Just a year ago.

[~Dee~]

I know that there are a lot of sad people in the world, lots of confused and lots of ashamed people too.
i used to be someone who fit in all three lists....and probably several others too

but it was just over a year ago that things finally clicked between my wife and me and things have just kept on getting better.

without the guilt and shame, things have become so much clearer .. and happier .. and hopeful too.

after speaking about this with my wife a few times, it never seemed to actually work out .. we still came out the other side still confused and unsure of things ... but the last time, we got it right.
my wife has been the biggest supporter to me and i appreciate everything shes done for me.

with her by my side ive been able to tell all my friends that im transexual .. tell my parents and even tell the faculty at my school just the other day .. (afterall .. they might like to have some heads up seeing as im attending next year female)

ive been scary .. and hard at times .. but geez, has it been worth it.
ive never felt happier .. and ive noticed in everything i do from my art to the way i write in forums like these .. ive found a new life.
and its a good one.

so .. rather than keep on bragging .. the reason i thought to post this here is because i tend not to say much in forums ..
and if anyone is out there feeling ashamed, guilty, alone and confused .. take heart.
take heart, cause life can change for the absolute better so quickly that it will make your head spin.

hopefully those that have found this forum have been able to shake off a bit of those negative thoughts or feelings and are on the right path to become their happier selves. the accepting sort.

keep at it, good luck to all and take care

D.

[Sarahgurl371]

Dee I am glad to see that things have changed for the better in your life. I wish we could all find that,

[Sandra]

Dee,

I am pleased that things are comming together for you and wish you all the best for the future. :)

[CaptLex]

Happy anniversary, Dee. Your post brings hope for those of us struggling with all that too. Sounds like you're in a good place now - may it always be so. :happy:

[Joy Carter]

So glad you have shared this with us I too have had a impovment in my life when I finnaly accepted my self as CD. I'm having some of the same feelings as you and my life in general has gotten better. I'm trying to talk to my SO more about it and she so far has listened to me where before she got emotional. Keep at it Dee and when majour things come to light please share it with us we are supporting you all the way.

[KrazyKat]

Dee, I'm so happy for you!! Thanks for sharing!! It's wonderful to know that sometimes we can make it through the dark, scary forest to the beautiful meadows on the other side!!
Best of luck to you and yours!! Keep us posted of your journeys!!

:D
KrazyKat

[GypsyKaren]

Good for you Dee! It's been a little over a year for me too, it's a pretty good road to be on, isn't it?

Karen

[~Dee~]

Thanks everyone.
:happy:
its been quite a journey so far already.
i have almost everyone informed of my decision.
the only people left to tell are my classmates at school which will happen on the 1st of next month, when we get back to school.

tomorrow i have an appointment to go see the school psychologist so that i may educate him in some transgender topics.
truly .. i kid you not.
the gentleman is a charming guy to speak to, but he has never met a transexual before, let alone had one come through the school system .. and he was taken quite be surprise as to how to handle it all.
so we agreed to met up and discuss general issues so that he can have some experience for the future in case any other person comes through in the same situation.
should be interesting if nothing else :happy:

i dont think that i will get a whole lot out of it .. i have all the support i need and im quite secure in my choices ... but i do like the idea of him having some ability to help someone later on, should the situation arise.
lets see what happens tomorrow.

D.

[KatieZ]

So are you going to have "the operation"?

How does your wife feel about the possibility of being married to a woman? Seems that would be a little hard to get used to for her.

I'm happy for you and all, but I think there are some tougher decisions coming down the road than just telling people you are TS.




Hugs

[~Dee~]

actually i dont see that there are going to be any tougher decisions coming along.

as for my wife, well .. shes perfection embodied...
shes totally accepting, my number 1 supporter in fact.
we are going to stay together .. our marriage will still be good and strong, and in fact this acceptance has only helped to bring us closer and help us resolve past issues.

and finally, yes, we are saving ahead for the surgical side of things. we have put the pencil to paper for about 2 years.

so all is good and fine and as it should be.

[~Kitty GG~]

As ~Dee~'s wife.. I'd like to answer your q, KatieZ.

I feel that being married to ~Dee~ is the greatest honor and the most fun I could possibly have.. and the gender doesn't mean one thing to me. I married and love the person.
Besides.. we all know women are better anyway! LOL

It hasn't been hard at all for me to get used to the changes. ~Dee~ is so much happier now and so each day I'm thankful that we made it this point. Her happiness is my happiness.

I'm looking forward to "the op" its the final step, then ~Dee~ can finally be who she was meant to be.

I disagree with you about there being tougher decisions to come other than JUST telling people she is TS. Those tougher decisions were already made before others were told.

We all have to decide what makes us happy.. and then DO it.. don't sit around wishing.. And I'm so proud of ~Dee~ for just that. She's DOING it. And we've never been happier.

~Kitty~