I asked my wife's opinion

[Heather76]

This past Monday, I had an appointment with the retina specialist as well as appointment to pick new glasses with prisms in the left lens and left bi-focal lens. I had some time to kill between the appointments which meant a trip to Kohl's with a 30% off coupon. I only go to the clearance racks. I found a $40.00 wrap dress marked down to $18.00. With the 30% coupon, I paid $13.48, including tax, for it. When I wore it after dinner tonight, I asked my wife, "I know you don't care for it on me; but, how do you like my $13.00 dress?" She said it was nice but not something she would get for herself. I then asked her when I go shopping for myself, would she mind if I looked for something for her. I told her if she didn't care for it, returning it wouldn't hurt my feelings at all. She said that although she likes to do her own shopping, that would be okay so long as my feelings wouldn't be hurt if she returned it.

I like these little conversations as I believe they help break down, if only a little bit, some of the objections to CDing. Every itty bitty step is important.

[Crissy 107]

Heather, Oh yes, totally agree it definitely goes to acceptance. Sometimes it is the little things that count.

[Debs]

One Xmas my wife insisted that I bought her clothes for presents, I said fine, I kept the reciepts, and guess what ?, she returned every item. It'll be a cold day in hell before she asks me to do it again, lol

[bridget thronton]

Good job on communication with your wife

[Jane G]

That's cool.

[Steph_CD_62]

Glad to hear that your is accepting of your dressing, and that she wouldn't mind if you shopped for her too.
I'm happy to hear that you said your feelings wouldn't be hurt if she returned things, you bought her.
When my wife are out shopping together I've found things that I thought she might like, but she usually turns her nose up at it so I wouldn't even think about buying her anything.

Glad to hear that the 2 of you have great communication

[Maria 60]

Well I believe the good thing is it sounds like calm and agreeing communication. That's always good.

[BLUE ORCHID]

I have been buying clothes for my:love:Wife for years with no Problems;

A return maybe for size or Color,

[Diane P]

heather, it sounds like you had a great conversation with your wife.

[alwayshave]

Heather, my wife and I have totally different styles. I could never buy her clothing.

[Johnjo]

That?s encouraging Heather. As you say, small steps and helpful conversations.

[IJCCharlotte]

Thanks for sharing, Heather! I'm glad to hear that you and your wife had a positive conversation about CD. My wife and I are both new to this, and sometimes I fear talking about it openly because we are extremely close otherwise in all aspects of our marriage. It makes having a divide between us because of CD that much harder because even small conversations have the potential to go poorly and that frightens me.