Dressing for the thrill of it or for a purpose?

[docrobbysherry]

That is the question? When I began and for about the next 15+ years it was for the excitement, thrill, and novelty of it, mostly!:o

But, that has changed over the last 10 years. Now, my dressing is purpose driven. I only dress for photo shoots, outings, or try on sessions. And, that old, familiar, pleasurable stimulation rarely kicks in while I'm concentrating on what I'm doing rather than relaxing and absorbing the distracting sensations that come with dressing. Sometimes after I finish a shoot those old sensations hit me.:)
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But, not so often.:sad:

Anyone else relate?:daydreaming:

[Natalie5004]

Well, I am feeling normal in Natalie's clothes. Maybe I am doing this too often.

[stefcd1]

For me, it is for the thrill. Just can't explain how exciting it feels to be out in public completely as female, dining, trying on dresses, looking through bras and panties, etc. A counselor told me it is my way of playing. Don't really care what it is, just feels so good.

[Fiona_44]

I live full time as a woman so for me it is my way of life.

[kimdl93]

I have no purpose beyond feeling at ease.

[Georgina]

I have two sets of clothes, male for work and female for leisure. I wear both during the week but at weekends it is usually total female. I have met other cd while dressed and also some male and female friends. Next month I will have my first outing among the public.

[SuzyZahn]

`purpose driven`,,,,Hmm,,,many delightful out comes there at times.

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Is there a too much?

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Its wonderful to get to the point as when in fem attire one feels `normal`,,,`at ease`

[alwayshave]

I dress for the thrill of it. There really is no purpose unless you count thrill as the purpose.

[Heather76]

The few times I wore my mom's bras and girdles as well as my 1st wife's pantyhose, it was definitely for the thrill of it. However, when I started CDing 3 1/2 years ago, it began as my current wife said something that reminded me of those adventures so many, many years ago. I don't know if I expected the same thrill or not because at just shy of age 75 and having survived prostate cancer surgery, I haven't had a true thrill since 2007. What I do know, is it took about a week of wearing panties to realize I liked them a whole lot more than my tighty whities. Now, a bit over 3 1/2 years into this CD journey, I can say with 100% certainty, I simply feel more comfortable and natural in panties, bras, nylons, forms, ladies' jewelry, and dresses than I ever feel when wearing my drab clothing. I only wish I could dress this way 24/7; but, as a longtime friend of mine says: "If wishes and buts were candy and nuts, what a Merry Christmas we'd have."

[Helen_Highwater]

Looking back, the earliest times of trying on femme things when young, I wasn't drawn to wearing them for the thrill although once on there was a certain excitement.

I would say that the lure of women's clothing had a deeper set appeal than thrill seeking and as time has passed any thrill has died away. Yes, going out can get the adrenaline going somewhat but that's not the clothes, it's more the adventure I'm undertaking.

If I had to pick an adjective it would more likely be comfort. Feeling of being in my natural state.

[Debs]

Thrill always !!!, Purpose to look gorgeous !!!!, lol bring it on girls !!!!

[SaraLin]

I guess I'd have to say "purpose."
I began this whole journey very young, because I felt "right" in feminine garb. My purpose is trying to look like I feel inside.

Sure, there was a certain "thrill" to it in the beginning, but it was more like the thrill a teenager gets from passing their driving test - FREEDOM!
And like the drivers' license, it's become more of a "regular" thing, but I still like it and can't imagine my life without it.

[Jillcder]

When Im out in public its for the thrill of it at home it is just pure enjoyment and relaxation.

[Sabine7]

I am dressing for purpose which is to feel like a woman and to become a woman for some time.
My feminized brain requires that. When already in a female mode I feel the thrill and a sweet accomplishment.
I think it is more about femininity itself than crossdressing in my case.

[Leah87]

Maybe it's because opportunities to dress are limited at the moment, but for me it's the thrill and excitement. There is, however, an underlying ongoing purpose which is to try, where and if possible, to improve my feminine appearance when said opportunities arise. Not sure if that makes any sense. I could've worded things a bit better, perhaps.

[gina shiney]

I guess it depends.
I just feel comfortable when wearing nice clothing. the feel is still important and definitely have not progressed to drab female attire just to wear female clothing. As for the thrill, well I don't have any male undergarments, and my selection is mainly silks, or synthetic equivalent that these days is just normal. At times I might use lingerie items that just by their nature and meant to thrill and excite.
As is Summer down here am spending a lot of my time just wearing one piece swimsuits around the house and over at my girlfriends.
There its casual as we don't have many visitors, so dresses are the norm. Home is a bit different as still have 2 adult children residing, they are aware of my choices but I choose (when they are around) not too show that increasing part of my life. Have had 7 days to myself and am expecting that to continue till the weekend as that's when they will return from ex's.
I have been quite busy cleaning up and sorting through my collection (donating some to charity) and reorganising wardrobes. Amazing how those shoes just build up. Getting work done to have dresser made more usable with better lighting so as to be able to practice make-up at home rather than have it done for me at other place in preparation to going out more frequently and during the day.
So yes I suppose I do get the thrill but its for a look.

[Stephanie47]

Donning women's clothing use to stimulate the juices when I was a teenager, followed by loathing and disgust. Later, I found wearing women's clothing offered an escape from work stress and combat related PTSD. Now, if given the opportunity it's relaxation. I feel the same, whether attired in a dress and heels or a pair of my grubby cutoff men's jeans and tee-shirt.

[Cheryl T]

Of course I can relate.
My early years were certainly driven by the excitement and thrill of the "forbidden".
As time went on it dissipated to the point where now it's just because I feel like the true me so much more than that drab imposter.

[Abbyru1]

Yes during times in my past when tried on what ever women's clothing I had available to me, it was for the thrill- a real puberty thing most of us have gone thru. Now, it's because while I will never" pass"-and really don't have a desire to- it's more that I like the feel and the look. Like wearing nail polish or a bra or panties, sleeping in a night gown and more.

[Angela Marie]

I came out, at least to myself, as trans last year. You wouldn't think it was tough to admit it to yourself but trust me it was. I dress because I want to be seen as a woman.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I used to be the thrill, and the sexual excitement (I believe that's common here). But nowadays it's more, just, normal. Comfort is also a big part of it, but it's hard to explain the bra when you're talking comfort. I'm going with normal.

[docrobbysherry]

I omitted it in my OP but I would certainly consider trans dressing to express their woman inside feelings as being purpose driven!:battingeyelashes:

However, I also feel sad that u never get a thrill from it. Because presenting fully as a woman often or every day can be a lot of work!:sad:

[Tip or Ozma]

Heather, your story is similar to mine. I have survived prostate cancer (radiation rather than surgery). I am a year older than you and my of twenty-nine years is accepting.

[Kelli_cd]

I really only under dress. I guess you could say there's some thrill involved. It's not a sexual thrill. It's just that knowing panties and a bra are the first things I put on in the morning makes me very happy. Every day starts off as a happy day.

[Bea_]

My dressing has never had a lot to do with thrills, at least not sexual thrills. But, the only purpose that I could credit my dressing with is the peace that I feel when I allow myself to explore my true taste. The only problem is that that peace with a tension in my marriage. My wife doesn't want me to be the man who would wear what I wear. It doesn't fit her idea of manhood. But, I don't really think I ever met her idea of what manhood should look like. So, instead of trying to meet some mysterious standard that she'd appreciate, i struck out on my own to find who I am and what my taste would be.

[Diane P]

I guess you could say i dress for a purpose and that purpose is that it just feels right, normal and natural to me to dress as a woman. Natalie, I don't think you are doing it too often if it feels normal to you.

[AmyJordan]

Hi my dressing is solely for the purpose of pleasing my wife and doing as I'm told, I wasn't a secret crossdresser and only begun with her instructions, any pleasure comes from her.

[ReallyLauren]

in the beginning it was the thrill for me. I interpreted it as a sexual thrill back then but now as I look back, more educated and self aware, it was probably a high level of gender euphoria. Now, it's just a matter of authenticity by being my real self as I go about my everyday business.

[AllieBellema]

For me it's for the thrill of it since I don't get out often. Especially with my southern belle dresses, I don't blend in well with public. So any dressing up is usually at home and infront of a large mirror just to see myself in all of my glory. Granted, I wouldn't mind getting out for a photoshoot at a park somewhere in one of my dresses... but a girl can dream, right?

[Michelle1955]

It is for the inner well being. My brain has always been in conflict with my body.
Basically a little less than 65 years ago as a very young kid. I usually state around 5 years old.
But I really think younger.

[Geena75]

There is a thrill to it anytime I get to really dress up. Occasions when I do, though, I usually have some purpose in mind, be it going to meet some other CDrs or going someplace specific or simply putting together an outfit and see how it looks. Still, there are times I work at coming up with that purpose because I want to dress up.

[Claire_with_a_twist]

So, I love dressing as a women and I do it for me. The purpose is to sooth the "female" itch inside me that wants to come out. I have always been like this since I was a kid. I have contemplated HRT's, but I got married and I love my wife and I know she isn't into "women" per-say.

[Jessica Secret]

In my case it's probably both. I love romantic lingerie, it's incredibly thrilling to see and feel myself in it, and at the same time I also wear my most romantic lingerie to bed when I want to get my boyfriend sexually excited.

[MarinaTwelve200]

Both, I suppose, primarily to relax and release STRESS, and secondarily for the thrills There IS an erotic element, but also it is fun to feel and look "pretty" and a further "challenge" to try different looks.

[Sandi Beech]

Sometimes I am not sure what drives me. I know I like the attention. I love meeting new people and the opportunity to talk with others about my crossdressing habit.

It seems as if just about every time I have self doubt, I end up having a great time during an outing. It keeps me coming back for more. I only dress up to go out now. That is my only purpose, to dress and interact socially.

Additive it is. Life is very different as Sandi

[Sharon budd]

Are we talking about a sexual thrill? If so then yes, definitely when younger.
Not now though, which is great because the guilt goes also.
Hugs x

[danniUK]

It was definitely for the sexual thrill when I started dressing. It took me the longest time to realise that the feeling of femininity that came from dressing had such a powerful effect on me and feeling sexy was just part of it. Now I dress with the purpose of feeling feminine - it's the side of me I'd been denying for years that makes me feel complete. Yes, sometimes it's a thrill but not always - whereas it always makes me feel content.

[Nathalia]

Back in my younger years I do it for pleasure but as time goes by its becoming more natural for me to dress feminine.

[Phoebe Reece]

There are many different components to why I crossdress. However, the bottom line is that when it becomes more trouble than its worth and it's no longer a fun activity, I will simply stop doing it. I have several crossdresser friends that have stopped crossdressing - not because of their partner's disapproval, but because it wasn't as much fun for them as it used to be. I used to not understand that, but I do now.

[KimmieRobins]

I do it because it makes me happier. There?s certainly a thrill component, but mostly I dress to be happier, which I feel is a purpose.

[JoyceAnn]

In my younger days, it was more of a thrill. Today, I think of dressing up as purposeful; a natural extension of my personality. It really always has been, but I see that more clearly now.

[Sabine7]

Normally, I dress for purpose to satisfy my internal woman to feel girly. However, today I had a thrill when having dressed for the first time my new corset with E cups filled with silicon forms. I was so excited, not just sexually but because of approaching my ideal of having well shaped female body with huge tits I was ever dreaming of.

[Desiree2bababe]

In the beginning as a child it was for the sensation of the feminine clothes upon my skin, which I guess equates to thrill. When adolescene turned to late teens, it certainly was for the thrill of it, so much so I fear the thrill of being "caught" drove alot of my adventures. Then once I was "deflowered", it became again for the thrill but for sexual thrills with men. I suppose humiliation came into play later in life when my pass ability came into question, again that equates to thrill I believe. Now a confined home queen, I suppose it's just to experience femineity again. I noticed the other day, I loved the jingle of jewelry, the weight of heavy earrings, the smell of perfume, the feminine gestures with my hands adorned in XXL sculpted nails, the heels, the breasts.......oh but to experience the thrill of being outside again.....

[AngelaGA]

It didnt start like that for me but it sure has become a stress release and sort of therapy when I become mentally stressed. I like to look at my outfits and see what combinations I can make.

[Kris Burton]

For me the allure of dressing up and feeling sexy cannot be denied, but the ability to take on a persona that lives in the moment and is free from all of my personal baggage at least for a little while is liberating and therapeutic. I find that to take that alter ego out into the real world and interact never gets old!

[NancySue]

Like others, in the early years, it was mostly thrill, excitement, and pleasure. Since retirement and thanks to my wonderful supportive wife, I dress daily which is now become my purpose. I enjoy the whole feminine experience, i.e. moisturizer, makeup, shaving, etc.

[Celine 9]

I like to Crossdress for expression. However, I like to dress up as Wonder Woman every now and again.

[mykell]

funny how things change....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SgXSomPE_FY

[Karmen]

I think that I dress for the thrill of it, when I fully dress as a woman and go out like that.
But on the other hand, panties and pantyhose are part of my everyday life. Skirts or dresses and heels too, when at home, so that became normal for me. No thill involved, except when I have to take them off in a hurry, if someone is ringing at the door.

[Lacey New]

For me , the purpose of dressing is the thrill I get.

[Freddi]

When I first tried it out it was curiosity then as time went on it was more for a thrill but then curiosity took over again as I wondered what make up would be like and how I'd look....nowadays I do it because I feel comfortable in a dress or skirt & blouse etc.

[jacques]

I just dress

[Melinda Jean]

When I first started, I would have to say it was definitely for the thrill. Fast forward about fifty years, it's now for a purpose. When the day-to-day grind closes in, there is nothing more liberating (satisfying?) than to transform myself (in appearance anyway), into a female. I thoroughly embrace my feminine side and dress to soothe my soul and completely relax most every day. Getting on in years and enjoying my being has brought a whole new meaning to enjoying life!

[Vintage4sarah]

I will add my name to the growing list of those of you who admit that when we started out years ago it was for the thrill of it and the rush it gave us. Now decades later, there is now a pupose to all of it as I realize how much of it all is the opportunity to express my female side. Yes, I still do waver between the thrill and purpose to thiss vary day especially when I can be Sarah for two or three days while out and about in public. The thrill of being that female of my dreams never wears off. Also, the thrill of how others react and socialize with me is electric.

[Natalie5004]

I am finding that when I do not dress for 4 days I tend to get into a funk. And I do not know why. I do know that when I do dress I tend to smile more. I think I need to get out of the house and be in the world dressed. I have not done that in a while.

I am finding that my other hobbies do not give me as much joy as they have done in the past. Maybe I am getting closer to needing to start the transform process. Maybe I need to go to see a therapist.

[docrobbysherry]

I just dress

I'm sorry to disagree, Jacques. But, if u "just dress" why r u on CD.com? :straightface:

Men "just dress" in men's clothes. But, NOT in women's clothes! There r countless reason why we do. What r yours?:battingeyelashes:

[Kitty S]

In the beginning it was for the thrill. I had a desire to wear lingerie and heels during our date night. After a while it progressed to skirts and makeup. Fast forward a year and I got my first dress. My wife has always been accepting and even encouraging, so once we decided to recommit in dresses it?s been full time. I feel it?s an expression of who I am. The purpose is simple I enjoy it

[mbmeen12]

Thrilled especially walking around for date night.