us older crossdressers how do you feel still after all these years

[krissy]

me i love to dress i know i dont look like the woman in my mind but i put on a dress or bra or perfume i feel inside that im just as pretty as any woman out there even though i know im a fat ugly woman while dressed :daydreaming:.how do you feel now that your older

[CarlaWestin]

Well, older for sure. Other than that, I still have a pulse. And that's good, too.
Tomorrow is still a mystery. So waking up is good.
I think I've covered everything, right?

[Wendy-Lyn]

At 64, I'm enjoying and embracing it more now than I ever have.
I've no illusions that I'm pretty or that I could pass, but I'm happy to just dress age-appropriately, blend in, go about my business, and enjoy it as best I can.
I'm not into the dating (guys) or nightclub scene, so I don't NEED to 'be' glamourous or sexy in the eyes of others. When I DO get 'glammed up' it's for myself and close friends only. All I really wish for is an accepting partner/SO/wife to share my remaining time with.

[Stephanie47]

I feel tired and worn out. Time takes its toll, although waking up in the morning is still great. Not being able to dress as often as I wish does not bear down on me as when I was young. When I was young I use to grab at the "crumbs of time," as I call it. I see that in many posts. Wife is away for an hour and it's off to the races to get a "fix." A short burst of femme time. If it's not the entire day, I'll pass on it. I'm content to sleep in a nightie and panty. I cannot undo the past, so I let it be. I do read the obituaries in the Sunday newspaper. It is a little unsettling to see the names of way too many people younger than me there.

[kimdl93]

I have my share of aches and pains. Advancing age is apparent on my face and neck. I really have cut back on going out and I think that has affected my confidence as much as the physical decline.

[Karren H]

I feel that I am running out of time! Sigh.

[Heather76]

With regards to CDing, I haven't been at it "all these years." I'm 76 and not quite 2 years into this adventure. Other than CDing, I am the healthiest insulin dependent, cancer surviving, quadruple by-pass patient with chronic kidney disease and hypertension you will ever meet. I've slowed down in the past 10 years; but, I can still drive the golf ball a consistent relatively straight 200 yards and then mess up my shots the rest of the way to the green. Although I have a bulging disc, I live pain free at least 99% of the time. I am 22 pounds heavier than when I came out of Navy boot camp in 1966 - probably the most buff I ever was. My neck has enough loose skin if I ever did dress in public nobody would find my Adam's apple. When we married, I promised my wife 50 years and I don't lie to her. We've been married 38 years; so, I'm looking forward to at least 12 more wonderful years with her. After age 88, who knows what will happen.

[Kris Burton]

I have found that CDing has had a wonderful "youthening" effect on me. When fully dressed, I am not the 70 year old person with all the usual aches, pains, operations, medication needs and stress that goes along with it. Instead, my alter ego takes charge, and I imagine her no older than 40, sensual, vibrant and in great health with many years ahead. Even engaging in a CD related activity - practicing makeup ideas, shopping (oh yeah, shopping) preparing for a photo session, or even just writing on the board or to a friend I've made here brings on a good measure of those euphoric, living in the moment feelings. And in my instance, my active participation in this sport is still new. I'm surprised that so few have discovered this virtual fountain of youth.

[Lana Mae]

Although I am a pre-op transwoman, I am going to answer!
I was late to the party! Only at this for about 6 years! I have all the aches and pains of an older girl! Too much medication! That said, life is good! I still feel a slight thrill when the wind blows up my skirt! The caress of a cold hoop earring on my neck! The wind blowing my real hair and seeing my real hair blowing in the wind!! Greater appreciation of the simple things!
Hugs Lana Mae
If this was only for crossdressers, I apologize!

[Wendy-Lyn]

@ Kris:

I'd noticed that, but thought it was probably just me.

I feel much better and happier 'inside' when I'm younger, healthier, prettier Wendy, than I do when I'm old tired balding Jimmy. It really is incredible how much different I feel, even though I know it's only an illusion.

[Rikidee]

I enjoy it as much or mote than ever. It motivates me to keep my weight down and stay in shape. I am purposely single so I can dress whenever I like and I actually find myself going out dressed as a casual girl more than I have before. There are lots of older women in the world and women that are not beautiful and they still go about their lives everyday they can't opt out and I can find something to love in all of them, so I go on as well.

Just today I had a 10 minute conversation with a young lady and when her husband joined us she referred to me as "she" and " her". Made me feel all warm inside I think I will continue for a few years more. Riki

[Helen_Highwater]

Late 60's but still reasonably fit and active. A few aches every now and then but I don't feel old. Age is a number after all.

As for dressing. Age has bought experience and knowledge. I know what fits me and what suits me to be able to go out and about and blend in. I also have more confidence which leads me to do things that bring me into ever greater contact with Joe public.

Yesterday I had the house to myself for the afternoon and spent 5+hours in 8cm heels. True my feet were starting to ache but on was on the move most of the time.

And if there's one thing age has brought then it's a greater feeling of who I am. Any turmoil I felt years ago has gone.

As for when I'll stop going out dressed, we'll I think and hope that's a good few years away yet.

[Georgina]

I still feel great when dressed. I can dress when I want and I am enjoying my male life as well.

[Angela Marie]

Coming up on 68 I still feel great. Daily exerciser for over 40 years and eat healthy. My presentation is obviously not as good as it was 10.15, or 20 years ago; but then again neither is most GG's. I still get a tremendous amount of enjoyment presenting my feminine self.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I feel like an aging guy in pretty and sexy clothes. The only difference as I get older is I'm having more troubles understanding why wearing a skirt or a cute top is weird and/or unacceptable. I find myself taking more risks, wearing what I want more and where people might see me.

[Lacey New]

I guess that I am in the minority here. Being retired has liberated me from some of the stress of working and being tied down. Now I find myself going more places, spending times with friends and family and less time to dress up. Wife is also retired and that means my time to dress up is much more limited as well. But really, I do t mind. It does not bother me and is simply don?t think about it that much anymore. There have been times recently when I could have had some dress up time but I have instead just passed.

[alwayshave]

Krissy, I'm in my sixth decade revolving around the sun. I have lots of aches and pains, but still enjoy dressing every chance I get. The feeling of beinging covered in soft fabrics colorful makes me excited as it did 50 years ago. My only regret is I don't have more chance to dress.

[Debbie Denier]

Late 50s opportunities less than when younger. Like others have pointed out a few aches , pains medication etc but plenty of life left I hope.I found it was more exciting when younger due to it being a new experience and journey of discovery. Maybe I am regressing instead of progressing. Still enjoy it when I can .Under no illusions that I don?t look as good as in my youth.Not as confident either. But age has brought more comfort and acceptance of my own skin. Onwards and upwards hopefully.Never enough time in the day .

[Rikidee]

I feel like an aging guy in pretty and sexy clothes. The only difference as I get older is I'm having more troubles understanding why wearing a skirt or a cute top is weird and/or unacceptable. I find myself taking more risks, wearing what I want more and where people might see me.

I understand I dress more middle of the genders in a nonbinary way and I get out more and risk being seen more than a few years ago. It is so much fun! Riki

[GretchenM]

In mid-70s here. I realize that Gretchen is a middle range senior and so sensational is a bit of a contradiction. I regret that I did not confront and accept this aspect much earlier, but nothing can be done about that. I enjoy it when I become more female-like emotionally to the extent that I need to dress differently and more female. Going to that degree rarely ever happens any more. I don't try to look young as I have seen older women do that and it rarely comes out good. For me, work with what I have and make the best of it without looking like I am 20 years younger and a cougar on the prowl. I don't go out fully dressed but rather a bit androgynous and that works fine.

[50sHousewf]

Kind of like the stages of grief, I am in the acceptance stage at this point.

Krissy - I agree 100% with your statement about knowing the truth of what I look like, versus what I pretend I look like.

I am underdessing a lot more than I used to, and also wearing more women's deodorant, etc.

[Giselle(Oshawa)]

Soon to turn 67 i feel life has passed me bye.
Lacking the courage to openly be me is all on
me and no one else.

[Cheryl T]

I may be getting older, but I am loving being me more each day.
When I was younger there was the odd hour or two that I could don my favorite things and be me. Now I have every day and finally have been able to just relax and be myself.

[marsha leanne]

I am at the top end of the 60's, with the usual aches and pains. i have found that when i dress, they seem to go away. Coming up on almost 50 years of dressing and it took me oh so many decades to understand, accept and be comfortable with my other side.

I do not go out anymore, ( ventured out only a couple of times 20 years ago) but the comfort I get from a couple of hours in the house makes many issues and aches fade away and my normal fun spirit return. I am not sure if I would've done anything different. Marsha is part of me and feels very good when she is acknowledged.

[Teri Ray]

Older is better. 67 and I still enjoy being enfemme when I can. Like others here my presentation may be less effective when dressed but my worry about it is way less. My for enjoyment for dressing remains as strong as ever.

[Jackie27]

I have found that as I grow older the desire to dress and be feminine is stronger than it ever was. I enjoy the time that I do get to dress and support that I get from the younger generation of ladies. I may not have a lot of time left on thus earth and I intend to take advantage of every opportunity I get.

[docrobbysherry]

I'm only a CD but:

Even tho my parts have begun falling off, I feel good and Sherry is getting prettier and sexier the older I get!:devil:

What keeps me feeling and acting young is my energy and enthusiasm! Even when I'm out without my masks and look an old man in a dress, my sexy figure and activity make people believe I'm much younger. If not a female.:battingeyelashes:

And, I'm noticing a new acceptance of trans in the bars and clubs I visit in SoCal. Not all of which r LGBT friendly. But, the clientel in them r very young folks many of whom make a point of making me feel welcome. Which encourages me to dress all the more!:battingeyelashes:

[Maria 60]

Well I didn't know there was so many older sisters here, I quess just like fine wine we get better with age by the looks of many of your avatar pics. I feel more mature with age and dress more complete and for the relaxing feeling more then the sexual aspect. Don't get me wrong as nature takes it part my body isn't so fitting as once but still I try to keep it up.

[FrannGurl]

I'll be 60 in a few months, and although I can't say I'm looking forward to it, I'm still in pretty good shape and about the same size I was when I was 20. I stay active and in pretty good health so far, although I know I should give up smoking.

I'm much more comfortable in my own skin, and the older I get, the less I care what people think of me. I'm also planning to make this the year where I get out more. I haven't gone out dressed in over a year honestly, because I don't like to go out by myself. Most of the women friends I have now are married or in long term relationships but I now have a boyfriend again that I've been seeing for about 5 months so I'm hoping that we can start getting out now and then especially since the weather is warming up.

Getting older isn't so bad I guess. I can and do dress almost daily, unless family is around. My mother knows but isn't cool with it, but my two daughters know and are very supportive. I haven't been married in many years, but I can imagine what some of you older girls go through.

[Misty_cder]

At 51, I feel like I've finally entered into my prime with dressing. I'm taking care of my skin and paying more attention to my grooming. Some health scares have been a wake-up call and motived me to get back into shape. The taking care of myself for health reasons and the efforts to present more feminine when I dress is a symbiotic effort.

[Lori Ann Westlake]

At my age I don't have the same intensity of erotic thrill from dressing that I did in my teens, but it's still there, and I enjoy dressing as much as ever for its own sake. One advantage of being older is that thanks to years of work, I have more money, and far more clothes, than I ever did in my teens. There's an old saying that "it's a pity we can't put an old head on young shoulders." What a pity we can't put old money in young pockets!--or purses, rather.

[Jane G]

I feel much more accepting of my self than I ever could when I was younger. What I look like is less important, though it does still matter.

[Jenni6521]

I am turning 57 in June. My time to dress is about the same, which is less than I would like. I underdress most weekdays. I think doing that has made me feel better, but it does also make me want more time to be fully dressed. My taste has changed over the years and in my mind I dress more like a women of my age. I like simple and comfortable things. My health is steady with more medications than I would like to be taking. A part of it being as steady as it is would be attributed to daily exercise. I need to do better with my diet also. I do have some regrets in this whole process. I have needed for many years to be more true to myself. That has called for confidence that do not always seem to have a great grasp over. I am working more on self acceptance through out this year.

[Mary Loo]

I am 55 and in better weight and shape than I have been for a number of years. The dressing bug has rebitten me as of late, but my journey is no where as far along as many here and will be hindered by my wife, Though she is well aware of my desire to dress, she is currently in a DADT type mode because she doesn’t like seeing me dressed, Though I don’t think the concept bothers her, the visual does.

So far not too many aches and pains, but I am sure they are coming for me, eventually.

[Wendy me]

I am 65 going on 18

That said i still get that omg heart pounding rush when i find a pair of way too cute shoes that have omg to die for. come fu#$ me this who i am ....i am WENDY so yar kinda reallyove dressing in Wendy's clothes

[JustJennifer]

Echoing what Karren and others have said, I feel like time is running out.

If only I had today's bank account and yesterday's body.

[msniki48]

.at 70 trying to fill the time with things to do and places to go.. but i so miss my niki time....now living in a 55 + community... ZERO privacy....Thus no real time for getting pretty....Occasionally Karen , my wife notices , i'm down and insists i put on something soft and silky to bed or around the house....but i have not been out in yrs.....still have my memories though ...

[TheHiddenMe]

My philosophy is getting older sure beats the alternative.

I'm fortunate that approaching 65 I've been retired for almost 10 years, I'm in excellent health (zero medications, tons of physical activities), my wife is reasonably tolerant, and we're financially secure. My girl side has made friends and I like clothes that are probably age inappropriate, but I don't care. I get to spend two additional months of summer here in Australia too.

As I like to say to myself, my life doesn't suck.

[Leslie Langford]

Echoing what Karren and others have said, I feel like time is running out.

If only I had today's bank account and yesterday's body.

Well said - LOL! My thoughts exactly...

Whoever came up with the saying that "Youth is wasted on the young" really nailed it. Then again, as Yogi Berra once put it, "It ain't over until it's over". :heehee:

[Vintage4sarah]

I will be turning 74 by the end of the month and my desire to dress has not waned one bit. I am active and healthy (no medications), but still burdened with some of my covid weight. I am rarely alone at home as my wife tends to be a homebody, but I do get away at least once a month now that the "plague" has passed !

There are so many snippets from the previous comments that are so valid for my Tgirl side of my personality that it would be too long to mention them. Basically, I strive to dress and act as a classy mature woman and enjoy the company of other Tgirls and even gentlemen. Except for a few wrinkles, my goal is look 10 to 15 years younger and enjoy my outings as Sarah. The best have been those wonderful 2 and 3 day trips away where I can be a full time Sarah.

[CeCe]

Thanks for this interesting thread. I will be a very youthful 69 in less than a month. I have only in recent years accepted my identity as a crossdresser. No more purging or repression!
I dress only for myself at home, with absolutely zero interest in public display. Hence, I have no real concern about looking more like a woman to myself or anyone else. Besides, I love my facial and body hair.
I live alone, so I can wear what I want whenever I want. I feel very free.
One of these days I will graduate from wearing foam breasts to exploring silicone forms. I wish I had a "big sister" in the neighborhood with more experience to be my guide.

[kimdl93]

It is interesting to see how we change as we grow older. I still have cyclic periods of low self-acceptance, but if there is a trend line, the trend continues towards greater self acceptance, more frequent and open self-expression. Despite the ravages of time, I really do enjoy being a woman more than I ever have (or allowed myself) before.

[April Rose]

At 71 I live alone and dress everyday unless I am going out. I go out dressed occasionally. I have had a lot of life experience, but I still seem to be exploring my own identity. I guess that's a good thing(?) If you're not busy being born you're busy dying.

[Jane P]

I don't like to think about it, growing older every day, but I would like to think that I look younger than I am when I present enfemme. Most of the time I just feel like an old man who has no business pretending anything else

[JuliannaS]

I am 55 now, and i think about it more than ever. Still dont fo it as often as i would like to, .but probably more than i ever have. Always thinking about the next time i go out dressed. Maybe tomorrow, i hope.

[sometimes_miss]

I'm still stuck at 'waiting to become the girl I thought I was supposed to be'; as if I'm on the verge of an adolescent female life. I spent about seven years really believing that when I was a child, and I just guess it's permanently stuck in my mind to feel that way, even though I learned it wasn't true back in my twenties. All my girl clothes are things that a younger teen would wear (when real girls are growing into their more womanly figures); and despite now being in my 60's, those clothes still feel normal to wear.

[docrobbysherry]

I went thru that stage when Sherry was a teenager 10 years ago, Lexi. But, now at age 25+ Sherry's all grown up. Too mature for teen garb any more!:heehee:

[Maid_Marion]

I dress pretty young and show a lot of leg for my age. I shave my legs all year.
My skin tone is still pretty good as I avoided excess sun exposure for decades!

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
Hmm i must be a real "oldie " on here ! Didnt start dressing till i was 74 , I am now 80 & still --er-- indulging ! true the "tide has gone out" ( a bit ) but next week its the Grand get together at Harrogate ( England ) & i am not only attending ( with Wife ) but will be coming out of the closet .Dont know how many are attending but could be 80 +......... If you are wondering about my story have a look at my about page !

[GaleWarning]

Like Carla, I am happy just to wake up each new morning. Having passed three score and ten years, I am on borrowed time!
I am blessed to be pain-free and need to take only one tablet each day.
I do find it increasingly difficult, though, to put on a pair of stockings! :battingeyelashes:
Life is wonderful.

[kateydoe]

I always think about my younger days and wish I have been dressing like Katey. I think a lot about all the time I missed and kept the real me locked in me. I?m enjoying being Katey as much as possible I?m so much happier but still have far to go.

[Liz Jones]

Hi,
If stockings are a problem dont try tights ! i find its murder putting on tights , so much so i use stockings if possible.

[Kris Burton]

I always think about my younger days and wish I have been dressing like Katey. I think a lot about all the time I missed

I find just the opposite to be true in my case. I used to think a lot about the past with regret, how my shyness kept me from enjoying being young and single. Since the emergence of my alter ego, it has taken that away, and I feel much better, certainly more fulfilled and much less regretful of my stilted social history. For me, "Kris" came along at just the right time. I'm much more forward looking now, and look to the future with excited anticipation.

[Linda K.]

I sent this in an email to a friend of mine:

"For me, it is an escape from the person that has to deal with all the BS life has to throw at him. Linda is much more calm and relaxed and enjoys just being Linda, she doesn't have to deal with any of that BS!"

I enjoy my alter-ego and would love to get out more as Linda. As far as being older while dressed as Linda? Yes, I am not a spring chicken anymore but I do find that just a smile takes years off your face! It is hard not to smile when I am dressed as Linda!

[Marissa Q]

For me, "Kris" came along at just the right time. I'm much more forward looking now, and look to the future with excited anticipation.

I can't tell you how often Kris encapsulates exactly how I feel about dressing and embracing it all. I feel much the same as she does, especially as regards dealing with one's age. Yes, being an aging crossdresser can be complex, challenging and time-consuming. But -- as Kris imples -- the price paid is so little compared to the benefits of having something so exhilarating to look forward to in the years to come. Despite my age, the future looks so much brighter for me than it did years ago (i.e., before I started dressing).

[Deborah G]

Dressing definitely makes me "young" again, even at 64!

[dawnmarrie1961]

Not as firm in places. More squishy.

[Philipa Jane]

I turned 69 in February and I am now dressing each and every day.
My wife passed last year so there is no one to disapprove and I still get a buzz out of deciding what to wear for the day.

[JulieC]

Philipa Jane, I'm sorry your wife passed :( I'm sorry it took that for you to have the freedom you now enjoy :( But, I'm very happy for you that you can decide what to wear each day!

[Philipa Jane]

Thank you Julie