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[Steph_CD_62]

As I posted about a month ago, while the wife and I were on vacation, she suggested that I get dressed up and enjoy myself while we were driving to her mom's place. Out of the 4 days of travel time I only interreacted one time with others, and it was a positive reaction, but that was only because of the support and encouragement of my wife.

Yesterday I sat down and told my wife I would like to go out in public with her again while I was dressed as a woman. She kind of rolled her eyes and said she thought this would probably happen. She wasn't against the idea and kind of gave me the impression she would be willing to do it again. But I told her if she really didn't want to do it, then that would be okay too.

I told her she could pick the time we do this, and I didn't care if it is in 1 month or a year, and she said it probably wouldn't be that far away. I also told her; she could pick the activity and how I was dressed. I suggested that I don't wear a dress if she plans on wearing sweatpants and a t-shirt. I told her that we should be dressed similar as not to draw attention to us.

I figured that I won't bring up the subject again for a while (if ever), so not to put any pressure on her.

I told her that her comfort level (and sanity) was more important to me than us going out as a couple of girlfriends. I know we will have to leave this small town we live in, because neither of us is comfortable for me to be seen as a woman by friends, family and/or co-workers.

It took me a couple of weeks to get the courage to ask her this, but again she was supportive, and I am not sure why I get so nervous to ask her these types of questions.

[sara_also]

Make sure to plan something for her. Sounds like a wonderful lady !!!!

[Shannon Lace]

I would love to have your type of relationship with my wife. Your relationship is awesome. Enjoy and treat her like a queen.

[char GG]

Obviously, I don't know your wife. However, I wonder if she thought her suggestion to get dressed up the first time would fulfill a need for you; not to start something.

It seems that more communication should be happening. If she rolled her eyes at your request, there is something on her mind. She seems to be doing this for YOU, not for her.

She wants you to be happy. Just make sure that there are reciprocal things happening.

[Maria 60]

I dont blame you for approaching with caution. Women are very unpredictable. I speak very freely to my wife but when it comes to the fem side I feel her out first and I don't push to hard . Usally timing is everything but you know your wife best and it seems like she's very supportive. I don't blame you for being nervous we don't want to blow what took years to build

[Raven Skyy]

She sounds like a treasure. My girlfriend and I have planned to go to Las Vegas for the weekend unfortunately it's never happened.

[bridget thronton]

Keep talking - you have a good wife

[kimdl93]

I am glad to hear that your wife and you are equally considerate, supportive and patient with each other.

[Jillcder]

I love hearing about supportive wives it gives me hope that someday I can experience the joy of dressing with my wife.

[oh to be rachel]

This forum needs to have FaceBook-esk thumbs up or hearts or something. This post is so deserving.

[jjjjohanne]

I get nervous in those types of conversations too. Could it be a nervous experience because we are asking to be loved just like we are, but we have doubts?

[docrobbysherry]

Sadly, guilt and shame r strong in us older dressers, Steph.:sad:

[Steph_CD_62]

Well, she hasn't mentioned anything about us going out as girlfriends, but she asked if we could go to the casino again and without hesitation I said yes.

With all the support she has given me, I always treat her as a Queen, even giving her yellow roses just for no reason. I am always willing to help her when she asks for it. And if she wants to do anything, I always tell her yes.

I try to communicate with her as much as possible when it comes to my dressing and doing something different or wanting to buy something new. When we were buying me women's jeans for the 1st time, she is the one that suggested that I try them on to make sure they were the right size, true we were at Wal-Mart, but she got me a couple different sizes since the first couple sizes were too big.

I understand that communication is the key to any relationship. I also understand that communicating to her about my dressing is a little more difficult for me of the guilt of wanting things that are as acceptable by society, plus I never want to make her uncomfortable with anything I might wear or things I want to do.

[alwayshave]

Steph, It's wonderful that you are speaking to your wife about your needs and she is receptive.

[Krisi]

It has long been my desire to go out in public with my wife as sisters or girlfriends as well, but I don't see that happening. She tolerates my dressing, but I think she tolerated it a bit better a couple of years ago.

All the "transgender" stuff in the news may have altered her thinking a bit.