A new home a new beginning

[Angela Marie]

I just moved to a new area after living in my hometown area my entire life, 68 years. I had gone out frequently at home; but always keeping an eye out for someone who could possibly recognize me. I think I pass fairly well so I don't think anyone would specifically recognize me. My wife is supportive but does not go out with me. All she asks is that I keep Angela's life separate from our interactions with our neighbors. I did that at my former home and I will do it here. I have not gone out yet here but I do feel more comfortable coming out as Angela to the wider public. I'm not the type to go out to bars so most of my time as Angela is spent shopping or dining out. So far my only feminine appearance is wearing leggings to the gym and denim leggings when I go out. Has anyone else felt this way after moving to a new area? It is liberating but at the same time I know that I cannot go to far too fast. I have a doctors appointment with my new primary next week and i'll dress somewhat femme in my usual denim leggings and an androgynous top. As I said i'm taking it slow for now.

PS. I had a post a few weeks ago about seeing a gender therapist. After reading the comments here I decided it was not the best avenue for me to pursue. The advice I received was thoughtful and incisive.

[CarlaWestin]

Drop the therapist idea unless you just want an outsider's opinion.

At 67 now, I'm two years into change of venue from vegas to central highlands of AZ.
Talk about changes in latitude, changes in attitude!

Totally different here. Sounds like you just retired. That gives everything a new perspective.
Liberating. Absolutely.

[Stephanie47]

I think, unless you want to be a total recluse and your wife does not make friends with neighbors, you're going to run into the same issues. Sit in the back yard enfemme? Better drive a popular car in a common color without any license plate surround. If you feel satisfied partially en femme I suppose the neighbors may think you're a guy who likes leggings and anything more than that may raise suspicions. Hot weather climates are not for me, but if I was in one, it would be sundresses and heels for me all the time.

I'd add going to a therapist always seemed to me to be seeking affirmation of who I am. I got past that hurdle by myself. My only problem is dealing with people who are not enlightened and there are plenty of those in Florida.

[Heather76]

I'm 77 and we relocated over a year ago. However, we've lived parttime (6 months/year) in our new location for over 5 years. Thus, we have friends here. I simply can't/won't be seen en femme in our new area. I can dress in larger population areas 30 and 60 miles away on occasion which is fine with me.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Angela :hugs:, There two kinds of Therapest,

The one that tells you what you want to hear ,

And the one that tells your wife what she wants to hear,

>>>>>Orchid**0:daydreaming:)0**