Totally busted in supermarket

[Lily88]

Lily went out for a walk tonight - first in skirt and heels but thought that was a bit conspicuous (clicking on the pavement!) so went back and changed into tight jeans and ballet flats.

Now I definitely don?t pass but feel like I can blend especially when it?s fairly dark - on the walk several of people passed me and didn?t seem to give a second glance so I took a plunge and went into my local supermarket.

Straight away under the bright lights the security guard at the door took a long look at me and sure he clocked me. I picked up a drink and went to the self service check out then disaster struck?I?d picked up a high sugar energy drink that needs to be age approved in the UK! The alert went off on the machine and a shop assistant came over to approve my age - looking straight it my face and would definitely have known. She did smile and it seemed kind but I was NOT expecting an up close interaction.

I?m now also slightly worried that she?ll recognise me as a shop there all the time?but it is a massive supermarket with hundreds of customers a day so possibly unlikely she?ll make the link when she sees me in boy mode?

[Natalie5004]

Please keep in mind............... She does not care if you dress as a chimpanzee. You are good to go.

[Princess Chantal]

See any villagers with torches and pitchforks yet?

[Debs]

was the fashion police called ?, really they arnt bothered

[NancySue]

I know what you mean?heels, etc. But, So what? The important thing is you bought something.

[Helen_Highwater]

Lily,

Don't over think it. Up close we all get read. I know every time I go to a checkout the person behind the till will know I'm a CD'er. Learn to act naturally, with confidence and folks just won't care.

Had it not been for this close encounter all would have been good yes? Don't let this put you off. It only gets better and easier.

[Patience]

I hope you learned your lesson. Everybody knows too much sugar is bad for you.

[CarlaWestin]

It's already all over the internet. :eek:

[Geena75]

OMG! Have you bolted the door and drawn all the shades, lol! I've felt the same way for a long time. But, as I progressively got bolder, I've gone up to cashiers, even renewed my vehicle plates femme -- which required showing my driver's license (with bearded photo). Nothing happened! I have picked up a package femme and gone to the same place to pick up a packages drab, and again; nothing happened! You are fine!

[Jazzmin]

To the OP (and any others concerned)

Chillax, girls! Most folk are too wrapped up in their own lives to even notice you! That clerk was probably more interested in when her next break was due than in what you were wearing!

[BrendaPDX]

She may have noticed, probably did, but you are an honest customer. That's all she cares about. But it's still a little exciting, isn't it?

[docrobbysherry]

If u go out dressed, u must expect to be seen by strangers. Strangers don't know who u r or care how u dress.:straightface:

If the guard at the door or lady at the market was your mother in law or next door neighbor? THEN, you were busted! Otherwise, u were simple "made".:daydreaming:
They r NOT the same thing!:heehee:

[Krisi]

You have to be a certain age in your country to buy a "high sugar drink"? Not alcoholic, just "high sugar"? What about a bag or box of sugar, can young people buy plain sugar?

That seems a bit intrusive to me. Fortunately, it hasn't gotten that bad in the USA, at least in my part of the country.

Did you have to show a photo ID to buy your drink? Was it a problem when it didn't match your look?

[Kitty Sue]

Me thinks you are fine. :)

[jazmine]

...I understand. Worries that we have all had at one time or another. In the end, I think you will be fine, and no one will remember, but hey... at least you put some smiles on faces in a world where frowns are the M.O.

[kimdl93]

Relax. They may or may not remember you. But either way, nothing will come of it.

[NjJamie]

Lily, it sounds like it went just as perfectly as it does for so many of us. We are not likely to "fool" many in those situations but the key is that you didn't have to, they accepted you just as you wished to be, a woman out shopping! Complete success, contrats!

[NancyTO]

The 2.8 billion people in India and China do not care. Pretty sure the 67.3 million UK population aren't bother by it either. Relax and enjoy your shopping trips out and about. :)

[CharlotteCD]

You have to be a certain age in your country to buy a "high sugar drink"? Not alcoholic, just "high sugar"? What about a bag or box of sugar, can young people buy plain sugar?

That seems a bit intrusive to me. Fortunately, it hasn't gotten that bad in the USA, at least in my part of the country.

Did you have to show a photo ID to buy your drink? Was it a problem when it didn't match your look?

We have a major problem in the UK with young people living off of energy drinks. I used to work with people who were 16/17 and drinking two cans of Monster to get through a day.

It's terrible for your heart, and it can affect your development. I fully support it, because the effects on yojur organs can be as bad as alcohol.

[Heather76]

Probably the best way I've discovered to get over the fact someone will realize I'm a CDer is to know that unless I plan to interact with others using sign language is the fact I'll be outed as soon as I speak. Unless you have a feminine voice, even so much as a "Thanks" will give you away. Don't worry about it. Enjoy being out and about. If you're concerned about someone you know figuring it out, don't risk being out where you might run into friends and neighbors.

[alwayshave]

Lily, I received a report about it here in Washington D.C.

[StephanieCD]

The assistant smiled. What lovely interaction, be pleased. I would.

[Genifer Teal]

It seems like you don't get out often. Maybe this is your first public appearance? I mean one with people around and interaction. The first several times out like this are typically very awkward at best. Don't be discouraged. Get past it and move on. It only gets better from here.

[Wendy me]

Not to worry no one cares not a issue i have been cought busted
.ore times than i can count

[Kris Burton]

When I saw the "Totally Busted..." title I thought you were caught shoplifting. That would have been a problem. This isn't.

[Aunt Kelly]

"Busted" implies that some sort of crime was committed. It wasn't.

[Stephanie47]

Sure, nothing may come of the encounter. If you're apprehensive of meeting or engaging with other humans, then you need to prepare for your outing. In this case, should not the OP have been aware of an age ID check?

[Sometimes Steffi]

So you were in the supermarket and ran into some people who might have recognized you as a man in a dress.

You should be celebrating this rather than agonizing over it. You crossed a milestone threshold and survived.

Good job.

It will be easier next time.

[Bobbi46]

I think one should be proud of acheiving something like this its not "getting busted" its a case of being noticed as a man dressed as a woman end of, use this experience to better the way you go about things

[Rhonda Jean]

I think it's cool to read these little reports on someone's first times out. Mine was so long ago that I can't remember anything about it. In many cases, maybe this one, it's the seed, or the very beginning of an obsession to look better, do better, that in some cases will last the rest of a lifetime.

It's pretty cool to me to think that there's someone coming along behind me who might be just as obsessed, just as deep into it as I was! I hope I left a good impression along the way, and that I made it easier for the next one.

[Marcelo]

Believe it or not, some people, even people who aren't into what we do, are quite entertained by seeing our kinds in public.

One of my childhood friends used to talk about seeing a particular crossdresser in a 24-hour donut shop on a regular basis. He was quite enthralled with it and that seemed to be the highlight of going there. Another friend of mine talks about seeing crossdressers at a local grocery store late at night but as a freak show.

I usually only go out when volunteering as a cheerleader but a few weeks ago I went to a local mall to join the senior citizens morning walk. Most of the women smiled when they saw me but I wasn't so warmly greeted by the men. I was wearing a pleated skirt with a t-shirt and a wig but no makeup or bra. I know they all knew I was a man and I didn't try to fool anyone.

After my mall visit, I went to the local university and walked around. As I was leaving, I passed a cop or security guard (he was in uniform with a gun) and I jokingly told him this was not a good day to be wearing a skirt. He grinned and laughed.

I'm pretty sure that not many of us fool anyone who gets a good look at us. I say just go along with being a man dressing as a woman and enjoy the moments!

[Lisa516]

I say just go along with being a man dressing as a woman and enjoy the moments!

Could not agree more, and look around and see the awful outfits others are presenting!

[Melanie Therese]

One thing said to me a while back puts a lot of things in perspective. You think of yourself way more than others do. In customer service you see and hear a lot of things and a passing interaction like that is likely to not be memorable.
The other theory I go by is another persons opinion of me is none of my business.

[ellbee]

Not sure how true this is, but I've been hearing reports that because of The Infamous Supermarket Incident, Lily has sworn off CD'ing forever, burned all her girl-stuff in the fire-pit out back, then entered the witness protection program. Some say she may have even sailed across the pond! :eek:


P.S. We love you, Lily! :heehee: :hugs:

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lily :hugs:, You are out there now and there's No Turning back Now, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[MonicaPVD]

People look at people. Some stare. Especially men when looking at women. This is normal. You being out in the world wearing ballet flats is normal. You weren't busted. No one cares. Get over it and enjoy yourself.

[RoxieGrl]

She will probably forget, if it is a busy place. Any way, you don't dress up to please anyone but yourself. Please remember this. It is important. And don't worry about others. Unless it is your workplace, other's opinions should not be any concern.

[Bea_]

You never know. She might have secretly admired your courage to express yourself. When I'm out in drab and encounter someone like us, I tend to study their presentation and my staring might be taken as disapproval. But, in most cases, I am admiring their courage.

[Joanne108]

The last time I was at Ulta the sales woman that helped me thought I was a transgender woman. She was complimenting me on my appearance. And said the only thing that gives me an away is my height. I did not correct her.

[Mtoffee]

Good on you, Lily for the escapade!
I think you can see by other people's reactions that this is not a life-threatening deal!
In fact I'm quite sure that incidents like this bring a very welcome spark in the otherwise fairly ordinary working day of many people - just imagine the amusing tale they have to tell at the end of the day! :)