Surprised by my neighbour.

[Charly52]

I got the chance to go out dressed Saturday evening it was unexpected and a little rushed as I didn?t know my partner was going out for the evening in fact neither of us knew until her friend rang to invite her out, so I wasn?t really prepared but I didn?t want to miss the opportunity for a drive and hopefully maybe a dive through. As I was in a hurry I didn?t have time to go in the loft to get my clothes and makeup but luckily I keep enough clothes and makeup in the garage for times like this, so I got dressed in my black knee length dress black tights and boots.I wanted to go out just before it got dark so hopefully no one would see me leave the house, so my makeup was a bit of a rush but passable I topped it off with my shoulder length brown wig. I put my hooded coat on as I wasn?t intending to get out the car and I could take it off as soon as I got out of the area, I had one last look through the window and there was no one about so it was time to go I started buttoning my coat as I opened the door and came face to face with my neighbour who was just about to knock I?m sure those of you like myself who are in the closet can imagine the sheer panic that came over my face. She was smiling at me and said why are you wearing a dress and makeup!! I had nowhere to go so I had to come clean. I asked her in and shut the door and she said so why are you wearing woman?s clothes!! I said I?m not trans or gay but I do like to cross dress.
Because my neighbour lives alone I sometimes do odd jobs for her and she is usually really talkative but I think the shock of seeing me dressed took the wind out of her sails eventually she asked me who else knows and I said no one does and she said well no one will hear about it from me as it?s your business, the reason I came across was to ask if you could do me a little job when you have time, I said no problem at all.
as she turned to go she asked if I was going anywhere nice? I said no not really I?m just going for a drive she winked and said enjoy.
As soon as she had gone I jumped in the car and drove to a quiet spot to take off my coat, I drove around the town for a while it was nice to be in full fem mode catching the odd glance from other drivers and pedestrians but in the back of my mind I was still thinking about what just happened and what the consequences could be. I have known my neighbour for a long time and we get on really well so I don?t think she will say anything to anyone. I decided not to go to a drive through as I had enough drama for one day, after about a hour or so I made my way home and by this time it was dark. After I got changed I had chance to reflect on what happened earlier and how the conversation might go when I pop over to see my neighbour.

[rachelatshop]

Wow, that was a nice story. I hope that you will have some followup stories to tell us, with regards to your neighbor. Maybe she would like to go out with you as a couple of girlfriends. Could be a real plus for you. Thanks for sharing, Rach

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Charly :hugs:; It can Happen when you least Expect it,

[Crissy 107]

Wow, your heart must have dropped at first but it does sound like she will keep things quiet.
As Rach just said please give us a follow up when you can.

[ShawnaL]

In hindsight, it can be a blessing (or at least a relief), because most of us have found out that it WILL happen sooner or later. And, who knows? This may be the beginning of a new and rewarding type of relationship with your neighbor!

[docrobbysherry]

Another reason why, when leaving during daylite hours, I dress, enter my car in the garage, drive away with a hat, sunglasses, a men's jacket on, and no wig!:thumbsup:

[alwayshave]

Charly, That is a wonderful story. I'm glad your neighbor was accepting.

[kimdl93]

That was a bit of a surprise, but it turned out pleasantly.

[Fiona_44]

I know it's a heck of a surprise but it sounds like your neighbor will honor her promise. When you see her next please thank her for being so understanding.

[Charly52]

Thank you for your interesting scenarios !!! I will let you know how things go when I speak again to my neighbour.

[Diane P]

Charly I can understand what kind of a shock it must have been to open your door and see your neighbor. I'm happy that it went fairly well with her and I'd think the wink and saying enjoy means you can definitely trust her to not say anything to anyone.

[Jolene Robertson]

Wow Charly, my heart would have been racing so bad I'm not sure I could have continued out. Hope she keeps her word, but you might have found a confidant. Looking forward to the follow up.

[Ursula Harrison]

A heart-warming story and thank you for sharing it. It is lovely to have female friends that you can confide in and sometimes ask advice.

But don't get carried away imagining where this could lead to and don't push it. Hopefully she will be intrigued by what she has discovered and will want to know more. The next time you see her thank her for her understanding and hopefully that will prompt her to talk about it.

But if not, drop it. Then let her initiate any conversations on the subject.

[Connie D50]

Wow I think I would die on the spot, you have to keep us posted please.

[Jillcder]

What a shock that must have been but it sounds like it went as well as possibly. I think you relationship with your neighbor just got much closer.

[NonbiNancy]

Sure sounds like something that was very much meant to happen. My $0.02, as others have said, thank her when you see her (to help her as she asked). And you know she thought about what happened too, so you can very casually offer, "If you have any questions about my CDing, I'm happy to answer." This is very possibly an opportunity to open up.

[Leslie Mary S]

I can feel the shock. I know about that mad rush form the house to the car. I go through it every month. First it is from my house to the car fully dressed and made-up and with a wig on, then make a 4 hour drive over to Atlanta, GA. And all the time I am in Atlanta I am Leslie 12/7. Then I, Leslie, drive home and have to make a transfer back to the house.
Also, sometimes, I do some photo shoots of Drag Queens as they perform as Leslie. That is on the average of 7 hours out of the house. All my trips, short or long, I travel alone. I have no other CDer that I travel with.

[Charly52]

On my way home from the shops this afternoon I saw my neighbour who was just going out, we smiled at each other and I said you look nice are you going anywhere special !! She laughed and said no not really just shopping, I said I?ll come over one afternoon this week to get that job done for you, she said that?s fine as I?m in every afternoon this week and if you don?t mind when you come over I would love to have a talk to you about Saturday night!! I said yes of course we can.
To be honest I will be a bit nervous but she is really nice and easy to talk to.

[Diane P]

Charly I don't think you need to have any worries about talking with your neighbor about Sat. My hope is that she just simply wants to understand and maybe be somone local that you can talk with. Please let us know how the discussion goes.

[Lucy B]

Hi Charly,
Well this is becoming really interesting, a bit like a tv drama.
Can?t wait for the next instalment!

[AmyJordan]

Hi Charly I had that very same feeling of sheer panic when my wife told the florist to deliver to the rear of the house when she had me hanging washing in a full Maids outfit. To be confronted by a young woman dressed like that was mortifying at the time but looking back now I can see it as funny as my wife did. It does sound like your neighbour is curious and supportive but I wouldn't keep it from your wife.

[Jolene Robertson]

Hi Charly,

As Lucy said "Well this is becoming really interesting, a bit like a tv drama.
Can?t wait for the next installment!"

[Ursula Harrison]

Things seem to be progressing really well. I think that it's your neighbour who wants to talk further and not you pushing it on her bodes well. Good luck!

[Mermaiden]

Very interesting! Does your partner know you CD, and about your neighbor?

[April Rose]

Like Lucy and Jolene, if it was on PBS I'd watch it!

[Charly52]

Very interesting! Does your partner know you CD, and about your neighbor?

My partner knows I do the odd job for my neighbour but she doesn?t know that I cross dress.

[Jasmine23]

Hi Charly,
I would have died if that happened to me, but, it sounds like she'll keep it to herself and seems interested which bodes well. Your lucky it was a female neighbour, as women are often more understanding and open to this, especially when it's not their own partner. If it was a male neighbour I fear that your secret would be out by now. As others have said let her take the lead, hopefully it'll lead to at least having someone to talk to about it but, thread carefully. Good luck

[Charly52]

I went over to to see my neighbour Friday afternoon to sort out the little job she wanted me to do and have a chat about last Saturday evening, she opened the door and thanked me for popping over and explained what she wanted my help with, all she wanted me to do was replace a couple of light bulbs on the stairs light which she could not reach to be honest it was only a five minute job for me.
I went back down the stairs to the kitchen and she thanked me for replacing the bulbs and asked me if I would like a tea coffee or glass of wine so I went for the wine she said good choice I?ll have one too. We both sat at the kitchen table and she again asked me if I was sure I didn?t mind talking about Saturday night although I was a little nervous but I said not at all. She asked me how long had I had been cross dressing and I said I can?t really remember but it?s many years ago when I was a lot younger, she said how on earth have you kept it secret all that time I said dressing at home when my partner was out or on holiday and being very careful. She asked why I crossed dressed and how does it make me feel, where did I get my clothes from and who taught me how to do makeup.
I said I guess I like to explore my feminine side the feeling for me being fully dressed with makeup and looking in the mirror and seeing someone else looking back and to be honest I love the feeling wearing a nice dress with stockings and sexy under wear.
Theses days I usually get my lingerie and clothes and makeup from the internet which is pretty anonymous but in the past I have brought from shops before the internet made it more convenient. I learned to do my makeup from YouTube and watching my partner, I said talking about makeup yours always looks fabulous how do make it look so good? She said thank you but I do my makeup every day and I?ve had years of practice.
I asked her what were her first thoughts when I opened the front door, she said It was a bit of a shock but I don?t judge and I could see the shock on your face too and the truth is you looked kinda nice, one thing I wanted to ask you is why were you wearing a wig when you have lovely long hair, I said I?ve tried lots of times to do some kind of feminine style but I can never get it right I?m ok with a bun or ponytail but that?s about my limit so hence the wig. At that point I said I had better go before my partner gets back from the shops, but I just wanted to say i really enjoyed our chat and thank you for not saying anything. She said I really enjoyed or chat too and let?s do it again and please don?t worry I won?t say a word to anyone and if you like I will help you with your hair and makeup in fact you help me out so the next time you get chance come over and I will do your hair and makeup for you if you would like me to. I said yes please if you really don?t mind, she gave me her mobile number and said ring me anytime. I left her house thinking how nice it was to really talk to someone after all this time and I?m really looking forward to next time.

[Geena75]

Wow, wow, WOW! You experienced what we dread the most and lived to tell of it. I admire your composure -- I probably would have shut the door and hid. Wonderful how it worked out for you -- what a nice neighbor! I would say you should definitely take her up on her offer.

[Maria 60]

Wow! I believe I would be sizing her up to see if she can hand anything down. Lol. Of coarse it must be beautiful to have this opportunity to talk to someone but in our position caution is always in our vocabulary, especially that your wife doesn't know and she does. Years ago we had a divorced niebour and our children became friends and my wife suggested to make things easier for my dressing we should tell her, after all we had an amazing relationship but I wasn't to convinced. Well I don't know what happened but we found out she was two faced and was talking trash about us behind our backs.
Then again when I was younger and still living at home I was being very adventurous and watching TV wearing jeans and with my pantyose feet up on the table. I hear the knock on the screen door and I see the lady next door. I ran to get my socks and answered the door, she handed me a package to give to my mom. She then asked if by any chance I was wearing pantyhose because she could swear she seen them. Being younger she told me that I could tell her and she wouldn't tell anyone. I told her I was and she closed the door behind her and wanted me to show her. I took off my socks and she asked me if I wear skirts and I told her no. She was solid to my secret and she would give me some of her old pantyhose now and then but for some reason it was never wierd between us. Hopefully everything will go good for you also and just keep up your guard and hopefully it could also maybe get exciting.

[JulieC]

It sounds very much like this is working out well. But, be careful... if you start spending more time over at her house, your partner might become concerned.

[Jenn A116]

What a wonderful followup experience! That neighbor sounds like a true friend. Please be sure to treat her well with your help around the house.

[CarlaWestin]

As you probably knew it was just a matter of time before you were discovered, you certainly won the M or F coin toss.
And then you get extra sprinkles and a cherry cuz she wants to play along. I write fictional stories about this stuff.

[April Rose]

Just a note of caution here. It is great you were able to have this talk with your neighbor. But if she is going to do your hair and makeup, now you are talking about a rather personal activity with a female neighbor that your wife doesn't know about. I can see some potential problems there. Is this woman close enough to your age that your wife might perceive her as a threat?

I'm not telling you what to do; you know the situation and I don't. I'm just saying, proceed with caution. Don't let the pink fog cloud your judgement.

[BrendaPDX]

Wow, great chance meeting. Hasn't happened to me yet. Thanks for sharing.

[Leslie Mary S]

I, also, have, as of yet, not meet any of my neighbors while dressed, but a few have seen me coming or going since I have to walk between my home and parking lot (Normally at night on a well lite street). I live in a narrow-mined area.

I have even contemplated going 24/7, but then I would have to move my mobile home which has sat on this site since Feb 1994.

[Diane P]

Charly I'm glad to hear your talk with your neighbor went well. That's fantastic that she is suggesting doing your hair and makeup. Looks like you have a good friend there. Is she an older lady or somewhere close to your age?

[Charly52]

Hi Diane I?m guessing she is probably a little younger than me she certainly looks it but I would never ask.

[SaraLin]

I'll echo a concern that several others have voiced.
Be careful with how much or how often you share with your new supporter.
I can picture how it could get your (and perhaps her) feelings tangled up and cause "difficulties" in your marriage - things like "Why am I with X when Y supports and understands me?"
I'm not saying it will happen in your case. I'm just saying to be careful.

[Lacey New]

The wink from your neighbor may indicate that she will keep your secret safe but also that she suspects that you might have been going out for something more than a simple drive about town. It might be some interesting conversation when you go and do a few odd jobs for her.

[audreyinalbany]

I had a conversation years ago with the owner of a local consignment shop. When I told her I wished I had a GG in whom I could confide my secret her response was, "aren't you afraid that you'd fall in love with her?" That's a concern. when someone accepts you while your spouse doesn't, it can only lead to problems

[alwayshave]

Charly, that followup conversation is wonderful. I'm glad you have found an ally.

[NancyJ]

Charly, To be honest, there is a part of me that would like this to happen to me, but of course the risk is great as the neighbor would have to be the right kind of understanding and accepting person. I also do handyman chores sometimes for a single woman neighbor sometimes, and there is part of me that would like her to know, but I will never tell her. For one thing, my wife would never approve, but I would like to share the secret if I knew it would be kept in confidence and would be accepted. Nancy

[Crissy 107]

As much as this sounds wonderful, and gosh it does, there are Red flags all over it. If it were just you living alone I would say go all in if you wanted to. The fact is your SO does not know about anything so you may be risking a lot.

[Charly52]

The wink from your neighbor may indicate that she will keep your secret safe but also that she suspects that you might have been going out for something more than a simple drive about town. It might be some interesting conversation when you go and do a few odd jobs for her.

That question didn?t come up!! In our chat but I?m sure it probably will next time.

- - - Updated - - -

I just wanted to say thank you to you all and I really appreciate your advice and concerns and I do understand the risks but unfortunately I didn?t have a lot of choice to confide in my neighbour as she really caught me red handed so to speak, I have known the lady for quite a few years and we have always got on really well and as I said before l do the odd job for her as I do with some of our other neighbours, fortunately for me she is not really in my partners circle of friends like some of our other neighbours.

[Kitty Sue]

A positive experience. So great to hear of these. A pleasant change from all the hatred our community is getting in certain places.

[AmyJordan]

Hi Charly, there's a line in a song that goes "there may be trouble ahead" I only know that if I was doing something so intimate and such a big part of me but keeping it secret from my wife not only would she a) be incredibly hurt , not something I would ever want to do to her. b) probably distrustful of you ever again and c) bounce me off every wall in the house. I seriously ask you to reconsider, it may seem exciting in the short term but long term could be devastating.

[Fiona_44]

Nice story but I would not go anywhere near her suggestions for doing your hair and makeup, just stick to short verbal interactions.

[Jasmine23]

I think you should thread carefully, whether you like it or not your neighbour now knows your secret, she can reveal this anytime, so you need to keep her on your side, but, also try to keep your distance. Regarding her offer to do your hair and makeup, if you refuse, she may be offended and might reveal your secret. If you go along with her, she might want you to go further eg, on a shopping trip or night out, so things could escalate. It's important that she doesn't hold this over you to coercion you into doing anything you're uncomfortable with, while it seems like she has the best intentions, proceed with caution. I wish you good luck and hopefully it goes well for you

[Leslie Mary S]

I think it now time for you to consider telling you spouse before someone else does for you.
It is the only thing you can do because everyone else is holding your future in their minds.
Chances are your spouse already knows more about you secret than you think she knows.

[Staci]

I don?t know what I would do. That would be a huge surprise and I am not sure it would go that well. But it might be fun to find out. I am happy for you that it went so well. It has to be a bit of a relief to.

[CDMargret]

Wow what an encounter. So glad it's turning out positive for you. Thank you for sharing. I'm eager to hear how your next visit over hair and make up goes.

[Charly52]

I will definitely do a update when the next opportunity arises.

[Charly52]

I saw my neighbour Saturday afternoon and she asked if I was going out this weekend and did I still want her help with hair and makeup, I said unfortunately I can?t go out this weekend as my partner is home all weekend, but I?m planning to go out next Saturday as my partners friend is picking her up just after lunch time and they won?t be home until late evening, so if you don?t have plans could I pop over later in the afternoon and she said that would be fine as I have nothing planned.
I must admit I?m really looking forward to my first makeover.

[Crissy 107]

Charly, I can understand your excitement about this but please be careful. My opinion is if/when your partner finds out it will not be good.

[ColleenA]

I think it now time for you to consider telling you spouse before someone else does for you. ... everyone else is holding your future in their minds.

This statement makes so much sense to me. But I have no idea if you have previously tried to test the waters on this topic to get a sense of your partner's thoughts.
And if you do tell her, she will probably ask at some point, who else knows about Charly? I recommend leaving the neighbor out of it completely in that first conversation. This must start out as something that you are "choosing" to share with her and her alone.

[char GG]

I don't know the situation with your partner but since you seem to go out when they are gone, I'm assuming that your CDing isn't revealed. Or if it is, it's not discussed.

That said, it seems you may be pushing the limits by going over to get help with makeup help by your neighbor. If you want makeup help, maybe it's best to go to someone that does makeup professionally, at a public place, and leave the neighbor out of the equation. Just the dynamics of taking your CDing to your neighbor's home is a red flag to some. It could be good or go bad quickly.

Of course, you will do what you want to do. Just think of all of the possibilities before you commit to taking this step. Don't let excitement cloud your judgement.

[JulieC]

I really think that going to the neighbors for crossdressing related purposes is a seriously bad idea. Go over to do an odd job? Sure. Crossdressing?

Everyone has reasons for their spouses not knowing. When they discover, it's rare that spouses take it perfectly well. If by some chance you get discovered by your spouse at your neighbor's house doing something crossdressing, I wouldn't be at all surprised if she asks for a divorce. This is a bridge too far. Don't do it.

And, if possible, tell your spouse sooner rather than later. We can't judge your situation with your spouse of course. But, going next door? No. This is a bad, bad move.

[ColleenA]

I haven't been on this website much for quite some time. Right now I am catching up on a range of posts. And I just found an old post pertinent to this discussion. The following is from the "Ask a GG - Three" thread, circa Aug. 2020 (the specific posts are #28 and 29 on that thread):

" ... if you were (the wife) in a DADT marriage what would your response be to this relationship if it became known to you?"

"No no and no! If the husband was totally transparent and told his wife about this other woman, then maybe it would be ok, depending on a lot of things. Big maybe. Otherwise, what he is doing is sneaking around claiming it's emotional support but keeping it a secret. I would be livid. That behavior is so disrespectful." (This responder, btw, is Super Moderator char GG. Her responses, years apart, are consistent.)

Charly52, if you're still contemplating going over to your neighbor's, I would recommend you review those posts and a few subsequent ones where the ladies discuss how your wife could consider it an emotional affair and a betrayal.

[Leslie Mary S]

Remember Charli, when you do tell your DADT spouse, say absolutely NOTHING about your neighbor. To do so is like pouring Gasoline on a fire.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

Charly, you've no doubt noticed the overwhelming majority saying that you're playing with fire. And they're probably right.

BUT, I'd likely do the same thing if I was in your place. It does sound like a lot of fun! Personally, I'm looking forward to more updates!

[Joaney]

My sister caught me when I was 12 dressed up in her clothes, I just couldn?t resist the feel of nylons/stockings/panties/lingerie, women?s clothes on my body, especially high heeled shoes. Something about wearing them and being very feminine made me tingle. Love it still today and I am 55 now. She didn?t tell my parents and even shopped for me sometimes for what I wanted to wear.