Does the act of getting dressed in front of others make u nervous?

[docrobbysherry]

Back in the day when I first came out online a few trans wanted to "dress up together". I think what they meant was, fool around together? I've met countless T's, 100's of times. But, we only get together after we're dressed. :hugs:

A number of "men" online have wanted me to help them dress up. Some live very far awayl, even other countries. So, I'm not quite sure what they expect but I have no interest in that.:thumbsdn:

I had a woman online offer to "dress me". Said she'd done this with other T's before. While I was still a bit new at dressing to the 9's and could have used the help I turned her down. Because just thinking about a stranger watching the process of me putting on all my complicated, some very personal, prosthesis, shaping gear, and under thinga sounded embarrassing.:o
I could care less who sees me after I'm dressedl, tho.:daydreaming:

This made me wonder if I'm alone or others may be shy about having others watch as u dress up? Many of u have SO's. Do u mind them watching?:straightface:

[alwayshave]

Sherry, even though my wife is accepting I don't like her seeing me get dressed. I'm OK with here seeing the finished product, but not the transformation. I feel too vulnerable.

[kimdl93]

Getting dressed in front of any casual acquaintance would feel very odd to me. I used to get dressed dressed in front of my ex and it felt odd to her which is part of the reason she is my Ex.

[SylphDevine]

My wife gives me privacy when I dress.

But not after :D

[TerriLynnCD]

Yeah. That's a pass for me too. Maybe someone could suggest some outfits. But I'll change in private TYVM.

[Sandi Beech]

Companionship in the clubs is one thing, but my prep process is a bit too personal for me to share, not that anyone has asked to do that with me as of yet. Besides, I have stuff all over the place when I unpack to dress up. Looks like a tornado hit my room

Sandi

[Claire M]

It's nice to have someone give suggestions on your outfit or makeup, I'm with the rest here. I prefer to get dressed in private.

I met up with another CD once to go out clubbing. She had rented a hotel room to get ready and invited me to join her. While she was dressing in the bathroom, I got changed in the main room. Then helped each other with makeup. That was how I would interpret the "get dressed together" offers.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Claire

I had a good CD friend and we shared a room at Keystone once or twice. Even still, we dressed mostly separately. It was nice to have someone zip your dress and to check you out before you left the room to make sure that your dress wasn't accidentally tucked into your panties.

But mostly, I would need to know the person very well before sharing a room with them. It's a serious violation of my safety protocol. Once, I did accept a ride with someone that I had only met online. But I did a safety check with a TS who knew the proposed driver. Another time, I rode with someone from here, but only after we shared numerous emails.

[Claire M]

Steffi, i agree with the safety concerns and probably didn't word my post well. We had been emailing and chatting on line for over a year and had met up in person at the local club a couple times before. And yes, having someone to zip your dress is a definite bonus.

We also had so much fun doing each other's makeup. We got to joking and giggling like a couple young teen girls. We didn't get to the club til much later than planned.

[SaraLin]

I've always been very self-conscious about my body, whether I'm aiming to present as male OR female. If I'm not in a (physically) intimate situation with someone, I'm not going to show myself to them in anything less than fully dressed.

I HATED high school gym class for that reason.

[Jenn A116]

For some reason I prefer to do the transition in private. Not sure why but that's me.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Steffi, i agree with the safety concerns and probably didn't word my post well. We had been emailing and chatting on line for over a year and had met up in person at the local club a couple times before. And yes, having someone to zip your dress is a definite bonus.

We also had so much fun doing each other's makeup. We got to joking and giggling like a couple young teen girls. We didn't get to the club til much later than planned.

I always like to remind folks about safety. It shouldn't have to get in the way of fun, but it really needs to be considered.

Sounds like you had a great time. I'm so jealous.

[Jane G]

I can't ever imagine dressing in front of someone else. :eek: Fiddling with makeup and trying on dresses is a different level of interaction though. :)

[Natalie5004]

Who would have the patience to watch the hour it takes me to get all dolled up? Wife has not seen the process but she has seen the results.

But I have asked a woman in a used clothing store to zip me up in a dress I was interested in. She gladly did.

[Marketa]

I don't like the idea of getting dressed in front of anyone at all. En femme or not. Even when we were on teambuilding and I had to share a room with a colleague, just put it on and get out and ideally put it on in bathroom.

[Debbie Denier]

The only person I have dressed in front of was my late mother. As she was accepting she helped me zip up my dresses and gave me great tips and advice.

[CDMargret]

I don't even dress in front of my own self left alone another. With my wife putting guy or girls things on it's alone also. Major weird I know but that how it is for me.

[Kitty S]

At first it was a wait until I'm done thing, now she will be in and out of the room while I'm getting ready. It's the same as when I'm in guy mode getting dressed no big deal

[chrissy111]

I don't have a problem dressing in front of my wife. But I wouldn't want to with anyone else.

[alliy377]

I haven't dressed in front of my wife yet. Would love to, but I don't thinks she's ready. Although she has been very accepting snice calling me out a couple of years ago.

[Dutchess]

I'll speak and be mannerly but I have done three of these this morning . That's in the professional world . I do these every day . Everyday- especially in the last decade . There are def members here that would be very happy to do this but most will pretend they don't know .
It's the age old sub/domme game is all it is .
I have one who contacts me on Saturdays , he has me get him dressed via cam in these outrageous clothes and then pretends to drink a pink bottle of sparkle magic to grow boobs so that's what's going on in my professional life :/

[Amy Lynn3]

Up front I do not seek out others to get dressed while they look on. However, after my years in the military and playing sports, I have no problem getting dressed in either mode with another in the room. My last professional make over the gg was in the room when I had only panties, bra and half-slip on. She wanted to take pictures with me dressed that way.

[Nic J]

Why would you want to get dressed with somebody else? My wife and i see each other get dressed, but that's it. We like our privacy.
I guess people must have their reasons, whether they admit to them or not.

Dutchess: i knew my life was fairly mundane, but your post has made me realise just how mundane.... :eek:

[Lisa Gerrie]

I don't even like to watch myself get dressed! I mean, I don't purposely avoid looking or anything, but the only time I look in a mirror while dressing is when I need to adjust something, and of course to check out the final result. After that I like seeing myself in the mirror.

If I had nightmares about crossdressing (I don't) it would be about being caught half-dressed. Talk about feeling vulnerable!

[SylphDevine]

@Dutchess: hopefully you're compensated properly

[docrobbysherry]

Dutchess, I have a CD friend on FB who got used to roll play camming much like u describe back in the day. She enjoys becoming a pregnant alien woman, giant blueberry, or huge blow up woman.:eek:

She finds very few online "playmates" these days. But, she does it for free. Maybe she should charge and get more takers?:thumbsup:

[abby054]

If we are just two or more CDs getting dressed, then I see no problem for me. For many years, I have changed my clothes in drab with many guys around doing likewise. This does have an extra dimension but if this is just getting dolled up in company, that is fine for me.

My attitude is illustrated by an incident several years ago. This was when the invasive scanners were still controversial. I was in a TSA line at a small airport. A woman and her teenage daughter were immediately in front of me in line. Her daughter was at that age when modesty and privacy is an outsize issue. Our line had a scanner. The other line had only a metal detector. As we approached the head of the line, her daughter grew increasingly nervous. She worried that some TSA agent or airport employee might see the scanner image, showing more than she felt comfortable revealing. I noticed this and suggested to the Mom to have her daughter switch lines quietly. My reason, I said, was that I was in the Army and she, the Mom, had given birth. Our modesty is totally gone, but her daughter might appreciate having to tolerate only the metal detector. Her daughter switched lines and everything went fine without further ado.

My Dad took me with him to the gym often starting at age eight. I grew up as a farm kid and did school sports. I joined the Army at age seventeen and served a career. I am now an engineer. That history makes me realistic and utilitarian. For many decades, I have dressed in drab in gym situations with many other guys doing likewise. Getting dressed en femme with others who are simply doing likewise would not bother me.

Why dress in company? It saves me money. I am frugal, well ok, I admit I am cheap. Sharing a hotel room can split the cost. At Esprit Conference, for example, that option is mentioned on their website. Being with someone who has gotten dolled up with me makes it a lot easier to open that hotel room door and step out. Hey, it is a lot easier to step out that open airplane door wearing a parachute when there are others dressed the same way right behind me.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I know that I can't quote it here due to forum rules, but I love that parachuting analogy.

[docrobbysherry]

To some that may be an appropriate analogy, Abby/Steffi.:thumbsup:

But, to me that feels like comparing an inconvenient walk to the market a few blocks away to a complete triathlon!:eek:

[Dutchess]

Dutchess, I have a CD friend on FB who got used to roll play camming much like u describe back in the day. She enjoys becoming a pregnant alien woman, giant blueberry, or huge blow up woman.:eek:

She finds very few online "playmates" these days. But, she does it for free. Maybe she should charge and get more takers?:thumbsup:


It's been my living for many many years .. I'm well known and don't even specialize in that ( dresser folk ) actually so I ma not sure how they started flocking .. but Im not the only one like me saying this ..

When people do things like that for free sometimes strings become attached that people ( married dressers ) do not need... let me put it that way.

[Sometimes Steffi]

But, to me that feels like comparing an inconvenient walk to the market a few blocks away to a complete triathlon!

IDK.

Doing something crazy scary with like minded folk wearing the same uniform. Sounds like the same to me.

So some, the thought of jumping out of a "perfectly good airplane" may not be as scary as walking out the door en femme, even if that door is the door to your hotel room 3,000 miles away.

Here's a quote from the Keystone Conference Helping Hands program, "you may find yourself wanting to slink away to your room to hide quietly especially when you don't know anyone." Don't presume to underestimate someone's fears.

[jacques]

Yes.
I don't even get dressed in drab in front of my wife.
luv J

[Sometimes Steffi]

Different perspectives. I'd be much more petrified about getting dressed in front of my wife than some random stranger.

[CharlotteCD]

Ex-Wife to me: Don't ever let me see you dressed.
Me to Ex-Wife: I don't ever want you to see me dressed.

GF to me: I'd love to see you in these jeggings/this underwear/those heels.
Me to GF: Maybe, but I am not ready for that yet.

GF has seen me dressed, and she's fine with it to the point she will encourage it because she's seen how badly controlled and manipulated I have been for years by my Ex-Wife and my GF wants me to be comfortable and to be myself when I am with her because it's a no judgement zone.

I don't think I would be comfortable with her seeing me getting dressed, but I know it's going to happen at some point soon. I have a drawer of femme stuff at her house after all.

[Fiona_44]

I would have no problem getting dressed in front of others at my CD club where I am friends with many of the members.

[Cheryl T]

It used to feel odd getting dressed in front of my wife, but that changed long ago. It's been 20 years now since I came out to her fully and it took a few years to be comfortable dressing in front of her. I suppose most of that was the anticipation of her changing her mind and not being accepting any longer. That's not the case now and when we go out or even if I'm just dressing for the day it's just as natural as can be. It's two women dressing, selecting outfits, putting on bras and hosiery and the like.

The first time I dressed with a sister to go out somewhere it was an awkward situation. It really was nothing but my mind made it more than it was. After that it wasn't a thing anymore. It was probably akin to the first time I changed in a locker room with others in High School. Now it would be nothing more than two gals dressing.

[abby054]

Even jumping out of an airplane with others doing likewise becomes routine if I do it often enough. So does showering and getting dressed in drab at the gym. I suspect it is the same for CDing in company. It just depends on what I am accustomed to doing.

[Lacy PJs]

I feel the same way several others feel on this one. It's a strange feeling but I almost feel that it's pointless for my S/O to see me getting dressed. I much prefer to dress in private then let her see the finished product.

Lacy PJs

[Maria 60]

Though out the years I have become much more comfortable dressing in front of my wife. The first few times she asked me to model some of her dresses to see how they looked on someone else was overwhelming but now we usually dress together and help each other with zippers or just little adjustments.
I'm not sure I would just jump at any opportunity to share a hotel room or meet up to get dressed at someone's house without getting to know the persons better. I'm sure it would be fun and exciting to share an experience of dressing pretty together and going out and would probably boost the confidence level, but on the same note we must always exercise precaution. I read a lot of stories here about sisters meeting up and dressing and haven't thank goodness read any horror stories which is a good sign.

[Heather76]

Simply put, I would have no interest in getting dressed in front of anyone other than my wife just as I have no interest in getting dressed in drab in front of anyone other than my wife.

[Destinyx14]

The transformation process for me is private. At least until I have my face on. Sometimes my spouse may come in the bathroom but I really prefer her not until my face is at least done. Getting my wig glued on and clothes on is fine, but I personally prefer having my face on first. Different strokes for different folks.

[HeatherMarie1972]

I would feel more comfortable getting dressed in front of another cd than I would my wife even though she knows about me.

[tiffyjo]

This isn't related to crossdressing, but more about personal confidence. I hated having to go to the locker room and change for PE or sports. I have always had "breasts" even since a early teens and I was so self-conscious it really bothered me. Luckily no one ever said a thing until I got to high school and my freshman year a small group of guys would tease me about my "tits" and "boobs" when football practice was over. It got to were it would happen every evening and at times even when the coach was there. I heard a few times; "You should wear a bra!" Back in the 80's it wasn't acceptable, but I guess they were, in a way, suggesting something to me that I really enjoy now!!! When football was over that year, I never went out for sports again. The way the world is today, I would probably be wearing one anyhow! YES!!

[Raychel]

I personally would never make the transformation in front of anyone.
The process of hiding the manhood and adding the forms for the proper
figure would be very demeaning in my mind. I have stepped out after the change and
that always was fine, but to actually do the change in front of someone, NOT A CHANCE

[docrobbysherry]

Great explanation, Raychel. I heartily agree!:thumbsup: