View Full Version : Driving 24 hrs in 2 days alone. Fem comfy or fem dress up?
Beano980
07-17-2023, 04:03 PM
Hi everyone. I just learned I will be driving for work, alone, 12 hrs one way. Out and back on back to back days. It may stretch into 3 days if I get too road weary. So, a TON of driving. I've never done it, but I'm considering driving in fem. But with that many miles to drive, I'm thinking comfort over fabulous? Any thoughts? Anything I should be on the look out to watch out for? Im thinking cute t shirt and yoga pants, but a dress is exciting to think about. Possibly a skirt and a T shirt? I don't think I'm very passable, but I need to challenge myself more and get out of my comfort zone I think.
Karren H
07-17-2023, 04:19 PM
I used to love business trips like that! I would go all out and wear a dress or a skirt!
Emily in the south
07-17-2023, 04:59 PM
I agree with Karren, a dress or skirt outfit would be very tempting to me.
My longest drive so far is has been to Dallas, about five hours away. In the hot summer weather, I wear girl shorts, a nice cami, and flats.
Since this is an opportunity that likely may not come around often, that may be a big factor.. go for a nice skirt outfit!
Emily
BrendaPDX
07-17-2023, 05:17 PM
Good for you, sounds like fun. I am thinking a skirt and woman's t-shirt; easy to put on a pair of jeans and shirt if you need too. Oh, and definitely bring some heels. Have fun, let us know how it went.
JulieC
07-17-2023, 05:19 PM
I have to agree with Emily; if this is an opportunity that doesn't come up often, take FULL advantage of it! I would go with a dress or skirt.
Pick gender neutral places for restrooms. Starbucks are good. Good luck and let us know how it goes!
char GG
07-17-2023, 06:50 PM
It sounds like you are excited.
What you didn't say is whether or not you will be driving a company vehicle (with or without logo), or if you are driving your own car.
If it's a company car, be careful. You may be seen and/or it may get back to the company.
TheHiddenMe
07-17-2023, 07:52 PM
What goes up, must come down, right?
Choose one outfit for the trip there and the second for the trip back.
Patience
07-17-2023, 08:33 PM
I'd see what GGs usually wear for long trips and try to replicate it.
Going out of your comfort zone doesn't mean you have to be uncomfortable. Wearing something fancy imo would be kind of a waste because:
A) Very few people would see you in it.
B) You'll be increasing wear and tear (sweat, etc) on a possibly more expensive garment.
C) You'll be dying to get out of the outfit and into a shower by the time you arrive. I don't know about you, but I know I'm not in the mood to fold things neatly in that circumstance.
T-shirt and a skirt sound fab. Capris would work too.
Ann Simpson
07-17-2023, 09:19 PM
POV-- go for it!
Company vehicle..... oh boy, really have to think about it...too many 'what ifs'.....
Claire M
07-17-2023, 10:55 PM
Twelve hours driving per day will be brutal no matter what you wear. Dress comfy. Go for a skort and a nice t-shirt top with flats or even women's running shoes. You didn't say but should definitely consider if it was a company vehicle or what interaction you needed to do at the turn around point. Have fun!!
Vickie_CDTV
07-17-2023, 11:12 PM
Could wear a long and full maxi skirt, those are comfortable for driving (and for sitting) for long periods of time.
docrobbysherry
07-18-2023, 12:30 AM
Wear whatever u like on the road. No one will know or care.:battingeyelashes:
Then, change into whatever you're comfortable folks seeing u in for your pit stops!:heehee:
bridget thronton
07-18-2023, 01:31 AM
Summer dress and sandals if it is hot outside is my usual choice for long road trips
Helen_Highwater
07-18-2023, 03:45 AM
Simple A line skirt that comes just below the knee standing which will sit just above sitting. Scoop or vee necked tee and add a simple necklace and bracelet just to lift the whole thing. Flat or very low heeled shoes, do not be tempted to drive in any form of heels as the strain on your legs will soon become apparent if you're not used to it.
And yes, what goes out must come back so that says different outfit. If you do opt for a dress, remember not to get it caught in the door of the car if it's a full skirt.
Jillcder
07-18-2023, 05:15 AM
Some of my favorite dressing days included driving home 200 - 300 miles from a business trip totally dolled up in a cute dress or skirt if your driving on a four lane you will be amazed how many truckers will check out your legs. Char makes a great point if you driving a company vehicle be careful. Enjoy!
Beano980
07-18-2023, 07:47 AM
Thank you all for your input! It is a company car, but it's my company and there are no logos on it, so no worries there. I think I'm going with the skirt idea and a v neck t shirt if I call manage to pull off some cleavage. I have silicone hip pads, maybe too hot and sticky after a while? I don't shave my legs, do you think pantyhose to tights under my skirt would be too hot and uncomfortable?
bridget thronton
07-18-2023, 08:30 AM
I think pantyhose might be too warm to wear outside in the summer
Aunt Kelly
07-18-2023, 08:50 AM
Comfort, absolutely.
TheHiddenMe
07-18-2023, 10:19 PM
Skip the hose and just shave the legs. No one will care.
Jillcder
07-19-2023, 05:55 AM
I agree with Dee if at all possible shave your legs it will take your Crossdressing to the next level.
alwayshave
07-19-2023, 06:45 AM
I'd just wear a comfy skirt and top or leggings and top. Nothing too formal for a road trip.
CDMargret
07-19-2023, 07:20 AM
Leggings and a comfy blouse. Little white tennis shoes. What a nice way to help make the drive super fun. Most of all just enjoy yourself.
HollyGreene
07-19-2023, 09:43 AM
Is it even legal to drive for 12 hours in a day - especially for business purposes?
SheriM
07-19-2023, 09:56 AM
Go for a skirt and some pantyhose. Wear a wig and put on some makeup. Your car is air conditioned. Stop at a rest stop and enjoy a little walk.
JackieD
07-19-2023, 10:02 AM
Comfort most important. Long driving. 12 hours mean restroom. Some were some place. I would think about that are you going on highways with rest areas or going into town as Mickey D s.
docrobbysherry
07-19-2023, 10:48 AM
I wear skin toned tites every time I dress. At home or out, Summer, Winter, day or nite. My legs never perspire. But, then, I'm fairly slim.:battingeyelashes:
So even wearing silicone crop tops I seldom have over heating issues!:heehee:
jacques
07-19-2023, 11:42 AM
hello Beano,
that is a lot of driving. I would recommend comfortable clothing within your comfort zone, but definitely no heels!
luv J
countrygirl
07-19-2023, 05:00 PM
If it was me this would be a dream. Dress and comfy shoes.
Sometimes Steffi
07-19-2023, 05:50 PM
One thing no one has mentioned is the skirt. The first time I drove dressed I wore a midi jean skirt that was kind of tight around the calves. I had to learn how to get out of the car without falling or exposing myself and I had to shorten my stride to match the skirt hem.
MonicaPVD
07-20-2023, 06:10 AM
I once drove from New England ro Florida looking all pretty in a nice outfit. Never again. There's a reason why so many American women walk around looking like they just rolled out of bed: comfort!!! I finally gave in and accepted that reality. When driving long distance the uniform comes out, leggings, t-shirt, sneakers. Let's go!
Heather76
07-21-2023, 02:35 AM
I would opt for comfort as I did this past week. I wore jeans, tennis shoes, a 3/4 sleeve top, makeup, wig, press on nails, basic jewelry, panties, bra, and forms. I enjoyed the femme apparel with total comfort. My intent is to blend as best as I can and I think I accomplished that goal.
Beano980
07-24-2023, 07:52 AM
Thank you all for your wonderful replies. Here is the update. In all honesty, I lost my nerve. I packed a comfy skirt, leggings, couple of cute tops, forms, hip pads, wig, brought my makeup. Shaved my chest, worked on some very passable cleavage and was very much looking forward to the trip. I left the house underdressed ( as always) and started my trip with the idea I would change later in the car.
I did not. For me, the goal has always been to be passable. I do not think I am. My thoughts started to lean towards the negative self talk of, " I'm clearly a man dressed as a woman, I'm not pretty, I have no right to push my desire to be seen as a woman on strangers" then the thoughts went a bit darker, to " This is purely sexual foreplay and its terrible to make others part of it, Its metal illness". Yuck. So, I just drove, and drove and drove. Once I decided not to fully dress, the thoughts receded and I was able to manage the drive nicely. I really have no idea how to push past those thoughts, I have tried twice, and failed both times. I need to spend some time working thru why I even care if complete strangers, that I will never see again, clock me. Why should that matter at all to me? But, it does. Uggg.
JulieC
07-24-2023, 07:25 PM
Beano, I get it. I really do. I constantly second guess myself, and very frequently talk myself out of it. I have zero chance to be passable, I know it, and I try hard to be in public, be safe, but not be seen. Mutually exclusive requirements usually. So, I talk myself out of it far more often than not. But...but...
You are NOT pushing foreplay onto other people. Maybe there's a byproduct of dressing that causes satisfaction for yourself, but nobody is involved in that. AT ALL.
You are NOT suffering from a mental illness. You are you, born this way, there isn't any changing it than you can change your blood type. There is nothing wrong about being YOU. There is nothing wrong about you being a MIAD and my than there is anything wrong with you being a man in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt.
You do NOT have to be passable. If the goal is to be passable, and if you're anything like me, you'll never reach the goal. Set realistic goals.
You do NOT have to be pretty to anyone else. Be you. All the other positions are taken.
I'm glad you managed the drive well!
LisaMarieDayton
07-25-2023, 06:31 AM
I'm driving from Ohio to Florida next week. I'm just going to wear a summer dress or Jean shorts and t-shirt. I'm all about being comfy on long drives!
andreanna
07-25-2023, 07:00 AM
I would make the trip a few days longer, 12 hours is way too much driving. Commercial drivers are only allowd 11 hours of driving per day and most only make it about 10 hours. It has been proven that after 9.5 and 10 hours that drowsiness starts setting in and your mind starts to wander. been there, done that. and in canada commercial is allowed 13 hours. stay safe and take a few hours off.
Jenn A116
07-25-2023, 08:14 AM
I'm driving from Ohio to Florida next week. I'm just going to wear a summer dress or Jean shorts and t-shirt. I'm all about being comfy on long drives!
I did the opposite drive in May. But in guy mode. Looking at your screen name, I suspect I was visiting your home town. Found most of the trip on I-75 boring until I got up into the mountainous area. I did stop and a couple of Bucee's along the way for good prices on gas and interesting food options.
Hope you've planned an overnight stop rather than a straight through drive. And avoid Atlanta, no matter what Waze says. ;)
LisaMarieDayton
07-25-2023, 08:40 AM
Jenn, I'm going to go through Alabama and avoid Georgia lol. Definitely going to stop for the night!
Rhonda Jean
07-25-2023, 09:00 AM
I'm getting so old. I hate the thought of a 12 hour drive, much less 2 on consecutive days. I'd plan bathroom stops ahead of time instead of having to take whatever is available when the need arises. Go before you need to. I've done the dress and heels all-out thing on 5 hour drives, but these days there's no way I'd do that. I'd wear shorts and a loose top (like a peasant top). I don't know what you have to do when you get there, but if you can get away with it, I'd get a mani-pedi before I left and wear sandals or flip flops. I'd dress that up with jewelry.
For me, this requires more planning than doing it in male mode. Plan. Think about what it's going to be like checking into a hotel after 12 hours on the road. Pack some male clothes in case you need them on the way as well as makeup wipes and nail polish remover. Just sayin'. I understand the excitement of going with no male alternative, but you've got to be real. Stuff happens.
abby054
07-26-2023, 08:09 AM
24 hours in two days. For me, that would be Seattle to Denver with an overnight in Bozeman. There will be snow somewhere along that route any day of the year. Comfort for the win.
But really, for that distance, going on a business trip alone, that is what airlines are for. Not comfortable from airport to airport and clothing cannot mitigate that but the discomfort will be relatively brief.
What I wore the last time I tried a long trip by car en femme, it was Portland to Spokane on I84 and US395, about eight hours in early winter. I wore a loose tunic with a light jacket, leggings, and riding boots. Comfort for the win. In the seat beside me, I had my big parka, thick hat, heavy scarf, and mittens. I stocked up my full winter car trouble kit because the route is through the desert where even small towns are rare. BTW, I am driving Spokane to the Oregon coast tomorrow. Again, comfort for the win. Wish me luck.
Davina2833
07-26-2023, 08:28 AM
LisaMarieDayton,
Try stopping in Hoover, AL just below B'ham. A castle of a Renassiance Hotel. Real class.
during my traveling days I spent over a hundred nights there (1st guess to do so). We still
stay there a couple of times a year. PM me if you want details.
Davina
Rhonda M.
08-12-2023, 12:01 PM
I thought about doing this on one of my frequent out and back trips in the morning but then my car broke down and I needed to have it towed. That's kinda thrown cold water on the idea. :o
Claire M
08-26-2023, 09:24 AM
If you already made your drive, hope it went well and you were able to enjoy some of it en femme. As for the leg hair issue, most GGs I know avoid panty hose in hot weather if they can for a reason! If you can't shave and the hair is extremely obvious go with a nice cool maxi sun dress and sandals. It makes a very comfortable and cute outfit.
agapoula19
08-27-2023, 06:42 PM
That sounds like fun, especially the dress! It will be interesting when you stop for gas and snacks! :)
Rochelle76
09-02-2023, 02:13 AM
Personally, I would wear a cute short skirt, v-neck tee and cute pointy toe flats or sandals.
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