm still in contact with both. For one we never talk about it, for the other she loves seeing me dressed (in photos; we live 750 miles apart).

Now that I have started going out regularly there are a fair number of people who've seen both the male and female me, such as my friends Michelle, Falon, and Karla. I've also met friends of Michelle who've saw me at a bar dressed, and then as a guy when I helped Michelle move, and then again as a girl at the bar again. It's no big deal.

Over the last 5 years I've been out and came into contact with five people who only know the guy me, including this month at the bar with Michelle. No one has connected the dots.