An intriguing dilemma

[Geena75]

As I sit in my chair and type, I see a problem to resolve. I washed my work clothes today, as is my habit, and threw in my pair of grey silky panties as well. Having transferred the clothes to the dryer, I set to work on prepping supper. Once the meat was in the smoker, I took advantage of the pleasant day to go out and trim my grape vines. I did a little internetting, then headed to the basement to collect my dry clothes -- only to find the dryer empty! Apparently, my daughter did some of her own laundry and folded my things. What I see, though, is my grey panties on top of another laundry basket in plain sight in the living room!

Being thoroughly closeted, this poses a potential problem. Do I stealthily retrieve my item and stash it, or would that raise the question "what happened to those underwear?" and what other questions may follow? Do I just let it ride and hope for the best (like someone mistaking them for their own)? Should make for an interesting evening.

[Shelly Preston]

I would think the chances of them being mistaken for there own is very unlikely. You may get lucky and it does not get asked who they belong too.

It will most certainly raise questions.

How many possible answers are they ????

[Veronica Lacey]

Perhaps time to begin revealing the plot twist in your autobiography?

[Jenn A116]

Might be time to crack the door on that closet just a little bit. She's seen them and no doubt has some questions in her mind. She's probably wondering how to approach the questions. Why not get out in front of it.

[DianeT]

Geena, I have yet to see a woman (or even a guy) not spotting foreign undies in a pile. I don't suppose that your daughter knows your wife's panty collection on the top of her head so there is a possibility she might think these grey things are her mother's. But if the size is much different, a mystery will remain to be solved and you will have indeed an interesting evening... There is no good solution to this conundrum, but if your daughter thinks the panties are her mother's then let it ride since I suppose your wife won't reveal the trick and it is probably better to explain yourself with her later than coming out to your daughter if you aren't ready. Unless your daughter can buy that you threw in some of your wife's undies when doing your own laundry, in which case just grab them from the basket and explain this later if asked. Okay, I think that covers it :). Again, none of these will work if the size is visibly different, in that case your daughter knows, since she folded them. Good luck.

[alwayshave]

Geena, Your daughter may wonder who's panties they are, but probably will never ask.

[Geena75]

The big risk is that there is a running gag in the house when holding up my spouse's somewhat large "granny panties" and ask my petite daughters if it is theirs. Oddly, mine are too small to be in the wife's current collection -- maybe will think they are an old pair that got mixed in somehow. [Hmmm... she never tosses out her outgrown panties. I wonder if I might score a pair?]

[Kris Burton]

In all likelihood, I think Jamie's scenario is the most likely one, and I personally would not even mention it without being asked specifically. Do thank her for folding the laundry, and don't be even the least bit evasive about it. If asked, I would say answer matter of factly without undue explanation, something like "They're mine, I like them, they are comfortable". If a discussion arises, I'd say answer questions but no more than needed - it's not like she found your breast forms. BTW - how old is your daughter? That could affect how you answer any possible questions as well.

[Geena75]

Kris -- at home are my babies, 24 yr. old twin daughters (one recently divorced). They have a remarkable ability to not notice some things, hopefully this is among them.

[Kris Burton]

That's good. They are more likely to recognize what is your personal business, and handle the explanation if one is needed.

[Crissy 107]

Geena, Interesting conundrum for sure. It does sound like something to work into your storyline at some point.
Good luck and let us know how it goes

[Heather76]

Retrieve your panties. They are rightfully yours. Don't initiate any conversation about them; but, if you are asked about them, answer the question, AND ONLY THE QUESTION, truthfully. Do not offer unsolicited additional information. But, if the questions continue and take you down the path of, "Dad, are you a cross dresser?", do not lie. If she asks the question, she has a suspicion. Would you want to lie now only to have her on the lookout to later confirm you lied to her?

[sometimes_miss]

My prepared 'go to' explanation for mysterious garments showing up in my laundry, was simply to respond that a friend's washer was broken, and she came and did her laundry at my house. The 'offending' garment was just something that had wound up leftover in the dryer.

Or, you can claim it came back on it's own, from wherever twilight zone that socks escape to!

[JenniferMBlack]

So who's laundry basket are they in the top of now? Why might they have been put there specifically? And is there a plausible reason for you to get I to the basket? Such as leaving possibly leaving money Ina pocket of something else in the basket. To many unanswered questions to give advice.

[Leslie Langford]

Dryers are notorious for eating socks, whereby a pair of them might be put in but only one emerges at the end of the cycle. Sometimes - like the ocean - dryers give back what was once lost inside of them. Could that be how those infamous grey panties ended up in your laundry?😜

Maybe your daughter will buy that story if pressed for an explanation. Might be worth a shot...😉

[SaraLin]

Or - the dryer gremlins took the material from all those stolen socks and knit a pair of panties?

At a laundromat once, I found two VERY skimpy thongs in my laundry. H-m-mm.:thinking:

[GretchenM]

Don't mention it. If questioned just say perhaps left behind from the previous dryer load and just walk away to do something else. Retrieve them later. But discussing it is no doubt the very best solution provided the environment is right to discuss it. But the fact that they are on the top of the stack probably means she knows they are unusual and not her sister's or her mothers - so who else is left? "OMG, Dad!"

[Debbie Denier]

Think Jaime is right. Nudge nudge wink wink say no more. Unless asked.

[Cheryl T]

Retrieve your laundry and the panties and say nothing.
Let someone else raise the question.

[docrobbysherry]

Forget the panties. Consider the big picture. Eventually your daughter will catch u!:eek:

When my 18 y/o daughter moved in with me full time she nearly caught me a few times arriving home unexpectedly.:doh:

I felt I had to tell her before she did. That didn't go over well. But, we established an arrangement so that I could dress when she was out.:thumbsup:

[Geena75]

Well, I think I dodged this one. At supper last night I found reason to slip into the living room and discreetly slipped the panties into my pants pocket to be deposited into their usual place later. No one has said or asked anything on the subject. It means that either a) it wasn't much of a mystery, and no one really cares; or b) someone sort of knows and doesn't want to breach the subject. Will just have to see what happens.

[Mary Loo]

Geena, that is good news. Thanks for updating everyone.

[Karren H]

I think she already knows.

[DianeT]

And now to solve the mystery of that bill for an installation of a security camera in the living room the day before, signed by your wife... The plot thickens...

[Crissy 107]

I think she already knows.

Women in general do not miss much so Karren may be correct.

[Krisi]

If you are crossdressing in a home where other people live, the question is not "if" you will get caught, it's "when" you will get caught.

I don't know if you are hiding this from your wife or just your children, but regardless, someone is going to catch you.

As for the panties, retrieve them but say nothing.

[Stephanie47]

What you did not mention is whose pile of clothes the panties were stacked on? An assumption was made the panty belonged to someone. I doubt anyone will bring up a conversation since nobody is really going to claim ownership. No, "Hey, who took my panty?" I think more people are aware of your secret than you realize.

[Geena75]

Stephanie -- it was sort of a collective clothes basket, except that none of them were my clothes (except the subject item).

[Emma500]

Hi Geena, I'm just wondering whether you should use this as an opportunity to start talking to your close family about your need to crossdress? The thing is that if you share living space with your family , then it is very likely they will eventually find out one day that you are a crossdressser. I know it's tough though, best wishes x

[Connie D50]

Geena I would collect them, wait for the question (don't think you're going to get one) say your wife old pair. Let your wife know so she can cover for you if she has to.

[Gi Gondin]

This fear regarding the forgotten underwear is the same when we go out dressed and believe everyone is looking and judging us, while they’re just going around their regular business.

If you consider Occam’s razor principle, their dad being a crossdresser is a very odd explanation! They probably ignored the fact or thought in many different possibilities!

I would try again!!! :)