Crossdressing must-have items

[CDLagras]

Hi all,
i'm tired of borrowing my wife's stuff and always scared she smells me. So im starting to gain my own female collection.
The first thing i bought were 4inch high heeled sandals because i've had never experienced these, and i have big feet.
second thing is a yellow mini skirt and some panties..
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Now im looking for tips what to buy next? im already looking for new heels ( i think i have a thing for them)
And what were the first things you added to your own female collection?

xx
Lucy

[Karren H]

Top of my list would be. Bras, girdles, corset, wig, makeup.

[Sandi Beech]

Hmm, that?s a pretty short skirt Lucy ; )

The list of things just seems to grow and grow. Once you get beyond the basics, you end up getting hooked on looking at additional accessories like bracelets, rings, nails, etc. The list seems endless but it?s fun to explore it all.

Anyhow, not everyone uses breast forms, but for me that?s a game changer. I like the asymmetrical ones best. Follow that with makeup and a wig and you are on your way.

Sandi

[Kris Burton]

I've gotta say I do not have a thing for any one item...I enjoy it all. However, I must say that the breastforms kicked things into high gear, and the wig, as you see in the avatar, insured Kris Burton was in the house and there was no way I'd be turning back.

[Patience]

If you have any ambition to go out dressed, make sure you have a handbag. Pockets in women's clothing can be dodgy.

If someone told me their wife could tell if someone had worn her clothes by the smell, I'd say either the lady was born with the nose of a bloodhound or the rogue clothing wearer should bathe more often.

Maybe getting your own wardrobe is for the best.

[alwayshave]

I'm going to go with Karen's list.

[Stephanie47]

The very first feminine garments were nightgowns; pink peignoir set and an ankle length black nylon gown. That was the very early 1970's. I still have the pink peignoir and sleep in it on occasion. I now have 28 night gowns, so, I do have to rotate. When I first acquired the nightgowns my wife and I were on board with a little bedroom kink; nightgown, stockings and garter belt. When things started to develop she shut down and it became "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." Under the mutually exclusive beginnings I ventured forth into full slips and panties. My wife finding a Vanity Fair vivid red bra in the hands of our then three year old daughter brought on "The Talk."

I have not read other comments yet, but, wearing your wife's clothing is a No No, especially if you're going to leave perfume or cosmetic scents on it. I am willing to bet your wife has you figured out. You just do not know it. If you're starting from scratch I would recommend assembling one complete outfit. I always have worn dresses and my addiction is full slips. I first bought a bra, panty and full slip in white. Maybe a neutral skin tone would be best as there is less contrast of a bra and panty showing through the over clothing. If you're going to get a short dress or skirt to show off those legs, I recommend a pair of pantyhose; sheer to waist. When you decide to acquire more undergarments I recommend first completing the bra, panty and slip with basic white, black and neutral/nude. I am at a stage in my wardrobe to having matching bra, panty and slips in a wide range of colors in the rainbow to match my dresses; reds, greens, pinks, shades of blue, purples and lavender, greens, yellows. If your chest size is 32, 34, or 36 there are still a lot of offerings on ebay in the vintage slip categories. If you're a 40 or above, forget it. You cannot afford it. Have fun. But, don't wear your wife's attire without her permission.

[JenniferZ]

Love short skirts too, Nice legs.
A bra is a must, stockings and more dresses would be on my list.

[CynthiaD]

This is my list, more-or-less in order. I consider these basic necessities. Add fancier stuff as you choose.

Nylon panties with lace trim. Buy a pack at Walmart.
Bra and breastforms. Buy one basic bra. Choose cup size carefully. Fit your breastforms to the bra as best you can. Buy a different bra as needed. Buy more basic bras once you?ve got the cup size right.
Ballet flats. High heels will start to be uncomfortable after a while. You can wear flats all day.
High heels. 5 inch spike heels are cool, but 2 inch blocky heels are more comfortable. Start with those.
Pantyhose or garter belt and stockings. You?ll love the way they make your legs look. Pantyhose go on quicker. Shave your legs if you can. Otherwise buy opaque tights. Black goes with anything.
Dresses. They come in a myriad of styles. Some will look good on you, some will look horrible. The best way to be sure is to try them on in a brick and mortar store. Otherwise be prepared for some disappointments. It takes some time to find your style. Start with a knee length Little Black Dress. Not too tight. I prefer sleeveless, but if you?ve got gorilla arms, go with long sleeves. Shopping for new dresses is one of the great joys of the crossdressing lifestyle. You don?t have to buy everything you see.
Skirts and tops. I prefer skirts and tops to dresses. Buy them together so you?re buying outfits rather than individual items. The exception is a knee-length black skirt which will go with anything. If you?re not good at matching colors, stick with dresses.
Wigs. Nothing will enhance your femininity like a good wig. Even a bad wig is better than none. The only way to be sure about how a wig will look on you is to go to a wig store and try it on. You won?t be the first man the staff has waited on, so don?t be shy. If you just can?t do that, order on line, but be prepared for some disappointments. Wear it right. A wig isn?t a baseball cap. The top of the wig goes at your hairline, not across your forehead. If the top of the wig bulges up, you?re wearing it too low.
Lipstick. After a wig, lipstick is the best thing to enhance your femininity. Experiment with different colors. Your preferences will change with your mood and with your outfit. You need red, pink, and one or more neutral shades, and whatever else fits your fancy.
Dangle earrings. Yes, you need some. You should get your ears pierced if they?re not already. Clipons will start to hurt after a while, and magnetics are even worse. The piercings won?t be noticeable in male mode, and you can even wear studs without getting any comments.

Now for things that are good to have, but optional.
Purses. If you?re going to go out into the real world, you need a purse. And you need to condition yourself to keeping it with you at all times. Eventually you will feel naked without it.
Feminine jeans. I wear ones with embroidery exclusively, even when presenting as male. I wear them loose. If you go with tight jeans, you need to worry about tucking (see below). If you plan to go out much, remember, women wear jeans a lot.
Full and half slips. If you have staticky dresses and skirts these are a must. They will keep your skirt looking smooth and keep it from sticking to your legs. They are also good with rough unlined skirts and dresses. A full slip can also serve as a nightgown.
Leggings. There are tons of cool leggings out there. They need to be tight. And you need a good tuck. I prefer pink or orange in the solid colors, but black works with anything. And then there are the patterns. I can?t get enough of them.
Tucking. You need this for tight pants, leggings and miniskirts. Forget about the gaffs you see online. They?re either horribly expensive or they don?t work. Mostly they don?t work. Instead, get some firm control panties from the shapewear section. Buy them a size too small. They will normally hide the unsightly bulge just fine on their own. But if you need a bit more, add some pantyhose. Pantyhose also work well on their own. When you get a run in your pantyhose, don?t throw them away. Cut off the legs and keep the panty part to use as a gaff.

Makeup.
Makeup takes practice, but not a huge amount.
Foundation. Start with foundation. It will transform your skin, hiding big pores and giving your face a smooth feminine look. My beard turned white when I was in my late 20s so I?ve never worried about beard cover. Others have given good advice about this. Use it if you need it. A thin coat of foundation that lets your natural color show through a bit is best. I use liquid powder, but others prefer powder over a liquid base. The powder part is what will give your face the smooth look.
Blush. A necessity after foundation, but less is more. Just a hint of color usually looks better than intense pink.
Get good at foundation first then add blush and the rest.
Eye makeup. Eyeshadow, not too intense. Start with earth tones. Eyeliner. Get it right and you?ll fall in love with it. Mascara, the finishing touch. Use the lash-lengthening kind, and put on two coats.
False eyelashes. Cool, but I wear glasses and most of them are so long they continually brush against my lenses.
Nail polish. Some women wear it, some don?t. I love the way it makes my hands look. It takes practice. Put it on right before you shower. Let it dry first. Once your skin gets wet you can clean up any places where you painted your skin.

Jewelry. What?s a woman without jewelry?
Thin chains can be worn with any outfits. A necklace or pendant enhances any outfit. Walk through the jewelry section of any store (I like Kohls) and if something makes your eyes light up, buy it. No need to go expensive. Plain beads can look wonderful with the right outfit.
Bracelets also enhance any outfit. Get a few inexpensive ones to match your moods. Anklets work well with sheer stockings/pantyhose.

Did I miss anything? Have a great time with this!

[MonicaPVD]

My list of essentials, which is what is inside a backpack in my trunk at all times:

Black panties + bra
Black girdle
Boned waist cincher
Two pairs of PH (100 denier black and sheer)
One pair of 4" ankle boots, gray
One pair of skinny jeans
One short sleeve top
One long sleeve top
One light jacket
One little black dress
C-Cup breastplate
Two shoulder length wigs, one black and one brown w highlights

Makeup bag:
Liquid foundation
Pressed powder
Orange concealer
Eye shadow
Eyeliner
Lipstick
Lip liner pen
Brow pencil
Cordless razor/trimmer
Moisturizing cream

And finally:
Makeup removal wipes

[NancySue]

Starting with the basics: panties, bras, forms, pantyhose, stockings or thigh highs, shapers, hip pads, full and half slip, flats and heels, makeup, dresses, skirts, pants, tops, wigs, jewelry, perfume, scented body lotion, etc. Caution: it?s addicting.

[MonicaPVD]

You can bathe twice a day and your body will still release its scent into whatever you are wearing. Yes, you too have a unique scent. It's part of being a living being. Women tend to be more in tune to that sort of thing than men. It's a basic fact.


If someone told me their wife could tell if someone had worn her clothes by the smell, I'd say either the lady was born with the nose of a bloodhound or the rogue clothing wearer should bathe more often.

Maybe getting your own wardrobe is for the best.

[CynthiaD]

Once, many years ago, I had a live-in girl friend. I came back from a business trip and smelled a third person’s scent on my pillow. She confessed and we broke up soon thereafter.

[dawnmarrie1961]

A laser hair removal system that works. I'm looking at a few on AMAZON but I haven't decided yet. I don't mind shaving my legs once a week. I just hate the booboo bands that I have to put on every time I niche myself.

[Nylon Wendy]

For around the house, my must-haves are nylons, heels and a skirt. Simple. I have dozens of pairs of heels and love wearing most of them, I should really sort them and take a pic and maybe post it on this forum.

However, going out in public is a different story and the other ladies here have covered that. An easily overlooked item is in Patience's comment-


If you have any ambition to go out dressed, make sure you have a handbag. Pockets in women's clothing can be dodgy.

First few times I went out, it didn't feel right and then it dawned on me - a handbag. With a handbag everything clicked into place.

Wherever you go Lucy, have fun xxx

[docrobbysherry]

U left out hip and butt pads. Sherry never leaves home without them!:battingeyelashes:

[Helen_Highwater]

As you're a little way off going out I'd say that a bra and the breast forms to go in it are a basic necessity. Those and a wig. having those is transformative in just how you look. Check out online just how to measure yourself for the correct bra size. Finding out just what size you take in dresses can be a little more tricky. One technique is to order online 3 dresses, all the same but 3 different and consecutive sizes. keep the one that fits, send the other two back. It also helps to stay with the same supplier as they tend to keep sizing standard.

Tights/hose are a consumable. No matter how careful you are they will ladder at some point but packs of 5 are an easy find in supermarkets.

As others have said, a corset is something that will again transform your dressing and if your purse stretches to it, hip and bum padding to go with it.

As for me, shoes, 2 sizes too small were some of my first buys.

[Jessica Secret]

Definitely beautiful/romantic/bridal/lacy lingerie, nothing is more feminine in my opinion. I absolutely love it.

[cdinmd206]

Definitely stockings, garter belt and panties.

[Nadia Wren]

If you are concerned about your wife, a must have would be a place to hide your items.

[LaurenS]

Breast forms upped the game for me too, but when I added silicon hip pads, that really lit the fire. My body suddenly looked proper.

[MonicaPVD]

A proper size handbag is a must to carry makeup, keys, and phone. Also, a handbag gives you something to hold tight, which can be super helpful to overcome the fear and anxiety that comes with being a newbie.

[Patience]

You can bathe twice a day and your body will still release its scent into whatever you are wearing. Yes, you too have a unique scent. It's part of being a living being. Women tend to be more in tune to that sort of thing than men. It's a basic fact.Good point. Thank you.

[Robbiegirl]

If you are into vintage like many of us, everything you see in this picture is a must ! Enjoy !!
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[Maria 60]

For myself it was pantyhose and then I remember it was close to Halloween and I got the courage to buy a slip.

[Pumped]

I agree with breast forms and hip/butt pads. I have a typical skinny man butt and hips and it was a game changer for me to get properly padded and get curves to fill out a dress properly.

Of course to do this you need bras, panties, pantyhose, maybe a waist nipper, dresses, skirts, blouses and lets not forget wigs, fake nails, nail polish, jewelry.....

Oh my, where doe it end!

[jacques]

hello Lucy,
I started with tights when I was quite young and not realising that I was cross dressing!
I would say that the essential item are panties. and the rest depends on what you are trying to achieve and how adventurous you are.
Most items of clothing you could justify if challenged; but a bra, dress or skirt are definitely feminine and show that you a serious crossdresser (IMHO).
Enjoy the journey!
luv J

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[QUOTE=CynthiaD;4559136]This is my list, more-or-less in order. I consider these basic necessities. Add fancier stuff as you choose.

Nylon panties with lace trim. Buy a pack at Walmart....

Gosh Cynthia - Looks like you have started to write the Crossdressers' Textbook! thank yo so much. I wish I had read it when I was younger.

[MiniRock]

Just that skirt and heels looks fabulous on you Lucy and I'm sure you're already thrilled with the result. From now on, everything you add will just heighten the kick. Put on a bra, forms (C or D) and a nice bodycon dress and I think you'll look amazing. Add to that a wig and basic makeup (a box of eye shadow, mascara and lipstick) and you'll be somehow complete. Thereafter, if you want to go out in public, then all of the advice of the other ladies is good. There is really quite a lot to add, some of it optional. But you'll certainly need a pair of shapewear knickers to hide the obvious, proper makeup, a jacket to remove the feeling of vulnerability and a handbag to stop you looking and feeling awkward. Of course, I'm not that expert myself - although I have been out, so I bow to the superior knowledge of the other ladies. For example, I've never tried a corset, a breastplate, nor had a makeover. But they are all frequently recommended. I did buy some butt pads but I don't really feel they make me look any better. And I don't see how anything could make your behind look better than it does in that picture.

Of course, the more sophisticated the operation becomes, the harder it becomes to keep it from your spouse. Good luck on that front.

[lingerieLiz]

I had the whole collection in 3 different colors. white, pink and blue. Loved them. I wore the white set with a see through blouse and the slip.

[JenniferMBlack]

We can all go on and on about what we have what we got first or the most if or our favorite things. The real question is what do you like to wear or what do you want to try?
The one bit of advice I would really like to give is. Don't go over board one one thing. For instance don't buy 10 pairs of shoes in lieu of getting a top and some hosiery. I give this advice to those who don't have unlimited budget and storage, becaise it is better to have a small amount if a bunch if things then a large amount of one thing. This comes from someone who could never pass up a cute skirt.

[BaliGirl]

I would get a bra and some breast forms. Foam breast forms are inexpensive and work fine for filling out a bra if you want to keep costs down. It is what I started with.

[sometimes_miss]

Long line bras, and panty girdles, some of which are high waisted. Trims the figure, and for me at least, makes tucking unnecessary as they compress what little is down there down into a female genital area shape (as I'm a grower, not a show-er, so there's not much there to start with). Plenty of reasonably priced items on fleabay, more on their international sites which don't always show up on individual country's ebay pages.

[Krisi]

What will you say to your wife when she finds those 4" hooker heels?

For me, "must haves" would be a wig, a bra and breast forms and hip and butt padding. Those three things give you the body of a woman.

Of course, you'll also want something to wear and that can be any female outfit, a dress, skirt and blouse or pants and blouse. And a pair of women's shoes.

From there. you will want jewelry and makeup. And possibly a purse if you intend to leave the house.

[Lacey New]

@Robbiegirl,

Absolutely Agree!

[CDLagras]

What will you say to your wife when she finds those 4" hooker heels?

For me, "must haves" would be a wig, a bra and breast forms and hip and butt padding. Those three things give you the body of a woman.

Of course, you'll also want something to wear and that can be any female outfit, a dress, skirt and blouse or pants and blouse. And a pair of women's shoes.

From there. you will want jewelry and makeup. And possibly a purse if you intend to leave the house.

i really dont know what to say but probably brings an awkward situation with both of us laughing and that will be my coming out i gues...
Any experience with this?

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Thanks everybody for the tips and comments! really helpful !!

[TamT]

You might find a supportive wife (and laugh a lot) or a complete denial (and feel like in hell). Nobody here can tell. There are lots of threads in this forum sharing experiences.

About what to buy, I'd recommend you to pick a style you like and go full for it, with underwear, the complete outfit, shoes and a set of accesories (fantasy jewelry). Add a wig, a basic set of makeup, and forms (when you are tired of rolled socks, seed bags or water ballons). Then, pick another style and repeat. At some point you will find combining them to create your own style, save money and storage space.

[Rachael Fernandez]

Must have items, as far as I am concerned, are panties and bras. I have a lot of each and minimal other items, but enough to provide a few outfits. Looove my panties and bras!!!!

[Pumped]

i really dont know what to say but probably brings an awkward situation with both of us laughing and that will be my coming out i gues...
Any experience with this?

It really depends. It is very hard to assume what one's significant other might think! I will say you are probably better off confessing early, than waiting for her to find out. It ends the lying by omission problem. She will find out at some point. Some wives pack their bags and leave. Some jump in with both feet and join the fun.

My wife found out the hard way and it was a year of tough times for us. First it was no way in hell! Then she moved to DADT, then kind of a modified DADT, but I might see you dressed, so don't worry about it, just don't flaunt it, and finally, this whole thing is silly, just dress if you want! Today I dress when ever I want.

When my wife first found out I thought the marriage was over, but she hung on through it all. Now it is no big deal.

[Jolene G]

I am new to this so I have alreay started buying different items.

1. I now have about 4 bras which is the first item female item I ever bought
2. I have many pairs of panties and thongs
3. Pantyhose
4. I have 3 dresses
5. Just bought my first pair of heels
6. I am now starting to buy makeup and just ordered some press on nails. I also have nail polish and polish my toenails

[Heather76]

I should think you'd want to add bras and breast forms sooner rather than later along with stockings. What I refer to as my nighties are actually in the chemise category. From what I can determine they are often used as nighties, slips, and can be worn as tops (tucked in). To me, that means they are quite versatile.

[Sophie Yang]

Confidence!

[BrendaPDX]

Hi CDLagras,

Congratulations, you look great so far. I can't add to the list beyond what is here. Just wishing you lots of fun.

Brenda

[Breanna1975]

Leggings and yoga pants!!

[Crissy 107]

Confidence!

Excellent choice!

[StarrOfDelite]

This is a great list. Every curious Trans- who is just getting started but aspires to be blendable should read this post. I found out almost all this stuff on my own over a period of time, as most of us do, but I wish I'd had something this list as a primer. I would have been able to save a lot of time and money!



This is my list, more-or-less in order. I consider these basic necessities. Add fancier stuff as you choose.

Nylon panties with lace trim. Buy a pack at Walmart.
Bra and breastforms. Buy one basic bra. Choose cup size carefully. Fit your breastforms to the bra as best you can. Buy a different bra as needed. Buy more basic bras once you?ve got the cup size right.
Ballet flats. High heels will start to be uncomfortable after a while. You can wear flats all day.
High heels. 5 inch spike heels are cool, but 2 inch blocky heels are more comfortable. Start with those.
Pantyhose or garter belt and stockings. You?ll love the way they make your legs look. Pantyhose go on quicker. Shave your legs if you can. Otherwise buy opaque tights. Black goes with anything.
Dresses. They come in a myriad of styles. Some will look good on you, some will look horrible. The best way to be sure is to try them on in a brick and mortar store. Otherwise be prepared for some disappointments. It takes some time to find your style. Start with a knee length Little Black Dress. Not too tight. I prefer sleeveless, but if you?ve got gorilla arms, go with long sleeves. Shopping for new dresses is one of the great joys of the crossdressing lifestyle. You don?t have to buy everything you see.
Skirts and tops. I prefer skirts and tops to dresses. Buy them together so you?re buying outfits rather than individual items. The exception is a knee-length black skirt which will go with anything. If you?re not good at matching colors, stick with dresses.
Wigs. Nothing will enhance your femininity like a good wig. Even a bad wig is better than none. The only way to be sure about how a wig will look on you is to go to a wig store and try it on. You won?t be the first man the staff has waited on, so don?t be shy. If you just can?t do that, order on line, but be prepared for some disappointments. Wear it right. A wig isn?t a baseball cap. The top of the wig goes at your hairline, not across your forehead. If the top of the wig bulges up, you?re wearing it too low.
Lipstick. After a wig, lipstick is the best thing to enhance your femininity. Experiment with different colors. Your preferences will change with your mood and with your outfit. You need red, pink, and one or more neutral shades, and whatever else fits your fancy.
Dangle earrings. Yes, you need some. You should get your ears pierced if they?re not already. Clipons will start to hurt after a while, and magnetics are even worse. The piercings won?t be noticeable in male mode, and you can even wear studs without getting any comments.

Now for things that are good to have, but optional.
Purses. If you?re going to go out into the real world, you need a purse. And you need to condition yourself to keeping it with you at all times. Eventually you will feel naked without it.
Feminine jeans. I wear ones with embroidery exclusively, even when presenting as male. I wear them loose. If you go with tight jeans, you need to worry about tucking (see below). If you plan to go out much, remember, women wear jeans a lot.
Full and half slips. If you have staticky dresses and skirts these are a must. They will keep your skirt looking smooth and keep it from sticking to your legs. They are also good with rough unlined skirts and dresses. A full slip can also serve as a nightgown.
Leggings. There are tons of cool leggings out there. They need to be tight. And you need a good tuck. I prefer pink or orange in the solid colors, but black works with anything. And then there are the patterns. I can?t get enough of them.
Tucking. You need this for tight pants, leggings and miniskirts. Forget about the gaffs you see online. They?re either horribly expensive or they don?t work. Mostly they don?t work. Instead, get some firm control panties from the shapewear section. Buy them a size too small. They will normally hide the unsightly bulge just fine on their own. But if you need a bit more, add some pantyhose. Pantyhose also work well on their own. When you get a run in your pantyhose, don?t throw them away. Cut off the legs and keep the panty part to use as a gaff.

Makeup.
Makeup takes practice, but not a huge amount.
Foundation. Start with foundation. It will transform your skin, hiding big pores and giving your face a smooth feminine look. My beard turned white when I was in my late 20s so I?ve never worried about beard cover. Others have given good advice about this. Use it if you need it. A thin coat of foundation that lets your natural color show through a bit is best. I use liquid powder, but others prefer powder over a liquid base. The powder part is what will give your face the smooth look.
Blush. A necessity after foundation, but less is more. Just a hint of color usually looks better than intense pink.
Get good at foundation first then add blush and the rest.
Eye makeup. Eyeshadow, not too intense. Start with earth tones. Eyeliner. Get it right and you?ll fall in love with it. Mascara, the finishing touch. Use the lash-lengthening kind, and put on two coats.
False eyelashes. Cool, but I wear glasses and most of them are so long they continually brush against my lenses.
Nail polish. Some women wear it, some don?t. I love the way it makes my hands look. It takes practice. Put it on right before you shower. Let it dry first. Once your skin gets wet you can clean up any places where you painted your skin.

Jewelry. What?s a woman without jewelry?
Thin chains can be worn with any outfits. A necklace or pendant enhances any outfit. Walk through the jewelry section of any store (I like Kohls) and if something makes your eyes light up, buy it. No need to go expensive. Plain beads can look wonderful with the right outfit.
Bracelets also enhance any outfit. Get a few inexpensive ones to match your moods. Anklets work well with sheer stockings/pantyhose.

Did I miss anything? Have a great time with this!