Face Book interactions

[Natalie5004]

I am not sure if we can talk about FB here, if so.... here I go.

I have a FB page I posted a few photos to get started then the friend request came pouring in. I do not get that reaction with my male FB page, trust me.

I have many women sending me friend request, Once I get chatting with them I tell them I am a trans woman, (it is easier than telling them I am a CD). People understand Trans easier I think.

So, I have all type of women. Straight, married, lesbians, in the US and across the world. Men too. Men ask me for naked photos. I do not and will not send anything like that.

I had a woman get mad and called me a creep when I told her I was Trans. I guess she was looking for a real relationship. I have other women that tell me that I look great and do not care that I am Trans and still send me messages to talk.

Am I the only person here that has a fem FB page and is experiencing this? As a female presentation on FB I get 100's of friends request a week.

Natalie.

[Sandi Beech]

I have always steered clear of Facebook, but as you know I have been to a lot of bars and clubs dressed, and what you are experiencing is along the same lines as what I experience in person. A number of women have asked about following me on Facebook and instagram etc, or even wanted my phone number. This would never happen to me in drab mode. Add to that all the other interaction I experienced like dancing. It is a completely different experience. Probably the most awesome example I posted about some time ago was when 3 young women escorted me to my hotel when I had too much to drink. That blew me away.

Some reason It is just a lot easier and seemingly natural to become friends with other women when we present as women. And like you noticed - they often seek us out rather than the other way around. I have been really baffled by how the social dynamics are altered when I go out dressed. It is no fluke though. After almost 6 years of doing this, I understand what you are talking about, but it is certainly hard to comprehend why things work this way just by changing our clothes and adding some makeup.

But I do love it ; )

Sandi

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Natalie :hugs:, That sounds Great for you,

I stay as far away from Face Book as I Can, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[docrobbysherry]

I had a FB Page with over 5,000 Friends until they deleted my account 6 years ago, Nat. Since then, I've become a lot more selective about who I Friend! Less than 2,000 on my new Profile.:thumbsup:

I don't get many women visiting me there. Lots of CD's and trans, tho. The women that do visit r like the men that visit. They all think I'm some kinda, way out there, woman!:battingeyelashes:

I recently had to block a woman who kept sending me graphic photos. I have a, "3 strikes and you're out", rule!:devil:

[Vickie_CDTV]

If they are women looking for a romantic relationship, I'd be extremely leery. I'd bet a majority, if not all, are gold diggers at best or outright scammers at worse.

[Helen_Highwater]

I have a simple rule for FB friends. If I don't know you in the real world then I don't friend you on FB.

I get requests on my drab me account on a regular basis. All get turned away if unknown to me.

[DrFishnets]

I don?t like Facebook as I have an anxiety disorder and social media sites like that just make it worse so I don?t go there and not a big fan of social media.

[Debbie Denier]

I avoid Facebook for the reasons discussed. It just doesn?t appeal to me. My wife has an account that has been hacked a few times.Too many dodgy ads etc. its ok to send pics to relatives abroad. But not for me.Van Morrison has a song called Why are you on FB? Worth a look on youtube for a laugh at the lyrics.

[Genifer Teal]

I tend to get many requests from foreign countries. Many times I can't even understand the writing. I have a rule about that I only friend people I know in real life. Maybe I make an exception or two if it's likely we could meet up in real life. My point is I'm not there for pen pal. I'm there to keep up with my friends lives and figure out where the next place to go is. It can be okay for that.

[kimdl93]

No Facebook page of any kind. I was (and remain) concerned about how easily FB found and suggested possible connections. But I have had in interesting reaction from women in real life. As a guy, I don?t recall ever being approached by a woman, but in girl mode it has happened surprisingly often.

[Brandybea]

I had a Facebook account for about six months several years ago and started to become concerned with privacy and their connection suggestions. I started worrying that if facebook is suggesting friends for me from my local area then it likely is suggesting me as a friend to others. I live in a small town and am private about my dressing around here so once that worry hit me, I closed my facebook account.

[Patience]

I have never really liked FB. I only joined to keep up with friends and relatives scattered around the world.

My fem persona has been far more active on Twitter, where people are allowed to present as they like. I must say however that I have spent less time there since the change of ownership.

[Majella St Gerard]

I'm on Facebook and only have one account that I post things that interest me. I also post pictures of my male and female persona. I belong to a couple of karaoke groups and post videos of me singing, mostly in femm mode, and I also belong to a few cross-dressing groups and post pictures on them as well. I get a lot of friend requests from people that see my videos and pictures. I'm very picky about the friend requests I accept. Sometimes people make rude comments and some men want to fool around, I dismiss those. I do notice that when I post pics on the cross-dressing group's page, I get a lot of comments and requests from Middle Eastern men for some reason. I don't mind a sincere compliment, even if it is a bit risque, just don't be vulgar. To tell the truth I really like the attention, I put in a lot of effort into my presentation and like the acknowledgement. Some people want to keep a low profile and fly under the radar, not me, I want to be noticed. It's easy enough to BLOCK someone if they get too bold. I might post some provocative pics but I don't tolerate rude and offensive language on MY PAGE.

[docrobbysherry]

I have a separate FB Profile for Sherry. With NO connections to my male FB Profile which is SO BORING! And, has about 25 Friends. Thru Sherry I've have met some very interesting trans, CD's, and even a few women all around the world!:hugs:

If they are women looking for a romantic relationship, I'd be extremely leery. I'd bet a majority, if not all, are gold diggers at best or outright scammers at worse.
I had a young woman from LA friend me, then wanted to meet up. When I asked why, she said, "So we can discuss your tribute and what kind of bondage u prefer?":eek:
Of course, I bailed out immediately!:tongueout


I had a Facebook account for about six months several years ago and started to become concerned with privacy and their connection suggestions. I started worrying that if facebook is suggesting friends for me from my local area then it likely is suggesting me as a friend to others. I live in a small town and am private about my dressing around here so once that worry hit me, I closed my facebook account.
They've added privacy settings so u can avoid a lot of undesirable folks.:straightface:
And, when I had people steal my photos and claim to be me, I complained to FB and their Profiles were blocked!:thumbsup:

[Aunt Kelly]

No. You most certainly are not the only one. The creepy friend requests are a thing for any woman on FB whose profile is anything but out-of-the-box obscure.

As for the safety issue, basic cyber hygiene will keep your account safe.

I may have to friend that guy who "Works at: Surgeon for U.S. Military". He keeps showing up. :)

[Natalie5004]

I can appreciate having 2 FB accounts. May they never meet. Maybe with some facial recognition software, but that would be it.

[Dutchess]

I dont know exactly how much you are out or want to be out but my wacky ex I was speaking of has one and its something to be sure .. yeah ... anyway we are not FB friends and I get him all the time in the people you may know category .. he is inundated with requests from admireres and quite the psychotic women who are desperate and think dressers or trans women are easy to get... with but he doesnt care about that he sends whatever to whoever asks ..

Now, he is in MANY FB dresser/trans photo/pickup groups and does not seem to realize that Every . Single . Photo. he posts is quite visible to all of us including the comments and his female profile is closed to all but his "friends: but I can see them( so can my friends and all of our kids etc etc etc ) and what people SAY To him ... and if I felt like it, on a bad day ... I could easily .....

well you know ..

please be careful and no I don't get "those kinds" of requests . He does though like you do .

[Kandi Robbins]

Hi Natalie, it's your Facebook friend. I have become quite the Facebook expert.

If you are diligent about blocking creeps and those that make you uncomfortable, they will all eventually go away.

As you have probably seen, I am on there all the time and I get very few inappropriate comments.

Block, delete creepy things and over time, they will all go away.

I also get huge amounts of friend requests. Watch them carefully as one will eventually be pretending to be something they are not, then they eventually hack you. FB will then block you, which you will not be able to unlock unless you know the secret (which I figured out after about a six week lock out). Legally, you are not Natalie and therefore it is not easy to get unlocked. While FB drives me crazy, it is the only way to make so many valuable contacts. I even enlisted the help of a US Senator to beat Zuckerberg at his game. FB is very anti-trans, anti-CD, anti-drag queen, anti-divorced woman with a name change, etc.... I know this because I communicated with many all over the world on this.

Anyway, that's my two cents.

PS, if you have a male and female account, access each from a separate web browser. If you do that, they should never cross pollinate.

[Natalie5004]

I even use 2 separate computers. Thanks for the heads up.

Your FB friend, Natalie

[Lucy B]

I created a FB profile for Lucy a few months ago. It didn’t last long.
I became uncomfortable with it quite quickly and deleted it

[Princess Chantal]

I have a facebook account for Chantal and do have 3 common friends with my other account. I have my account privacy to friends only and tend to only accept friend requests from those that I have met prior. I get a few friend requests in which get declined but not all that overwhelming probably because I do not take part in the crossdressing group pages.

[jazmine]

YUP! Exactly what happens to me. I can even keep up with the amount of friend requests that come in. My male FB page(?), LOL! Even with being a part of something well-known, hardly ANY friend request come my way. Even when I was going out clubbing and hitting the town & playing in bands in my male younger form, Hardly ANY attention, interest or anything. When it comes to my female self, JEESH! I never felt so much popularity or interest. From both males & females. So weird!

[Kandi Robbins]

I even use 2 separate computers. Thanks for the heads up.

Your FB friend, Natalie

Very wise!

[Geena75]

I started a facebook account for Geena a couple months ago, mostly to keep up with the GR social group. Yes, I got bombarded with friend requests, mostly people I never heard of. I had been on FB for years in male mode and have always been very selective on friends -- I have to know them, have a real connection with them, and don't see them regularly. I don't even friend my own kids who are local. I have about made the rule that Geena needs to know you fairly well before accepting a friend request, and I have hardly made requests to anyone. I really don't post anything there, anyway, unless it is on the secure site of the GR social group. I make more use of messenger for chatting than anything else.

[GracieRose]

Some good suggestions here for keeping some separation between girl and guy accounts. I might add that Gracie always operates in an incognito window (Chrome).

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I have a fb page for my vanilla life. I was an addict, arguing with strangers for hours, trying to change their minds about whatever. Quit cold turkey after realizing the only one I was affecting was myself, and not for the better. Now I get on about once a month, scroll down and read until I see someone with a stupid opinion about something, then I leave without commenting.

Much happier this way.

To make this CD relevant: IF I go to a page that's the least bit weird (as in CD or related) I won't follow, won't like, won't comment, because people can see what things and pages you follow like and comment on.

[Karren H]

Karren had been on FB for years and year with a lot of friends from here and from the time I was a mod and admin at the forum Makeup Talk. I always got a lot of friend requests and tried to filter them out. But things there just got too complicated, too depressing, too much work so about 5 years ago I deleted my FB account. I miss the good friends I had there but do not miss FB one bit.

[Krisi]

If you are on Facebook as your male self and not out to the world as a crossdresser, I would suggest not trying to have a Facebook account as a "female". Facebook will eventually relate the two accounts and your friends who don't know about your crossdressing are likely to get suggestions that they may know your female self. And they will see photos of your female self.

As for "friends" on Facebook, it's best to deny friend requests from people you don't actually know. There are a lot of fake Facebook accounts (your female account would be considered a "fake" account) and there is no prize for having the most "friends".

[Teresa.Smith.VA]

Opinion: Any person who wishes to protect their privacy should avoid Facebook.

[amber457]

I have been enjoying this thread, lot of good input to consider and think about.

I do not have a FB for Amber, though I have considered it as it would nice to have some lady friends. My male FB page is pretty dead for the most part, it has been around for awhile and I have connected with a few folks I have known over the years. For the most part most of them have come and gone. That page now is just mostly for a hand full of landscape photography people I still kind of sort of keep up with.

Really though, as much as it would be desirable to make some lady friends Amber is really at best a small part time of my life right now. It takes quite a bit of time and energy to go full Amber. Over the past couple of years that just has not been a priority. For me, to create a Amber FB page would feel like it would also require constant attention and that just wouldn't reflect where I am today with Amber.

[Ashlee]

I have FB, close to 5000 friends. I get friend requests from mostly CD's and admirers i just accept them. I get the dick pics too, I don't care. I've used my female account to buy things on marketplace as well. I don't get hate mails, my profile says it like it is. For at least a year I was friends with my male account but I deleted "her" from "his" so as to keep the 2 separate.

[docrobbysherry]

If you are on Facebook as your male self and not out to the world as a crossdresser, I would suggest not trying to have a Facebook account as a "female". Facebook will eventually relate the two accounts and your friends who don't know about your crossdressing are likely to get suggestions that they may know your female self. And they will see photos of your female self.

As for "friends" on Facebook, it's best to deny friend requests from people you don't actually know. There are a lot of fake Facebook accounts (your female account would be considered a "fake" account) and there is no prize for having the most "friends".

I believe this is not current advice, Krisi. As FB was taken to court for descriminating against CD's and trans. They now will allow T's to open an account in your female name. And, another in your legal name. They dinged me because of my obviously phony, "Docrobbysherry", Page name. And, made me prove who I really was before unblocking my Page. Shortly after approving that Page they deleted it for nipples!:doh:

But, my "Robert Sherry" name and Profile hasn't raised any issues with FB in 6+ years. In fact, they've even protected me from fakes who stole my photos and claimed to be me!:thumbsup:

[BrendaPDX]

Natalie, I have a fb page under Brenda Stewart, I also have a fb page under my male name. I never let them overlap at all, in any way. Brenda is a cross dresser and has a personal laptop and cell phone, my male mode fb has a separate laptop and cell phone. They are totally separate! No common friends in any way, no common sites, no common groups, no overlapping browsing. Low usage cellphones are very cheap, prepay only for actual usage. Good luck! Brenda

PS Remember don't overlap at all, they will find you!