Places to go out dressed

[Megan.]

Hi there it is Megan I have not been out for a long time and I am thinking I would like to go out again does anyone have any ideas where I could go to start me off again thanks everyone

[kimdl93]

Since I am not anywhere near the UK I can only offer generalities. I like being out in the daylight, doing everyday things, like grocery shopping, going to the bank, coffee shop etc. More special occassions might include a trip to a museum or some live entertainment venue, like theater or a band. Dinner and drinks are always good.

[Barbara Jo]

just go out shopping for groceries .... and to a local mall, etc.
Chances are even if you happen to see someone you might know. they will have no idea it is you
Just do no over think things. As long as you are reasonably passable, people will just assume that you are one of the many females out shopping.

BTW, many are wisely still weaning masks for the virus and you can also it you want. :)

[docrobbysherry]

LGBT friendly bars and clubs. No one bats an eye at a trans. So easy to just hang stress free or have relaxed conversations!:battingeyelashes:

[Cheryl T]

I just go everywhere.
Walmart, grocery store, malls, restaurants and the like. It's not really a big deal much here anymore. Don't know about the UK attitudes.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I'll echo Cheryl. Go anywhere. Just don't go to a biker bar!

[Angela Marie]

I go just about anywhere. Shopping, dining, movies, etc. But as with everything else know your environment whether you are dressed or in drab.

[Debbie Denier]

Like everyone says . Should be ok anywhere. Shopping centres . I don?t know about biker bars in the USA per Steffis comments but usually ok in UK. Ironically back in the 80s I used to go to a biker bar. Above it was a Trans club . Never saw any trouble there.

[Joanne108]

I just go and so far it has not been a big deal.

[Heather76]

I'm hoping to introduce Heather to the outside world next Wednesday. If I do, it will be in the early evening (still daylight) and likely in a park or other such area with enough people that I won't feel the need to be looking over my shoulder. I will be traveling out of state, hence the early evening time frame. Anyway, that's the type of place I'm looking for. I'm not ready to go in a retail store as I'm not certain how I might respond to any comments - positive or negative. I want to get my feet wet but not my entire body.

[Helen_Highwater]

Megan,

I don't know where in the UK you're based but chances are there's a retail park no too far away. Weekday afternoon, just around lunch time, kids are in school and most of the people out shopping will be GG's. Dress to blend, be confident and you'll be fine. My top tip; have something in mind to shop for. Actually looking for something stops you looking like a shop lifter. And if you buy something, smile at the SA and chat about this and that, the weather, how you've been looking for a (Fill blank) in that colour for ages.

If there's an M&S they usually have a cafe. Stop and grab a drink and a bun.

That'll get you started. After that you could go to the cinema, visit an NT country house and garden, pub lunch, fave of mine for folks, get your foundation checked at somewhere like Boots Tadar!

[Patience]

You should go dressed to any place it would be awkward to go to naked.

[valerie anne]

Without trying particularly hard to present a feminine outlook, I find that going to the supermarket is very stress free. Everybody is just concerned with their groceries. I wear modest lip makeup, a sheer unisex top and present a noticeable bust. My bra straps & band would be obvious to another keen eyed crossdresser, but they don't get noticed otherwise.

What does upset me is the sloppy presentation of other women. Bra colours not matching their tops, bra bands riding up, slipped straps, toes & nails badly painted and laddered hose.

[JohnH]

It is so hot in the Dallas-Fort worth area I have given up wearing trousers. (Projected high today 42 deg C/108 deg F, at 7:00 AM it is 30 C/87 F)
I wear sleeveless maxi-dresses instead when I venture out in public. But I ruin the cross dressing effect by wearing mens Docker fisherman sandals.

[Natalie56]

I dare not even go check my mailbox while being Natalie, I wish I was that brave, Those of you who do go out have my admiration.

[alwayshave]

Megan, I go out to restaurants and LGBTQ friendly bars.

[JohnH]

Places where I have gone out wearing a sleeveless maxi-dress:
1. Shopping at Kroger (twice a week).
2. Local amateur radio club (no women)
3. Church choir rehearsal, seated between the pastor and his father.
4. For the first time, a church service yesterday (July 10).
I have gotten very little push back for wearing a dress, one from a very traditional Asian woman.
On the other hand I got a lot of positive compliments.

When I was out at Kroger on Saturday ran into a fellow church member, a woman. I told her I was going to wear a dress to church and I dared her to wear one to the church service. Sure enough, she showed up on Sunday morning wearing a dress.

I don't use a feminine name. My name is always John and I identify myself as a man.

[BrendaD]

John, you are awesome! Just sayin!

[JohnH]

When I get asked why I am wearing a dress instead of trousers my reply is, "Jesus didn't wear pants (UK: trousers)".
In Roman times only barbarians or women wore trousers. In fact as I understand, trousers were called feminalia.
No man dared to show up in Rome wearing trousers.

John

[CDMargret]

I only wish I had a different build. I am built like a brick house upstairs with great legs downstairs. I have been told a lot that I have great looking legs. I feel I would attract so much negative attention popping into Walmart and such. Only comfortable attending munches and fetish events where I am not the only boy in a dress. Oh but do I have the dreams of strutting down the boulevard for just me, myself and I.

[Rachelakld]

I like Blackpool
London was cool because we didn't have H&M or Primark down here when I was last there.
Hyde Park was nice if your in London, Madam Tussauds was cool (might even have air conditioning so your makeup doesn't melt)

But what would I know, I left Doncaster when I was 2 and only seem to return every 10 years

[Cheshire girl]

Obviously shopping or meals out but why not book an appointment at a beauty salon for nails or something. If you?re nervous a cinema visit might get you started. Just doing the everyday things is fun when dressed such as filling up the car. Good luck!

[Davina2833]

Cheshire,

Book a mani/pedi and a massage monthly, you won't reqret it...

Davina

[JohnH]

Well, I went back to church this morning wearing a sleeveless maxi-dress. Several ladies sat close to.me, as well as a couple in front of me. I went up to the front to receive communion. And then I went to coffee hour and spoke face to face with the priest and his father.
Yesterday, also wearing a different dress, I went to an auto parts store to buy refrigerant.

At no time did I get any pushback.

[TAG]

Go anywhere you want.

[Andrea Renea]

Grocery store, Walmart, Target, Kohls, Gabes, the Mall etc....

As others have said be safe.

[Maid_Marion]

I bought a khaki skort in the Amazon Prime sale and wore on the golf course this past weekend. Then I bought groceries at Trader Joe's and the Asian Market before heading home.

Marion

[Karren H]

Casinos are great places to go out enfemme. They will take your money no matter how your dressed!

[Natalie5004]

The bank, grocery stores, the mall, Costco. Movie theater, out for ice cream. The only thing I am missing is a good restaurant.

[Yinlingyen]

I love to window shop in malls. Visit cafes. Go to the movies is safe, it dark , you sit alone ,no one talks ect.
I do visit bars and clubs on the weekends.

[Stephanie47]

I checked out the small number of pictures you have posted. Your body type definitely will let you fly under the radar. I don't know how tall you are, but, assuming you're the height of many women, you should feel totally at ease. As I am primarily an in-home dresser due to body mass and height I am not one to just say to "just go anywhere." If you want to ease into going out, I would go to less traveled place rather than a pack mall or shopping center, although right now with record temperatures in England a movie theater may be a place to go. My comfort zone is evening strolls; early darkness and not the dead of night in areas with some foot traffic and not isolation. You have the body and legs for a pretty summery dress; especially considering the heat wave right now.

[Sandi Beech]

One of my favorite things to do is to go to a club with a drag show when they are having a bachelorette party. They all let loose at the same time flooding the bar area with women who have already had a few drinks. None of their boyfriends or SOs are around which is great. That is when I get the most dancing in. I don?t even have to ask them, they ask me ; )

Sandi

[TheHiddenMe]

Bars, restaurants, concerts (U2, you might have heard of them), musicals (Hamilton and Hairspray), stores, malls, trains, planes, public transit, beaches, casinos--just not the clubs Sandi frequents.:)

[Debs]

Meg, I have PMd you, you want to come shopping or a night out with us girls, I can arrange it

[Krisi]

Hi there it is Megan I have not been out for a long time and I am thinking I would like to go out again does anyone have any ideas where I could go to start me off again thanks everyone

Where did you go in the past? Why not go to the same places?

There have been a lot of suggestions including "go anywhere you want". Well, can you pass as a woman up close? Can you pass from a distance? What about your voice? Do you care if people realize that you are a crossdresser or are you trying to pass as a woman?

The answers to these questions will help you decide where to go.

In my case, I think I pass at a distance, so my choices are walking through a shopping mall, walking in the park, walking in the tourist part of the city, putting gas in my vehicle, etc. I try to avoid having to speak or being close to anyone except in passing. You can make your own choices which may be different from mine.

[caroliina]

adult prom

[JohnH]

I pass as a woman even if I'm wearing a tee shirt and jeans.
However, I have a voice deep for a man. I can sing the Rach Challenge (look.it up on YouTube).
That is from the closing section of Rachmaninoff's Now Lettest Thou Depart where the second basses go down to Bb below the bass staff.