Do you Identify as a Sissy or a Nancy Boy?

[Jamie001]

Hi Sweeties,

I am a feminine male that wears women's earrings, fire engine red toenail polish, women's sandals, a feminine hairstyle, pantyhose, a women skirt, while not attempting to pass as a woman. Therefore I consider myself a "Sissy" or a "Nancy Boy" and am proud to be a Sissy. When anyone sees me they immediately know that I am a Sissy. How many of you girls identify as a Sissy or a Nancy Boy? After all, a "Sissy" or "Nancy Boy" is the opposite of a "Tom Boy".

[TAG]

I am me and don't put labels on myself or anyone else.
I have moved on from trying to shock people or prove I am different.
You have every right to do as you wish and enjoy who you are.
As far as sissy or Nancy boy I found those terms degrading when I first started dressing.
I have been living as a female 24/7 for so long I am just me and have no need for labels.

[Linda Stockings]

What TAG said. I really don't know what those terms mean, and if I accept any labels it would be a heterosexual male who likes to crossdress. I wouldn't like any new labels for me at this time.

[Kris Burton]

No labels for me thank you. I reject societies attempt to define me, or any of us, so narrowly.

[docrobbysherry]

"U can call me Ray, or u can call me Jay, or u can call me RayJay. But, u doesn't has ta call me Mr. Johnson!":devil:

I'm actually confused now? Do u mean u would prefer we call u Nancy, Sissy, or Jamie?:straightface:

[Geena75]

I think I get the thrust of your question. In drab, I'm neither a sissy nor a Nancy boy, but quite male and I doubt anyone would question it. I doubt there's anything feminine about me. When I'm prettied up, though, I hope that there is little trace of masculinity about me -- no "Tom Boy."

[Kitty Sue]

When I dress, which I have not done completely in years, I am not sure if I would have considered myself a sissy. Maybe? However, when I was not fully dressed and wearing a mix of both men's and women's apparel I would have considered myself a sissy. I don't mind labels if I think they are appropriate to me.
When in drab as I am mostly these days definitely not a sissy by most people's standards I would guess.

[Patience]

I identify as a crossdresser, thank you.

[darla_g]

Nancy boy must be a British term, not familiar with the term or what it implies.

As for the sissy term not sure i like that. Maybe i am wrong by sissy and sissification implies a subservient or bottom type term . CD is fine for me

[Jade P]

I am a sissy to some people. I am transgender to some people. I am gay to some people. I am queer to some people. People can label me anyway they want and thats okay with me and they have a right to their opinion. I feel I am gender fluid and I have a need to dress and be feminine sometimes.

[LilSissyStevie]

No way! I'm strictly a He-Man crossdresser. :tongueout

[DrFishnets]

I am just a regular guy who likes exposing his feminine side from time to time for sexual and therapeutic reasons by wearing nylons, pantyhose, tights and stockings and fishnets and sometimes full make up and feminine clothes as I prefer the style of womens clothes over mens clothes.

[mbmeen12]

Your question in my opinion is dialing down crossdressing into the fetish side and or orientation. Some will say derogatory or to some, a turn on. I care less about the terms except if someone was to address me.

[Krisi]

I think the term "sissy boy" is mostly used in the porn industry, not in real life. But, you are free to think of yourself as anything you want to.

Me, I am a crossdresser.

[GretchenM]

Labels can be a trap. I suggest not using them. Everyone is unique in terms of gender identity even though most people are either male or female in terms of sex. The two, gender and sex, don't really talk to each other very much when it comes to internal functioning. Sex is mostly about reproduction; gender is mostly about your social role. There are a few linkages but those are mostly based on stereotypes we carry. Those stereotypes can be useful, but they are mostly limiting.

The problem with labels is that a label establishes a boundary where no boundary really exists. It leads to stereotyping which is not good for anyone as it pigeonholes people into unnatural categories and leads to conflicts when a person finds themselves in a category that doesn't fit well. And it can lead to prejudice and discrimination.

So, I avoid labels like the plague. As I said we are all unique and effectively a Majority of One. I am male in terms of sex but in terms of gender I have a lot of female-like behavior and thinking traits mixed in with male-like traits. Male-like and female-like refers to traits that are usually seen most strongly in people of the associated sex. However, the particular blend you have at any point in time is almost always a mixture of traits from each realm that your brain has found work together nicely and smoothly FOR YOU. However, that blend is not cast in bronze - it is more like jelly and is always shifting around as you experience new things.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I decided to ask Mr. Google what other people think "sissy" means.

I got this (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sissy)from Wikipedia

Sissy (derived from sister), also sissy baby, sissy boy, sissy man, sissy pants, etc., is a pejorative term for a boy or man who does not demonstrate masculine traits, and shows possible signs of fragility. Generally, sissy implies a lack of courage, strength, athleticism, coordination, testosterone, male libido, and stoicism, all of which have typically been associated with masculinity and considered important to the male role in Western society. A man might also be considered a sissy for being interested in typically feminine hobbies or employment (e.g., being fond of fashion), displaying effeminate behavior (e.g., using hair products, hydrating products, or displaying limp wrists), being unathletic or being homosexual.

It's actually an interesting read, and you may want to follow the link to read about other uses of the word sissy. I like the insinuation of how American football coached and gang leaders used in to encourage more ferocious and violent behavior.

As a child and teen, being called sissy" would have been "fightin' words". I consider the word a slur and consider it particularly offensive. It is really opposite to whow I see myself. Even though I like some feminine things, I don't consider my behavior effeminate. When dressed as a girl, I consider myself as a strong or dominant girl. For example, I will always give a strong (male) hand shake, even in girl mode.

[Vale]

To me personally sissy is a hurtful term. I was a weak and sickly child back in those days. When I heard that word it was either my uncles criticizing me or the playground kids preparing to push me around. I am no longer sickly and for me I prefer to leave that word in the past. . . .vale

[Stephanie47]

I had to read through the other comments to understand the meaning of "Nancy Boy." I never heard the term before. I have always posted on this forum one should explain in complete sentences and paragraphs. One word does not describe a complex issue. I am a straight cross dresser. In male mode it's definitely male; clothing and mannerisms. As a cross dresser it is definitely a mature woman; always attired in dresses, hosiery and heels and all the proper undergarments. At six foot and 195 pounds I do not pass. How others perceive me in their minds? I do not know. I am sure the uneducated and bigoted would define me with derogatory names.

[Jamie001]

"U can call me Ray, or u can call me Jay, or u can call me RayJay. But, u doesn't has ta call me Mr. Johnson!":devil:

I'm actually confused now? Do u mean u would prefer we call u Nancy, Sissy, or Jamie?:straightface:

Jamie is fine, however I do not mind being called being called a "Sissy" because I am a sissy. Sissy is simply the opposite of "Tom Boy". I always really liked the name "Sissy Spacek". It is so wonderfully feminine. My real name is Jamie, so I will stay with it, however if I were to choose I would pick "Sissy" or "Nancy".

[Debra Russell]

It's not complimentary and a bit degrading .....so no I dont relate or care for the terminology ...............Debra

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

You addressed your question to "you girls" so you really weren't talking to me, but I'll answer anyway.
In my mind and according to how the word was used when I was a child, a "sissy" is a wimp, or as "weak as a girl." I am not a wimp, and I know girls/women who are quite physically strong. If I'm dressed in male clothes I'm a construction worker, a business owner, a pilot, and a strong advocate of other (historically) masculine activities that aren't allowed to be discussed here. If I'm wearing a skirt and cami, I'm still the same person, just in prettier and more comfortable clothes.

I've never heard the term "Nancy boy," but from context I'd have to say no to that as well.

I'm constantly amazed how many on here are stuck on labels.

[Angela Marie]

I think both terms are degrading. Sissy, Nancy Boy, Tomboy. Please. Enough with the outdated stereotypical descriptions.

[Heather76]

I am happy to say I am a crossdresser and leave it at that.

[Fiona_44]

Not at all. And I think the majority of sisters are not either.

[Diane P]

I have to agree with both Patience and Heather76, I am simply a crossdresser, nothing more, nothing less.

[Lily88]

I used to balk at labels - including crossdresser. But since I?ve accepted that I?d happily also accept I?m a sissy and a tranny and most other associated terms?not that I?d go around advertising them though!

[Kelli_cd]

I'm just me - a straight male, happily married guy who simply loves pretty bras and panties.

[alwayshave]

Like others have said, I simply identify as a crossdresser.

[sometimes_miss]

I'm fine with sissy. The opposite of 'tomboy'; I was a boy who feels and wants to behave as I believe that most girls would. I don't go out of the way to over emphasize the outward feminine, by over doing a fem voice or mannerisms, but I'd fit in just fine if I woke up tomorrow as a girl, and never look back.
So, sissy it is, because that's how my older sister described me when talking to her friends.

[CarlaWestin]

I think I get the thrust of your question. In drab, I'm neither a sissy nor a Nancy boy, but quite male and I doubt anyone would question it. I doubt there's anything feminine about me. When I'm prettied up, though, I hope that there is little trace of masculinity about me -- no "Tom Boy."

Yeah, what Geena said. Charles and Carla have the same bad boy mischievous grin. Sissy Carla is a character that I role play. Poor girl. Always in trouble.
I do have a favorite jingly "sissy" necklace that I always wear because it makes me feel good.
I love conversation when out and I do get the impression they know I'm male. I don't voice augment because the truth is, it's just me having fun role playing.

Someday, some nice lady will ask politely if I'm male. That would be a wonderful conversation. I'd offer coffee just to chat for awhile.

[oh to be rachel]

The whole concept scares me to death.
I probably don't know how I identify until I'd be called out on it.
While in a dress, I may succumb.

[Brianne_bc]

I love being a sissy. When I put on my custom made sissy dress from Leannnes pretty dresses. I ordered it with the full satin lining too so it feels extra good when I wear it. Nothing my wife likes better than to come home and catch me doing house chores in my sissy dress.

[Crissy 107]

When I was in my early teens I was bullied pretty bad and they would taunt me with Crissy is a sissy. I hated it and finally stood up for myself and it ended. I do not consider myself a sissy and I have never heard the term Nancy boy.

[Claire M]

Jaime, I don't prefer either of those labels as they both seem quite derogatory. I consider myself just a guy with good fashion sense!!


"U can call me Ray, or u can call me Jay, or u can call me RayJay. But, u doesn't has ta call me Mr. Johnson!":devil:

Doc, I always thought this line ended "just don't call me late for dinner!!"

[Davina2833]

Kelli, love your attitude.....aren't they great!

Davina

[Panty1]

Jaime, I don't prefer either of those labels as they both seem quite derogatory. I consider myself just a guy with good fashion sense!!



Doc, I always thought this line ended "just don't call me late for dinner!!"

I agree.
I do consider myself a male with good fashion sense.
I recently had to replace the front brakes on my vehicle. I was dressed in my old sneakers, jeans and heavy flannel shirt since it was cool out but underneath I had on my matching Calvin Klein bralette and panty set.
I personally see nothing wrong with that because that is "me".

[Karren H]

Never, ever like those terms along with a host of others. Not really into derogatory labels for me or anyone else.

[Jade P]

I dont think sissy is a bad label depending on the use of it and how someone is using it. The definition of Sissy has two parts: a soft, timid, or oversensitive person, or a boy or man viewed as being overly interested in things traditionally associated with women. : an effeminate man or boy

The part above is me. This part is not me: also : a timid, weak, or cowardly person

[Beano980]

I suppose if you like the term, and it fits you, own it. But, it's not for me. To me, the term Sissy if for a very specific lane of crossdressing. From what I have come to understand of the term, one common thread is a the link to dress in satin, frilly, short, "poofy" dresses with white socks and shiny shoes. Not the kind of thing you see a gg girl wearing and certainly not wearing in public. For me, I'm the opposite of sissy, I want to blend in as much as possible, walk thru the looking glass, and experience life as any other woman would. For me, it's a desire to feel like, and be treated like a woman. For me, blending in is the goal.

[MarinaTwelve200]

NO. I want to appear as a WOMAN.

[April Rose]

I never liked that term growing up and I think that it implies that a feminine male is somehow defective or inferior, and, by extension implies that women are inferior to men. So no.

[Bea_]

I consider myself to be the equivalent or maybe the reciprocal of a straight tomboy. A woman can be a tomboy without the negative insinuations that the reciprocal man would get. I do wish there were a word that would work as well as tomboy does for a female, but sissy and nancy-boy already have some major negativity associated with them, so I would avoid them personally.

[AmeeJo]

Like others have said, I don't like either term. I am a crossdresser. I do like the idea that there needs to be a word on the same level as tomboy is for women. I would own that, if it existed.

[docrobbysherry]

I agree with Marina. A sissy is a wimpy man. And, a tomboy is a masculine woman. I'm neither of those.:thumbsdn:
I think the term "sissy" may have fetishy conotations for some dressers!:o

When I dress I try to present as a sexy, feminine, woman.:battingeyelashes:

I believe the proper term for that is either a CD or female impersonator!:heehee:

[Bea_]

And, a tomboy is a masculine woman. :

I've known lots of tomboys that don't meet my definition of masculine. They may be considered to be more androgynous in some ways, but many are definitely NOT masculine in most ways. Mostly, a the tomboys I know are like a woman-plus. I feel like I'm the male version of that. I feel masculine, even if my presentation doesn't meet the norm for masculinity. I don't want to be a woman. I don't want to be mistaken for a woman. But, I'd like to have the same freedom that the typical 'tomboy' has without being tagged as something of a man-minus.

[Natalie5004]

I have never been called any of those names BUT have been told that I am such a girl.

But if you really knew me as my male self I do not give off a fem vibe.

[Rhonda Jean]

Identify as? No.

Don't forget "pansy". The only time I remember my dad saying anything about the way I dressed, that was his term for me. We actually had a very good relationship and he usually just kept quiet about my feminine leanings.

[BrendaPDX]

Hi Jamie, I am not exactly sure what you are asking. I am not a Sissy (I had to look this up), and I am not a Nancy Boy (had to look this up too), I am a cross dresser and do tend to pick up feminine traits when dressed. Brenda

[Lacy PJs]

I think I get where the OP is coming from. They asked if any of us identify as either a sissy or a Nancy Boy. Those may or may not be the labels assigned by others but don't necessarily have to be acceptable to any of us. I was disappointed in that I sensed a little sensitivity in several of the answers here.

As for me, neither of those terms apply. In fact, I've held off on buying some things that I think I would like to have because I didn't want a "sissy" dress or ruffled "sissy" panties. A dress? OK. A pair of ruffled panties? OK as well but NOT if they are identified as any kind of sissy wear.

Lacy PJs