telling friends

[Delila]

I have a really good female friend who has been my friend for most of my life I really want to tell her because if she is accepting she would be the type to be helpfull but I am concerned that if she is not receptive that I would lose a very important friend. I wanted to know it anyone has encoutered a similar situation and how it turned out for them, I would also welcome any advice on the subject.

[emachine39]

I just recently told my girlfriend that I want tp wear panties. We have been dating for 16 months. She was open minded enough to say that was fine. I've been told that I'm lucky. I'm also now going to let her know that I want to wear more than just panties and I just know that she'll be fine with it.
I don't know how open minded your friend is, but I wish you luck and I hope others will help give you advice. I just thought I'd tell you my story.

[Zelda Noe]

Hi Again Megan :wave2:

Here's an idea that just popped into my head...go to the local video store and rent the "White Chicks" DVD. It is a very funny movie about two black brothers, who are transformed into literal "white chicks" to go undercover as police, to bust some criminals. Bring it home, have your good friend come over, watch the DVD, and then ask her what she thinks about the subject of crossdressing after you've watched the DVD? If she seems open about it, then tell her about yourself...if she does not seem open...well...you'll know what to do.

Good luck,

Dandy:happy: :thumbsup:

[Angela Burke]

Megan,
That's good advice from Dandy.
Approaching the subject of CDing using a film, book, magazine, etc. to start talking about it and finding out her views seems more sensible to me if you haven't been open with your CDing from the start.
I speak from experience as I've twice been into a relationship (yes twice!) where I've just blurted out "I'm a crossdresser" which resulted in two very acrimonius bust-ups.
Moral :- Not all women are cool about their men being crossdressers!
Good luck.

[Wombat]

Megan, the desire to tell others, to share with friends, comes to all of us sooner or later - perhaps because it allows us to move into a larger slice of society.

My experiences have been both positive and negative. I've lost some apparently open minded friends. But most don't care or just don't talk about it. The best was the mate who looked at me and said: "Is this a problem for you?" I said it wasn't, so he went back to talking about motorbikes. The worst was an equally good friend who was completely freaked out - he remained a good friend but I hurt him that day and didn't need to.

My personal stance now is that I will not tell anyone unless they need to know. It's limiting, but I think it's fairer all round, and it's safer. The only rider I add to that is to never lie - if someone asks you, admit it. The more important the friend, the more important it is to apply both these principals.

Wombat

[Caroline Simmons]

I dont feel the need to go out and tell friends just for the sake of telling them........ But if any friend ever asked me if i was TGd I would certantly tell all

Caroline xxxx

[Joy Carter]

I dont feel the need to go out and tell friends just for the sake of telling them........ But if any friend ever asked me if i was TGd I would certantly tell all

Caroline xxxx

I agree with Caroline S for the most part but I would admit to it but not the details.