Panties!

[emachine39]

I'm new to this board and I'm soon to start crossdressing. I'm starting with panties, does anybody have good ideas for me on what to buy? Thanks!

[DanaJ]

Yes, get whatever you think you will like, you won't know until you get them :)

In another thread, you said your girlfriend was buying them for you, so why not let her choose?

[emachine39]

Okay, thanks!

[Julie York]

A great American philosopher once wrote....."You cannot be serious!"


You are SOON to start cross dressing?

And you want ideas?


Oh I could be soooo impolite and yet you may be for real.

I suggest you buy some pretty little frilly panties that carress your thighs and have little pink frills round the legs and make you feel soo sexy.............(this is costing you £1.00 a minute big boy)

[emachine39]

That sounds so sexy! I've wanted to crossdress for awhile I was just looking for some support.

[Julie York]

If you want to be honest...then be honest.

Your cart and horse are about face and it is obvious to anyone who knows
.
People don't start crossdressing like some night club class. "One is thinking of cross dressing. What type of strings do I require?"

If you want help genuinely....then ask for it.
If you want a cheap thrill then ring my sex line.


:D :D

[emachine39]

I genuinely want help. The more ideas the better.

[DanaJ]

OK, when were you born, that will give us an idea of what to say.....

[emachine39]

The late 80s. I'm an adult.

[DanaJ]

Why did you just go change your profile? Anyway, we need to know more about you - what is your goal? Go out, good photos, just for fun, etc? What size are you? What is your hair color, length, body build - all that stuff...

[emachine39]

Right now it's for fun with my girlfriend, maybe it will be more later. I'm 6 feet, Brownish-Redish hair, not muscular but not scrawny at the same time, about 200 pounds, with blue eyes

[DanaJ]

With all due respect - if you have a girlfriend helping you with this, then you are already ahead of most of us here. Let her choose for you, maybe you can go with her when she shops.

[JoannaDees]

Right now it's for fun with my girlfriend, maybe it will be more later. I'm 6 feet, Brownish-Redish hair, not muscular but not scrawny at the same time, about 200 pounds, with blue eyes

Then of course, Victoria's Secret "Pink" string bikini! You'll have to wait for a thong though, that's for experts. :p

[emachine39]

Pink would be very hot. My girlfriend is fine with me wearing panties, but I don't want to push her to quickly into everything else.

[Wendy me]

and yet the plot thickens....

[emachine39]

Does anyone know how slowly or quickly I should do this with my girlfriend? She's very open minded but you know at the same time I don't want to drop all this on her at once.

[Jennaie]

Ok, maybe she isn't really a crossdresser in the sense that we all know it, but, she did stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night.

emachine: Get some panties, see how they fit, see how they feel, see how they make you feel. Panties are cheap. Then come tell us how it makes you feel when wearing them. We can better feel like sisters that way. It sounds to me that perhaps you are exploring an area of interest that really belongs to your girlfriend, not you.

Ok girl? hugs and kisses.

Oh, I hope I didn't make you uncomfortable with calling you a girl or the hugs and kisses. If I did, I am sorry.

[emachine39]

Does anyone have actual advice for me without questioning me being a crossdresser? I'm new to this and I want to dress but I can only do this with my girlfriend. I have limited time for when I could dress. I'm just looking for advice. Thanks!

[JoannaDees]

Okay. Just how much does your girlfriend know? In fact, how much do YOU know? Do you have any ideas on what drives you? Is it sexual? Is it "just the way you feel" and want to express?

You see, we are at a loss because we don't have enough information.

My advice, sit down with your girlfriend, have a heart to heart talk. Be very open. Tell her everything you feel and desire. Listen to her responses. Make decisions based on that. Only then should you worry about what to wear. Perhaps let her in on your femme self-discovery. For heaven's sake, do not hide it and spring it upon her. Look at so many stories of woe on this site about her finding out and being devastated. It rocks their world, it's a fact, and it's understandable. Do it the right way, you are still young.

I believe the "panties" angel threw a lot here. We try to protect ourselves against .... against .... frivolity in this life style/curse.

[Tamara Croft]

Uhm...
I'm new to this board and I'm soon to start crossdressing. I'm starting with panties, does anybody have good ideas for me on what to buy? Thanks!and in your biography
I'm new to crossdressing. I've done it before but this is the first time I'm going to keep it going!So which is it?? You're either new to it, or you're not... You would do well to remember this forum is for support, it isn't for underaged boys having a giggle at our members expense.

[Jennaie]

Does anyone have actual advice for me without questioning me being a crossdresser? I'm new to this and I want to dress but I can only do this with my girlfriend. I have limited time for when I could dress. I'm just looking for advice. Thanks!

Being a crossdresser is not easy girl, we did not just say to ourselves one day, Gee, I think I would like to try being a crossdresser. No, almost all of us were slipping into womens clothing since we were little boys/gurls. Most of us came here looking for support and offering support.

Your need to dress does not seem to be based on an inner desire to feel fem or identify yourself with the female gender, or even be a sexual fetish for that matter. Your introduction in the new members intro forum seemed to say that your girlfriend was already part of this plan: "I'm going to start crossdressing soon. My girlfriend is going to get me some panties to wear and I'll take it from there. I'm so excited!" I'm wondering why you have a desire to dress, you don't talk about your feelings at all.

We are all here for support and to offer support, but you have to let us know where you are comming from. Perhaps you really don't know, which is why I recommended that you get some panties, wear them, then see how you feel when wearing them and how they make you feel inside.

Other than that, I don't what to tell you dear, go buy some panties that you think will look pretty on you. We all have different taste.

Good Luck

[emachine39]

So which is it?? You're either new to it, or you're not... You would do well to remember this forum is for support, it isn't for underaged boys having a giggle at our members expense.

I've tried on women's clothing before, but I felt like it was "wrong." So I got rid of them. But now I've decided I'm comfortable with it, so I want to start up again. I'm sorry if this is confusing people of if I'm not explaining it properly. I'm not here to "giggle" at the members. I'm here to learn how others are going about being crossdressers. I'm feeling more and more comfortable about crossdressing as I read this forum.

[emachine39]

I brought up my wanting to wear panties to my girlfriend and she said okay. Female clothes just feel good and look good. They look sexy.

[Eva Marie]

You've received some sound advice here, some seemingly critical, and yet you persevere. But, are you understanding the advice and messages being given? Now please review these ideas and come to terms with yourself; give the information some time to settle in. Then return to us. Best wishes.

[emachine39]

Thanks for all the advice. I'll sleep on it. I just need to get some clothes to wear now and see how I feel.

[Deborah]

Starting out with panties is best like others have said. They are cheap and if you feel guilty or "not right" then you could always give them to your girlfriend. When you start shopping online or out in the stores it gets very expensive and is such a waste of pretty clothes if you decide to purge (get rid of them)
Good luck to you.
Debbie

[Parker0429]

I wear Vanity Fair Lace Nouveau briefs or Bali Lacy Skamps or Lacy Skamps Hikini panties. Each of these panties are a fuller cut and provide more material between the legs which provides some 'cradling' capability so I can tuck myself back & under. I also wear a girdle (hi-waist open bottom Rago or hi-waist long leg Rago). The firmness of the girdle helps keep things wear I want them to stay, and gives me a "flat" front side. I suggest staying away from thongs and also avoid panties with a lace front. The coarse/rough lace will rub you sore. Natural women can wear lacy panties as there is nothing protruding into the lace. Guys, on the other hand, can't handle the lacy material rubbing against us. Go for a seamless or smooth front panty. Enjoy!

[emachine39]

Thanks for all the advice girls. I've woken up in the middle of the night and started thinking about all this. I've decided that my girlfriend is open minded enough to accept me as a crossdresser. (She already knows I want to wear panties.) So I'm going to talk to her about it and then I'll just start buying one item at a time and working my way up to everything so I can get use to it and she can get use to it.
I've come to realize that I was probably born to be a crossdresser. I remember having dreams when I was younger about crossdressing, even before I knew what it was. I've also had an urge to actually crossdress the past 3 or 4 years and I've tried on a few items but I always felt guilty and ashamed so I stopped. But the urge keeps getting stronger and I'm feeling better and better about everything so I'm going to go with my inner feelings and crossdress like I've should've been doing all along. Thanks for all of the support!

[Jennaie]

Thanks for all the advice girls. I've woken up in the middle of the night and started thinking about all this. I've decided that my girlfriend is open minded enough to accept me as a crossdresser. (She already knows I want to wear panties.) So I'm going to talk to her about it and then I'll just start buying one item at a time and working my way up to everything so I can get use to it and she can get use to it.
I've come to realize that I was probably born to be a crossdresser. I remember having dreams when I was younger about crossdressing, even before I knew what it was. I've also had an urge to actually crossdress the past 3 or 4 years and I've tried on a few items but I always felt guilty and ashamed so I stopped. But the urge keeps getting stronger and I'm feeling better and better about everything so I'm going to go with my inner feelings and crossdress like I've should've been doing all along. Thanks for all of the support!

Now we are talking. Good for you girl! go get some pretty things and enjoy your feminine side. Lets us know how you are doing. Hugs.

[Helen MC]

emachine39. Ask your G/F if you can borrow and wear some pairs of her panties, assuming you take the same size as her. See how you like them or otherwise and if you DO enjoy them then see how she feels about you wearing one of her skirts, tops, a bra padded out etc. Take it slowly, poco a poco as our Hispanic friends would say. Good Luck and I hope you like wearing the panties.

[Annesah]

emachine39

Welcome to the forum! I'm a fan of Bali Skimp Scamp in full brief form. They
are way cumfy and do a better job of supporting the "boys" than men's briefs ever have..... Yes; I wear thoes to the Doctors. :cheeky:

[Julie York]

Thanks for all the advice girls. I've woken up in the middle of the night and started thinking about all this. I've decided that my girlfriend is open minded enough to accept me as a crossdresser. (She already knows I want to wear panties.) So I'm going to talk to her about it and then I'll just start buying one item at a time and working my way up to everything so I can get use to it and she can get use to it.
I've come to realize that I was probably born to be a crossdresser. I remember having dreams when I was younger about crossdressing, even before I knew what it was. I've also had an urge to actually crossdress the past 3 or 4 years and I've tried on a few items but I always felt guilty and ashamed so I stopped. But the urge keeps getting stronger and I'm feeling better and better about everything so I'm going to go with my inner feelings and crossdress like I've should've been doing all along. Thanks for all of the support!

Your posts are very confusing. I don't know what to make of it.
Assuming you are genuine, then I don't really understand what it is that you are wanting to know because you haven't asked anything specific. It is almost as if this is some sort of whim, rather than a genuine desire and you are asking what you THINK you should ask, like someone who suddenly gets the idea they would like to be an artist or writer but don't know where to start...so they join a writer's forum.

If you have had these desires for so long and felt guilty about it, then that is pretty much how all of us felt when younger. And if you are still having trouble making sense of your urges then that's normal too. But I can't make head nor tail of your approach to this. You come across like someone pretending to be a crossdresser, which is why you got a hostile response from me.

A genuine CD would usually ask for help making sense of it, or with the guilt, or where to buy something. The very last thing they would need to know is what to buy next and how to START like it was some sort of hobby they fancied trying!

You buy borrow or steal what your heart and inner urges desire! That's how you START!

There is no evening class in "How to become a crossdresser". You've got it or you haven't.

You have me mystified I must admit.

[emachine39]

I've been brought up with the idea that crossdressing is wrong and I've had this inner desire to do it for a while now. So I struggle to explain myself at times because part of me thinks this is wrong but another part of me wants to crossdress. This whole thing has gone back and forth in my mind for years now and I've finally came up with the solution of actually trying it and giving crossdressing an actual chance, without feeling guilty and hating myself at the same time for doing it. Some don't understand what I'm saying and some do. Support would be nice, but if people don't think I actually want to crossdress, I guess I'm at the wrong place.

[Missy]

So do what you feel is comfortable and enjoy yourself. you wear not born this way so if for some reason you find that you do not like it or you GF find that it is not for her you can stop it before you get into it too far. who brought up the subject of you wearing panties you or her? if it was her no problem if you then respect her if she dose not want it or for you to go all the way

Missy :happy:

[emachine39]

I had told my girlfriend that I wanted to wear panties and she's fine with that. She is a very open minded person so I think she'd be fine with it if I take it slowly. Maybe I'll get to a point I feel uncomfortable or maybe she'll feel uncomfortable at some point. I'll figure it out, but I know what you're saying.

[jodybi35]

If none of you have tried VS new spandex/nylon hip huggers, they are very very nice and soooooooooo comfortable. I went to one of the shoppes here in the city and purchased a pink pair, a white pair, and a black pair. Nice and
soft without any ugly old seams. The little salesgirl was such a cutie and really smiled when I told her they were for me. Kewl. Try them, you will like them.

[Julie Avery]

What have we here? Crossdressers talking about panties?

::::in my best Aunt Bea voice:::: "Well, I never!"