The thrill of underdressing!?

[docrobbysherry]

Just read another post here about underdressing. Where the writer was so worried about "someone noticing"!:eek:

Ok, I know some of u have SO's and u have been told not to, or have agreed not to, dress openly. But, that's a completely different topic!:heehee:

Some of u get a kick out of underdressing and I wondered what it is for u? :straightface:
The possibility of getting caught? You're big secret no one knows about? The feel of lady's things under your drabs?:battingeyelashes:

I tried it when I was just experimenting with dressing. Wore a bra, girdle, undies, and occasionally pantyhose under my guy things. After a week the secret thrill wore off and I gave it up. Those darn lady's things were very uncomfortable compared to my loose, comfy guy clothes!:doh:

So, for those of u that enjoy underdressing and do it by choice, not because it's the only way u can dress and go out, why do u do it?:)

[Karmen]

I do it because I just like the feeling that I'm wearing female clothes 24/7. Wearing panties and pantyhose under my pants still feels so feminine, regardless that I'm wearing them for years now. I just like female clothes more than male clothes, I guess.
I can't (don't dare) wearing outer female clothes 24/7, otherwise I would wear them all the time too.

[prene]

I love it because it is just me. In the winter when it is easier I even wear bigger forms ... hard to see under a jacket. LOL

I do wear gg jeans all the time ... (sorry Karen) Not sure if anyone notices. I Always tuck.

[Crissy 107]

I wear panties 24/7 and for me it is the connection to my feminine side, for some of us it is the small things that count.

[Kris Burton]

I don't know if its a thrill exactly, but I have noticed that even my guy jeans and pants fit better when I am wearing my hip shaper girdle. They are not constantly sliding down, even when wearing a belt. It is a bit of a kick to wear these out and about, like you are getting away with something so many find taboo, but that's a psychological thing.

[SaraLin]

Well Doc, for me it's a bit of a "relief valve."
I consider myself to be somewhere left of center on the Trans scale, but I'm limited in my freedom to express my "true" self. Underdressing helps relieve some of the dysphoric pressure.

I underdress every day, but only in panties. There is no "thrill" or "excitement" involved. They're just my undies.
Boy undies are boring and fit funny. I don't know what it is, but they feel "weird."
I don't have enough up top to need a bra. Pads, shapewear, etc. aren't my thing. I'm not trying to look the part so much as I am just wearing what feels "right" to me.
If my wife were OK with me doing a little more - such as ladies slacks or tops, I would. She's not, so I don't. To the outside world these days, I'm just another dude.

[Angela Marie]

I guess my view of underdressing is somewhat different. I outwardly dress in a feminine manner. Wear leggings to the gym, at home, and at work. On my forays during the day my preference is denim leggings/leggings, whatever the nomenclature is. I find that is the best way to project my femininity.

[Connie D50]

I only wear panties when I underdress, I just love the way they feel and look. So many more colors and style's then mens underwear. It always bring a smile to me face when I chance for bed at the end of the day.

[Karren H]

I do not underdress any more. The thrill is gone. The thrill is gone for dressing in general. But I still do it almost every day. I have move on to other avenues to get my thrills these days. Still involves crossdressing just a bit kinkier. Guess if that wears off I will have to become a crossdressing astronaut, a secret agent or something. Lol.

[NancyJ]

doc, You have been rather open that you are a fetishist, true? For me, the thrill of wearing panties disappeared many years ago. I underdress in my panties every day to calm my gender dysphoria. I suspect that is true for most of us who have been doing it for years. I do not get aroused by dressing. Panties provide no sexual thrill. Instead, I feel relaxed, assured, calmed. Nancy

[Debbie Denier]

Its a stress reliever for me. I underdress in panties and tights/pantyhose. Like many others it gives me a sense of calm and relieves the gender dysphoria. The thrill went years ago.

[Kelli_cd]

My fascination with really started at puberty; it was driven by hormones. Later, when I started wearing panties, it was about breaking the rules and experience the "taboo". I've always loved the look of matching panties and bras. In my mind, that was a natural next step.
I also enjoy walking the halls at work knowing that my underwear is probably than what most of the women are wearing.
It could also be related to having no intimacy in my marriage for the last 17 years.
I just know I like it. I'm a happier person. My general demeanor is more kind and gentle than when I ignored my desire to wear bras and panties.

[Di]

Thanks for posting because I never understood it.
For Sherlyn she was herself no matter what just like I am just me no matter what piece of cloth I have on.
Not saying anything is wrong with it ….do not get it twisted:)
I just never understood it.
So look forward to reading the answers.

[AmeeJo]

I love to underdress! I pretty much always have a bra and panties on. It feels so right for me. In the winter I'll put my forms in too. I like to think about what I'm wearing when talking to someone that has no clue what I'm wearing.

[GretchenM]

For me, dressing is not a matter of it being a thrill or anything even close to that. It is a matter of connecting more fully with that part of my identity, the female-like side of my total identity. Wearing a T-shirt that has bold and bright feminine colors does the same thing. It allows a connection between my inner self and the outside world. I sometimes wear a tree-of-life pendant necklace that has the fine silver chain, but with the pendant inside my shirt. People notice. Some frown, some smile, a few are curious. But I really don't care what they think. It is there for me and not impress anybody else or even give them a message about me. It has meaning.

I don't worry about anybody seeing anymore than most women fret about maybe showing the elastic of the panty band when they bend over. It happens. It is part of life. I am not me for the benefit of others.

[CynthiaD]

I underdress 24/7, not for the thrill, but out of practical necessity. I have no male underwear. It’s panties or nothing. I have no male socks. It’s pantyhose, or stockings and a garter belt or nothing. I have some footies for exercise, but I don’t wear them with male clothing. I sometimes wear a sports bra under my male shirt because it feels normal to do so.

I got rid of my male underwear and socks, because they were ugly and I couldn’t imagine myself wearing anything like that anymore.

I dress completely every day, for at least part of the day. I don’t do it for the thrill. I do it to feel normal. This probably doesn’t answer your question very well, but that’s how it is for me.

[fly2188]

I am not sure how to explain it, but I would not call it a thrill. It is just who I am, how I am most comfortable, and how I dress every day. It is no different than putting on/wearing a pair of pants.

That said, I like selecting an outfit in the morning and picking what bra to wear with it. But it is not really any different than picking what top to wear with what pants or what shoes I wear.

[susann_gardener]

I wear panties everyday, although just plain black bikini. Seems to be the only acceptable outlet for me. No thrill, just what I wear.

[ShelbyDawn]

There are functional reasons; i.e., I think panties are more comfortable than men's briefs.
I like the extra support on my 'man parts'(actually, I tuck most of the time and it helps keep the boys out of sight).
I also hate how men's' briefs show over the top of my jeans and especially how boxer briefs bunch up in my crotch.

Mostly though, I underdress because my situation won't allow me to fully dress when I leave my apartment so I do what I can to be as much of the real me as I can. Same reasons I wear nail extensions in a matte clear finish and have my toes painted. If I had enough hair, I'd probably grow that out, too. :)

What I'm finding equally interesting are the comments on why some of you don't.

We are on a wonderful glorious spectrum.
Some of us are fetish dressers, some do it for sexual reasons or the thrill of the taboo.
Some 'need' to get as close to passing to make it worth while and others just want to feel more in sync with themselves.
Conversations like this give us an opportunity to better understand our sisters and come closer as a community.

Thanks for asking the question.

[April Rose]

I'm with SaraLin on this one. It isn't about a thrill, It's about relief. I may not be trans enough to transition, but I am trans enough that something just isn't right when in an exclusively male mode. When it's the only available outlet, underdressing mitigates that feeling. It's the same reason I wear gold hoop earrings all the time, even in drab.

[Stephanie47]

I like the feel of a nylon panty on my butt. My first attraction to women's clothing as a little kid was my mother's slips. I loved the feel of the nylon fabric. I had no associated any other motivation or feeling with this interest. It was the feel of the nylon. As my interests expanded, it was and still is dominated by nylon garments. This morning I am still attired in my bed clothes; white bra and panty under a Velrose full slip, worn under a Shadowline long pale pink nightie. Double layer of nylon; triple layer over my butt.

I read about a lot of under dressing on this site. I retired in 2008. Since my wife was still working I had full days of femme time, so when I started reading this site, the under dressing motivation was not in response to any oppression of self expression. I thought to myself, let's give it a try. It was the winter so wearing my guy jeans and sweat shirt was enough to conceal any under garments. I usually wore a black bra and black panty under a black camisole. Hosiery started out with black thigh highs. When a little slippage occurred I added a black garter girdle to hold up the hosiery. My jeans are "regular fit" so the few tabs did not show through the baggy jeans. I did try pantyhose, but that made it inconvenient to use the rest room; no wonder it took my wife so long to relief herself when out at the mall or movies. In the end, under dressing was at all fulfilling. The experienced turned into just wearing clothes; male or female.

Why just the panty now? Men's briefs are fine until stretching of the fabric occurs. I find Vanity Fair 13109's are more comfortable than men's cotton briefs. I am awaiting on order of Vanity Fair cotton briefs (Style 15318) to arrive to give them a go. Nylon is not sweat absorbent when working in the yard, so I thought I'd give cotton a shot.

[Paulie Birmingham]

actually, the thrill has not been the same lately unless i am.going out. i have been wearing a lot more mens boxer briefs and actually wife has been positively responding. guess she likes to have a man around

[MonicaPVD]

When I was younger and in school, I underdressed every day and truly enjoyed the restrictive feel of being in a girdle or bodysuit and nylons. Later, as I spent time out and about as Monica, I lost interest in underdressing.

[Gillian Gigs]

Well Doc, you seem to like wearing a latex suit and go out to public events. I'm guessing that this is something that 'floats your boat'. For me, I like the feel of snug nylon panties, cami's, or pantyhose that moves with me nicely against any outer clothes that I may be wearing. That tactile feeling 'floats my boat', I don't expect you to understand, just love and accept me for who I am!

[DanielleCD]

Also in the, relief it gives me boat. I don;t get to dress very often so I try to do as much as I can. Something about wearing panties and bra, even under male drab is soothing.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

Panties are more comfortable than men's underwear (not all of them, granted, but I tossed the other ones), so now that's all I have. And now that I've FINALLY found a reasonably priced super-comfortable women's thong that's pretty much all I've been wearing since I found them! So to answer the OP question, I wear panties largely due to comfort, but I have to admit I like knowing that they're panties and not men's briefs, even though I have a few that will pass for men's at the doctor's office.

Bras on the other hand make no sense, I just like the way they feel, even though admittedly they're not really comfortable after a few hours. So I'll wear one sometimes under my shirt if I think I can get away with it (at least my wife doesn't care).

I never wear stockings or tights unless they're visible, like with a dress, skirt, or Daisy Dukes.

I think the largely unmentioned third category here should be women's clothes that no one notices are women's clothes. I have no male socks (boring and ugly), I have several pairs of women's canvas shoes (similar to Tom's but prettier), I only wear women's jeans and cutoffs (way more comfy!), I wear women's racerback tanks (comfy and I like the look), and a few women's t-shirts (so much softer than men's shirts) that go unnoticed. There have been plenty of times sitting at the sports bar when I've realized that everything I'm wearing is from the women's side of the store, and no one has a clue.

[Heather76]

I wear panties every day as I have tossed out all my traditional male underwear. I find lace panties to be infinitely more comfortable than boxers or tighty whities. When wearing slacks, I generally wear stockings if the ambient temps are 80?F or less. I simply like the feeling of them hugging my legs. I also wear a bra or bralette with inserts and/or forms quite often at home and sometimes while out. I don't "get a thrill" out of under dressing like this. What I do get is a feeling that what I'm doing is natural and normal. I am quite comfortable when underdressed as well as when I'm dressed in the evenings. I do wish I could CD 24/7; but, that will never be the case for me.

[bre]

I wear panties everyday now; sometimes basic cotton hipsters that are not particularly eye catching, and sometimes my panty choices are much more femm florals, bright colors and even thongs. The point is that I am wearing panties by choice everyday and I am pleased to do so. I also have become fond of women's tank tops in lieu of A-shirts or mens' undershirts. Likewise pretty, femm socks when I can fit them in the outfit. Under dressing is what I have available currently so I do what I can now. I do hope for more later.

For me, underdressing at some level all the time now is not the same thrill it used to be; the mytique, intrigue - and yes, eroticism - are replaced by a sense that it is just me being me at this particular mile post on my journey. I do admit, though, that I do get a little thrill when purchasing lingerie in person for myself. One of the Lane Bryant stylists at my local store knows that I am usually shopping for myself (and sometimes for my wife also) and we discuss panty styles, fabrics and fit. She knows that I have submitted numerous reviews to the LB webpage and she often asks my opinion on their products. Maybe one day I'll ask her if she has other CD customers, although I bet that she does.

[Aunt Kelly]

We know that a lot of those who post in this particular section of the forum are fetish dressers. For a good number of them, the adrenaline rush of tempting discovery is another significant driver. While many will deny it, there's really no mystery here.

[Camille58]

I wear panties almost everyday also. It was my gateway to crossdressing. It was a thrill at first. Now, it is just feels normal. Like many other?s here, it is my connection with my female side. And I usually don?t need anything else. I am surprised and thrilled actually that so many feel the same way! I have found that wearing panties everyday keeps me calmer, more centered. I really enjoy the times that I wear more than just panties, but for me, that is icing on the cake!

[Maria 60]

Believe it or not as much as I have this need to be wearing something fem under, my wife loves me underdressing. She finds it exciting, the thrill that maybe something my show. Last week at the mall I bent down and tied my shoe laces and when I got up my told me that my top rode up and all the top of my pantyhose were exposed and described the thrill she got seeing people walk by me and notice.
Sometimes like you said it could get uncomfortable, a few times when the hormones run a little wild I would wear pantyhose under jeans on a boiling hot day, even then my wife will ask why I punish myself like that.

[Tiffany355]

For me it?s super sexy, comfy and feminine. The trill of being caught is exciting but I also make sure it won?t happen. At least I think that. Yesterday I got brave and sent my wife a picture of my normal guy undies as well as some lace panties. Labeled them a and b. Said pick one. She picked the panties and said this is exciting! Felt great all day about it.

[Teresa.Smith.VA]

I have underdressed in nylon panties for most of my adult life, with the full support of my wife. Panties is the only underdressing that I have ever done. I have always been careful not to be discovered.

It has evolved from a way to calm my dysphoria in my earliest younger years, to a mild erotic excitement as I remember that I had girl's panties on under my suit, to just having a preference for panties for everyday wear.

I keep my collection of male underwear for special occasions, like a doctors visit, X-rays, MRIs, etc.

Wearing panties every day is just one of the little pleasures of cross dressing that I totally enjoy with the full support of my bride. We even enjoy having matching panties.

Teresa

[NancySue]

I?ve underdressed for years, definitely panties, sometimes thigh highs, sometimes a bra..all depends on occasion. Why? It feels good and seems to keep the pink fog away longer.

[audreyinalbany]

I never understood the underdressing thing. To me, crossdressing isn't strictly' about the clothes,' it's really about "presenting as a woman.'

[Panty1]

I wear panties 24/7. I still have a couple pairs of men's drab underwear in the back of my bottom drawer, but they have not been out in years. I feel relaxed and comfortable being in touch with my soft/feminine side. During the colder months my wardrobe is a little more extensive. This includes leotards/bodysuits, tights and an occasional bra. In the beginning there was the "thrill", but now it is all about comfort with my clothing choice and myself.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Some I know have told me if you wear a girdle (or corset) everyday long enough, you can overcome any discomfort and become "addicted" to it, and really miss it when it isn't there. I don't wear one everyday, but if it fits well, and is broken in, I can totally see one eventually falling in love with them and wanting to wear one all of the time.

[AllieBellema]

I underdress on occasion and usually just on a weekend when I feel up for it. Not something I'd do everyday, but when I'm feeling in a girly mood.

[docrobbysherry]

I don't know if its a thrill exactly, but I have noticed that even my guy jeans and pants fit better when I am wearing my hip shaper girdle. They are not constantly sliding down, even when wearing a belt. It is a bit of a kick to wear these out and about, like you are getting away with something so many find taboo, but that's a psychological thing.
Apparently that is a very popular reason for underdressing, Kris. And, it was for me for about a week.:)
Until I realized I wasn't get away with anything except in my imagination!


Well Doc, for me it's a bit of a "relief valve."
I consider myself to be somewhere left of center on the Trans scale, but I'm limited in my freedom to express my "true" self. Underdressing helps relieve some of the dysphoric pressure.

I underdress every day, but only in panties. There is no "thrill" or "excitement" involved. They're just my undies.
Boy undies are boring and fit funny. I don't know what it is, but they feel "weird."
I don't have enough up top to need a bra. Pads, shapewear, etc. aren't my thing. I'm not trying to look the part so much as I am just wearing what feels "right" to me.
If my wife were OK with me doing a little more - such as ladies slacks or tops, I would. She's not, so I don't. To the outside world these days, I'm just another dude.
I know many underdress simple because u have to please your SO, SaraLin. But, u were the first to mention trans dysphoria. And, I keep forgetting about that because mine vanished about 15 years ago when I realized I have NO "woman inside me" I need to please!


I guess my view of underdressing is somewhat different. I outwardly dress in a feminine manner. Wear leggings to the gym, at home, and at work. On my forays during the day my preference is denim leggings/leggings, whatever the nomenclature is. I find that is the best way to project my femininity.
That's called an "androgenous" look, Angela. And, it's cautious, but not underdressing. And, very unsatisfying for some dressers like myself who strive to present as fem as possible. If I don't see a real woman in my mirror? I'm embarrassed to go out like that!:


doc, You have been rather open that you are a fetishist, true? For me, the thrill of wearing panties disappeared many years ago. I underdress in my panties every day to calm my gender dysphoria. I suspect that is true for most of us who have been doing it for years. I do not get aroused by dressing. Panties provide no sexual thrill. Instead, I feel relaxed, assured, calmed. Nancy
I do get turned occasionally dressing at home, Nancy. But, I've NEVER had a sexual thot or feeling during the countless times I've been out dressed!:devil:
I have no idea why!?:eek:


Well Doc, you seem to like wearing a latex suit and go out to public events. I'm guessing that this is something that 'floats your boat'. For me, I like the feel of snug nylon panties, cami's, or pantyhose that moves with me nicely against any outer clothes that I may be wearing. That tactile feeling 'floats my boat', I don't expect you to understand, just love and accept me for who I am!
How ironic that u say I don't understand u when u obviously don't understand me. You've been paying attention, Gillian, but not too well, apparently!:battingeyelashes:
My prosthesis and suits r all silicone which has very different properties!:)
I despise latex and don't EVER wear it!:thumbsdn:


We know that a lot of those who post in this particular section of the forum are fetish dressers. For a good number of them, the adrenaline rush of tempting discovery is another significant driver. While many will deny it, there's really no mystery here.
People call me a fetishist because sometimes seeing myself dressed turns me on, Auntie. And, I enjoy being titely restricted.:o
But, panties do nothing for me. Yet, all the "NONE FETISHISTS" here swarm to panty threads like wolves to raw meat!:tongueout


There are functional reasons; i.e., I think panties are more comfortable than men's briefs.
I like the extra support on my 'man parts'(actually, I tuck most of the time and it helps keep the boys out of sight).
I also hate how men's' briefs show over the top of my jeans and especially how boxer briefs bunch up in my crotch.

Mostly though, I underdress because my situation won't allow me to fully dress when I leave my apartment so I do what I can to be as much of the real me as I can. Same reasons I wear nail extensions in a matte clear finish and have my toes painted. If I had enough hair, I'd probably grow that out, too.
There r NO functional reasons for women's panties fitting men better than men's panties, Shelby. Tidy whities r max comfy for MOST people with male parts. I think what u and others mean is that u "feel more comfy knowing you're wearing women's panties"!?:heehee:


I have underdressed in nylon panties for most of my adult life, with the full support of my wife. Panties is the only underdressing that I have ever done. I have always been careful not to be discovered.

It has evolved from a way to calm my dysphoria in my earliest younger years, to a mild erotic excitement as I remember that I had girl's panties on under my suit, to just having a preference for panties for everyday wear.

I keep my collection of male underwear for special occasions, like a doctors visit, X-rays, MRIs, etc.

Wearing panties every day is just one of the little pleasures of cross dressing that I totally enjoy with the full support of my bride. We even enjoy having matching panties.

Teresa
Yes, I realize pleasing the SO is an important aspect of underdressing, Teresa.:hugs:


Some I know have told me if you wear a girdle (or corset) everyday long enough, you can overcome any discomfort and become "addicted" to it, and really miss it when it isn't there. I don't wear one everyday, but if it fits well, and is broken in, I can totally see one eventually falling in love with them and wanting to wear one all of the time.
I used to wear a tite laced corset every time I dressed in the closet for 10 years. Now, I can only wear waist cinchers and girdles because of damaged nerves, Vickie. If u don't tite lace your corset it mite feel very comfy if u wore it all day. But, then it won't be doing what u wear a corset for, to radically modify your figure! It'll be just another underdress item like panties!:heehee:

[Tamroi]

Hey audreyinalbany! That's a good practical viewpoint.
I'm not wanting to present as woman
though I'm publicly a 'man in a dress' most of the time.
So I'm not a crossdresser?
A Wittgenstein word game I guess.
[See the website: how-playing-wittgensteinian-language-games-can-set-us-free]

[Di]

I appreciate everyone giving the reasons .
Helps me understand more.

[Joanne108]

I find if I dress then I dress completely as a woman. I have never really underdressed much at all.

[Mauritia]

I pretty much feel like I completely understand where you're coming from. I started out wearing panties at a very early age and with some periods of reverting back to men's underwear only, I would always come back to wearing women's panties. Always. I went through a period of about 10 years where I would dress in everything feminine. Panties, bras, garter belts, nighties, but that was when I was single, living completely alone. I am now in a very committed marriage for the past 20 years. After a long period of sneaking and hiding, I finally got the chance to come out in the open. The choice of men's underwear is absolutely horrible. I explained this to my wife and told her that women's panties are very much more comfortable and that women's panties are not that distinguishable from some of the men's underwear that I had brought in the past. There was a time when you could walk into a certain "big box" retail store and buy men's thongs and bikinis, but not anymore. I buy the more conservative panties - cotton with solid colors. I was pleased to find out that my wife enjoys my wearing women's thongs. So things are working out well for me and I hope for you as well.

[ziggie]

I have worn panties on a regular basis for many years and I enjoy underdressing in other things - bra, cami, forms - in the cooler weather. Now that it is summer I have shifted to panties, shorts and a tee or a Sportkilt instead of shorts if I'm going to be around the house. Honestly, my wife and I are often dressed much the same during the summer.

[Mackem Sue]

I've worn knickers / panties and stockings plus garter / suspender belt under my jeans a few times nipping into the pub. Going home, it allows me to change into femme mode quicker after (bra, dress, heels, wig, done). And it is a nice feeling on my legs.

The one thing I have to be careful about is the rear clips on the suspender / garter belt can edge above the top of the jeans, so ensuring a male T-Shirt is pulled over the back of the jeans is important.

Sue

[Jessica Secret]

Very simple for me, I just love the feel of panties underneath my pants, helps me keep my fem feeling when I'm not wearing romantic lingerie in the bedroom.

[Ina Girdle]

Thanks Doc for starting this post. I enjoy reading everyones viewpoint. I find that I have very much in common with a lot of the underdressers above. I have had a lifelong fascination with women’s foundation wear of the 50s, 60s and 70s. I wear a bra and girdle every day now under my drabes and for me in my situation it works. My wife is ok with this, and I have no mad desire to present as female, as I am a big old man and I am too old and scared to go any further. Growing up I was able to hide the fact that I loved pretty feminine undies, it was not a tolerant situation. I would say that in fact I have become addicted to wearing a girdle. Girdles are my only underwear in my drawers for the last 10 years. I love wearing a bra everyday as well. I have gone for a fitting at my local bra shop and it was a very positive and fun experience. Underdressing is far more than fetishism for me now, it is about me being comfortable in my own skin.
Thanks, Ina

[docrobbysherry]

Why is it that nearly every thread I start turns into a "panty thread"?:doh:

[Lacey New]

For me, underdressing is as far as I have ever been willing to go outside of the privacy of my home. I suppose that if I had ever had the opportunity, I might have attended a gathering or two in full dress but there is a lot of investment in that including wigs, shoes makeup and other accessories such as purses and jewelry. I have never made the investment in those things not so much for the money but for the ability to hide my small stash of girly things. So, the only opportunities I ever really had to dress outside of the privacy of my home has been to underdress. Most of the time, to keep it simple that has simply been wearing panties but there have also been occasions when I have had the opportunity where I would go farther and wear a bra, camisole and stockings or whatever. So,for some practical reasons, if it the only thrill I can get, then accept it and enjoy it.

[Misty_cder]

Underdressing started out as a fetish when I was much younger. It fell into the category of "I have a secret". Today, I just view it as part of my normal clothing. I wear panties all the time because they fit better than men's underwear, occasionally wear bras because I like the hugging feeling they give, and in the winter, I wear tights to help keep my legs warm. In the evolution of my dressing, what was once taboo has now become normal.

[CeCe]

Since I never go public in femme, I enjoy underdressing very much. I can do it for up to five days, but then it starts to feel routine, the thrill diminishes, so I go back to all-male wear. I would rather stop and then start again when slipping on the femme wear is a thrill again.

[Tay 603]

For me underdressing is about the thrill of being out in public dressed as a man with my own little feminine secret. But there?s also the thrill of potentially getting caught by strangers. I?ve enjoyed putting on panties with lo rise jeans and heading to ?masculine? places like hardware stores, then bending over to reach for something on the bottom shelf, allowing all to see the panties showing above the jeans. No one has ever said anything to me, but I?m sure people have noticed. As someone who until very recently was only a panty guy, wearing panties under my guy clothes is a regular activity, but I do admit that certain panties aren?t as comfortable as others!

[Lori Ann Westlake]

I myself don't underdress. Whether this is common or whether I'm a rare exception is not clear to me. But I should really discuss that somewhere else...

[Veronica Lacey]

Sherry, your straight up question provoked a long line of thoughts.

As a teen there was certainly a thrill. I recall many early mornings delivering papers on my bicycle while wearing various underthings particularly panties, pantyhose and sometimes a slip under baggy jeans. It felt exciting, secretive, it felt as if I had an invisible tap on something new and exciting that was just for me. Particularly nice when it was during the colder, darker months of winter and this unbeknownst-to-the-world thrill had a utilitarian purpose as well of added warmth. If a customer just happened to pop out at 5am and said hello my self-consciousness certainly had its way with me in believing they could see right through my jeans and that was another level of exhilaration. Any which way it was an invigorating experience.

After several more decades of exploration, some of it involving underdressing, it feels rather different. Given the arrangements I have with my wife, my dressing is very much a hobby and as much as I enjoy full ensembles at home (no desire to go out) underdressing still has its place. As much as hobbies are relaxing, enjoyable and are often done during our leisure time it is nice to occasionally share hobbies with others as much as it is to find quiet, personal satisfaction in them. When I underdress these days (panties, sometimes hose, a camisole) it feels very much as if I'm enjoying a hobby anywhere I go and it is in the unbeknownst presence of others. While that last thought may suggest a thrill when others are present it is more the polite, sweet revelation that the person before me is likely getting a bit more of the true me than they realize. What I wear, male or female, is also part of my personality and that aspect does not provide any kind of thrill. I am who I am and I just want to be.

One added dimension is that the society I choose to live in has many rules, regulations, mores and social norms of which I ultimately accept even if not in total agreement. Crossdressing is one of those activities that has often been shunned by society, by friends, by a lover or a spouse which, thusly, was a personally accepted restriction placed upon me in, another regulation of my behaviour. When underdressing it is one more moment when I enjoy one more piece of freedom to be who I am, to simply dress as I choose, even if incomplete when compared with full dressing.

Underdressing is simply one of lifes small, relatively unnoticed joys now and while not thrilling it still has a function and a positive result.

[AnelineM]

I wear nude (beige) lipstick much of the time because I like the feel of lipstick on my lips. I wear panties when I am able because I like the way they feel next to my skin. I'll also wear clear nail polish when I have time to do my nails. I can't dress in front of my wife or in a work setting. I don't think of it as underdressing anymore as its just how I dress. Ok, and it is a little bit of a thrill to be wearing lipstick and panties as a guy in drab. I've tried wearing a bra and panty hose under guy clothes and that wasn't really fun.

[JohannaSophia]

Same here , I like ladies mesh thongs for comfort and tights under shorts or pants for fitness.

[ScientiaMetallum]

I wear panties 24/7 and for me it is the connection to my feminine side, for some of us it is the small things that count.

Same. It's not about thrill for me, it's about being as feminine as possible as often as possible without breaking social norms too much. If I wasn't as socially anxious as I am, I think I'd have been wearing women's clothes in public for years, maybe even decades. Still wish I had opened up to my parents when I was a child/young teen rather than hide, maybe transition would've been in the cards back then. Now it's too late, testosterone ruined my body too much.

Though panties are often more comfortable than male underwear, anyway. Not always, some fits poorly and thongs get quite uncomfortable after a while (which is why I very rarely wear a thong), but usually.

[Brianne_bc]

Women wear a bra and panties under jeans and a sweatshirt dont they? So why can I?

[docrobbysherry]

Now I have procedural question: After your original thread has been turned into a "panty thread" thru no fault of your own, will it ever vanish from this board?:sad: