Told a friend.. finally

[abbylhr]

After 40 odd years, told someone I am a crossdresser. She (a GG) was very understanding and complimentary. We've been trading notes of female clothes sizes and planning a shopping trip when I visit her. :)

Thanks to all you on this forum, you made a lonely existence bearable.

I presume telling the first person is the hardest, so am planning to tell another person soon.

Abby

[bridget thronton]

It is great to have friend to share things with. Sounds like you picked a good person and I hope your planned shopping trip goes well. You do not need to rush to tell more people unless these people are close friends or relatives.

[kimdl93]

That is a great start. Please let us know how that planned shopping trip goes. Am I correct in assuming that you are going to present as a woman when you visit her?

[Cheryl T]

So true Abby.
The first time those words leave your mouth is terrifying, but it does get easier.

[Nancy44]

Incredibly brave. I will be anxious to hear how things progress. I am sure it will be a liberating experience for you. Well done.

[Suzie Petersen]

That is wonderful Abby, good for you :)

[Miray]

Hi Abbylhr
Congratulations, you're lucky. I'm planning to change countries for this.
If I can, I will move to California.

[Karren H]

That?s awesome! Congratulations!🎉🎊

[Georgina]

Isn't it brilliant when you do that and the person approves. Over the last few years I have told five people and all went really well. I am now being cautious that I don't start thinking the next will be as easy.

[abbylhr]

That is a great start. Please let us know how that planned shopping trip goes. Am I correct in assuming that you are going to present as a woman when you visit her?

I don't know how I will present, will figure it out later

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Isn't it brilliant when you do that and the person approves. Over the last few years I have told five people and all went really well. I am now being cautious that I don't start thinking the next will be as easy.

It is.. my list of people to has 6 people in it... 5 of them women. Most of my real friends are women, guy talk just bores me these days.

[Connie D50]

Abby, sounds like fun, have a great shopping trip. (I hope you wear out your visa card lol)

[alwayshave]

Abby, That is wonderful. Enjoy your shopping trip.

[Jillcder]

How wonderful, sounds like a true friend to me.

[shellyc]

That's incredibly brave Abby. Good for you. Enjoy the shopping!

[Heather76]

Hi Abbylhr
Congratulations, you're lucky. I'm planning to change countries for this.
If I can, I will move to California.

If you move to California, telling someone you're a cross dresser will likely get a "Ho, hum, what's new?" response.

Two people besides my wife know I CD. I knew one, a step-nephew would be fine with it after he came out as bi to me. The other I told because to not tell her would have required me to lie. I hate lies of all kinds and for any reason. I have no desire to tell others; but, if I were ever asked a question that required me to lie to prevent them from knowing, they will discover the existence of Heather.

[mbmeen12]

Cheers for you.... enjoy

[abbylhr]

Thank you all..

It's been very lonely in real life, the stresses are constant. I fear getting caught and at the same time won't be unhappy if I am. At least, it will all be out and I get to move on.

I read messages of "wish I had done it sooner", will get there one day,

Love

[docrobbysherry]

If u plan on going out in public dressed often it's good to tell folks so u all won't be embarrassed when you're caught out, Abby.:battingeyelashes:

On the other hand, as a secret CD I don't go out to vanilla venues dressed. I only tell people on a need to know basis. Because I'm a CD, not a trans!:heehee:

[Krea]

Well done Abby! It's great that you have made that breakthru and i hope it continues well. :thumbsup:
It certainly does get easier with time: the more people you come-out to and the more times you go out in public the more confident you will feel and it will show.
Best wishes!

[NancySue]

Good for you. It?s wonderful being with someone who?s accepting, understanding and supportive. I know. I married her.

[AngelaGA]

I agree. I was so nervous when I told my friend. Of course he wasnt interested in it.

[OrdinaryAverageGuy]

I had a female friend who, during a conversation about kilts, asked me if I had one. I said yes, plus a couple of skirts. I was sort of disappointed that she wasn't interested in that revelation to ask more. I thought she might have been the one who might have understood me, but alas, that conversation never happened. And now she's gone. :(

[danniUK]

That's so lovely to hear, I love a coming out story with a happy ending! (I came out to a friend for the first this weekend too)

[Debbie Denier]

Thats brilliant and such a positive outcome.

[abbylhr]

Love it, Danni. Am now in South of England too... London

[danniUK]

Nice to see someone so local! I'm in Hampshire, on the coast.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Abby :hugs:, That is a Great start,