What do you think

[tiffiany]

I bought a pair of womens jeans and I have already worn them out and nobody noticed or even cared. I also accidently bumped into a friend from work and she didnt notice either. I will be going on a trip with my mom to visit my grandparents in idaho in two weeks. I would like to wear my jeans that I bought during my trip but I am wondering how long it would be before my mom noticed. Neither does my mom or grandparents know about me being TG, though there were alot of things that I did growing up that may have made them wonder. Do you think its a good idea to wear my jeans on the trip?

I wont be able to bring anything else femine on my trip, but I thought maybe they wouldnt notice. But theres a good possiblity that they may notice and say something. If it came up, I could either lie and say something like "Oh, I didnt know these were womens jeans, I found them on sale at walmart and they fit me pretty well". They would all get a laugh and it would be the talk of the vacation or I could come out and tell them about myself. This would be hard for me todo, but I would finally be out to them and not have to hide my dressing. What do you think?

[CharlaineCadence]

Well seeing as how I just did what you are thinking about. I would say that you need to tell your mom. How are you going driving? perfict time to tellher explain things to her. I was in tears when I told mine I felt ashamed not because of who i and or what I am becoming but more that i held it from her.
She may sureprise you. and give her time to accept. things.

if you need to talk drop me a line anytime

[tiffiany]

How are you going driving?I live in a different state from my mom and I will be flying into Idaho by myself. Instead of her flying to colorado and then to Idaho, she's going to meet up with me at the idaho airport. So I could wear them on the plane and get away with it, I just wonder if she would know when I meet her at the airport.

I wish I was driving as then I could have a one on one heart to heart talk with her. Depending on how everything goes, there might be time to talk to her while Im there visiting.

[Jennaie]

Hi tiffany:

I really think that I would just play it by ear. I would wear the jeans, If I was questioned about them I would make my decision then and there how to answer. On one side I would respond with "hmm... and they fit me so well and are so comfortable" or Oh, my ... I had no idea. Laugh..

[RachelDenise]

you could do the "I didn't know" ploy and gauge her reaction. It could lead to an interesting discussion without you divulging anything or telling all depending on how the conversation went. I think it is difficult to judge how your mother might react.

[Joy Carter]

This is so hard to do my SO was so pained when I told her I wanted to dress five years ago I was truly upset with myself for telling her. The need is so strong in me that I came to this forum to get a handle on my feelings and it has helped a great deal. Tiff it will be up to you when but you will need to tell your mom some day if you want to make these small ventures into dressing and not worry about any reaction. My So is some what reseptive to my under things but full on dressing is a longway off. Being true to one's self is so important good luck Tiff.

[tiffiany]

After thinking about it for a while, asking people about it and wearing them out quite a bit and nobody caring or noticing, Ive decided to wear my womens jeans on my trip as I doubt they will notice. I even asked the sales ladies at layne bryant and they couldnt tell that I was wearing womens jeans.

I just wish I could bring my panties and pantyhose with me as I would rather wear them instead of my plain old boxer shorts. Do you think its a good idea to bring them on my trip considering my mom and relatives dont know about me being TG yet?

My mom wouldnt find out unless she somehow decided to wash my clothes on the trip like she's done in the past. Do I just say **** it and if it comes up tell her about it or dont even bring them on the trip. God, I hate being so sercetive around my family, I should just get it over with and tell them. At least I would be able to just be myself and not have to care about how they feel.

What do you think?

[joanlynn28]

Just wear the jeans, I know I bought a pair of Jordache jeans at Walmart a couple of weeks ago and you know what they fit me better than my good ole pair of Wranglers. I think that next time I will go to the western wear store and buy myself some woman's Wranglers and new boots to go with them too. As far as panties go I say take a chance and bring them along with the panty hose too. If your mom finds them tell her that you were going to rob a bank on the way "just kidding" tell her you needed them to strain some paint.

[626]

I'm not sure if it would be a good idea to bring your underwear with you this time. If your mother's washed your clothes for you on other trips then there's at least a chance she'd do it on this trip.

It sounds like you are ready for them to know. Perhaps it would be a good time to tell them. Then next time you won't have to worry about what to wear around them :)

[VtVicky]

Do NOT tell anyone on this trip!

You do not know how your mom will take the disclosure, and if it is bad, it will be less bad if she is in her own environment. Not only will she have to deal with her own reactions, she will have to deal with everyone else's reactions if she is at someone else's house when she finds out.

If she is inclined to take it well, and someone else takes it badly, she may yield to the bad reaction out of her own confusion.

As for the jeans, unless you have some feminine designs on them, there is a pretty good chance that you will be the only one who knows they are not male. It sounds to me like it would be a good idea for you to read Edgar Allen Poe's short story called "A Tell-Tale Heart".

Take your time. The pressure to disclose is coming from inside you. There are other ways to control that pressure besides coming out of the closet.

Crossdressing is one cat that, when let out of the bag, will never go back in.

It is a big step. Plan it well. DO NOT just close your eyes and jump in.

Good luck

[tiffiany]

You make a very good point. Like I said I would like to tell them but I know its not the right time. So for now Im just going to bring my jeans and wear them on the trip and not mention it all.

Thanks for the help.