Simply seeing me in the mirror.

[Jane G]

So as many here will know I have been crossdressing since childhood. So after so many years it is a wonderful feeling to simply see myself in the mirror when dressed or drab. For several years now the makeup and wig have not made much difference to what I see, though they alter my outward appearance greatly. I see the same person makeup or no makeup wig or no wig. I love this self acceptance it took so many decades to find it and I'm confident it will never leave me.

It's great just being me. How many others have found this happy place?

[docrobbysherry]

How nice, Jane! U r very lucky!:battingeyelashes:

I HATE seeing me in a mirror. Dressed or drab.:doh:

However, seeing Sherry there is such a joy!:daydreaming:

[Jane G]

A different kind of happy place doc. I'm both happy with me as a peacock, as I believe is my wife, as well as the pink me. In a perfect world the pink me wins though, but that can never be, so I will go with what I have.

[kimdl93]

Honestly, I do not see the same person w/o makeup and wig. Not even close. I much prefer the appearance of the woman in the mirror over the aging male reflection.

[Maria 60]

Seems the women in the mirror has less problems then the male but I like what I see in both mirrors

[Di]

Self acceptance
Priceless

[audreyinalbany]

for me, I wish I looked as good in photographs as I do in the mirror (orin my mind). still working on the 'self acceptance' thing

[Bri]

I think I have, like you it took decades of guilt and hiding and uncertainty, although I will say that I didn't wonder if I was gay for long. I knew I liked girls very early on. Nothing against gay or trans or any other persuasion but it's just not for me.

[Debbie Denier]

I did find self acceptance. Like you I see myself in the mirror irrespective of whether or not in fem mode. My problem is the non acceptance of my wife. It would be better to share the experience. As many here will know . I found acceptance from my late mother. However since she passed away , a lot of Debbie has too. The wardrobe and facilities to dress have gone. I accept this is part of me . I can?t make others do the same.

[Karren H]

I mainly look at my breasts when ever I pass a mirror! Dressed or not. I really hate seeing how badly my face is aging but a couple perky boobs helps or at a minimum distracts my attention. Lol.

[alwayshave]

Jane, That is wonderful. For me, the wig makes all the difference in how I feel.

[Diane P]

Jane, I do see the same person, male mode or female mode, but I like the female mode much better because I feel that is the true me. However I am happy enough with myself, as a whole person male/female, that I have no desire to transition from being male to being female.

[Jane G]

Diane, much of the difficulty over the years was excepting the male me. Seeing and feeling content as the female in the mirror was often much easier, in my formative years.

[Claire M]

Jane, I too see the same person drab or en femme, I just accept that one is real and one is a costume ..... although sometimes I can't decide which is which !

[Debs]

love the mirror, make sure I am amazing before I step out of the door, lol

[Cheryl T]

I don't like what I see when drab and I avoid mirrors.
Otherwise I only use them when dressing or checking things later on. I try to not constantly view my reflection. I did that early on when I started going out, but now I don't feel the need.

[MoniqueAsh743]

I am still recently new into the full makeup thing. I like the mirror to watch my transformation and when the wig goes on just cements the change

[EmilyShy]

I'm not there yet lol. I like looking at Emily in the mirror or photos (make up needs lots of practice lol) but drab me I'm never happy with. Maybe one day.

[Jane G]

I don't like what I see when drab and I avoid mirrors.
Otherwise I only use them when dressing or checking things later on. I try to not constantly view my reflection. I did that early on when I started going out, but now I don't feel the need.

I used the word mirror as a metaphore more than a physical object. It is what my head sees dressed or not, rather than what my eyes see. How I feel as much as how I look. I'm just me. Where for much of my life there were different sides, often fighting one another.

[Cheryl T]

Jane,
If we speak of what's in my head then it's always the me you see hear.
I don't like the other side of me and much prefer this side. It's progressed over the years to the point where I only want this side.

[JohnH]

I have a couple of nightgowns that emphasize my bust. So in the morning I see a woman staring back at me when I am in front of the mirror. But when I sing with my relaxed vocal cords I hear an oktavist voice that should be coming out of a tall Russian man with a beard, down to G1, three ledger lines below the bass staff.

[Staci]

While I may not see the woman I want to look like, I still like seeing myself as a prettier version of myself. Since my wife helped me with how to apply makeup I look a lot nicer. When I look in the mirror I feel pretty.

[JohnH]

Staci, you have a wonderful wife.