Attractive...or attract?

[michelleddg]

Hello Lovely Ladies!

We all want to look good. We primp, preen, pluck, powder and pad so as to be attractive in the mirror, attractive to our lady friends and, yes, attractive to men folk. As I am fond of saying, I wanna make the boys cry.

But...from a distance, thank you! I'd be mortified to get hit on. I'm happily married, not into guys in any way, please keep your distance. Does that make me the ultimate tease?

I once went to dinner with a fellow CD I did not know well. She really really wanted to end the evening with a good night kiss. That was years ago, and I still shudder thinking about it. Understandable, or overreacting?

So, I want to be attractive...but not attract. How about you? Whatcha think?

Hugs, Michelle

[kimdl93]

I really dress for myself?and my bar is pretty low. I seek to not be either laughable or terrifying. A few years back, I was on occasion offered a few drinks by guys and from a few women. Never been known to turn down a free drink, but at the time I was (I thought) happily married, so I was not interested in anything more. Now, I find myself single, but a decade away from the bar scene and still trying to rise above my low personal threshold for appearance.

[Karren H]

I want to be pretty. And if that is attractive then so be it and if it attracts. I can deal with that (aka: faithful to my wife to the end).

[Annajose]

I want to be atractive, I would be extremelly suspicious of anyone hitting on me, I cannot pass, well, maybe from a mile away.
In any case I would probably be also very flattered.
But of course, that would be as far as I would go, I am happily married and I love my wife. I am also not into guys at all, and fortunatelly, since many years back, when I see a very atractive lady, my only desire is to be able to look like her!
So not to attract, for me anyway.

[Patience]

Yeah, I don't know about the kissing part.

It's a bit of a catch-22, really. If your aim is to look feminine (and you do a great job, btw), the more successful you are at it, the more likely it is you will be attractive to men.

With that in mind, it might be a good idea to have a few strategies in place in case you get hit on or get any kind of unwanted attention. In certain circumstances, it might make sense to have pepper spray.

Being pretty is a hard job, but someone has to do it!

[TAG]

One thing you can do is wear a wedding band and engagement ring.
I used to get hit on by guys but not being a drinker I never accepted a free drink.
I would accept a dance from a guy or an occasional kiss after the dance.

I agree with Patience 100%

[Kris Burton]

For me, it's all about the fantasy. I do strive to be attractive, and if it attracts, so be it - the fantasy is enhanced. Not a deliberate tease, but someone who attracts that kind of attention - in fantasyland. However, if it were ever to happen in real life I don't know what I would do. So yeah, Patience, I need a plan if I ever go out publicly to a bar or gathering where this sort of thing might occur - and have it firmly in mind before I make a complete fool of myself.

[docrobbysherry]

I get hit on a lot online. But, in real life my ugly old mug would stop a clock, much less a trans chaser!:devil:

However, over the years I have been hit on by a number of nice men. Including one in a club 2 weeks ago rite after I put my mask on!:eek:

I'm straight so don't accept drinks from strange men because I won't give them what they want and don't wish to be a pr---- tease!:thumbsdn:

But, in all my years out meeting men? Not one of them ever wanted to kiss me, except one freak that insisted I let kiss my mask!:heehee:

[Barbara Jo]

it has been often said that generally, males dress to impress females and woman dress to impress other females.
Of course, the exception to this is when a female purposely dresses to attract a male(s).

I would wager that most of us also like to impress other females. :)

[Fiona_44]

Michelle,

Some CD's don't want anyone to pay attention to them at all when they are out & about. Maybe they are worried about the ramifications of being clocked or just simply want to go about their business without giving a hoot what others think. Other CD's however desire the attention of others in order to validate the fact that they do indeed appear to be a woman and are doing the correct things with regards to mannerisms or make-up or dress styles ...etc. But that doesn't necessarily make them a tease. When I went out in public en femme the first 2 or 3 times, I dressed very frumpy not wanting anyone to look my way. But now even though I dress stylishly to blend in most of the time, I occasionally wear a short mini-skirt or other short skirts or a short dress and march out with the attitude like "Okay people, here I am, go ahead and have a look!". I like the attention but am not trying to intentionally attract anyone in an overtly sexual manner. I also do not have any interest in men and if approached I would very nicely let them know how I felt.

But your point is well taken. Being an attractive CD means that you will occasionally get approached by someone but the best thing is to anticipate that will happen and formulate a nice but clear response that will insure the situation will not escalate into something uncomfortable.

[Heisthebride]

I think everyone dreams of being attractive, people looking at you and envious of your beauty. But that’s just a dream. For myself, I try to look the part as best I can, so generally I will dress to the nines if I’m going out and will be seen. As I’ve gotten older I will do a more casual look, especially when alone around the house and working from home. I have no expectations of meeting someone or having a pass made at me, but I am happy to receive a compliment on my nails, makeup or dress.

[JackieD]

I would love to dress and be attractive. To look good in my clothes. But at my size it will never be. You really don?t find that many attractive woman at over 6? tall. I kinda hide try to blend in. But I have my fantasy

[char GG]

If you end up attracting chasers, they won't be deterred by a wedding ring set or even a wife/gf sitting next to you. (This happened with my hubby). You have to be politely firm if you don't want that kind of attention. Typically, take care which venue you choose to limit or increase your chances of being hit on.

Chasers usually know what to say to flatter their prey. They might fully know who the CDers are.

[Linda Stockings]

I can agree, to some extent, with just about all the answers above. I would like to add that if you go out dressed enough times, sooner or later you will probably be hit on by some guy. In my case I wasn't expecting it or looking for it to happen. I was dressed in a navy blue skirt suit, blouse, nice wig, 31/2 inch heels, and nude pantyhose. It was in the late 90's. My makeup was light and (I hoped) natural looking. I was window shopping at a local Dressbarn. The owner walked up with a couple of carpenter contractors and she started telling them how she wanted the store display window changed. One of the contractors looked me up and down several times and finally said "OKAY.....". What was wrong was his tone of voice. I half expected him to follow up by suggesting we go behind the building for some nasty things. I felt rotten. I felt somewhat violated. It made me realize that if I blended at all it was only from a long distance. So I had thought I was presenting as a well dressed professional lady. There were some other times of being clocked. The worst time was by a plain clothed police officer in a shopping mall. Which I've described in detail in a previous post and won't bore you with the details here. Suffice to say he was very rude and made no bones about using a loud tone. So, I guess...... expect it, and be prepared for whatever way it occurs.

[Geena75]

Given my penchant for showing off legs and higher hemlines, my attempts at being attractive could well turn to the 'attract' aspect, except that I am large, and otherwise not so attractive.

Honestly, though, I don't think I would have a clue if I attracted someone. Never in my life have I been in the situation where someone was attracted to me on account of my appearance, at least to my knowledge. So, I am either very dense or very inexperienced, or both.

[Heather76]

I think I've always been a realist. I'm just an average looking old guy and wouldn't expect anything more than looking like an average looking old lady. Regardless of how I look, I would like to blend. That may not be possible; but, that would be a goal. After reading many posts, I'm somewhat convinced blending may not be as impossible as I originally thought in that many have reported other people simply don't notice and don't care what other people look like. They are going about their own business and couldn't care less about the "other faces in the crowd."

[Ineke Vashon]

If a CDer is supposed to dress according to his age, I am not the least worried. I am one of the oldest here. About the only male that might hit on me would be a boy scout working on his badge by offering to help me across the street.

Ineke

[Bea_]

My tendency is to dress for me. If someone were to consider me to be well put together, it would be a major accomplishment. I wish that side of my being attracted my wife. I have no delusions that anyone else is going to be attracted and that suits me fine.

[Debs]

my girlfriend is trans, she is gorgeous, and I have no problem whatsover in giving her a great big kiss, lol

[Jolene Robertson]

I hear what you're saying, for most of us and I know for me we don't pass that well. I dress for me and try and be appropriate for where I'm going if I'm going out. I have only been hit on once (at a casino) and didn't handle it very well, I just sat there like a bump on the log and didn't interact with him at all. I wasn't prepared for anything like that, I wish I'd have at least talked to him, my wife was sitting across the isle from us and I'm not interested in anyone other than my wife but still should have spoken to him.

[Debbie Denier]

I want to look as good as I can but do not want any unwanted attention .

[Jane G]

When I used to body surf winter waves I would occasionally get mistaken for a seal. Even had a few people take photos, then come over after I hit the beach and laugh about it with me. Less chance of me being mistaken for an attractive female I fear. Not that I go out much dressed these days. Though back when I was smaller, a young teen and ventured out far more, I do recall a few wolf whistles from afar. I never had the confidence to face my admires though.

[alwayshave]

Michelle, Of course I want to look attractive. I am also happily married. I have been hit on at a LQBTQ+ bar. It was one of the few times I have been out without my wife. I was just there to platonically dance with other women and politely demurred.

[Cheryl T]

Attractive for sure.
There's nothing like a compliment on your appearance to make your day.

[Di]

If you end up attracting chasers, they won't be deterred by a wedding ring set or even a wife/gf sitting next to you. (This happened with my hubby). You have to be politely firm if you don't want that kind of attention. Typically, take care which venue you choose to limit or increase your chances of being hit on.

Chasers usually know what to say to flatter their prey. They might fully know who the CDers are.

Read the above and read it again .
Chasers know exactly what to say and feed into your wanting to feel like a woman.
Beware.

About the kiss with the CD you met , anyone trying to persuade me to cross my boundaries would be kicked to the curb. What a jerk .

[Krisi]

A big part of "getting hit on" is where you go and how you act. If you go to a bar and flirt with guys, you may get hit on. If you go to Walmart or the grocery store and avoid eye contact with men, you most likely will not have to worry about being hit on.

[Genifer Teal]

As for getting hit on, if you plan to get out to any regular extent, you will get hit on. It would be good to learn how to deal with it. One of the first times I was out in the city I got hit on and didn't know how to deal with it. Eventually I left the place. Looking back on it now, i can't belive I let a silly thing ruin my night. It's actually quite easy to say no. You can even thank them for the compliment. You'll start to realize how awkward guys can be towards women. LOL It's good to experience and be prepared for. It's likely to happen at some point.

[WildDaisy85]

I?d actually have to go out to worry about being hit on, but if the time ever came, I?d take it as a compliment while politely rejecting the advances. Never really be interested in guys but it?s the same as being hit on by a gay guy at a bar, some might find it insulting but it took a lot of guts for a guy to say something and nicely declining his advance was enough to send him on his way.

Now, unfortunately it?s not always so easy for women to dissuade some males.

[Stephanie47]

I want to radiate my style. I am strictly a wearer of dresses and heels and all that goes with it, although I shun hip and butt padding. The styles of dresses I wear conceals the lack of womanly hips, although, if you look around there are many women without a Barbie doll waist. I have not put myself in a situation where I would be hit upon. My forays outside my home are always in the evening for a stroll with no human contact. The way I see it, it is possible a cross dressing man may be hit upon by a wide range of strangers; guy realizing you're a cross dresser and he is into cross dressing men; men not aware you're a cross dresser because of a very good presentation; women who are attracted to male cross dressers or believe you're a woman. Is it any different for a cis woman going about her daily chores?

I think part of any angst for a heterosexual male cross dresser is a male, knowing you're a male cross dresser, hitting on you. It projects or reinforces the misconception of society that cross dressing men are gay. Men and women throw a line out to see what they catch. As a guy I have been hit upon by women and men. I did not fill with angst when a guy hit on me; just a quick brush off. The same with women as I am married to the love of my wife. I know men, if a gay man had made a pass at him, would explode in anger; "I'm not one of THEM reaction.

If you're out there in the wild you have to be aware you cannot control the actions of others.

[Rachel Anne]

Since I came out a few months ago, this is something that I've had to deal with. Fortunately, at first I've was out with others quite a bit, so that's helped some, but since then I've been out and about a lot more alone and that's a different situation. I just smile and say thanks and move on.

[Jessica Secret]

I'm closeted but I dress for both reasons, I love beautiful/romantic lingerie and how it looks and feels, and I also wear it for my boyfriend since he loves me in lingerie.

[TheHiddenMe]

We all want to look good. We primp, preen, pluck, powder and pad so as to be attractive in the mirror, attractive to our lady friends and, yes, attractive to men folk. As I am fond of saying, I wanna make the boys cry.

You forgot to mention running thousands of miles to be able to squeeze into smaller sizes and having great looking legs in heels and hose.

Yes, I want to look good. I do go out with GGs (including one who is gorgeous) so I don't want to look out of place because I know she is going to get attention. Do I want to be noticed by guys? Not necessarily, because you may get noticed by some Neanderthal who objects to you being out.

I like to feel sexy and desirable, even though I not really trying to attract someone. I'm not into guys, and when it comes to women, I'm married, and if I was looking for attention from women, dressing as one is not the optimal strategy.

In the end, I think it comes down to is I want to be attractive to the person who sees me in the mirror. Compliments from my GG friends are an added bonus.


But...from a distance, thank you! I'd be mortified to get hit on. I'm happily married, not into guys in any way, please keep your distance. Does that make me the ultimate tease?

I've been hit on once, leaving a casino at about 1:15 AM. The guy asked if I worked out (I was thinner than usual at the time and was wearing an attractive dress) and whether I was into black guys. I said no, and then added "not into guys". He took his shot and walked away.

Is it a compliment or further evidence of what GGs deal with constantly. Maybe a little of the former and a lot of the latter?


So, I want to be attractive...but not attract. How about you? Whatcha think?

Hugs, Michelle

And all this time I thought you dressed just to keep Sandy company. :)

[mbmeen12]

I dress for success.....for the date of for ever the evening brings.

[Sandi Beech]

Michelle,

I try to look as attractive as I can be when I go out. For restaurant attire, I wear things others might, but I definitely go for killer
looks when clubbing. I often draw attention but from both women and men. It comes with the territory. Judging by other's responses it seems I have more experience than most regarding being "hit on", but that is not my main goal. Some might suspect otherwise, but I really just like being the center of attention and the feeling of being pretty and sexy - a total escape from reality. Granted I am getting too old for that sort of thing, but it has not stopped me yet.

I do want to dispel some myths.

1. Being "hit on" has such a negative connotation. It is far ranging in scope. It could be something as innocent as someone politely offering to buy you a drink and have a nice chat, or maybe just wanting to give you a complement or a hug as they are leaving a bar. That is no big deal. Then there is the other extreme where they ask if you want to go out to their car for some action. The two are not the same, but we tend to lump it all together as unwanted attention. Some may want it, and some not. I prefer the polite attention obviously, but there is no need to freak out over someone asking if they can buy you a drink. It happens to me a lot, but drinks must always come from the bartender, not the individual paying for them. Never leave drinks unattended. Not for a second. If you do, get a fresh one.

2. Just like Char said, forget the idea that your ring will stop anyone. I have been to 31 clubs for likely over 100 total outings, so I have a very good sampling. The ones who are just being nice don't care to look at your ring either, because they do not want anything, so forget the effects of the ring. I never take mine off.

3. Don't think you are immune from being hit on because you do not pass. There are all kinds of people, and you can not judge a book by its cover. If you have legs you will get hit on at some point if you venture out enough. Just keep that in mind.

Being hit on in clubs does not bother me at all. I have never really felt afraid of anyone in any club. I did get mad at one drunk which I posted about some time ago, but that is it. Going to my car in a dark parking lot by myself at 3 AM when leaving a club - now that scares me. It is times like that where you are truly vulnerable. That is why I use Uber for drop off and pick up right at the front door of the clubs I visit.

I suppose you could say I am a tease - more like a show off, but it is from the standpoint of being seen with young women in short skirts a fraction of my age. We have a blast being the center of attention. It is some of the most fun I have ever had. - Next outing in a couple of weeks : )

Sandi

[sometimes_miss]

I want to be pretty.
I just want to FEEL as if I'm pretty. I know the reality, but as long as there aren't any mirrors, or anyone to upset the illusion, I feel just pretty enough, by what I can see and feel on me.

[JackieD]

We all want to be attractive. We want other people to think that woman is good looking. We don?t want to be the clown.
Even throw we dress for ourselves, we want to look good. Everyone wants to look good to fit in

[Ceera]

That is one reason I stayed in the closet and did not even consider leaving my house in visibly girly attire until after my wife passed away and I was single again. But I did do on-line roleplaying as a woman before that, sometimes in rather adult venues, and my girl on-line personas often got hit on. While in some cases I appreciated and enjoyed that attention, I always made it clear on line that regardless of anything my fictional gaming characters did, my real life was firmly monogamous and off limits.

Once I was single, I happily did go out looking quite convincingly feminine, and I definitely tried to be pretty. But at first, I wasn’t particularly trying to attract dates, so I also purchased and wore a reasonably realistic looking costume jewelry woman’s wedding ring. If anyone got too forward, I could call attention to my ring and say, politely, ‘Thank you for the complement, but I’m taken.’ That usually sufficed to keep would-be suitors at bay, of either gender. For those that persisted, I could do what any attractive woman does with unwanted suitors - get the bartender, or others, to intercede, and make it clear their persistent advances were unwelcome.

After a year or so of experience going out socially to bars and nightclubs as a woman, I decided I was okay with people of either gender flirting with me. I’m bisexual, with a preference for women, and by then I was mostly hanging out with and quite accepted by the local lesbian community. But I was still very careful to draw the line on how much flirtation I would accept, and I made sure that anyone who seemed to want a kiss or more ‘put it on simmer’ until I was certain they realized and accepted I was cross dressing. If they were cool with my situation, and if I liked them, then it might get more intimate. But I still usually didn’t let it go too far.

Four years ago, after four years of public cross dressing, I started full transition to female, and never went out again as a man. I’ve still been pretty picky about who I get ‘friendly’ with, and if someone I don’t feel attracted to gets too pushy, I politely fend them off before it goes too far, using pretty much the same defenses I used as a cross dresser. And I am still pretty careful not to even kiss unless I am certain the other person knows and accepts that I am a transgender woman. But I certainly do enjoy the attention, and even the flirtation. Some times, I accept the advances, regardless of the other person’s gender, and it has been pretty nice for me.

[SometimesNatalie]

"Attractive" for me, too. And it's more feeling attractive than looking attractive to other people. I just enjoy looking in the mirror and thinking yeah, I nailed it. That's not a feeling I get in normal dude mode.

[April Rose]

I always try to look the best I can, but that's a pretty low bar. The only times I have been out dressed to a club it was always packed with younger , better looking trans people than me. Not much to worry about there.

If I ever did get the attention of a pursuer, I'd probably be so flattered that I'd let them have their way with me.:eg:

I have no religious hang ups, and no one to answer to, and I'm old enough that the plumbing no longer runs the brain. I'm probably more dangerous than they are. :drink::devil:

[nancy58]

Thinking about it, I would enjoy a kiss on the cheek from someone I knew well (and liked), but that's about it. Generally, my goal is to pass. I remember once years ago when I walked out of a bookstore at night, and the night watchman happened to be in the window of the store next door. He gave me a vigorous wave that was very gratifying in that it validated my success in passing -- but had he come out and asked for my phone number, that would've been more than I could handle. Now I'm a sexagenarian, so I doubt I have anything to worry about.

[Sallee]

interesting question I went to bar in Denver one evening I was dressed down and looking ok I guess because I got no negative or positive reactions Any way was in a college bar with a band. I was having a beer and getting no reactions So i was feeling very passable. Then some one asked me to dance what a thrill, getting asked to dance. I said no and left shortly there after.

[StephanieCLT]

Oh wow, yes! First, when I dress, I dress for me... to let the girl in me out. There's satisfaction, peace, and overall joy in that. Secondly, when I dress, I dress to blend. I may pass from a distance, but up close, I think I'd be hard pressed to actually pass. But if I can shop, dine, etc. when I go out without unwanted attention, then I'm still happy.

That all said, what girl doesn't want to be pretty? I feel validated by the thought of men in particular finding me attractive. But, like you Michelle, I'm married and not looking for a boyfriend, sex, or anything relationship-wise (no judgement for those who are - it's just not me). I've only been approached/hit on a couple times in many times out dressing, and surprisingly (or not), I am usually taken aback and politely decline any requests - though in my heart, I'm feeling very validated by these activities. Does that make sense?

[michelleddg]

Hello Lovely Ladies! Thanks for the energetic discussion. Lots of great takes, and an impressive diversity of perspectives.

Happy to share an amazing experience from a few years back. Sandy Clifton and I were walking back from our traditional
"Rich Girls Do Dinner" splurge in Las Vegas. We had our professional makeovers working and were dressed to the nines. We
weren't quite ready to call it a night so stopped off for celebratory drinks. Here's how it went from there:

Sandy’s Take

My feet got a chance to rest when Michelle and I stopped at the bar of Yolos (the restaurant we’d had dinner at two days prior). As we sipped our beers, a man sat at the stool next to me and told me that I was absolutely beautiful! It soon became apparent that this individual was extremely drunk, but he was nonthreatening and ceaselessly flattering, so I leaned in to bask in his attention.

He introduced himself as John, a doctor from Canada, and he very well may have been such. He was angling for a kiss, but I unambiguously set his expectations (he would not be getting to first base, or even leave the on-deck circle). Despite my parameters, he continued to chat me up and talk about his overseas travel. He claimed to be able to mimic foreign accents; after challenging me to choose a European country, I picked Portugal. He balked at that one (though I wouldn’t have been able to assess his performance – he should’ve called my bluff), so I tossed him a France softball, and he Charles Boyer-ed at me for a stretch.

I remained demure as he got rather graphic and specific about what he would do to me in private, were he to be given a plate appearance (note that he was aware of my anatomy and considered it a plus). Meanwhile, bored Michelle had been relegated to third-wheel status; she understandably extracted herself from John’s recursive ramblings and said hello to another bar patron. I’ll leave it to Michelle to share the unexpected turn that that conversation took.

John eventually abandoned his pursuit of me, and Michelle and I headed back to our room.

Michelle’s Take

Again, I followed Sandy’s example by carrying on in my sky high heels. We made it back to the bar at Yolos in Planet Hollywood. There sat a middle aged gent with a gray goatee working on a huge margarita, then an empty stool, then turn the corner and a row of empty stools. We took the two stools closest to the corner and ordered our now-traditional cleansing ales. Up walks John, immediately clocks us, and starts hitting on Sandy. He engaged me just a bit at the onset but soon enough I was third wheel. After perhaps 15 minutes I decided to move over next to Mr. Gray Goatee, who surprisingly was still there, and to see what he had to say.

Hello, are you enjoying this farce? Thanks for coming over. Yes, I am, and I want to tell you, I want to transition in the worst way. What??? We had randomly parked ourselves next to Mark from Chicago, a TS. What are the odds? Mark and I had a very pleasant sober chat about things of mutual interest over the next half hour or so while Sandy enjoyed the stylings of Dr. John from Canada. Well outside of both my and Sandy’s experiences, I tell you, but we amiably parted ways and headed back to Vdara via the Cosmopolitan, stopping for photos with some of the really weird art they have there.

[Ellie52]

I like to dress stylishly which I hope is in a way suited to the environment I am in.
We are like animals in the wild - we have to be careful as there are predaters everywhere. Like animals we need to blend in so the predators look elsewhere.
But saying that - that is what women put up with everyday of their lives.
If you want to live as a woman for a short time there may be times when a polite refusal or indication you prefer the ladies more than the men may be helpful.
As Daria said - "It can be a sick sad world" out there so whatever you do be careful but enjoy the time you have as a woman and always try to make sure you never go anywhere alone. Safe places dressed as a guy can be treacherous for a woman.
Finally - dont be selfish, if your married (and maybe have kids)- as many of us are, then think also of your wife and the betrayal to her if you decided to try the forbidden fruit.
If your single and that way inclined - Go for Gold but still be careful.
Thks
Ellie

[Sandy Clifton]

Ack, I didn't remember that I also used baseball metaphors when describing that previous run-in with an admirer! Isn't that a recommended stratagem for counteracting arousal: "think about baseball"?

Here's what attracted the guy in the bar...

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and what attracted an admirer two days later in the airport:

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I guess it follows logically that wanting to be attractive implies wanting to attract someone, at least hypothetically? I've never "come on" to a guy (and can't imagine a scenario in which I'd do so), but the default power dynamic (guys pursue gals but not vice-versa) means that I don't need to be the initiator, which (embarrassingly) is a good fit for my existential cowardice - I'm generally pretty passive, which is part of why I've never experienced much in the way of nonplatonic relationships. Overall, I think it's probably harder to be a woman than it is to be a man, but in certain contexts (assuming the man "behaves"), I think the woman has the upper hand, and I really enjoy being on the other side of that equation, for a change.

[Erika_M]

I had someone ask me what my feelings were about men seeing me as a woman. I'm pretty sure I had a decent idea of the answer he was hoping for but I said I didn't have any feelings about in particular. I was more about how I see and feel about myself.

[Raychel]

I don't really dress to attract or be attractive.
I dress how I feel most comfortable. just happens to be fully female from the neck down.
so if I happen to see myself in the mirror, that image looking back is how I feel I should look.

And my avatar is mostly like my mind thinks, Just confused. :daydreaming: