Ever wonder what happened to girls when they disappear.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I do.

Some who I've know well have graduated to a new phase of life.

Some just seem to disappear into the sunset.

Those missing-If you're listening, I miss your presence and your pics.

[Lana Mae]

It is very hard to get any info on those who are not with us any more!
I forget her name, getting old is a bummer, but I never was good with names! She worked in the marine industry!
I was going to start HRT and she messaged me to slow down and socially transition first! She was so right and it all worked out well!
Despite forgetting her name I will never forget her!
Someone posted that she passed away! So sad! Gruff exterior with a heart of gold!
Sad! Lana Mae

[Helen_Highwater]

I have a couple of members, one is now an infrequent visitor here, the other is no longer here, that I try to keep in touch either by email of Txt. It's good to see how they're progressing on their journeys.

[Amy Lynn3]

I know some who have moved on to other sites. I have no other clues about our missing members.

[Sandi Beech]

I wish Lux would come back. She had some of the most amazing looks I have seen here.

Sandi

[Dutchess]

That was Ro,( Rogina B) Lana and it was me . She and I were very close for many years .. I miss her most days . I knew when I didn't hear from her and she wouldn't answer my texts that something bad had happened . It was like when Kat died all over again . I found her alright but like I said had to go through some fairly scary hardcore professional offshore fishing people to find out . They were calling him Roger and these people were nobody you want to mess with. They were gentlemen to me though so that's okay.
Sometimes I think that's why I am afraid to have friends .

Karen Fyh is my longtime friend from here 15 years now who is my FB friend .. she is good but very alone up in Mass . She was dressing 24/7 but again very very solitary .

[Suzie Petersen]

Does anyone know what became of Katey888 / "Martini Girl" from the UK. She was one of the moderators for a long time and suddenly stopped visiting?
I miss her a lot.

I did not know about Ro. Very sorry to hear that :(

[Dutchess]

Ro passed away in June of 2021 . I meant to say that in my other post. We talked to each other every single day either on the phone or our running phone texts and it just wasn't like her to just go silent like that.

[Lana Mae]

Thank you, Dutchess! I never got to thank Ro for what she did for me! She is missed!
Hugs Lana Mae

[Dutchess]

You're welcome Lana .. She knows you thank her.. I know she does ;)

[Philippa Jane]

I knew one person who was on here personally.
Her name here was Suzi Harrison.
I lost contact with her after she transitioned and she stopped coming here.
One of her good friends was Kimberley TX who was quite prolific on the forum.

[alwayshave]

In the 13 years I have been on the site, I have seen many ladies come and go. I often wonder what happen to some of them, like Teresa.

[Claire M]

I often wonder as well. But I'm also one of those who participated for a while, then life got in the way. So many things going on I didn't have time to follow a lot of online forums/social media. When I came back 5 years later, I didn't realize I had been here before until I found out I already existed when I went to register.

One of the hard things about the CD community in general is that many of us only know our friends and acquaintances by there femme personna. For many of us, that personna isnt widely shared with family or the non-CD world. If something happens to us, unless we have an accepting spouse who also participates in our community, we just go dark.

[Rhonda Jean]

I'd love to hear from Sara Jessica and Kathi Lake. Looking down my friends list there are a bunch more. Sara had a few cryptic posts about what was going on with her but I could neve quite decipher. Kathi Lake just dropped off the face of the earth. Very prolific, then absolutely nothing ever again.

Tx Kimberley had her Traveling Transgender blog, but I just looked and it's invite only, and I'm not invited. I know she had some health issues she was dealing with. When she was in her prime she was really doing it in a huge way. I think she coined the term "Flying Pretty", and did she ever! I've been around the block a time or two, but I've never flown pretty and never will. :notworthy:

There has been a lot of water pass under the bridge since I joined here. I remember some of these girls from when I first joined. I'm such a different person now. It'd be nice to catch up.

[Susan_Michaela]

Yes I had a good friend here that just disappeared too Charlena and lived a few miles from me. Miss her friendship dearly.

[Connie D50]

I agree with you 100% I wish I knew about a lot of people I have met over the years.
I wish I (Connie) could have a facebook account, however based on the way all of my accounts are so contect. I know I would hit the wrong button and out myself to the world.

[bridget thronton]

I miss several girls whose posts I have enjoyed reading. Hope they are doing well and enjoy it when they come back and post updates.

[JocelynJames]

I wonder as well. Sometimes , when I feel like being Jocelyn James, PI, I go through my friend list and find ones I actually remember and interacted with and go to their page and maybe read some or all of their posts a nd sometimes messages. Sometimes the SHTF at home and a spouse will ?put a stop to it?, sometimes they confess to ?quitting ?. Some full on transition and decide they don?t need an online forum and go on to live life. I personally know someone that just gave up on the site because some things were repetitive , or that some here were just rude. Occasionally, I?ll reach out via a message and say I hadn?t seen them here, they are missed and I hope they are ok , with occasional replies back. Sometimes I take a break from the site , but I guess I don?t interact enough to be missed. I liken this to the ebb and flow of ?friends ? in actual life. I guess, such is life.
~Joss

[NancySue]

Absolutely, for sure. Can?t help but wonder. Hope things are well.

[Philippa Jane]

I have already mentioned Kimberley and it was good to have Rhonda remind me of Kathi Lake.
I recall that she was in the army and stood over six foot tall and willowy.
She used to tell some amazing stories of her outings.
Yes I do also remember KIm "Flying Pretty" and overhearing some guy telling his child "That gal needs a shave ".
A walk down memory lane .
I always expected Kim to sound like Blanch from the Golden Girls tv show. I heard her sing one night and the bubble was burst.

[Cheryl T]

Some move on, some just move and life changes things.
So many influences in our lives and things don't last forever.

[docrobbysherry]

Some of those cd.com members I met at those old Atlanta T events 15+ years ago, and the local T's I met online here 10+ years ago r still FB Friends of Sherry.:hugs:

I see a few of those local girls at nearby LGBT bars and clubs. Most have transitioned and r living as women. For them, coming back and chatting with closet dressers and CD's is like regular 30 y/o men going back to Middle School!:heehee:

When u get used to going out dressed and/or r doing it everyday? Talking about it with shy beginners mite be boring.:straightface:

Sometimes I hear them talk about very personal things!:o

If I wasn't a closet CD at heart I probably would have left long ago mysef!:devil:

[rachellegsep]

I've been here almost 19 years so have seen a lot come and go. The one that sticks out in my mine as being a natural, was Tatiana James I was convinced she was a GG having us all on.

[MsEva]

I too wonder where they have gone. I have two friends that I have sent multiple messages too but have yet to get a reply. I was wondering if it was me that they were avoiding. (How could that be? Ha) I noticed that they have not made a post or replied in over a year. I truly hope all is well with them. I do so miss hearing from them.

[Jasmine23]

I've been here almost 19 years so have seen a lot come and go. The one that sticks out in my mine as being a natural, was Tatiana James I was convinced she was a GG having us all on.

Tatiana James looks very much like a girl on YouTube who ma
de videos about her crossdressing, was into cars too if I recall and I think she even transitioned for a while, but, decided it wasn't for her and went back to just crossdressing . I can't remember what her name on YouTube was, but if I come across her again I'll let you know.
Edit: I found the girl I was talking about on YouTube-Girl talk with Paola, she hasn't posted anything in a year, not sure if it's the same person as Tatiana James, but, hope she ( both) are OK.

[JulieC]

There have been some people here that I knew only from this forum who have disappeared. It's the nature of forums like this I suppose.

I've been here ~18 years, but I don't know that anyone would miss me. A friend of mine (not from this forum) passed away a few years back. Literally hundreds of people showed up for his funeral. I seriously doubt more than a dozen people would show up for mine. Not because I'm some sort of cretinous creature :lol: but just because some people draw in friends by the dozens, and I'm not like that :) I have thought before though that it might be a good idea to leave my wonderful wife instructions on what to do in the vent that I pass, including posting something here to let people know I'm gone. But, then again, perhaps most people wouldn't notice anyway :)

[CarlaWestin]

When I first joined, there were a few ladies in their eighties and they presented so gracefully poised and elegant.
I often wondered how they managed such a frowned upon and sometime unlawful or dangerous passion in their early lives.

[Suzie Petersen]

If it is any consolation Julie, I would miss you! But please don't go anywhere yet :)

[Sometimes Steffi]

I was very friendly with someone . We even met FtF when she was in town and we went on a girl's adventure in DC. It was probably the first time I took the Metro into DC en femme. It was so much less stressful not going alone.

[Sharon budd]

I think Sherry got that spot on. As long as Sherry, Jamie, Lana, Maria 60 and many others keep contributing, i'll keep coming back.
Hugs x

[kimdl93]

I miss some of those ladies. I don?t do Facebook so I guess I will just continue to miss them. Maybe suggest they stop by here once in a while?

[Di]

Please do not single anyone out by name,
You do not know their circumstances, some have people trying to find them to out them.
Although we are very careful when letting people in to protect all of you please do not name them here.
We hope they are well , we miss them . We try to protect everyone ,many are not out to family. Please respect their absence.

[Helen_Highwater]

People move on. Members I've met face to face in Manchester have over time gone on to be full time. They find their place in society so need less support and perhaps have less opportunity to post as now living busy lives.

[Samantha51]

Hi. I was prolificallly posting here for a good few months last year, so not long term. I subsequently realised that I'm trans and I now spend most of my online time in trans subreddits. I'm grateful for the welcome I had here.

I received advice including to get another job and to put my wife first. I'm now semi-retired until I can sort my head out (seeing a trans-affirming counsellor weekly) and my wife continues to be amazing, going as far as to find me attractive as either a woman or a man.

Her red line is HRT. She knows that I want to start it but I'm giving it time (and more counselling). I'm hopeful she will see that I need it (psychologically mostly) and will agree to a 3 to 6 month trial.

There's lots more I could say but this post is long enough already. Thanks for your help earlier on in my journey.

[Debbie Denier]

I won?t mention any names. I know of a former UK member that has joined the Beaumont Society and doesn?t bother with this site any more . Many others both Uk and US share photos on flickr too. Others have just vanished.

[Nic J]

There are so many reasons why members suddenly vanish, sometimes by choice and sometimes not.
Even tho i don't post so often now, i still visit most days to read about others' CD/TG experiences.
There is one member in particular who has been a source of great inspiration and encouragement. I haven't seen her here for a long time now and she also disappeared from facebook some time back. I really hope this doesn't mean the worst has happened....

[IamWren]

Hi everyone... it's been a while since I've posted here and on the site in general.
I pop in every now and again but not often. Not even sure if many here even remember me.

I think about this site and the online friendships I made here with fondness. But I kinda dropped off because... well, I don't to want disparage the site or its members.
But maybe the diplomatic thing to say is, I've found other places online and in the meatspace that offer more of what resonates with me now.
I've become more involved in political activism, I have built a small group of trans and queer friends that challenge and confirm my ideas of what it means to be trans. I guess I've found other places online that work for me.

On the home front, nothing special is going on though. I go to work, eat, sleep... wash, rinse, repeat. I've been going to the gym and trying to maintain my health since I had bit of a scare last year. In a couple of weeks I'll mark four years of hormone therapy and I'm still married to my still shocked but accepting/encouraging wife.



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[Karren H]

Actually, I have just bumped into a couple long lost girlfriends in Reddit, that used to be here and on FB. So many of the lost ones leave this platform but are still out there in other ones. It?s always fun to catch up.

[Jean 103]

Sherry is right. It's the same stuff over and over here.

I've been living as Jean for years now. So for me living as a woman is normal everyday stuff.

I have a friend here I communicate with quite often. It's the only reason I come here. I normally don't look at the forum it's just today I'm totally bored wasting time , waiting for a customer.

Some look at it as a natural progression. Once somebody has socially transitioned they tend to disappear into the woodwork.

Love Jean

[Crissy 107]

I have to disagree with Jean, those of us that are not in the situation she is need a forum like this. I think it is nice to get and give encouragement from other sisters.
I often wonder what has happened to members that leave and understand that there could be many reasons for that but we are like a family so I like to see us stick together here.
Just my two cents.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I've learned so much from this forum. I was given information that I needed at the time and the courage to act on it. Even though I usually think of myself as "just a CD" and haven't moved much past it, I still feel good when I can "pay it forward" to someone else in whatever way I can.