How much has the internet encouraged your femme Persona?

[Krissi]

Slow day at the office huh...lol I was looking around the net the other night and got to thinking about how much the internet has influenced my crossdressing, but also encouraged my feminine side. As a teen when I dressed in the late 80s/early 90s I dressed up, spent time dressed and spent that time being myself just as a girl. Now since I got to exploring online late 90s/2000s I find that I don't dress as myself as a girl, I dressed up as a totally different person. Back then I was just Chris/Chrissy the teenboy in girls clothes, now I become Amanda, Mandi for short with a whole new personality. I know some of the difference has to do with being 28 verses 13, but I also feel that having an outlet online to be a girl rather I'm dressed or not has to have influenced this as well. I don't dress often now, but I get online under my Mandi screenname several times a week and spend time as her, I may not be dressed, but when I step into that persona I feel just as femme as I do fully dressed. Heck I usually have to go take a nice long bubble bath afterwards...lol. I guess the point I'm getting at is that I love the net for giving me a chance to grow into a girl in mind and spirit, and not just be that guy in girls clothes. Anyone else feel like this is true, or am I just bored and rambling...lol

JJ :)

[kylie]

No doubt about it, the internet has had a great effect on my femme persona and desire to dress.

About 7 months ago I was just someone who occasionally liked to wear panties. Now I embrace the whole dressing experience and I love it!!!

[chocolateboygirl]

Absolutely! I remember my first exposure to the internet was back in the early 90's when I was in university.. I found out about newsgroups back then.. then one of the first really trans sites I found was urnotalone (I'm sure most of you know it!).. however, only recently have I begun to let my femme side out online.. back then I was mortified to think what would happen if someone recognized me! Now I've been telling more and more friends and discovering nobody's rejected me yet! I haven't told too many of my guy friends though, mostly gg's :)

cbg

[Nikki A.]

Most definately. I've become more confident and open about it to myself. And I really don't care what others may think except for my kids although I wish I could be open about it to them too, not only on Halloween

[Fiona K]

This is an interesting one, I've been wondering the same thing recently JJ.

I've been online from the mid- late 90s and saw lots of sites selling products for CDs or displaying stories "aimed" at us but they had not really affected my persona, I don't think. I was firmly in the closet and fully intended to stay there.

However, since I found this haven I have communicated with people who understand for the first time and I am now very aware of my femininity but also the effect that my coming out could have on my Wife.

The experiences and advice of other girls here both cautions and re-assures, as well as liberating me, and it is down to friends made here.

So to end this ramble; the internet didn't do much to change my persona but this site certainly has.

Thanks Girls
Fiona

[Robertacd]

I have found the internet to be a great outlet for the girl in me. Besides the many forums I have been through I play a female avitar on two online comunities There and Second Life, its such fun being totally accepted as a female in these comunities.

[Sweet Susan]

The internet has exploded my involvement in crossdressing and my absorbment in the culture. I love the internet and the possibilities it has opened up to me. Initially, I spent much time looking at various transvestite and crossdress web sites and pages, downloading pictures and being transfixed by some of the beauties who have been taking pictures and posting them forever. Now, I've slowed down a bit, but I'm still pleasantly surprised by how gorgeous some of us can become and are. I love what the internet has done for crossdressing men and women around the world. It has opened our world up, and i think it may help in tempering our sordid reputation.

[Georgette]

It definitly let me really know who I am and also opened up a whole new world of lovely people that also share my same interests.
LOL ;)
Be who you want to be not what others think you should be :rolleyes:

[Wenda]

Good Point! Shortly after I rediscovered my interest in CD, I found this site. I remember the first time I logged on, and realized that we were all girls. Wow! That was a huge step. And then to chat with informed and supportive girls like Julie, Amelie and Erica, just exploded my concept of what CD could be. Without this site, I would likely have one bra, one skirt, one pair of shoes and a set of enormous and heavy boobs. Instead, I have about 13 bras, 28 pairs of shoes.... thanks a lot girls, now I am broke!but happy. luv, wenda.

[Sharon]

The change in me has been phenomenal since I first went on line. For years I was too embarrassed to buy clothes in a store, afraid that someone would make a scene when they discovered the purchases were for me. The only time I would venture out was at Christmas and Valentine's Day when it's common to see guys buy clothes for wives and girlfriends. Even so, I always made sure I had a few days worth of stubble on my face. We can all LOL at this, but fear of discovery was overwhelming.
Suddenly, I could go anonymously to literally thousands of stores, some even directed towards TG's like me! My closet has ballooned, my fem things numbering nearly as much as my drab stuff.
I'm just sorry that it took so long for me to discover this site. In just the short time I've been here, I have begun thinking "fem" when online, expressing emotions that are so much deeper than I thought. I have even grown accustomed to thinking of myself as Sharon once I safely put that guy away for the night.

[crispy]

without the net, and especially without this forum, I was a repressed nothing. :(

Now I am a flowering cross(under)dressing shark and proud of it. :)

I am happily reconciled to my habits (addictions/fixations?) because of all the support I find just by being here on this site. Previous feelings of rejection have gone out of the window.

Thank you, girls, all of you.

< :D >

[Renecd]

The web has definately helped me to come out more and this forum and helped even more.

Thank you all,
Rene

[Wendy me]

the web has put wendy in touch with like minded people. thinking talking being with you girls most definialy helped fem up my brain

[Lucy Coleman]

The big thing the internet done for me was to make me realise that I wasn't some lonely wierdo who dressed in womens clothing (sorry for the langauge but I really did see myself like that once), and that whilst still not accepted by alot of people there's absolutly nothing wrong with being a TV and there are 000's (maybe 000,000's) more like me out there and they all good, honest, friendly people.

[Georgette]

To add to my previous comment I have to go along with Wenda I \would probably only have the bare minimum of stuff, but I have been shopping and blew my whole hunting stash on some real nice clothes and shoes. What a way to not go hunting but I found a way. will post some pic's later of my hunting clothes. Really look good? :rolleyes: LOL Georgette

Be who you want to be not what others think you shold be. :rolleyes:

[crispy]

For all those loved ones who don't like seeing the real us emerge, I would tell them don't blame anyone or anything. This is who we are. This is who we always have been. This is also responsible for many of the good qualities we possess. Be happy for our freeing ourselves and encourage our growth. In the end you will see an even better person emerge
Interesting viewpoint, Julie.

Neither us, nor our loved ones, could possibly have known where the journey was leading. In other words, the 'who we are' was a mystery until we found it, and that process was certainly encouraged and accelerated by the internet.

For many, the implication may be drawn that we would never have got there without this help. In fact you could ask: is there an absolute 'who we are' or is it just the product of many influences, including this forum? I don't agree that it is 'who we have always been'. It is more about whom we have had the space and opportunity to become, and that keeps moving until we find a point of balance.

On second thoughts maybe that point of balance is the 'who we have always been'.

I would hesitate to say it is a Good Thing to arrive. Civilisation has depended on self-imposed repression and conformity to get where it is today, rightly or wrongly.

Nothing personal, Julie, but I don't think it has necessarily been a good thing for your wife, or for my wife, that we have arrived at where we are today. I am happy, smug, content and relaxed with where I am, but that is very much a selfish point of view. I know you are also going through a difficult time just now, and I guess the same thoughts occur to you from time to time.

I am just glad to be able to say that I have regained control of my life. But inevitably there has been a down side and there has been, or will be, a huge price to pay in terms of marital and family relationships. Is that the 'better person' emerging? I don't have the answers, but it's an interesting thread.

Take care.

[Natasha Anne]

I get to express that side of me more freely and without consequence. The Internet has freed me from the burdens of explaining myself to others.

[Krissi]

It really is interesting to think how the net has not only made us all more complete, but has brought so many of us together and given us courage and wonderful examples to follow.

JJ :)

[Bonnie-OR]

Hi all
Like the rest of you here, this has really opened up my eyes that there are more out there like me. Till I got online, I had to sneak into adult stores and buy "dirty" magazines to prove to myself that I wasn't the only one like me in the world. Now I can feel a lot more comfortable with who I am, and what I am, even tho' I still can't go outside my door. But that's not MY problem anymore. My problem is how to convince a bunch of bacward thinking neanderthals that just cause a guy likes to look pretty once in a while, he doesn't need to be hanging in a tree. This forum has introduced me to a group of beautiful and caring people, and I am truly thankful for that. I really love all you gals, Huggs, Bonnie

[Sweet Susan]

diddo on that Bonnie. I remember doing the exact same thing. I used to go to porno shops and buy TV Connection and then I'd write to cds listed in my area. Who knows, I may have written to you! Almost always the people listed in TV Connection had a sexual agenda, so that didn't work too well. And going into the porno shops! Whew Phew and Damn! What a degrading experience that was.

[Rachel Ann]

Are you kidding?

Before I found this forum and one other, I thought I was just a pervert. I had no idea what TG meant or that I was one.

Thanks to the wonderful girls I have met here, I have had a chance to ask questions that I never could before, to learn that CDing is not just a fetish, and to bring my inner girl from my unconscious back to front and center in my conscious personality!

I don't know how I could have managed that without the internet!

:)

[Chrissycd]

I searched the net for too long before I found this wonderful, inspiring and comforting piece of nirvana. Now, I feel that I CAN actually be myself. Crispy is right. We have survived the test of time in part b/c we became chameleons, changing colors to fit the societal demands that were prevalent at the time. Here's my question though: When we will evolve to the point at which we outgrow such basic, primitive restrictions? Will we ever? Are we willing to wait any longer? Not me!!! I love you, girls! Girl power!!!!! :D
Chrissy

[MrforNow]

Very much so! Being able to read and communicate with like-minded people, as well as seeing that there are GGs out there who accept their CDs for who they are is really encouraging to say the least. It helps me to accept who I am without feeling like I am some kind of sicko or freak.

Online communities also help me to let Jenny out to play when it is impossible to do so in real life. I regularly visit an online community where I use female avatars and am totally accepted by everyone as being femme. It really is great to just "be me" in these places.

The wealth of information available out there is amazing. My google searching finally led me to this wonderfully supportive place and I am sooo happy that it did.

[MrforNow]

Oh, I also wanted to say that this site has helped me to be very relieved to find that there are hetero men out there like me who are also into CD. Like a lot of people, I guess I always associated CD with being gay. I have nothing against gays, I just happen to prefer women in the bed, But I sure am jealous of their nighties. LOL

I hope that some day, some where I will find a woman who can accept this side of me. Finding and reading this site has given me hopes in that area.