Does your CDing impact you sleeping arrangement?

[NancyJ]

Some recent responses to another thread have indicated that some girls do not sleep with their wives/partners (many, sadly, because of various medical conditions). I am curious: If you do not sleep with your wife/partner, is it because of your crossdressing? If you sleep separately, do you sleep en femme? And do you keep this secret from her? If you sleep together, do you wear femme pj?s and panties (I do) or a nightie?

As some others have mentioned, for me, sleeping wearing feminine items is very calming and reassuring. Fortunately, my wife seems to understand this. Nancy

[bridget thronton]

I wear a bra and nightgown my spouse and I sleep in the same bed

[Veronica Lacey]

That's great that your wife is good with nocturnal femme wear, Nancy. :thumbsup:

My wife and I have shared enough discussion on this topic to know how we feel about it. Thankfully we sleep together and love doing so. It is one facet of our relationship that we both hope to maintain while also acknowledging that medical concerns could one day alter this (however no reason to believe so at the moment: phew!)

Having said this...she does not permit me to wear femme attire during sleep, not even panties under male pjs or boxers. I've shared my feelings with her that yes, it gives me a sense of peace and another level of acceptance but she is politely, lovingly firm that no, it's a no go. I will not wish for sleeping separate in order to experience night dressing but should fate ever hand us the need for separate sleeping arrangements then I would quite likely pursue it and she has agreed that she would be ok with it.

[NancySue]

I?m blessed with a supportive wife. I?m dressed, day and night. She often teases me when I wear my bra and nylons to bed.
Yes, my getting ready for bed routine is very special, comfortable and relaxing. A great way to end the day.

[Heisthebride]

I am almost always wearing a nightie or womens satin PJs in a shared bed with my wife. I. In the last year I can only think of one weekend at a friends cabin that I wasn’t wearing womens nightwear while sleeping.

[Jamie Lynn]

We unfortunately sleep apart due to her medical issues, however we have snuggled and fallen asleep together for a couple of hours while watching a movie, with me in a bra and forms under sweats. No issues there as I don't wear them everyday. I have slept in forms and lingerie, though don't do it often. She knows and is fine with it, and will playfully tease.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Some recent responses to another thread have indicated that some girls do not sleep with their wives/partners (many, sadly, because of various medical conditions).

I am curious: If you do not sleep with your wife/partner, is it because of your crossdressing?

Maybe. I’ve never been sure. About the time I started seriously in the marriage (about 15 years ago) was the same time I was diagnosed with sleep apnea and started using a CPAP. She started sleeping in the other room because the PAP was too noisy, so she said. I got several different masks that were quieter, but none of them convinced her to come back to the communal bedroom. From some things she has said subsequently, I think it was the crossdressing.

If you sleep separately, do you sleep en femme?

I guess it depends on what you mean. I don’t openly sleep en femme, like in a nightgown. I might under-sleep in a bra, panties or shapewear. In fact when I go out dressed, I return after she is asleep and often sleep in whatever underwear that I went out with, including bra, forms, panties, padded panties and shapewear under my pajamas. She usually goes to church on Sunday morning. I sleep in to give me some alone time to change back into male mode.

And do you keep this secret from her?

Under our DADT ground rules, she doesn’t want to see me dressed. So it’s covered under the DT agreement

If you sleep together, do you wear femme PJs and panties (I do) or a nightie?

It’s sad, but I can’t remember the last time we slept together, except when we were shared a bed at a hotel. I might have surreptitiously worn panties then knowing that she wouldn’t have come close enough to me to discover that.

I know some of you will be thinking, “Why do you stay married?” It’s a question that I often ask myself. The best answer that I can come up with is “Inertia”.

[NancyJ]

It?s sad, but I can?t remember the last time we slept together, except when we were shared a bed at a hotel. I might have surreptitiously worn panties then knowing that she wouldn?t have come close enough to me to discover that.

I know some of you will be thinking, ?Why do you stay married?? It?s a question that I often ask myself. The best answer that I can come up with is ?Inertia?.

Steffi, This makes me so sad to read! Must be so lonely for you both. People stay married for many reasons. I have no judgement about that. I do think, though, that we all deserve to experience being loved. :-) Nancy

[Elizabeth G]

While I would love to wear a nice nightgown to bed I treasure sharing a bed with my wife more so I chose to sleep together over night dressing by myself.

[Taylor Dame]

I wear Women's satin pajamas every night and sleep in the same bed as my wife. Other than also wearing panties everyday, we are basically DADT.

[Andie]

I wear a nightgown to bed with my wife.

[Robin777]

When my wife was alive , I always wore a nightgown or nightshirt to bed with her right next to me. Sometimes we would wear matching nightshirts. Once and a while she would let me wear a bra and forms to bed. Since she has passed I find myself wearing forms to bed quite often.

[RachelB.]

We share a bed and I sleep in women's pj's or a gown every night unless we are spending the night with friends or family.

[JulieC]

My wife and I have a solid relationship in all respects. We do not sleep together, but it has nothing to do with crossdressing. It is due to medical issues (mainly me, but her a bit as well). My crossdressing is no secret to my wife. She is supportive and accepting.

I don't sleep en femme, but this is because we still have kids at home. I don't want them discovering me crossdressed during the night.

When we are out of town, we sleep in the same bed in the hotel. Most recently, I slept every night in nightgown and pantyhose. She's fine with that.

[Teresa.Smith.VA]

On any day, weekend, or vacation time that I dress completely as Teresa, I always sleep in frilly chiffon nighties and matching panties next to my wife, who also enjoys frilly nightie and panties. It all started while dating well before we married. We have many matching nighties, robes, and bedroom slippers that we enjoy wearing together. Meeting this need brings us closer together and enhances our intimacy. It's one of our favorite hidden fetish secrets of our very otherwise strait lifestyle.

[Heather76]

My wife and I sleep together. She wouldn't have it any other way. I have slept wearing stockings, panties, bra, forms, and a nightie every night since 1/1/22. When we're on vacation, wherever we are (motels or friend's/family's homes) I go to bed the same way. I'm not sure she would know how to react if I went to bed any other way. I see no reason to stop at this point. Again, the only boundary is she prefers not to see me with makeup and a wig. I can't see wearing either one to bed, anyway. Makeup would make a mess of the bed linen and I doubt a wig would stay on the entire night. We're in a good place with regard to sleeping arrangements.

[BLUE ORCHID]

My Wife of 59 Years sleep together and CDing does not go in the Bedroom,

I have the rest of the House to dress in,

[SaraLin]

If I'm having a restless night and can't sleep, or if I'm snoring and keeping her awake, I'll move to the other bedroom, but otherwise we sleep together.
For me, it's always panties, and nighties every night. She wears PJ's.
FWIW - my nighties are modest, comfy, knee-length or longer, things - not sheer or "racy." We're both well past those days.

[Kelli_cd]

Our days of intimacy vanished some 18 years ago. I wasn't dressing then, so that wasn't the reason. I do know the reason, but it's not important here.
There are occasions when I take advantage of knowing she won't roll over and touch me. I'll wear a camisole, silky panties and bra to sleep. She rises very early, so I just need to minimize the possibility of being seen in the morning.

[VickieBonne]

We sleep together. Its hard to remember the last time I didn't wear a nightgown to bed.

[Kitty Sue]

We sleep in the same bed. I don't cross-dress in bed, but my wife would be fine with it I so chose. Every now and then when I am at home alone I will put on an item of women's clothing when I sleep.

[Stephanie47]

My wife and I are one of those couples who sleep apart. She has had so many medical issues attributable, in part, to weight gain that she is constantly in pain. She is probably headed to knee replacement surgery, so the pain issue continues. Me? Shrapnel injury to left shoulder and ulna nerve has me tossing and turning which impacts the stability of the bed. My wife is not a restful sleeper. We retired the same time. I clunk out immediately, while she may roam around and have difficulty falling and staying asleep due to pain. Today, like most days she wants me to awaken her to watch "The View" at 10:00 AM

Bed attire? As most mornings, today is typical. I am still wearing my night clothes; a white peignoir and white nylon Vanity Fair brief. I rotate through forty+ nighties. Sometimes it is a full slip, bra and panty. Sometimes I wear an ankle length nightie under the full slip, bra and panty. Lately, I have been delving into my wardrobe of dresses and slipping into one over the slip, bra and panty. Considering the many posts I read about wives who are searching out their husband's wardrobe and vocalizing their disapproval I have come to realize being somewhat en femme for nine hours is a lot more than others experience.

[Cheryl T]

It has not affected our sleep habits. As a matter of fact it was my wife who initially suggested that I wear a nightgown to bed.

[NancyJ]

It has not affected our sleep habits. As a matter of fact it was my wife who initially suggested that I wear a nightgown to bed.

Love this! You are one of the lucky ones!

[BTWimRobin]

The only times my wife and I sleep apart is when one of us gets a cold. Depending on the time of year, I would sleep in leggings, women's sleep shorts or pants, and a t-shirt. I haven't tried wearing a nightgown to bed for fear of being banished to toe guest room.

[Melindatv61]

Don't sleep with my partner for other reasons not related to crossdressing. Having separate rooms enables me to sleep enfemme which helps greatly. Nowadays I'm not comfortable without my nightie and panties on for bed.

[Jessica Secret]

Not at all in my case, I have a boyfriend and he loves my dressing (romantic lingerie).

[Melony1968]

My wife and I sleep together and I always wear panties and sleep shirt to bed.

[sometimes_miss]

[QUOTEJAs some others have mentioned, for me, sleeping wearing feminine items is very calming [/QUOTE]

I discovered the stress relief of being dressed in girl clothes very early, when I'd dress up after school while everyone else was at work, and I'd sit around reading my sister's magazines. I'd sometimes just fall asleep, because it felt so good to be dressed the way I thought I was supposed to.
Boy clothes were the costume, or uniform. Girl clothes were what felt normal to me. No excitement, no thrills, just, normal.
After my divorce, living alone, I gradually just started wearing girl pajamas to sleep every night. Still do.
Unfortunately, I don't think I will ever find a woman who will accept this behavior, so it also means sleeping alone.

[Cacique82]

We sleep together and I?m often in a nightgown. She?s fine with it.

[Aka_Donna]

No impact. We have had separate beds for ages because of differences in tossing and turning. I wear a chemise to sleep and always give her a good night kiss wearing it. She gets a kick out of it. This is night time, for our daytime nap, we share the same bed. Kind of boring, but it works for us.

[Mandyinfemme]

My wife and I sleep together. She wouldn't have it any other way. I have slept wearing stockings, panties, bra, forms, and a nightie every night since 1/1/22. When we're on vacation, wherever we are (motels or friend's/family's homes) I go to bed the same way. I'm not sure she would know how to react if I went to bed any other way. I see no reason to stop at this point. Again, the only boundary is she prefers not to see me with makeup and a wig. I can't see wearing either one to bed, anyway. Makeup would make a mess of the bed linen and I doubt a wig would stay on the entire night. We're in a good place with regard to sleeping arrangements.

Exact same situation here. My wife encourages me and buys me clothes. But no makeup or Wig. That has to be on my own. Nail polish isn?t a problem.

[Gi Gondin]

We sleep together. She reinforces, almost every day, that I should sleep in feminine attire.
She got me last year a 4” fluffy slippers that she insists I wear them in case I wake in the middle of the night!
Go figure this lady!

Personally I prefer only wearing boxers.

Be careful what you wish for, you may get it!

[abby054]

No, but my snoring does. It even influences where the cat sleeps.

[Karren H]

Both our medical issues effect our sleeping arrangement. I sleep downstairs where I have access to my wardrobe all night. She won’t come down until I am totally awake and dressed (in drab). Been that way for a couple years and I like the arrangement. Think she does too.

[jacques]

hello Nancy,
we both wear nighties in bed together,
luv J

[Connie D50]

I do not sleep in the same room as my wife. Not because of my crossdressing. However I have taken full advantage of sleeping spearte, my Pj.s collection has doubled include nightgowns and even teddies. :battingeyelashes:

[MsEva]

My dear wife and I always sleep together. It is the best part of our day. We spend an hour or two before sleeping to chat, do some reading, watch an HGTV show and cuddle, often time with our big dog sharing the bed until we want to sleep. I dress in long PJ pants of one sort or another and t shirt. The only crossdressing tha occurs then is her wishing to wear one of my very soft white tshirts for sleeping. I have dressed in a few nighties when she is away but always seem to sleep better with her beside me.

[Bea_]

CD doesn't really affect the sleeping arrangement but, I worked a rotating shift for the last 20 years before retirement. She got used to sleeping with the television on and now cannot sleep with it off. I finally moved to sleep in the other room so that we both get a better nights sleep.

[darla_g]

in answer to your question, not at all. My wife is very supportive, she just thinks i have too much stuff, which is right. i don't dress frequently but when i do its not a problem coming to bed en femme (nightgown or similar)

[Charly52]

I have some lovely nighties and negligees unfortunately the only chance I get to wear them is if I go away overnight or my partner goes away and I get the bed to myself.

[BobbiKay]

We both snore, and I like to sleep with the radio on (which she cannot stand). After our last kid moved out, my wife switched bedrooms. So it's no more earbuds for me, and I wear what I want to bed -- usually leggings and a top, sometimes with a bra and forms. I like the all-over-hug feeling of the form-fitting clothing.

[CDMargret]

Another lucky one here...We sleep together. I always am wearing something satin silky and we cuddle. Love to drift off while her arms lay on my silky satin chest. She gets hot so she wears these little thin cotton tops. They are sexy mostly because what's in them....

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

If what I wore to bed kept my wife from wanting to sleep with me, I would change what I wore to bed. She's more important than what I'm wearing.

[Mary Loo]

If what I wore to bed kept my wife from wanting to sleep with me, I would change what I wore to bed. She's more important than what I'm wearing.

That sums it up for me, too, though honestly, for the last 35 years or so, I prefer to and basically have slept either nude or with just a shirt in the winter. Unless of course we are visiting somewhere and then I may wear shorts, too, but still without underwear. To each their own.

[Kasey101]

Single and for a reason, at a young age I learned that either.
A: People are just crazier.
B: It allows me to stay independent with myself and this new lifestyle that I have entered into. Now for me its either been some comfy panties or since I have shaven legs I will sometimes lay nude to just feel more relaxed in the night time.

[Genifer Teal]

Yes, I usually sleep on my side or my back.

[alwayshave]

CDing has no effect on what I wear to bed or where I sleep.

[Melinda Jean]

No, not at all. Divorced and I live alone!

[Vintage4sarah]

Not initially as we now sleep separately due to my snoring issues. When we travel, which is a lot, we can still share a bed and sleep comfortably.

[NancyJ]

So many on this thread have commented about snoring. I suspect that you all are aware that many times snoring is a symptom of sleep apnea (a serious sleep disorder), that can be diagnosed and treated. If you have not already, please seek medical consultation regarding snoring that is significant enough to drive your partner out of a shared bed. Just my opinion, Nancy