Gone more than three days all fem? Why?

[Aka_Donna]

Trying to figure out next steps and looking for feedback from those who have dressed three, or more, days in a row. The key question is why, i.e., what do you get out of it?

I was/am planning a fem vacation next year, but it's a big ask and wondering if it's worth it. Recently I picked up first pair of knee high boots with stilleto heels. I expected a great buzz from wearing them. Not so much. They feel much like wearing my cowboy boots with just a slightly higher rise. Comfortable, yes. Buzzing, not as much as hoped for. Likewise I have also had an expectation that driving with a bra on would be a great buzz and every move would remind me of dressing. Well, not so much. Well maybe for two minutes, after that it just felt natural and comfortable.

Thus the question of "what do you get out of dressing many days in a row"? Should I not expect a buzzed feeling but just a natural feeling? So, what do you get out of it and why continue?

Thanks

[jazmine]

I'm just being me. My style. What I like. What I look at in the mirror and what I'm proud of seeing as my presentation. ...Totally different than a fetish. At least for me. I am still somewhat coy of my fetish-side......{blush}

[Princess Chantal]

It is not my cup of tea, that is for sure. I have done a second consecutive day crossdressing for planned outings a few times and each time during the second outing I tend to have enough of the crossdressing a few hours into the session. Many of those times I would start taking off some things on the way back home.

[Debs]

sometimes you just dont have a choice, lol, if I go away for a few days dressed, I leave the house dressed with no mail attire at all, so all my days away I have to dress en femme for at least 3 days also the day I return home I usually stay dressed till I go to bed. So see sometimes you have no choice but to dress, what a shame, lol .

[Emily in the south]

I agree with Debs 100%! Went away for four days, 250 mile drive dressed, checked into hotel, dined, shopped, bar drinks, engaged others in friendly conversation. Enjoyed many outfit changes, even played pool with 3 other ladies one night. Total fun, and for my first time, a big successful adventure. Drove back home, still dressed, wished I had another 10 days.

Emily

[TheHiddenMe]

Number one, getting my fingernails done. I've only had them done three times, twice for extended days out. I can't bear the pain of having them done and then removing the polish a day or so later. The second time I had them done I met my GG friend Michelle, the third time was just for one day, because Michelle and I were going out that night for a swanky dinner.

Number two, the challenge of being dressed multiple days in a row. Having the outfits, getting into a routine of dressing, being able to leave your makeup out instead of always putting it away.

[Helen_Highwater]

Donna,

It was just over a week ago that my week enfemme came to an end. 7 days of being enfemme 24 hours a day.

Did I get bored at any point, certainly not. I guess the secret is to fill each day doing or going somewhere different. I won't bore everyone by reiterating what I've already described in detailed daily reports but suffice it to say ech day was a new adventure.

Yes I did things I've done before but each one differs in some way. One big facet that keeps things fresh is all the interactions I have with those not of our community.

And let's not overlook the obvious. In the past I'd shop online and have a good success rate in choosing things I actually liked on and that fitted. My week away gives me ample opportunity to shop in person. To browse the racks and to try things on. Now it's a 100% success rate as I get ever better at knowing what will and won't suit me.

All I can say is if you're finding being dressed for an extended period boring then you're not pushing the envelope hard enough.

[DianeT]

SirDonna, the longest I ever did was a full week-end, but not without interruptions (I always go to bed in male mode, even when alone). I thoroughly enjoyed to be able to linger full days at home in female clothes, do my routines, prepare food and eat it, sort papers, do stuff on the computer, listen to music, watch TV, have a drink, with all the time in the world and no pressure. It completely charged my CD batteries and the soothing effect lasted for weeks. But it works for me because these clothes never become my clothes. They are and remain female clothes, and the teasing vibe and caring feeling never fade. If I dressed more often or go out may be it would. I have a pair of boots too, medium heels, calf high. They look great with particular outfits and I love them. There is something stunning about boots that I can't put my finger on. Let's say, a mix of power and elegance.

[Patience]

My opportunities to dress vary somewhat throughout the year, so I do go through dry periods occasionally.

Naturally, when the pendulum swings the other way, it all comes flooding back like a monsoon.

How does it feel? Well, the initial thrill does tend to fade over time, especially if I just dress around the house. Going out dressed is far more exciting, but that thrill seems to fade as well and all I'm left with is a sense that I am enjoying and exercising my freedom.

I must admit however that going through all the trouble of crossdressing can feel a bit tedious after a while, so I just revert back to full-time male for the convenience.

After puzzling over putting outfits together and going through the ritual of padding one's body and all the rest that goes with it for a few days, one finds a new appreciation for the straightforwardness of a plain T-shirt and jeans.

[Sandi Beech]

I like using a lot of makeup plus false eyelashes when I go out dressed. I rarely go out dressed with no makeup.

So the biggest annoyance for me dressing multiple days in a row is constantly having to remove all the makeup to wash and shave, only to have to put it all back on again. Other than that, it is fun. Of course when I dress up, it is only to go out and about, and for me it is always fun to do that. It would be too time consuming for me to do it all the time. I take a really long time to get dressed.

Sandi

[alwayshave]

I have never had three days in a row to be able to dress. Maybe someday.

[Linda E. Woodworth]

I've done it 3 times going to Southern Comfort Conference.

I'd drive to and from the conference in fem, 5 hours each way.

By the end of time I was ready to stop. My face was raw from shaving twice a day and scrubbing off the makeup repeatedly.

I admit it was wonderful doing all the "girl" stuff like shopping and going out. I adored the manicure and being able to leave my nails polished for days.

I'd do it again for the right occasion but so far haven't in many years......

[Sherrii]

Well I don't know about "buzzed" but if you want something that you never forget you have on try a tight corset, one that fits well so it is reasonably comfortable, but TIGHT.

[Cheryl T]

We did a "girls only" vacation a few years ago. A full week and I brought nothing male along.
What did I get from it? I got to be me for a full week. At that time it was the closest to full time I could imagine. Now after Covid lockdown, that week seems like a day anymore.

[Jenn A116]

I've done 2 or 3 days en-femme more than once. But all of those days were inside the house while my wife was away visiting friends. Glued on my forms, did my nails, full makeup, everything. Enjoyed every minute and looked for ways to extend the experience. Actually ventured outside to put the trash out the night before pickup day. Got the mail out of the mailbox (on the street) while I was at it. My concession to my male self at that point was that I took off my wig and went with shorts and a large shirt on top so a quick look my neighbors would see a guy. As soon as I got back inside the wig and the girly clothes went back on.

[Stephanie47]

Before our daughter moved back home from the mid-west my wife would visit her for seven to ten days. I had the opportunity to wear women's clothing 24/7 for days on end, and, I did. I did not get a "buzz" or some other "high." It just felt natural. It felt relaxing, like a bird being released from its cage. My PTSD counselor adheres the theory(?) that each man and woman has some dna of the opposite sex within their genetic code; in some it is more than in others. If that is true, then my wearing women's clothing is nothing more than an opportunity for her to express herself. I suppose, then it follows "Who is that woman inside?" What level of development has occurred. Does a teenage girl experiment with makeup and try on clothes more than an older and mature woman?

[JulieC]

I once tried to wear pantyhose for a month straight, not removing them except for using the restroom and changing into a clean pair. I was curious what my tolerance level was, as it were. Mind you, I love pantyhose, so I thought this would be an interesting experiment. I made it to 25 days and just didn't want to be wearing them anymore. Good experiment; I found I can get enough :)

I do find though that when I'm fully dressed, and have been for many hours, I am very reluctant to changed back to drab. I usually hang onto the last minute. I've never gone several days before though (other than as above). So, I've no idea if I'd still be feeling it or not after a few days.

My wife and I may be empty nesters in the near future. I've talked with her about this, in that I think it likely I'll want to dress a lot when this time comes, but that I think it will only be initially, and then it will smooth out over time. She's fine with this.

[docrobbysherry]

U didn't define what u mean by "dressing", Donna. To me dressing means all the way or not at all. I no longer feel the need to dress. As I live alone I dress often enuff for my photo stories and to go out and meet other T's at events and clubs to satisfy that need.:)

It's at these T events where I dress day and nite for 7 seven days. Since most all of the girls dress to the 9's, too, packing everything for all these outfits is a huge amount of work!:doh:

What do I get out of these week long events? Catching up with old T friends and meeting new ones is #1.:hugs:

Taking hot, fun, photos of Sherry with them, in some amazing venues and some famous backgrounds is #2! :heehee:

[Jessica Secret]

I'm not out and don't dress during the day but I wear lingerie/romantic sleepwear to bed every night. I absolutely love beautiful lingerie, there is nothing like slipping into it at bedtime especially when I have a boyfriend waiting for me.

[Fiona_44]

Why? Simply because I love feeling feminine as much as possible.

[AmyJordan]

JulieC a month in pantyhose! try 365 24/7 that's how my wife prefers me she says I have amazingly feminine legs which should always be on display in and around the house as for dressing all the time my wife says there are standards which need to be kept so it's an everyday thing not just for a sexual buzz.

[ScientiaMetallum]

I have, on several occasions, but I did not leave home on those occasions.
As such, it was clothes only, no wig, no breastforms (and thus no bra) and no makeup.

Why? Because I prefer those clothes, and therefore wear them as often as possible. There needs be no more complex reason, really.

[prene]

For me it was me being more natural of who I am.

What I hated was that I had to shave while enfem.

I prefer also feminine attire, more comfortable and fun for me.

[DanielleDubois]

I just posted in the Photos thread about the final day of my 3 days of Danielle home alone time. It was relaxing not having any deadlines about packing up Danielle stuff and I enjoyed simple things like watching tv in the evenings with a glass of wine while staring down at painted toenails, high heels, smooth legs, cleavage and feeling long hair on my shoulders. It was all wonderful but at the end of the 3 days I had actually had my fill of Danielle time and it made me realise I have no interest in being Danielle 24/7. I even went to bed one night as Danielle and found out it wasn't as fulfilling as I had anticipated. It confirmed for me personally I am very content being in my male mode 99% of the time and my occasional escape to being Danielle is satisfying enough for me. That's not to say I don't enjoy the effort I put into my Danielle time with keeping my body smooth all over etc. and trying to present the best possible female image possible for someone approaching their 7th decade. It's hard work being a girl! :)

[Geena75]

I can actually speak from some experience on this (surprised myself). A month ago I got to do a 3-day Geena outing and it was remarkable. The point about no time schedule, but enjoying being femme is very true. I had the huge added benefit of having a CD companion, which really made it wonderful. If I had the opportunity, I might do it again, but with a friend -- definitely!

[MarinaTwelve200]

I've done that--At home and a bit over 3 days. By the beginning of the 3rd day one gets used to one's ''new dimensions" and almost unconsciously adjusts one's angles of approach and movements to avoid hitting one's boobs on door frames or cabinets, etc., as one passes by, and is careful that the long skirts, gowns or fancy sleeves don't get caught on other objects while walking about the house.

[Patience]

Omg, I don't know why (and maybe I am alone on this) but I love it when I feel my boobs accidentally brushing against something my usually flat chested self would not touch.

It is sort of a little reminder I'm not the man I used to be. :heehee:

[Krisi]

One of the beauties of being a crossdresser (as opposed to a transexual) is that you have the choice every day of dressing as a woman or not. So, if you feel like dressing, dress. If you don't, don't.

[kimdl93]

one would imagine that any "buzz" would quickly dissipate as you get acclimated. My longest opportunity to present as a woman extended for thirteen days. It felt very natural and "right".

My own experience probably isn't a great example for you because I have intermittently integrated presenting as a woman into my day to day life. Intermittent in the sense that I am not out to all members of my family, so there are frequent ocassions when I am obliged to be in male mode, and some days when i just don't feel motivated to get dressed up.

To your question, "what do I get out of it"? Thats hard to explain, isn't it. But for family considerations I would most likely live all or the majority of my life presenting as a woman. Its not a buzz, its more like feeling at home and comfortable with myself.

[Heisthebride]

Sometimes dressing doesn’t mean just the clothes. It’s more of the experience of being female for me sometimes. As a crossdresser I don’t have to get a full body wax. It hurts but it’s part of the female experience. I don’t have to get gel nail extensions and wear them for two or three weeks but I do, because I have to learn to type or open a can of soda or be extra careful pulling on stockings. Women can’t just take off their breasts, what is it like to wear a bra for the third or fourth day in a row? Now I understand why women feel relief removing their bra. What’s it like to sleep with breasts day in and day out? Taking off makeup at the end of everyday can really wear on your skin especially around the eyes. Changing purses to go with a different outfit, maybe you need to plan for a smaller purse, what do you bring or not. The list is endless.

I sometimes go for longer periods just to experience what it might be like to be female for an extended length of time.

[Katie Lynn cd]

I would certainly like to try. I have dressed three days in a row, but never 24/7. I’ve always had some sort of issue that prevented me from doing so.

[Sallee]

Yes I have at a Calif Dreaming convention back in the 90's What fun I believe it was a 4 day convention I came early and stayed dressed for about 4 days But by the end I was growing tried of it. On the last day several of us arrived in boy mode and it was hard to recognize each other. I found that interesting. I would do it again and I have around home when it was possible, but you gotta get out and interact with the rest of the world. Like GGs do. I guess that is what makes me a CD and not a transexual. I am not full time and when it grows routine the thrill is gone, so why bother

[Heather76]

I wish I could answer the OP question at this time; but, I've never been 100% en femme for more than 10 - 12 hours. However, in mid-March my wife will leave home about noon on a Thursday and won't return until early evening on Monday. I can almost promise I will be en femme most all of the time. I know I will get a makeover as well as a mani-pedi. There are some opportunities a girl simply can't let pass by.

[nancy58]

Sir Donna, what I have most enjoyed about multiple days dressing as a woman has been when I reached the point -- generally about three days in -- that reaching for the girl underwear instead of the boy underwear felt pretty mundane. As I've started going out more, I am most enjoying my interactions with people. My goal in dressing up isn't to look hot -- a pretty impossible task for a 64-year-old -- but rather to assemble an outfit that looks nice and is, more than anything else, credible. Judging from the reactions I've seen so far, I feel like I'm succeeding.

Your goals may be different, and that's fine. I believe you are wise to assess things before committing your precious vacation time to this enterprise.

[Joanne108]

Yes I dressed as a woman for the entire time I was awake for 5 days. I did because I was alone at home for a week. I did not dress the last two days because I used those days to clean the house!

[Lea]

Except for Halloween I have not dressed outside of the house.
Usually when I dress it would be for two or three days. Once a year I would take one weeks' vacation and dress for the entire nine days. During the lockdown I dressed for fourteen straight days.
Since I do not leave the house, I keep busy by deep cleaning, playing board games and jig saw puzzles with the wife and other items. I keep busy to avoid feeling stuck in the house.
After a few days the dressing becomes routine. The choosing my outfit, applying makeup all becomes just part of getting ready for the day. When it becomes just part of getting ready for the day, for me, it is comforting that this is who I am, and I feel whole. The feeling complete is what I get out of it.
As far as clothing the worse part for me is wearing the wig all day and the clip earrings.

[Betty70]

I happened to spend a few days in women's clothing.
Without something special, a simple dress around the house, a comfortable nightgown for the night.
I felt great as a housewife.
I cleaned up a bit, put on a frilly apron and got down to baking cookies or cooking something else good.
When the opportunity arose again some time later, I waited impatiently.
But now it works differently.
Since I started going out in public, other types of activities no longer seemed appealing.
Fatigue also began to appear - after a few hours I got fed up, felt tired and felt like going back to the male image.
It looks like I've processed everything that came my way and I started to get bored.
Maybe this is a way to quit cross-dressing, because I would like to.
But I probably don't have anything to count on. A moment's break and the temptation will come back all over again.

[Shiny]

Back in my working days I got stuck weeks on end not-dressing. Finally, with a holiday coming up I totally dolled up, the works for 4 days total. Dresses or skirts and blouses by day, nightgowns by night. Yes it was a total stress reliever and amazingly at least to me "cured" this problem for over a month later! Like doing it till you are sick of it and all the fuss seems to help you put the condition on the back burner much longer than just quickie-dressing.

[Rhonda Jean]

I have, but not dressed to the nines all day every day. I've done several 5 day business trips where I dressed every night, but obviously not all day. For many years I did my monthly girl's thing, two nights in a hotel. Although I always hated the detransition always done in stages along the drive home, by the time I was leaving I had run out of things to do. Shopping, just to have something to do while dressed, got old. I was always alone, and some things are just awkward to do by yourself, dressed or not.

Typically I'd either dress at home or along the way when I headed out on Friday, run a couple of errands like picking up snacks for the room, have dinner, and head to the room. I almost always had my hair and nails done as early as I could on Saturday. The highlight of the trip was always getting my hair done. I liked the nail salon, but even that was more or less something to do once I'd had my hair done in some elaborate style. The rest of the time was shopping and eating out. Sometimes I'd go downtown and just walk around trying to catch my reflection in the windows. I mean, seriously, how much of that can you do. It's weird and it's boring. The third day I'd spend a lot of time on my hair, trying to recreate the style from the day before. By the time I got my makeup done it'd be time to check out. Lunch, more shopping, and start the detransiton on the way home. I'd pull off somewhere and put on male clothes, then take off my makeup and nail polish while driving. If I was going to get home before the kids got home from school I'd go home with my hair still done, but I'd usually pull off at a rest area and wash my hair (not with shampoo) under an outdoor faucet. Even in the winter. And, yes, I know how weird, pitiful, and desperate that sounds. I'd go home with wet hair, and yes, my wife knew why my hair was wet.

So, although I put off detransition to the last possible moment, on the third day I was done. Sometimes I was able to add a couple of nights of girl time to a business trip where I could get a day head start on the hair and nails, and that was always nice, and frequently I'd get my hair and nails done on Friday instead of Saturday, but by Sunday it was time to go. Another night/day would have felt forced. For me, there was a limit to how much pointless shopping and eating in restaurants (when I usually didn't even want to eat) that I could make interesting.

When my wife and I were out of town together (didn't happen many times), that was a different story. Dresses and skirts, never. But, I'd get to roll my hair and do a little makeup, and if we could do that together at a double vanity and a big mirror, that never got old! Also, it didn't matter what what we were doing, it was always fun and exciting. I knew she didn't get as much out of it as I did, but it was way after the fact that I learned that she hated it. In fact, I actually believed that doing that made us closer! That was a delusion.

[Helen_Highwater]

Sometimes dressing doesn’t mean just the clothes. It’s more of the experience of being female for me sometimes. As a crossdresser I don’t have to get a full body wax. It hurts but it’s part of the female experience. I don’t have to get gel nail extensions and wear them for two or three weeks but I do, because I have to learn to type or open a can of soda or be extra careful pulling on stockings. Women can’t just take off their breasts, what is it like to wear a bra for the third or fourth day in a row? Now I understand why women feel relief removing their bra. What’s it like to sleep with breasts day in and day out? Taking off makeup at the end of everyday can really wear on your skin especially around the eyes. Changing purses to go with a different outfit, maybe you need to plan for a smaller purse, what do you bring or not. The list is endless.

I sometimes go for longer periods just to experience what it might be like to be female for an extended length of time.

Really well put. Life takes on a different rhythm when lived enfemme. Wearing nails as you say creates a need for a different skill set. So many nuanced aspects to even the little things we take for granted in our drab lives.

[sometimes_miss]

Rather, do I feel that I need to 'get' some special feeling out of it?
I don't. What I feel, is 'normal'. It's when I'm dressed as a male that I feel just a little 'off', that I'm not what I'm supposed to be. It's kind of like a mild itch that can't be scratched, which doesn't happen when I'm dressed as a girl; so, my natural desire is not to have that itch, so I dress as a girl whenever I can.
I understand that some get a thrill from dressing as a female, but I don't. NO buzz, no exuberation, no high, just feel normal. Perhaps my id is just permanently stamped 'female', so I have to try to reconcile that with my physical state, which BTW, I wouldn't be able to fix by transitioning, as I wouldn't magically become a female, all I would become, is a MtF transsexual, as that's how the world would see me, and treat me; there's no hiding from that, at least for me.
I love to feel normal for as many days in a row, as I can. Nothing like it. And so I sit here in some of my pretty clothes, and bask in the feeling that I am what I dream of being.
That's the best I can hope for.

[CrossKimmy]

I can?t attest to spending more than 24 hours em femme but I find male clothing unnatural and uncomfortable on me.

[Diane P]

I have, on several occasions, but I did not leave home on those occasions.
As such, it was clothes only, no wig, no breastforms (and thus no bra) and no makeup.

Why? Because I prefer those clothes, and therefore wear them as often as possible. There needs be no more complex reason, really.

I have to agree with ScientiaMetallum. My cross dressing is at home and probably will be for the foreseeable future. I wear bikini panties every day, under whatever I'm wearing, because they just feel so comfortable and right. I sleep every night in a night gown, most of them being about knee length, some shorter, because I love the feel of them against my skin. I tend to wear shorts and tops most of the time and occasionally I put on a dress, usually in the evening. I have three wigs, Blonde, Brunette and Red-Head, I wear them once in a while, usually when I decide to take a picture of myself. I enjoy dressing as a woman, it's not 24/7, but it is the majority of the day and especially when sleeping.

[Natalie5004]

I have not gone 3 days all day dressed ever. I do not own any casual clothes. I like to dress nice and fancy. I am sitting here now in my usual look. Dress, full makeup, all my shapewear, both set of nails painted red, long wig.

I can sit on my patio outside for some fresh air while dressed. Neighbors can see me but I do not really care.

I can dress 5 days a week now and even on a weekend day when I ask my wife if she minds if I do. Last time I got some complements on my look.

By 6 pm my time all of it will come off so I can go for a nice walk with my wife.