Question

[Majella St Gerard]

For the "straight" cross dressers out there.
Do you find other cross dressers attractive?
And if you do, do you get aroused?

Peace & Love
Gerri

[Heather76]

There are some crossdressers who, when looking at pictures they post, I find extremely attractive. Do I get aroused? Not in the slightest. What I get is jealous because I didn't start CDing at a much younger age and I don't have the body to look anywhere near as attractive.

[ShawnaL]

I'm right there with you, Heather!

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

As Heather said, a few look really good! And yeah, I'm kinda jealous too even though I have no interest in makeup or tucking. Unfortunately most look more like a guy in cute clothes, but comfortable and enjoying (like me). Aroused?? Not a bit, I like women.

[Maria 60]

Sometimes when looking at pictures of crossdressers I have to remind myself that I'm looking at men. If I do get arousded its just knowing what there feeling wearing curtain clothes. I feel as if I could relate with the persons physical feelings.

[DianeT]

I can find some crossdressers beautiful or classy but if I know they're crossdressers and not women I won't be attracted.

[April Rose]

The feelings I have for other crossdressers is mostly sisterly.

[Fiona_44]

Yes, there are some CD's that I find very attractive. And yes, some are so feminine in their look and their mannerisms that I find them extremely sensual.

[Cheryl T]

Can't say I do as you asked.
I find others attractive in the sense that they present as very attractive women, but it's not in a sexual way. I appreciate the image they present and sometimes wish I were as "womanly" as they.
Aroused, no, not at all. Not because of anything anyone else does, but because it's just not for me.

[Denice]

I'll take the 5th on this subject.

[docrobbysherry]

Majella, I am a straight CD. Been going out and meeting dressers at big and small T events for about 20 years. I've met countless T's who identify as women and many who have had upper and lower surgeries. :hugs:

Even tho I've met a lot of T's, I have never been aroused by one. However, I've met a handful that seemed intriguingly like women in our interaction!:battingeyelashes:

I have met LadyBoys in Thailand that turned me on. Some were very attractive and more feminine than the women I've married and dated!:o

I've seen many photos of T's that look like hot woman, (Including my own pics of Sherry!):devil:
However, photos of women have never aroused me much.:straightface:

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Gerri:hugs:, As I do the Birthday Calendar in the Forum Banner everyday I see so many very lovely CD's Profile Pictures ,
I find their Beauty amazing, and a Little Jealous, But I know that they are just Men, >Orchid**O:daydreaming:O**

[Ursula Harrison]

I can find images of convincing TVs arousing.

But in the flesh there is always something - the voice if nothing else - that betrays that they are male and any attraction I might have felt is killed straight away.

[Majella St Gerard]

Not even those cute little femboys that are so popular lately 🤔? lol

[alwayshave]

Gerri, Sure I find pictures of CDers attractive. However, it does not get my motor running.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Yes, there are some CD's that I find very attractive. And yes, some are so feminine in their look and their mannerisms that I find them extremely sensual.

I totally agree with you Fiona.

As I've said many times, I go out and about with a large group of DC girls in a social situation. I've also been to the Keystone Conference 10 times. I've seen a lot of very attractive "crossdressers", many more attractive than the prettiest GG girls I've ever dated. I use "crossdressers" in quotes because, in many cases, I'm not sure if they're just "crossdressers" or are post-op transsexuals.

And, honestly, I am attracted to them. In my head, I know that they are men underneath, but I'm about one beer from forgetting that inconvenient fact.

[AmeeJo]

Sure, I find some very attractive. I'm not aroused at all. As has been mentioned here, I'm more jealous that I can't look that good.

[Geena75]

Gerri

There are feminine features I always find attractive, regardless of the source. A shapely pair of nylon clad legs I always find attractive. Pretty eyes enhanced by good make up skills are still pretty eyes. There are some, like yourself, who put together an attractive feminine look head to toe, and it is "easy on the eyes."

As far as "aroused" goes, not particularly. I find myself more fascinated than aroused.

[Karren H]

I find many different types of people attractive, CDs, Trans, fem males and females but I rarely get aroused any more.

[Genifer Teal]

A picture might help me arouse myself but doesn't arouse me by itself. It's just a picture. our brain fills in the rest. What they are or aren't or what they have or don't have is not relevant. Am i attracted to men or women? yes. I need to be attracted to the person. the rest will follow. regardless of what tools we have, we will make something together.

[TheHiddenMe]

Short answer is no.

Like others, often envious how they look. I also like to see what they are wearing and decide whether it would work for me or not, and envious they get to wear it.

I texted a picture of a CD in a cute outfit to my GG friend and her reaction was "holy s#$%" but I'm not sure that's from attraction or how good she looked (Michelle loves seeing drag queens.

As for stimulus, I generally prefer written stories about cross-dressing rather than pictures, or is that TMI?

[mbmeen12]

Im not allowed to answer your question based on the criteria of your question. It is a poison pill because if do you get aroused then your not "straight". Question for you Majella, why would you ask such a question?

[CharlotteCD]

I consider myself to be pansexual, so I actually approach this from a different angle, but not totally different.

I'm not attracted to the male form, so when I look at a crossdresser, it's no different to a straight person - I won't be aroused if I see masculine cues.

I have however find crossdressers and transwomen to be attractive in the past.

[Mtoffee]

Majella,
Your questions are extremely interesting and also, for me, somewhat worrying as they make me question wether I'm a straight crossdresser or not!
Maybe put it down to lack of experience with "the real thing"; ie I have seen many, many photos, but not very many crossdressers in real life to my knowledge.
As I said in my introductory message, many crossdressers I've seen in pictures are beautiful, beautifully dressed and made up and inasmuch I find many of them very attractive (especially when dressed in lovely lingerie that I so much adore!)
However I am a woman-loving person and so don't think I could go through to having an "adventure" with a real crossdresser how ever much I find her attractive? That being said, I've seen ladyboys in Hong Kong and Thailand who make me seriously question my own resistance or just how much it would take......!
Anyway, aroused, definitely; jealous, no, because I know with my physique I could never possible compete!! :battingeyelashes:

[MarinaTwelve200]

A straight M2F can indeed be aroused by the sight of a male CD---As straight guys are "wired" to "respond" people who look like women if they are real women or not. (If they don't really look like women, then that's another story.)

I have often been "amused" by tales of straight men who find out that they have been fooled and get "bothered" and bent out of shape, now thinking they might somehow be "gay" because they were attracted by a convincing looking CD. Hey! it's the way you are supposed to respond. You didn't know! you are NOT a psychic.

[GretchenM]

In general I do not become aroused. But more specifically, I am with Marina 99%. But I also admit that some CDs are definitely very good at what they do. Some who have transitioned seem to have achieved the level that they are very happy as they are and that is a large step higher than just looking convincing as a woman. They are effectively women even though genetically male. It is evidence that sex and gender are largely very different processes and phenomena and that the rigidity of the gender binary is false. It is like a spectrum.

[Kris Burton]

There are two points I wish to respond to in this fascinating thread:

Like others, often envious how they look. I also like to see what they are wearing and decide whether it would work for me or not, and envious they get to wear it.

Not to single you out here Dee, but you most concisely express a point made by several. For me I am not envious at all of a lovely CD or TG - inspired is a better word. I do not envy the work of a wonderful musician,artist or author, I enjoy it thoroughly, and use it to propel me to improve my own skill. Same is true for appreciating other CDs for me, and it keeps me interested and engaged, even as I recognize I may never get there.

and this:



Yes, there are some CD's that I find very attractive. And yes, some are so feminine in their look and their mannerisms that I find them extremely sensual.

Well stated Fiona...and I also agree with as Marina points out we are hard wired as males to respond this way...and that's where I fall , without reservation or apology, on this aspect of the question.

[Karen RHT]

Can't say I do as you asked.
I find others attractive in the sense that they present as very attractive women, but it's not in a sexual way. I appreciate the image they present and sometimes wish I were as "womanly" as they.
Aroused, no, not at all. Not because of anything anyone else does, but because it's just not for me.

Cheryl has summed up my thoughts perfectly.


Karen

[Genifer Teal]

Why shouldn't any of us find a "good looking woman" attractive? Reality is irrelevant. Our brain fills in the missing details. Maybe they have something you want or maybe they don't and your brain imagines they do. It's what you are thinking that reveals your preferences. What you thought you saw matters more than what you actually saw.

[Brenda Freeman]

I enjoy looking at women and crossdressers who look feminine and dress well, I get inspiration from both and i am thrilled Iam far from alone in this!

[Majella St Gerard]

I did a little search online and discovered that the 4th most searched for category on Porn-hub is "Transgender".

[Debbie Denier]

I agree with Marina, Kris and Fiona.

[Charly52]

I?m with Brenda I to enjoy looking at women and cross dressers that look fabulous let?s be honest who doesn?t!!.

[Natalie5004]

I love women. If you are presenting as a beautiful woman, yes I would get aroused.

Just make sure we are not out drinking.

[franlee]

If you are referring to appreciating their attire and the persona, yes. But for a sexual allure, No! Recognizing the looks and effort is from mutual respect. Homosexuality is a separate issue that dose in some cases shine through and is distracting from the illusion.

[ColletteC]

Witty comment Natalie5004. And I agree.

[GracieRose]

I find some other cross-dressers attractive. There are some beautiful ladies on this forum. Do I get aroused looking at pictures of them? No. Perhaps jealous, but not aroused. If I think about it, I don't get aroused looking at a picture of a beautiful cis-female, or seeing one in person. I guess I could if I thought about it in that way. Just as with a sweet looking cross-dresser, I lean towards jealousy.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I do find it interesting that in the original question you put "straight" in quotation marks, as if you don't believe any of us are actually straight.

[Diane P]

I absolutely have to agree with Heather. Appreciate the pics but not turnd on. Definitely wish I had started CD'ing at a younger age. At 64 I have the typical "old guy" body type.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I love women. If you are presenting as a beautiful woman, yes I would get aroused.

Just make sure we are not out drinking.

This is very similar to what I said previously, and I totally agree.

But, I also have a confession to make:

"I kissed a girl (and I liked it)", to quote Katy Perry. Note that term term "girl" below means a TG girl.

The first time I kissed a girl, I was the (unwanted) receiver, not the giver. I kind of felt violated. I felt like that little boy who gets kissed (unwillingly) by a little girl, and "spits it out".

However, I subsequently kissed another girl I had been hanging out with. We were about to part, and she said, "I wasn't going to take my panties off for you, but I would have liked a kiss." My response, "I can do a kiss", and we kissed. To make a long story short, it turned into a 15 minute long makeout session that included some "heavy petting" as I've heard it described. Google it.

Once I broke the "kissing ceiling", I kissed several other girls to whom I was attracted. In the baseball analogy (Google it), I got to second base using the traditional (60s, 70s) descriptions. Would I go for third base or home? Maybe third base, but not home. That would probably cross the line for me, except is she was a post-op TS. I would know how to handle that.

OK, now that I've 'fessed up, don't let me be the only one here who's ever kissed a girl.

[CDMargret]

There are some crossdressers who, when looking at pictures they post, I find extremely attractive. Do I get aroused? Not in the slightest. What I get is jealous because I didn't start CDing at a much younger age and I don't have the body to look anywhere near as attractive.

Exactly what Heather says. Then I get all worked up if they are in a great, cute or sexy outfit that I just gotta have. I love the outfits.

[Natalie5004]

I cannot say I kissed a girl. But there was one gay episode in the past. Does that count?

[NonbiNancy]

Interesting thread. I often wondered the same thing, if straight CDs get aroused. It's a tough question though, as other's have pointed out, because once you say, "Yes I do get aroused", then are you actually straight? For me the whole sexuality question is just like the gender question, we're all on a continuum. I'm not straight or gay, male or female. I'm just me, happily somewhere on both continuums. And of course I've been aroused by some CDers. They're absolutely gorgeous.

[Vintage4sarah]

This is very similar to what I said previously, and I totally agree.

But, I also have a confession to make:

"I kissed a girl (and I liked it)", to quote Katy Perry. Note that term term "girl" below means a TG girl.

The first time I kissed a girl, I was the (unwanted) receiver, not the giver. I kind of felt violated. I felt like that little boy who gets kissed (unwillingly) by a little girl, and "spits it out".

However, I subsequently kissed another girl I had been hanging out with. We were about to part, and she said, "I wasn't going to take my panties off for you, but I would have liked a kiss." My response, "I can do a kiss", and we kissed. To make a long story short, it turned into a 15 minute long makeout session that included some "heavy petting" as I've heard it described. Google it.

Once I broke the "kissing ceiling", I kissed several other girls to whom I was attracted. In the baseball analogy (Google it), I got to second base using the traditional (60s, 70s) descriptions. Would I go for third base or home? Maybe third base, but not home. That would probably cross the line for me, except is she was a post-op TS. I would know how to handle that.

OK, now that I've 'fessed up, don't let me be the only one here who's ever kissed a girl.

OK Steffi, let me lend my support as I can fess up also. That first moment came after a decade of slowly perfecting my image until I needed to share it with another Tgirl. For the first time back in 2003 I would visit as Sarah with another Tgirl who was very enfemme and we got along well. Her first kiss happened so quickly that my head spun and I would return and continue that first kiss enjoying very minute of the new experience. I'll leave it at that for now; but I certainly adore the feamle look of others.

[GretchenM]

What a fascinating thread with equally fascinating responses. The whole question tends to get messy if one approaches it from the point of view of trying to tie down boundaries. To me, the responses are themselves good evidence that the whole matter is not really divided into bounded categories. Like NonbiNancy said, it is a spectrum, a continuum because it involves that entangled zone between sexual attraction, gender identity and gender expression. Where these three overlap things can get very confused with no clear resolution. And so much of this goes to the finer details of a person's previous experiences. Some of those experiences, whether positive or negative, can have a profound impact on our inclinations. It is that part of our total behavior that is extremely creative and is probably part of the process of forming a CD/TG/TS person. It is unique, but in truth perhaps no more unique than is true of everybody else - thus we are all unique at the finest scale not matter how the final being looks or behaves. There are behavioral genetics involved but so much of it involves our individual experiences, the memories of those experiences, even those that occurred early in our life, and how our brain fits all of the vast amount of input to generate a simple "yes" or "no" answer. Life is creative because it is sensitive to its environment even though at the foundation there are deterministic genetic factors; but the very process of life constantly is playing with that genetic foundation as the lifeform experiences things in the course of its life.

Long ago it was thought that all crossdressers are homosexual, whether male or female in terms of sex. That attitude lasted for quite awhile and it is still present today. For some that is true; but for many it is not.

Then there was a period where it was thought that anyone can be sexually attracted to anyone else even if they think they can't. Problem is even though that may be theoretically true, in the practical world it is not true. One can always say no just as easily as yes. But is it really that easy?

The question becomes what are the factors from our experiences and beliefs that go into making the answer what it is. And that, I believe, is where the complexity of each of our histories which are completely unique in their totality acts as a governor on what the answer is for each of us. So, generalizations are very difficult to make without being restrictive on the criteria in making the generalization. And there is so much pure individuality involved in the moment that generalizations are probably little more than illusions based on a highly biased set of criteria that ignore the fact each organism is unique in terms of heritage and experience.

[Krisi]

Some seem attractive, but it's important to remember that their photos may have been doctored or in some cases, are not even photos of themselves. At best, they have chosen the best photos out of many.

I do not get aroused looking at photos of crossdressers.

[Melony1968]

Same here gf

[sometimes_miss]

Nope. Having been molested by a male, later mistreated, cheated by, beaten up by, lied to by, double crossed by, other males I am naturally mistrustful of other men. So any hint that I'm dealing with a man, and I'm not interested in any way. Even just writing here, I kind of feel suspicious that I might be betrayed by other males here, if I somehow revealed who I really am.
So no; no attraction at all, and when I'm out in the real world, if there's any men around, there's this just general uneasyness that I feel when another male is around. It's like I just expect them to try to take advantage of me in some way, because it's happened so often in the past.

[SaraLin]

I've reached the stage in life where looking at people no longer "arouses" me, whether they're male OR female.

But I can still appreciate a lady who has made the effort to look good, even if part of that admiration is wanting to have that look for myself.

What is, or isn't, in her panties doesn't concern me. If she's looking good, what do I care?

[Clodagh]

I’m a little surprised by some of the responses, a few seem quite concerned about what is under the veneer of a pretty girl.

I am happy that if I find somebody attractive, that’s okay. I realise that I find women attractive, and I don’t find men attractive, but if a man looks like a good looking woman I have no problem accepting that I find them attractive or arousing. I know, from admittedly limited experience, that getting up close and personal with a crossdressed guy fells different to being with a woman, but that does not mean I won’t try it, and if I enjoy it, great.

[MsEva]

Well have to admit that many years ago I did as I did not dress to the degree that I get to now. Mostly I am happy to dress as I please, as my wife knows all about me, and happy to do what would be called fem chores of washing, cleaning and laundry fully dressed I spend a good deal f my dressing time in mom jeans and cotton low cut t shirts. I do not find dressing sexually stimulating any more, more that I feel as that I am being the true self.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Some seem attractive, but it's important to remember that their photos may have been doctored or in some cases, are not even photos of themselves. At best, they have chosen the best photos out of many.

I do not get aroused looking at photos of crossdressers.

I'm not really attracted to the pictures. But, I've been out and about a lot, and I've been to the Keystone Conference about 10 times. So, I've seen a lot of CDs in person.

I've also kissed a GG once when I was in a dress. And, I also had "a date" with a GG while I was en femme. So, I've done it both ways.

Still, I'm not looking for a label.

[nancy58]

Some of the members of my local TG support group were so successful at it that the part of my brain that responds with sexual interest toward women did so. I consider plenty of people to be "attractive" without that component engaged, though.

[Ricck]

Yes and yes, but i don't describe myself as straight. (I've been monogamous with a AFAB nonbinary person for a very long time, though, so ....)

[Jacqueline Winona]

Nope. Like many others, I appreciate a good presentation and think some CD's are so very pretty the same way I suspect a straight GG thinks about another GG, but it doesn't arouse me. The dichotomy is what I suspect GG's feel about a CD partner who presents well- you look great, but I'm not into that.

[Patience]

Maybe and maybe.

But the attractiveness would most likely be due to the person's feminine aspects.

[Leslie Mary S]

I am in the camp where the clothes look great, but the urge is nil, in ether he or she mode. I haven't even had the urge or anatomical reaction in over 12 years. I almost think I have gone sexual/gender numb.

[Zoe72]

I see them as a beautiful woman. Yes I find them really attractive and get aroused. Why wouldn't you? as you should
see a woman and not a man? we all want to be beautiful and sexy at the same time:)

[DianeT]

I’m a little surprised by some of the responses, a few seem quite concerned about what is under the veneer of a pretty girl.

I am happy that if I find somebody attractive, that’s okay. I realise that I find women attractive, and I don’t find men attractive, but if a man looks like a good looking woman I have no problem accepting that I find them attractive or arousing. I know, from admittedly limited experience, that getting up close and personal with a crossdressed guy fells different to being with a woman, but that does not mean I won’t try it, and if I enjoy it, great.
If you are strictly heterosexual the prospect of meeting a three-piece apparel under a panty is a bit of a turn off. Just knowing it might be there is enough. Attractiveness and arousing are very cerebral things.

[Stephanie47]

In the wild I have not seen many cross-dressers; attractive or not. Maybe, I have seen a "passing" cross-dresser and have not noticed. Wouldn't that be the goal of many cross-dressers; to go about the day without attracting attention. I do peruse YouTube and other tasteful sites with very attractive ladies; day wear to bridal gowns. There are some amazing looking ladies out there. I consider cross-dressing sometimes as a art form. Frankly, I'd rather see an array of attractive cross-dressers than watch a runway model show with young woman making weird unnatural body movements. Am I aroused? No, I know they are males. Also, if they are really young (20's or 30's), that's the age of my granddaughter. That would creep me out. At my age I find Vanna White to be in my league....along with my wife of 50+ years.

[JennyOpalstar1]

Neat question, hon.
I am a straight CD'er who is at the "beginning" of my exploring this world. I would say that I am attracted to the feminine image/shape....the curve of breast/waist/hip ...attracted in a sort-of "I wish that was me" way. Mostly, I see women of all shapes, sizes, and ages as being "the whole package...but when I see those gender signals on a CD'er, I feel the attraction to the physical / visual element on display, but not in any kind of intimate way.

I repeat...nest question.

Xxoo

Jenny

[BrendaPDX]

I have seen some very pretty and beautiful cross dressers, but I have never been sexually aroused by them.

[Rachelakld]

I've had drinks with two attractive girls, one on hormones, the other not.
One is a work mate for many years and the other her partner.
But that doesn't put lead in my pencil.
Maybe I'm just fussy about who I want to bed.
Perhaps when I was younger and my hormones were a bit more "switched on", then perhaps I would feel differently.

[EmilyShy]

I consider myself to be very open to try anything once, being attracted to a CD I really don't know. I have thought about it whilst both me dressed and an CD/trans other times me being male self. Or the other way round me dressed and with man. Both ideas appeal I guess. I've never met a CD in real life so it's very hard to say if there would be attraction. I'm curious but never acted out. Never say never I guess

[Giddy]

I do appreciate the beauty and appearance of other CDers, but although I am bi-curious, I haven’t been sexually attracted to or aroused by anyone yet. I think, for me, she would have to have a very feminine appearance, possibly with real boobs, something like a Thai Ladyboy.

[NaughtyMichelle]

If a "non-straight" CD can check in, I've found a lot of CDs that I thought were attractive. Some very much so. But aroused? Nope.

[HollyCD]

Majella, great question, I've often wondered how others feel but never asked. I'm curious if CD was replaced with TS, and let's say that TS is at least a "9 out of 10", do people's answer change? And does pre-op vs post-op affect the answer? I guess the answer might imply where along the spectrum that we recognize the "transition point" occurs. I knew a guy several years ago that was very much straight, conservative, and low acceptance of anything on the rainbow coalition. He traveled to South America for a few weeks and apparently was exposed to the TS culture. He was single at the time, and mentioned how one had to be careful in selecting women to talk to. He commented about how convincing and beautiful some of the TS's were, and acknowledged that it would make a person "question themselves" regarding their desires and choices. I think that backs up the understanding that men are attracted to the female form, however it may be packaged. I'm curious how the CD community recognizes the shift from CD to TS, and if a given individual presents full-time and wishes to be accepted as female, are CD's more likely to find them desirable than non CD's?

[ShirleyN]

mmm. Funny you should mention this Majella. Can't say I've ever found some CDs attractive but the closesr I ever got was many years ago when I went to a local CD club in Dublin around 2007 with a GG friend and found a least one of them called Debbie attractive. Am I attracted to each them? No. Not in the slightest.

[Brianne_bc]

YES. Very aroused. Its a fantasy of mine. I guess I am turned on by femininity regardless of what lies underneath those panties.

[jacques]

hello Majella,
when I see a crossdresser or trans-woman in public I admire their courage and am a bit jealous!
luv J

[JennCurious]

Majella, I do find others attractive when I see them. I wouldn't say that I get aroused immediately, but do admire that they are out and about.
I also enjoy looking at pictures of other crossdressers. It's inspiring.